Leggings, Cravings, & Grandparent Names : Episode 5

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This is the Gray Hair and Day Care Podcast.

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With a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ right in that same range, your hosts Frank Sirio and Carlo Russo.

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So it's good to be back.

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We are back.

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This is, I keep wondering every time I say we're back, I wonder if there's anybody who's still out there and I'm hoping there are, but welcome back.

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As you may or may not know, I am Frank Sirio.

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I'm 55 years old.

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My wife is now 22 weeks pregnant.

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22.

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And I'm here with my friend Carlo Russo.

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Hello.

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Thank you for having me again for episode five.

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We've made it to five.

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Almost turkey day.

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That's right.

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It's good for you, for me, it's not, but it will be.

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It will be.

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Now we're very grateful and thankful this year.

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Yes.

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Oh my God.

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There's lots to be thankful for.

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Lots to be thankful for.

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True.

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So I noticed a couple of things.

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Okay.

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I don't know if the viewers are now watching this, but their video has been up for episode four, was it?

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Episode four was actually, we were largely successful.

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The main camera, the new camera did beautifully.

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Love the new camera.

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Until the battery ran out.

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So this time I have a power cord and we're hoping we're going to get a full coverage on the two shots.

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What we had looked great.

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Unfortunately, I look like I was picking up garbage.

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I look like a garbage man.

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I was wearing old clothes.

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I have to step it up.

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That's what I'm trying to say.

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Not that this is a suit that I'm wearing, but now I realized, first of all, yes, there's a pillow behind me because I'm a small man.

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And it looked like my feet were just dangling off this chair.

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I didn't know.

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I didn't like that.

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Never let anyone tell you you're a small man.

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To me, you were always beautiful.

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I edited the whole thing.

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I never once thought, wow, he looks like a hobo.

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I looked at it going, okay, we're on video now.

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We have to at least do our hair.

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Well, in the first one of the first times we had video, I have a set of headphones that I'm checking the audio with.

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And I had this, this like a cockatiel bird.

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And I think Carlo tried to warn me.

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I was like, keep going.

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So hopefully we had video problems.

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Yes.

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I still use some of the video because there was some good stuff there.

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So that's what I've noticed.

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So I'm excited that we up on video and I'm sure you'll talk about where they can see that down the line and all that good stuff.

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So, so while we're here and we're in the studio and I think everything's working.

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Oh, let's hope, let's hope.

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So we are in week 22.

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And so the first thing we always talk about is the state of the baby.

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So now my, my little girl is the size of a large mango, which I think is always make me hungry with these sizes.

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Last week you said something about squash and then now it's mango.

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And it's like, I don't know, sizes of mango, but that's whatever it is.

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What I think is interesting now is her hearing is improving and she can now learn sounds that she will recognize after she is born.

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Okay.

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So something that was fun, Kelly and I went to a concert last night.

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Oh, you did?

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There was a, yeah, there was a concert.

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And this is one that will make me seem even older than I, than I am in our video show or sound.

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We went to see the Glenn Miller Orchestra.

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Wow.

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Which is how old are you?

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So the question is how old are they?

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Oh yeah.

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Remember Glenn Miller was World War II, 1939.

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The band was founded.

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They have, they have been a continuous band for 89 years.

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They're not like Minuto where they have when they switch people out.

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They have to be a hundred and seven peacemakers and on IVs.

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No, it was, but it was, it was a, it was a great show.

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Incredibly talented musicians.

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And Kelly afterwards, well, either she didn't, either she thought it was too loud or she really liked it.

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And I'm like, I'm going now if she favors Kelly, it would be that's too loud.

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Right.

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Again, Princess and the Pea.

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If she favors me and my, my musical tastes, I I'm going to go with, I think she really enjoyed it.

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And not loud enough.

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So we've established and I like it that they opened and closed, they opened and closed the show with the same song, which happens to be one of my mother's, I think was my mother's favorite song, Moonlight Serenade.

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Nice.

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And it was that, that was the song.

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I'm hoping there's a little bit of that got through, through, through the, through the sweater.

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And I mean, Kelly has, Kelly can sing.

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She has a beautiful voice and I always, I always tease her when I, when we've sung things together that she had, I always have to remind her she's not in church.

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She has perfect diction.

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She sang in the, I think she sang in a choir, but yeah, she has a beautiful voice.

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So I'm going to believe that the child is going to have some, some talents there.

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I would hope.

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The ear, you know, maybe listening to music or picking it up singing wise, you sing, play instruments.

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So that's a good thing that your child was moving.

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Obviously that's what I'm assuming.

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She was moving around.

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She was doing a little cha-cha.

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It was, it was good.

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So yeah.

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So that was fun.

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So that, that kind of falls into what you want to start doing with your child now that she can hear is the lullabies, right?

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I've, I've done some work.

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I have not finalized a recording yet, but I've started work on what will be the first one.

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Nice.

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And hope that very soon in the, certainly in the, hopefully in the next couple of episodes, we will be able to start one by one introducing and there's what's nice is the more I do it, I keep finding more.

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So the list is growing and you're going down the road, but I'm practicing, you know, I'm practicing a few and it's everything from Harry Connick Jr. to Elvis to Sinatra, all kinds of fun, fun options.

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So I'm looking forward to doing that.

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That's, that's all.

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So yeah, I'm looking forward to doing all those.

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22, the baby can hear.

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And we'll recognize things later.

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That's what's really cool.

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That's it.

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So now every night, right as Kelly falls asleep, I get right up next to her belly and go, daddy is the favorite.

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Over and over again.

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Daddy, daddy is the favorite.

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That's a great idea.

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So yeah, no, it is.

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That's an exciting thing.

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There is something there that like idea that now there's a little person in there that's going to remember that is going to recognize things that she's hearing now is, is really a cool idea.

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So that's cool.

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That's, that's awesome.

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Cause when I went through, well, when my wife went through her pregnancy, we both go through it.

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I didn't have all these details.

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Um, I didn't, I had no idea week 10 and week 13 and 20.

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And so that's kind of neat learning about it now with you.

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That's cool.

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It definitely, it enhances the experience.

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Otherwise you're just like, okay, what's for dinner.

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That's a, which we'll talk about later on that there's been some changes with, with diet.

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Uh, but anyhow, so the other thing I, I would like to talk about since this is coming out, this will come out two days before Thanksgiving.

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And that is one of the, I, I love all holidays.

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You do.

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Christmas is probably the biggest one, but for people who don't know, Frank is a great cook.

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He loves cooking.

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You love hosting.

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I do.

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Yes.

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And it's, it's interesting.

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Like I don't cook.

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Well, I cook sometimes like I cook dinner, but I love to do big holiday dinners.

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It's a fun challenge, but I will say I am not, I'm just now getting to the point after years of doing stuff like that, where I will experiment and cook.

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But when I started in for a long time and still now for an important dinner, I go to the food network.com.

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I find a recipe and I follow the recipe, but I do, I enjoy it very much.

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But so what are the, you know, what are the things, what are the family traditions for you for Thanksgiving?

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Cause I know for Italians, it's a little bit different.

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Like we never like my dad always referred, I think pasta stuff, uh, to Turkey.

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So there was a, there was a Turkey, but it was like, and there's the, and there's the Turkey.

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Turkey is just for looks.

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I mean, I guess we gotta do the Turkey.

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I was probably more like growing up like your dad, probably had the pasta, the, the, um, the Turkey had to be there, but I believe we also had ham.

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My dad didn't like ham, so we never had ham.

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So we, more people liked ham than Turkey.

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So we did the pastas and the Italian sides and stuff.

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But as we got older and obviously now that I'm married and had kids, we do the traditional, there's the Turkey, the stuffing, the, you know, all the good stuff, mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes.

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Uh, so we do that and I enjoy, I'm not a huge Turkey person anyways.

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I'm not that, I'm not a fan of that, but I understand that, you know, especially when you have in-laws and they grew up with that tradition, I don't want to walk in there and go, where's the lasagna?

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Where's the stuffed shells?

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That's true.

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Um, so I kind of, uh, you know, embraced it.

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So that's, so my mom always, holiday dinner, she would always make, she called it minestrone, but what it really is known more about is wedding soup, the little meatballs and chicken broth.

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And it was, but that's a lot of work.

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Like that's a lot of making a little meatballs, all that stuff.

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But we always did that stuff.

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And was Thanksgiving a football thing for, well, I know what it is for you.

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Right.

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Was that a thing though?

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Kids are like, did your dad or your family?

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So my father never got into the American sports.

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Uh, obviously soccer wasn't, is always will be number one in his heart.

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So football was always on even growing up, but I don't think anyone, maybe one cousin or maybe one in-law was watching it.

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And all of us would be just like kind of running around and really didn't get into the whole thing until little later, but it was always on it.

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What I think is funny is, so my, my mom's side of the family, the Rucoli side, as you often do on Sundays, we would go visit.

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Most of the time we'd go to my grandmother's, but sometimes we'd go to an aunt or uncle or something.

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And I remember one time we were so disconnected from anything with sports.

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We showed up at my, my uncle Frank and aunt Shirley's house and they're huge sports fans, sports fans.

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And we knock on the door and they come to the door and they're like clearly confused.

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And we had just showed up in the middle of the Superbowl.

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Oh my God.

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No, I didn't.

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We're like, come on, shut up.

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Like it was, it was comical.

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No idea.

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That was the sports.

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It was racing or boxing, but, but none of the, none of that, the typical stuff, the holidays.

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But for me growing up too, it was because my siblings were so much older.

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I think I have such an affinity for the holidays because my siblings were all, by the time I was in kindergarten, my siblings were all moved away.

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They were in college or off doing their own thing.

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So that was the one time a year they came home was Thanksgiving and Christmas.

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So I, I loved that time.

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And it makes me think about siblings and, you know, where this is a miracle that we're, that we're having, that we're going to have our baby and thinking about, it would be nice to have that sibling interaction.

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I would love to have a second one, but we'll, we'll see how that all goes.

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It does make me think the other thing that I think about when it comes to Thanksgiving or holidays in general and a, and a child is that this is going to be like one of the last holidays where I will go anywhere at all.

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Like in my mind, like, I think once I have a kid, holidays, holidays are at my house.

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I want the memories to be here.

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I want that.

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You're building it here.

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And that, so I apologize unreservedly to my family.

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You are coming to my house or that's it.

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And you're going to have to see pictures of the food and you know what you're missing.

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Right.

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But that, you know, I do, I do think, and I probably won't be able to pull that off.

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But we'll have to.

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I know, but it's nice to build that memories in the house with the trees and opening.

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We, we still do.

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We, we have such, it's such a great time on the holidays, but you know, Christmas, obviously with the gifts that the kids, even though they're 18 and 23, they'll still come over.

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They'll still, you know, all have their hot cocoa and we'll, we'll go in the, in the, the den and we'll have the tree on the fire will be on and we'll open up our gifts and they turn into three-year-olds again.

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That's awesome.

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It's awesome.

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You're going to love that.

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You're going to always think of that.

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But that made something that you said kind of made me think of this question when you were in kindergarten, you're old about five years old, six, sometimes when you, when you saw your, your siblings coming over, did you see them as an adults?

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Did you see them as, because when I look at my, my brothers, I thought they were, were basically the same age.

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So I didn't think, but were you looking at them like, oh, these are adults or how did you?

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Yeah.

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I mean, so the closest to me is my sister, Lucille, who's about 13 years older than me, which is a chunk of my brother's 19.

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So, you know, I didn't even have any memory of my brother living at home.

229
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Right.

230
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He was gone.

231
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He graduated from SU and he moved away.

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I think I saw, I think I saw them as, I didn't see them as peers as I got much older.

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Then I think I kind of established a more typical sibling relationship, but no, I think I saw them all as extra parents that had more energy and more fun than my parents.

234
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Yeah.

235
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Cause again, you didn't build that sibling development because they weren't home.

236
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No.

237
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I think what was interesting was later on.

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So my sister Lucille had my nephew when I was 10.

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Yeah.

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So by the time I got my license, he was six.

241
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Yeah.

242
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And I always felt like he was my nephew because I was so much littler.

243
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But what was interesting was when I got my, he didn't like, he had come to visit with my sister and I was going to drive and he was freaking out because he clearly in his world thought of me as another child.

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Like, it was like, you're just a, you're just a big kid.

245
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You shouldn't be in charge of a vehicle.

246
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Why are you driving?

247
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Isn't that funny how, yeah, you get kind of.

248
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The perception is very different, but.

249
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But the holidays.

250
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Yeah.

251
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The holidays, you got to keep those memories, build them at the house.

252
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And I think that's, that's, you're going to love that.

253
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I think it's going to be fun.

254
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This year is going to be interesting because my brother, he's been retired for many years and he, because he's constantly being reminded by his financial advisors that he has to spend some of his retirement, right.

255
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That he's, he basically feels like according to the actuarial tables, he's going to die at any moment, even though he's incredibly healthy.

256
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No, like he's just like, he's going to live 20 years, but, but he's felt very compelled.

257
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He wanted everybody to come to his place in Nashville.

258
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So my sister and her husband and Kelly and I, and my sister from Texas are all going to, are all going to Nashville for Thanksgiving for this Thanksgiving.

259
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Yeah.

260
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So we're going to, we're going to go there and that's awesome.

261
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It is.

262
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Yeah.

263
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That's going to be fun.

264
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We're looking forward to it.

265
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But just yesterday there's a, but in the now, not in this timeline, but just yesterday in our timeline, we've got kind of a late night text and we're still like, this is still early November for us.

266
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Right.

267
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I got a mandate from my brother that we are not allowed to discuss politics at all throughout, throughout the visit.

268
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I like that.

269
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I like that request.

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You think you see, you think that's good.

271
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I do because unless everyone's on board, right.

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And generally that doesn't happen in a family because people have opinions and, and, and everybody's opinion is great.

273
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And as if that's not the case and everybody's not on the same, then there's nothing you're going to change in the living room.

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That's going to make or break, you know what I mean?

275
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It's going to fix politics.

276
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You're not figuring it out.

277
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Yeah.

278
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Putting it on the table and have fun with the people there.

279
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I agree with that.

280
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I think so.

281
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It's interesting because I think about it and initially I'm like, yeah, like, well, no, no, not at all.

282
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I, I, I, I immediately was, he, he wrote this kind of flowery like text message.

283
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And the first thing I said was, this is obviously done by Chad GPT, but there's no way.

284
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But, and I think there might have been a, he might've had a little hop, but no, immediately I'm like, sure, whatever, you know, but I did think for a minute there, like, this is kind of what is bad.

285
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Right.

286
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Cause if you, if you just say, we're not going to talk about it, everybody knows they could all ever, I could predict what each person in, in that house, I'm going to say, like, I've talked to my brother a lot about politics and I think we're, we're largely aligned, but you know, I know what everybody thinks, but you're just not going to talk about it.

287
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Why they, we should be able to talk about, I, in a way, part of me thinks we should be able to talk about that and still care about each other.

288
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But I do also know I have been told repeatedly by people that I work with and people that I love that I have a tendency to say things as if, and I could be thinking about something that I, this is just an idea.

289
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I am not sold on it.

290
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I am just, this is what I think about this.

291
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And I could be very malleable, right?

292
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I might, I might change my mind or not, but I will sound like I am telling you something that is an incontrovertible truth and that you better not, but I can't, it's just the way, it's the way I present myself, because I think I grew up in a house where it was like a crucible of verbal combat, right?

293
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So I get it.

294
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It probably is.

295
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He's probably right in his advanced years.

296
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He's wise and he doesn't want us to do that.

297
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Think about this.

298
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People fight and have killed each other over Yankees, Red Sox.

299
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Yes.

300
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You don't think politics might get a little heated?

301
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Might get a little heated.

302
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That's it.

303
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Well, that's interesting.

304
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Yeah.

305
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It's cool.

306
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Nashville.

307
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Yeah, that's going to be fun.

308
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It's going to be fun.

309
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I'm looking forward.

310
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Nashville is a great city.

311
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You've been.

312
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It's a great city.

313
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So that's Thanksgiving stuff that you guys hopefully will enjoy.

314
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Happy Thanksgiving.

315
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So the first segment of this is this is going to be a first time for us.

316
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We did a bunch of segments in the last episode, but this segment is the diaper diet.

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So again, now that you have video, you can see the corpulent man that I am and I.

318
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You look wonderful.

319
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Thank you so much.

320
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So my wife, Kelly, obviously is a kind of a tall and thin and has a normal relationship with food.

321
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And then there's me, but I, in an encouragement for her and wanting to be more healthy myself, I thought it would be fun to try to track with Kelly's weight gain that we make it a contest and that as she gains weight.

322
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She gained.

323
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I try to lose more than she gains.

324
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Wow.

325
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And then once she peaks and we have the baby, then I'll keep up with her as she loses again because she's going to she's got it under control.

326
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So right now.

327
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Don't say this in front of that doctor that you asked the question.

328
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Don't talk about your diet.

329
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I can't wait to go back.

330
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Episode two or three was.

331
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Yeah, that was not good.

332
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So we've got that.

333
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So right now I'm not and I'm not going to share what my actual weight or hers is.

334
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Right.

335
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But right now, as from baseline, Kelly has gained 12.2 pounds.

336
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Wow.

337
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So now she's got a little belly.

338
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I was going to say.

339
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It's so cute.

340
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That's 12 pounds on her belly.

341
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Yeah.

342
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Look at the brains on Brett.

343
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It's impressive.

344
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So again, so now she's showing a little bit of it.

345
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So she is up 12.2. I am only down 11.

346
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So she is winning by 1.2 pounds.

347
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You lost 11.

348
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I've lost 11 pounds so far.

349
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God bless you.

350
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Well, I could do I'm sure I could do better.

351
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It's good.

352
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But yeah, no, it's been steady.

353
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Like, and honestly, I'm trying to just it's been get up in the morning.

354
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I do a little warm up and some stretches.

355
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When Kelly drives to work, I do it takes her drive is about 20 minutes and talk during the drive.

356
00:22:04,900 --> 00:22:09,420
OK, I come down and I either do the rowing machine or I do some time on the bike.

357
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Nice.

358
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:20,040
And then I try three days a week to do some kind of resistance training, kettlebell workout or or something, you know, some weights or.

359
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I resist myself to go to the gym.

360
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Yeah, right.

361
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It's been good.

362
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I feel better and I think that's been helping.

363
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And then I've been also trying to do a little bit of intermittent fasting.

364
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So yes, I have coffee in the morning, but I don't I don't eat anything until lunchtime.

365
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So noon, I'll have something.

366
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Been down that road.

367
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Yeah.

368
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The black coffee.

369
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I've always drank black coffee.

370
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I never put anything in.

371
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So that is the diaper diet update.

372
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I got some work to do.

373
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I think from here, I don't know exactly how the weight gain will work for Kelly.

374
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I think I've got a chance to catch up maybe in the next couple of weeks.

375
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:59,700
Yeah, I don't know because she's not just packing it on.

376
00:23:00,020 --> 00:23:01,780
So we'll see how that goes.

377
00:23:02,060 --> 00:23:02,500
That's good.

378
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,900
I mean, I'm sorry that I looked very shocked.

379
00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:06,540
You lost 11?

380
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:16,920
I mean, after I said that, this is why this is why I said it, not because I'm a jerk like the doctor thought you were, because Frank has everything written down now.

381
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We're very professional here.

382
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And I saw a number.

383
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I saw what you would.

384
00:23:21,700 --> 00:23:22,900
The difference was one point.

385
00:23:23,300 --> 00:23:23,800
One point two.

386
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:25,040
That's what I thought you lost.

387
00:23:25,140 --> 00:23:25,520
Oh, OK.

388
00:23:25,700 --> 00:23:28,340
So when you said 11, I'm like, wait a minute, you lost 11.

389
00:23:28,580 --> 00:23:32,040
So that's why I said that, not because he doesn't look like he lost 11.

390
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:33,860
He was he was tricked.

391
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So we have our little scripts.

392
00:23:35,820 --> 00:23:38,520
I have some notes that we that we refer to.

393
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:42,600
And I put I put bad data on Carlos stuff all the time.

394
00:23:43,500 --> 00:23:46,080
He'll be confused throughout throughout the podcast.

395
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:46,740
I read it wrong.

396
00:23:46,900 --> 00:23:49,860
So it was that's why when you said 11, I was thinking of one point one.

397
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That's OK.

398
00:23:50,380 --> 00:23:50,860
So that was good.

399
00:23:50,940 --> 00:23:53,780
I don't think I look I don't I don't think I was 11.

400
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,960
But no, so that's so that is the diaper diet.

401
00:23:57,260 --> 00:24:02,800
And then now the the next segment is going to be another installment.

402
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:08,760
So number two, everybody's favorite book report.

403
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So not surprisingly, this is another dog book.

404
00:24:13,860 --> 00:24:19,700
But the this week's book report is on tell your dog you're pregnant.

405
00:24:19,700 --> 00:24:24,420
An essential guide for dog owners who are expecting a baby.

406
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:30,360
Now, these are the same dogs that attack me every time I walk in with love, loving kisses.

407
00:24:30,360 --> 00:24:36,540
See, I tell I tell my dogs that you are delicious and they try and they try to find that out.

408
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,080
So, again, tell your dog you're pregnant.

409
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:42,680
An essential guide for dog owners who are expecting a baby picture on the front.

410
00:24:42,940 --> 00:24:47,180
It's by Dr. Lewis Kirkham, again, available on his work.

411
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And yes, he's a brilliant man.

412
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:54,760
The only thing I'll say about this one, I really like the first book, the one we did last episode.

413
00:24:55,600 --> 00:25:03,820
This one's OK, too, but it's kind of almost the same content, a little bit less structured and on point with do this, do this, do this, like step by step.

414
00:25:03,900 --> 00:25:08,500
This one isn't a step by step, but this one comes with a link.

415
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:09,900
And I do think this is a good idea.

416
00:25:09,900 --> 00:25:11,320
And we haven't started using it yet.

417
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:18,760
Comes to a link and it includes a downloadable 13 tracks of baby and toy noises.

418
00:25:19,220 --> 00:25:25,440
OK, that you can play in the background and get the dogs used to the baby sounds.

419
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:32,860
And I do think that's a good idea because that's something that my dogs absolutely are.

420
00:25:33,660 --> 00:25:38,920
They they respond diligently and and very quickly to any sound.

421
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:46,820
They know the sound of like the ring doorbell, the motion sensors, anything that happens that my phone has an alert.

422
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:55,980
They know and they're like it's bad because sometimes like the text alert on my phone is the same as a motion alert in the driveway.

423
00:25:56,560 --> 00:26:01,480
And so now if I get a text, they think somebody's here and they're like jumping over the couch to get to the door.

424
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:02,120
That's hilarious.

425
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:04,160
So I do think this this will be good.

426
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:10,160
We'll use that to at the very least to kind of expose them to baby sounds.

427
00:26:10,300 --> 00:26:10,560
Right.

428
00:26:10,700 --> 00:26:12,360
And get them used to it because.

429
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:14,780
Will there be babies crying?

430
00:26:15,220 --> 00:26:17,840
Would that be something that you want that to be?

431
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:22,300
Babies crying, little cooing, playing sounds, all that.

432
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:23,140
That's a great idea.

433
00:26:23,620 --> 00:26:24,700
I think that is a good idea.

434
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:25,440
That's a great idea.

435
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:27,220
That makes this one worthwhile, I think.

436
00:26:28,020 --> 00:26:31,740
So again, I would give it maybe, you know, the other one we gave four rattles.

437
00:26:32,300 --> 00:26:37,680
I'll give three and a half rattles to this one only because of the download, the sound, the baby sounds.

438
00:26:37,740 --> 00:26:42,120
If you don't have a baby that you can already scare the dogs with, here's your ticket.

439
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,440
So four and a half, three and a half rattles.

440
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:45,360
Three and a half rattles.

441
00:26:45,540 --> 00:26:46,340
Because of downloads.

442
00:26:46,340 --> 00:26:49,060
Because of the downloadable soundtrack of baby noises.

443
00:26:49,300 --> 00:26:49,840
I like that.

444
00:26:50,020 --> 00:26:51,880
Tell your dog you're pregnant.

445
00:26:52,500 --> 00:26:55,400
An essential guide for dog owners who are expecting a baby.

446
00:26:55,700 --> 00:26:57,520
Dr. Lewis Kirkham.

447
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:58,780
And they can find this Amazon.

448
00:26:58,920 --> 00:26:59,580
It's on Amazon.

449
00:26:59,820 --> 00:27:00,460
You can find it everywhere.

450
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:02,620
This one I think is actually published.

451
00:27:02,900 --> 00:27:04,780
I think it's an Australian publisher.

452
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:05,560
Yeah.

453
00:27:05,700 --> 00:27:10,520
So that is that is it for the book report.

454
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:12,680
And now it's time for us to take a little break.

455
00:27:13,120 --> 00:27:13,460
All right.

456
00:27:14,380 --> 00:27:20,620
So here we are and we are about to go into our final segment.

457
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Final segment.

458
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:23,500
What just happened.

459
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:32,740
So the events of the last week, there's been some interesting updates here and there.

460
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:40,600
The fun one just kind of passing thing is now for Kelly, leggings are a thing.

461
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:45,680
Kelly never has been a leggings girl and do that and wear them.

462
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:46,100
Yeah.

463
00:27:46,300 --> 00:27:48,820
But now they're comfortable and they're.

464
00:27:48,900 --> 00:27:49,460
Stretchy.

465
00:27:49,500 --> 00:27:50,120
They're stretchy.

466
00:27:50,540 --> 00:27:52,860
So she has embraced leggings.

467
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:54,460
And I think they look good.

468
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:55,000
Probably look great.

469
00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:55,700
Yeah, they look good.

470
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:56,460
Tall and thin.

471
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:57,340
So yeah.

472
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,280
So maybe that'll continue afterwards.

473
00:27:59,460 --> 00:28:03,900
I was going to say, do you think that'll come into her regular wear?

474
00:28:04,460 --> 00:28:09,320
Not to imply at all that my lovely wife is overly consistent.

475
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:12,320
But I don't think so.

476
00:28:12,360 --> 00:28:13,220
I think she'll go right back.

477
00:28:13,500 --> 00:28:14,260
She's going right back.

478
00:28:14,340 --> 00:28:16,200
There's something about this.

479
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,780
And it makes me think about after we were together.

480
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:38,800
So when we first started dating, maybe months in, by the time we were getting serious, we were having a conversation and Kelly was telling me the story that she was talking to a therapist and has found it very beneficial over the years, as many people do.

481
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:43,380
And, and she, she's having a conversation when we first met.

482
00:28:43,540 --> 00:28:44,020
Okay.

483
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:52,240
About how she wasn't sure how she felt about the fact that she was dating a man who wore a hoodie.

484
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:56,460
I'm sorry.

485
00:28:56,580 --> 00:28:57,600
I didn't expect that.

486
00:28:58,500 --> 00:28:59,160
I would.

487
00:29:00,660 --> 00:29:01,620
I'm serious.

488
00:29:01,820 --> 00:29:02,620
She must hate me.

489
00:29:03,900 --> 00:29:04,900
It's all I wear.

490
00:29:05,140 --> 00:29:06,220
She says this, she says this.

491
00:29:06,260 --> 00:29:07,320
And I'm like, what?

492
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:08,120
Wow.

493
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:10,880
And she's like, well, you know, you wore, you used to wear that hoodie.

494
00:29:11,780 --> 00:29:21,300
And now, and what you, and I don't wear a lot of hoodie, but I had this, it was a black and Eddie Bauer hoodie.

495
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:23,720
You know, like it was nice enough.

496
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:25,260
I didn't wear it all the time.

497
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:31,760
Like we weren't going to the symphony wearing the hoodie, but I just, I couldn't help but laugh.

498
00:29:31,980 --> 00:29:33,160
That's great.

499
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:46,900
And I'm like, I'm glad through therapy, you were able to work through your concerns about, but in fairness, as you, as you do early on in a relationship, you talk about the foibles of who else you have dated and all that.

500
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:53,060
And I'm like, so, you know, how have you, you know, how, how has dating been with you?

501
00:29:53,160 --> 00:30:06,080
And she was dating like pilots, professors, like multiple college professors, academics, doctors, like attorneys.

502
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:07,100
So I'm sure.

503
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:10,380
And then it comes to me, she's like, what do you do for, what did you do to work today?

504
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:11,600
I fixed a dragon.

505
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:17,980
Like she had, that was the other, she had no idea what I did for a living.

506
00:30:17,980 --> 00:30:19,460
Cause I would say like, what did you do today?

507
00:30:19,540 --> 00:30:22,860
Well, I worked on, I worked on some, you know, financial modeling.

508
00:30:23,300 --> 00:30:24,340
Oh, what'd you do today?

509
00:30:24,540 --> 00:30:27,440
Well, you know, the, the castle door was stuck.

510
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:33,180
I watched Carlo crawling through the castle door because some kid got stuck there the other day.

511
00:30:33,540 --> 00:30:34,360
No, I didn't.

512
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,180
She had no idea.

513
00:30:35,180 --> 00:30:42,280
So beyond having no understanding of what I did for a living, she also was a little concerned with my wardrobe.

514
00:30:42,460 --> 00:30:52,480
So in short, that would be my, my reasoning for thinking leggings will likely be retired sometime very soon after the birth of our daughter.

515
00:30:52,700 --> 00:30:54,640
I cannot believe I've never heard that story.

516
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:55,840
That is so great.

517
00:30:56,500 --> 00:31:02,880
Imagine the doctor on the other end going, okay, she's going to tell me something really big that he's wearing or doing.

518
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:07,400
She comes out with the hoodie and the doctor has to sit there and go, that's valid.

519
00:31:07,740 --> 00:31:07,960
Yes.

520
00:31:08,060 --> 00:31:09,620
That's well without laughing.

521
00:31:09,740 --> 00:31:12,320
That's I'll listen to whatever you want for $250 an hour.

522
00:31:12,420 --> 00:31:13,560
I'll listen to everything.

523
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:15,500
I'll burn your hoodie.

524
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:21,140
So that hoodie got to the point where it was done.

525
00:31:21,460 --> 00:31:24,300
It was going to get retired.

526
00:31:24,580 --> 00:31:27,620
I was like, well, you know, we can donate and I'm anyway.

527
00:31:27,740 --> 00:31:28,960
And of course, then I bring it up.

528
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:31,100
Anyway, this is almost cost me my marriage.

529
00:31:31,540 --> 00:31:34,740
And immediately Kelly's like, well, no, we can kiss.

530
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,880
So it's, it's here somewhere, like in a tote, like it'll never get.

531
00:31:38,140 --> 00:31:39,220
Isn't that funny?

532
00:31:39,340 --> 00:31:46,540
When people, when they see what they think and you like that to you, it's like, that's not a, that wasn't a problem.

533
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,820
That's not a, that's so my wife does the same thing.

534
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:50,820
Cause okay.

535
00:31:50,900 --> 00:31:56,060
I get home and I'll put on my shorts and I hate having anything heavy.

536
00:31:56,060 --> 00:31:57,700
It could be winter.

537
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:06,620
I have shorts and I'm also sure I don't care, but you get stuck in this routine and you wear the same comfortable shorts and shirt.

538
00:32:06,940 --> 00:32:09,960
And my wife would be like, Oh, I noticed that you have your uniform on.

539
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:12,100
There's your uniform.

540
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:14,800
And I just like, well, what's the problem?

541
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:21,100
And I, you know, you realize like, yeah, she comes home from work and all she sees me in is this shorts.

542
00:32:21,620 --> 00:32:22,940
And so I get it.

543
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:23,440
It's true.

544
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:23,920
Yeah.

545
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:25,920
I think that's a guy thing too.

546
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:27,840
There's something it's utilitarian.

547
00:32:28,060 --> 00:32:28,240
Yeah.

548
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:33,040
It's like all through world war two, Churchill war, like a jumpsuit, right?

549
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:34,540
The same jumpsuit every day.

550
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:39,860
Cause he doesn't want, you know, when you're trying to save the free world, you don't need to worry about what color shirt you're not worrying about.

551
00:32:39,940 --> 00:32:40,120
Yeah.

552
00:32:40,300 --> 00:32:42,820
But not that I'm not that either of us are saving the free world.

553
00:32:42,980 --> 00:32:44,340
No, but yeah.

554
00:32:44,340 --> 00:32:48,240
So, so the leggings are leggings, leggings are a thing.

555
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:50,300
Leggings will likely not be a thing forever.

556
00:32:50,560 --> 00:33:03,400
But this, this, she mentioned how comfortable I mean, sometimes you just, cause listen, she might go from this, obviously the pregnancy, but afterwards, she's still going to be tired, not want to put clothes on her body.

557
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,740
So the leggings might stick around.

558
00:33:05,900 --> 00:33:06,040
Yeah.

559
00:33:06,340 --> 00:33:06,740
That's true.

560
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:08,020
Stick around for a while.

561
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:10,000
She is a big fan of layers.

562
00:33:10,860 --> 00:33:11,920
She's always cold.

563
00:33:12,460 --> 00:33:18,180
So she, I think the leggings, they might stay around, but if I had, if I under three pair of pants, yeah.

564
00:33:18,380 --> 00:33:22,280
Leggings under jeans, under sweats, under a robe, maybe.

565
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:28,900
But that's a, that's a, so, so that the leggings are, the leggings are here to stay for a while.

566
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:29,360
Yes.

567
00:33:29,420 --> 00:33:34,260
So the other update, which I'm very excited about is her appetite is vastly improved.

568
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:36,620
Cause we talked about this problem a couple of.

569
00:33:36,700 --> 00:33:39,400
It was concerning, but she's eaten much better.

570
00:33:39,900 --> 00:33:40,340
Definitely.

571
00:33:41,100 --> 00:33:44,280
You know, I was teasing her a little bit about it.

572
00:33:44,420 --> 00:33:46,940
And then she told me like what she ate at work.

573
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:51,660
Cause really at home, she has, she has breakfast before she goes to work.

574
00:33:52,280 --> 00:34:06,140
And then dinner time, I don't feel like she's eating a lot, but then compared to what I know she used to eat at work, she's bringing snacks, she's having stuff and she's eating more at dinner time, which I feel, I feel a lot better about.

575
00:34:06,500 --> 00:34:13,420
And I think what that led to was there was actually two now, cause one happened earlier

576
00:34:13,420 --> 00:34:20,840
today, but the first real, I think pregnancy craving that she has had, cause she has had,

577
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:27,580
she's had some aversion or things that she liked, but this time the other day she had

578
00:34:27,580 --> 00:34:33,100
had breakfast and have a coffee where, you know, having some coffee and, and all of a

579
00:34:33,100 --> 00:34:39,020
sudden she's like, I want beans on toast and sausages after breakfast.

580
00:34:39,100 --> 00:34:43,360
Like it was an hour after she had a good breakfast and she, and I'm like, okay, this is great.

581
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:45,060
So you have to go to like to England.

582
00:34:46,699 --> 00:34:48,480
She whipped it right up for herself.

583
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:55,020
So she had beans on, beans on toast and, and little breakfast sausages and happy as a clam.

584
00:34:55,199 --> 00:34:56,340
And I'm like, so baked beans.

585
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:56,940
Yeah.

586
00:34:57,000 --> 00:35:02,860
Like, I mean, you guys had breakfast already.

587
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,240
She had already had breakfast and yeah.

588
00:35:05,240 --> 00:35:07,560
So second breakfast, beans on toast.

589
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,200
Has she ever had that prior to pregnancy?

590
00:35:10,620 --> 00:35:12,800
No, never, never.

591
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:16,980
Not only has she not said it, never mentioned it, never nothing.

592
00:35:16,980 --> 00:35:17,460
It wasn't.

593
00:35:18,240 --> 00:35:18,440
No.

594
00:35:18,620 --> 00:35:28,600
I mean, when we were in London, we had like a couple, a couple of places we had a traditional bangers and mash traditional breakfast.

595
00:35:29,060 --> 00:35:31,080
But, but no, she'd never mentioned it.

596
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:32,260
Never mentioned it before.

597
00:35:32,260 --> 00:35:35,260
She has this thing now that she's been having for breakfast.

598
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:36,480
I don't know if you've ever heard of this.

599
00:35:36,500 --> 00:35:38,740
It's a cereal called Weetabix.

600
00:35:39,420 --> 00:35:40,180
You ever heard of this?

601
00:35:41,100 --> 00:35:41,660
Does anybody?

602
00:35:41,900 --> 00:35:43,020
I don't think so, but.

603
00:35:43,020 --> 00:35:50,900
Are oftentimes my wife will say things and I will say only, you know, that word or only, you know, that thing or that television show.

604
00:35:51,020 --> 00:35:53,480
And most of it, she is kind of an Anglophile.

605
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:55,140
Like she likes British stuff.

606
00:35:55,240 --> 00:36:01,320
And I think Weetabix might be that, but it's something from there, from her childhood that she used to have.

607
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:06,240
It looks like, like, I don't know, wheat based disappointment.

608
00:36:06,620 --> 00:36:08,280
Like it does not look good.

609
00:36:08,300 --> 00:36:11,300
It's like, it makes, it makes shredded wheat look exciting.

610
00:36:11,300 --> 00:36:12,920
That's all I'm thinking of is shredded wheat.

611
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:14,420
It's something like, it's something like that.

612
00:36:15,140 --> 00:36:17,280
And so she has, you know, she has.

613
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:18,900
She wants, she has craving in it.

614
00:36:19,240 --> 00:36:20,680
She's been having that for breakfast.

615
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:22,040
So she had already had that.

616
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:26,540
And then an hour later, she wanted the beans on toast and the sausages, which is good.

617
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,920
And then I got a text message randomly today from her.

618
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:30,880
Get more beans!

619
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:35,120
No, it was, I want, it was, I want a grilled cheese.

620
00:36:35,540 --> 00:36:47,100
And I'm like, all right, can't, can't bring you the grilled cheese, but I'm glad, like, so we've had two official cravings, beans on toast and breakfast sausages and now a grilled cheese, grilled cheese.

621
00:36:47,420 --> 00:36:47,880
So yeah.

622
00:36:48,300 --> 00:36:50,240
And now we have, we have some leggings.

623
00:36:50,660 --> 00:36:54,720
So her heartburn and stuff like that has been much, much better.

624
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:56,720
So yeah, that makes it gone up.

625
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:56,900
Yeah.

626
00:36:56,960 --> 00:37:02,740
She had the ice cream and you know, the only cravings have been those we just talked about.

627
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,940
And she's not a sweet person now.

628
00:37:04,940 --> 00:37:06,860
No, no ice cream.

629
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:09,340
Cookies, stuff like that.

630
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,220
She has like Christmas time.

631
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:12,980
There's a couple of cookies she will make.

632
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:14,880
And then she'll have those.

633
00:37:15,100 --> 00:37:19,620
She also, for some reason, she insists on making, does anybody in your family make a rum cake?

634
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:21,300
No, but I love it.

635
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:22,200
Really?

636
00:37:22,580 --> 00:37:23,060
I love it.

637
00:37:23,260 --> 00:37:26,660
Like with the, with the green and red cherries in it, like.

638
00:37:26,940 --> 00:37:27,980
Whatever rum cake is.

639
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:28,340
Fruit cake.

640
00:37:28,340 --> 00:37:29,100
Oh, fruit cake.

641
00:37:29,180 --> 00:37:29,660
Not rum cake.

642
00:37:29,700 --> 00:37:30,200
You said rum cake.

643
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:30,640
I'm sorry.

644
00:37:31,140 --> 00:37:31,260
Yeah.

645
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,160
No, fruit cake.

646
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:35,340
I don't know what the hell that is.

647
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:38,280
And it's not easy to make.

648
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:43,480
Like you, first of all, what I don't like is it's got like, she gets the candied cherries.

649
00:37:43,740 --> 00:37:43,900
Dried.

650
00:37:44,260 --> 00:37:45,220
That are green.

651
00:37:45,420 --> 00:37:46,100
I know what you're talking about.

652
00:37:46,100 --> 00:37:46,300
And red.

653
00:37:46,860 --> 00:37:48,460
And so they look like Star Trek food.

654
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:48,820
Yeah, yeah.

655
00:37:48,820 --> 00:37:50,620
First of all, that's in there.

656
00:37:50,980 --> 00:37:54,040
And then you have to soak this thing in rum.

657
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:54,500
Yep.

658
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:57,080
For a long time or in whatever it is.

659
00:37:57,260 --> 00:37:58,320
Not a, no, it's not rum.

660
00:37:58,720 --> 00:38:01,980
It's a cognac.

661
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:02,840
Really?

662
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:03,840
Something like that.

663
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:04,940
Something strong.

664
00:38:05,460 --> 00:38:06,340
With a strong odor.

665
00:38:06,500 --> 00:38:06,780
I don't know what it is.

666
00:38:06,780 --> 00:38:08,140
I guess I've never had it.

667
00:38:08,420 --> 00:38:08,620
It's.

668
00:38:08,720 --> 00:38:09,480
Because the look of it.

669
00:38:09,980 --> 00:38:10,320
It is.

670
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:12,580
And I think she thinks I'm just being mean.

671
00:38:12,980 --> 00:38:15,180
But it is one of the, you know, I love to eat everything.

672
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:15,780
I love sweets.

673
00:38:15,820 --> 00:38:18,280
It is the most repellent thing.

674
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:19,820
I can't stand to look at it.

675
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:21,880
And then because she's the only one who eats it.

676
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:23,720
And she doesn't really eat sweets often.

677
00:38:23,900 --> 00:38:24,200
It lives.

678
00:38:24,500 --> 00:38:27,140
It lives in the fridge out in the garage for months.

679
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:27,540
All right.

680
00:38:27,540 --> 00:38:28,500
So I have to remember.

681
00:38:28,820 --> 00:38:30,000
This is a Christmas thing or?

682
00:38:30,100 --> 00:38:30,900
It is a Christmas thing.

683
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,260
When we're, when I'm here, I will take it.

684
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:34,160
I will taste it.

685
00:38:34,380 --> 00:38:36,380
Because I don't know if I had that ever.

686
00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:37,660
Her family all loves it.

687
00:38:38,020 --> 00:38:39,780
Like they all, they all think it's great.

688
00:38:40,300 --> 00:38:43,260
I mean, in my mind, the only thing ever with.

689
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:47,800
With that fruitcake is the thing that you give to people.

690
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,680
And then they just give it to someone else.

691
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:50,300
Yeah, they'll re-gift it.

692
00:38:50,300 --> 00:38:51,200
Yeah, they re-gift it.

693
00:38:51,260 --> 00:38:51,920
Because nobody wants it.

694
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:52,720
That's what I'm thinking of.

695
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:53,460
So this is not that.

696
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,020
So I don't know, but.

697
00:38:55,240 --> 00:38:55,880
I'll taste it this year.

698
00:38:55,940 --> 00:38:56,260
Okay.

699
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,440
She would, she will be enthusiastic.

700
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,140
I'm going to do it on the podcast, actually.

701
00:39:01,380 --> 00:39:01,780
Okay.

702
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:04,160
We'll just show everybody what we're talking about.

703
00:39:04,820 --> 00:39:07,560
If she makes it this year, or there might still be some from last year.

704
00:39:07,900 --> 00:39:09,500
I'll check the, I'll check the fridge.

705
00:39:09,500 --> 00:39:11,280
If it's in liquor, it's probably still good.

706
00:39:11,380 --> 00:39:13,180
Oh, it's preserved.

707
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:14,540
Yeah, it'll be fine.

708
00:39:15,240 --> 00:39:16,460
But so the.

709
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:16,840
That's fine.

710
00:39:17,340 --> 00:39:21,880
I think the most significant thing that has happened in the last week though.

711
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,560
Because there has been a lot more movement.

712
00:39:25,260 --> 00:39:28,580
Kelly has been telling me, you know, I'm a healer.

713
00:39:28,580 --> 00:39:35,460
But it's kind of, and so she has suggested the other day when we're watching TV.

714
00:39:36,080 --> 00:39:39,340
Just keep your hand on, keep your hand on my belly.

715
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:39,680
Okay.

716
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:40,880
Rest it there.

717
00:39:40,980 --> 00:39:43,020
So she like put it right there a little bit low.

718
00:39:43,500 --> 00:39:47,240
And I got to feel the first kick, the first movement.

719
00:39:47,240 --> 00:39:49,140
And that was, that was pretty.

720
00:39:49,300 --> 00:39:50,040
That's awesome.

721
00:39:50,140 --> 00:39:50,960
It was very neat.

722
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:52,900
I was, I didn't get choked up.

723
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:54,840
I was going to say you had to have teared up, no?

724
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:56,000
No, I got excited.

725
00:39:56,180 --> 00:39:56,800
It was like.

726
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:57,120
All right.

727
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,880
It was just, it was such a fun experience.

728
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:05,220
And it just adds, you know, it's this new, you know, you know, she's in there.

729
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:06,180
Isn't that crazy?

730
00:40:06,720 --> 00:40:07,520
It is.

731
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:10,500
I know we're not saying anything that nobody's ever said.

732
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:12,960
But there's a human and another human.

733
00:40:13,180 --> 00:40:15,640
And it's like you're growing this person.

734
00:40:15,820 --> 00:40:16,080
Yeah.

735
00:40:16,340 --> 00:40:16,840
It's so cool.

736
00:40:16,940 --> 00:40:17,580
Like you're her house.

737
00:40:19,100 --> 00:40:19,920
You're her house right now.

738
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:21,700
That's why they love mommy so much.

739
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:22,760
You're her first apartment.

740
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,300
That was, it's yeah, no, it was a nice moment.

741
00:40:26,300 --> 00:40:29,540
But it was an, it was an exciting, it was a Christmas morning moment.

742
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:30,000
Yeah.

743
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:31,940
And there were, I just, I was excited.

744
00:40:32,380 --> 00:40:32,600
Yeah.

745
00:40:32,620 --> 00:40:33,340
That's neat.

746
00:40:33,420 --> 00:40:36,720
When you, like I said, we were talking about hearing the heartbeat for the first time.

747
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:36,960
Yeah.

748
00:40:37,240 --> 00:40:40,360
Now you're, you're actually getting hit.

749
00:40:40,860 --> 00:40:41,220
Yeah.

750
00:40:41,260 --> 00:40:44,560
You can feel, there's, there's, there's a little somebody in there.

751
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:47,800
So anyway, so this, that, that was all fun stuff.

752
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,320
Feeling the first kick.

753
00:40:49,500 --> 00:40:49,700
Sure.

754
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:54,620
I'm looking forward to now I'll be like, you know, if I wake up in the middle of the night, I'll be like.

755
00:40:54,620 --> 00:40:55,000
Yeah.

756
00:40:55,240 --> 00:40:56,400
And it's just going to get more and more.

757
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:56,840
Yeah.

758
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,720
The crazy thing was when you can actually see.

759
00:41:00,180 --> 00:41:00,700
Oh yeah.

760
00:41:00,740 --> 00:41:01,260
I can't wait.

761
00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:01,520
Yeah.

762
00:41:01,580 --> 00:41:02,700
You can actually see the foot.

763
00:41:02,720 --> 00:41:03,080
I want to see the feet.

764
00:41:03,380 --> 00:41:07,080
And that is the craziest vision.

765
00:41:07,580 --> 00:41:11,140
You're looking at your wife's belly area and you see a foot or two.

766
00:41:11,140 --> 00:41:12,180
You see somebody waving at you.

767
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:13,920
Or you see a hand moving.

768
00:41:14,020 --> 00:41:18,380
And then when they, when they're leaning a certain way, it's got to be uncomfortable for them.

769
00:41:18,580 --> 00:41:24,860
I think that I will probably have a good, because Kelly is not like, she's not going to put on a I'll probably be able to see.

770
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:25,380
Yes.

771
00:41:25,580 --> 00:41:27,120
Very clearly that stuff happening.

772
00:41:27,220 --> 00:41:28,780
So I am looking forward to that.

773
00:41:28,860 --> 00:41:29,080
Yep.

774
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:32,720
And, and what I think is fun now.

775
00:41:32,780 --> 00:41:40,660
And one of the, one of the things that I thought was one of the funnier moments for last week for me was again, we keep coming back to that.

776
00:41:40,700 --> 00:41:42,320
I'm a fat ass, but.

777
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:43,960
These are your words.

778
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:46,440
So Kelly is there.

779
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:52,940
She, again, narrow band of experience when it comes to this is very new for her.

780
00:41:52,940 --> 00:41:57,640
Just like it is for me and not used to ever being this weight.

781
00:41:57,860 --> 00:42:04,940
Like this is literally heavier than she has ever been and very different from a center of gravity standpoint.

782
00:42:05,240 --> 00:42:10,760
So she's just now, I think, starting to struggle with getting it out of bed and that kind of thing.

783
00:42:11,460 --> 00:42:22,040
And the other morning she's getting up and she's, I hear a little groan and she goes, she looks at me and she's like, I don't know how you do what you do with your belly.

784
00:42:22,100 --> 00:42:22,720
Oh God.

785
00:42:23,200 --> 00:42:30,400
I'm like, I looked at her, I'm like, well, I've had it for a long time.

786
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:32,260
You'll get used to it.

787
00:42:32,580 --> 00:42:33,700
Oh my God.

788
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:37,360
That's, that's like, I really, I just don't know how you do it.

789
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:38,500
And I'm like, okay.

790
00:42:39,620 --> 00:42:41,420
She doesn't know how funny she is.

791
00:42:41,620 --> 00:42:43,040
I mean, I'm telling you.

792
00:42:43,100 --> 00:42:43,680
She is.

793
00:42:43,780 --> 00:42:46,660
She hates hoodies and she can't fit.

794
00:42:46,820 --> 00:42:47,120
Oh, that's.

795
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:48,280
How do you manage?

796
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:50,300
I don't know how you, how do you tie your shoes?

797
00:42:50,300 --> 00:42:53,880
Well, I have a stick.

798
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:55,660
No, it's so good though.

799
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,500
They know we love our wives.

800
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:00,480
Anybody else has that?

801
00:43:01,720 --> 00:43:03,600
You're going, we're going to fight.

802
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:05,760
This is a problem.

803
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:06,380
It's a problem.

804
00:43:06,460 --> 00:43:07,580
There's a problem between you and me.

805
00:43:08,140 --> 00:43:08,360
No.

806
00:43:08,500 --> 00:43:08,640
Yeah.

807
00:43:08,660 --> 00:43:08,840
I know.

808
00:43:08,860 --> 00:43:12,160
She says she has no, no, like no idea.

809
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:21,840
And honestly, I'm just, I'm so amused by, I'm so amused because she's like, and I'm also like, come on, like 10 pounds.

810
00:43:22,900 --> 00:43:25,760
That's not that much, but it's, it's just right there.

811
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:27,860
And she's having a hard time with it.

812
00:43:28,060 --> 00:43:28,180
Yeah.

813
00:43:28,180 --> 00:43:30,500
When you're never at that weight.

814
00:43:30,620 --> 00:43:31,060
Yeah.

815
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:33,560
And then obviously all the different changes.

816
00:43:33,700 --> 00:43:34,860
Everything else that's going on.

817
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:35,100
Yeah.

818
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,600
She's looking at you going, you must be a superhero.

819
00:43:37,820 --> 00:43:40,340
How you walk around and walk upstairs.

820
00:43:41,340 --> 00:43:41,780
Yeah.

821
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:48,340
It's like, I'm, you know, I'm a gymnast that I can manage to get around this medicine ball in front of me.

822
00:43:48,860 --> 00:43:49,740
So yeah.

823
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:51,040
So I thought that was funny.

824
00:43:51,300 --> 00:44:02,240
And then, so one of the other things that came up this week to talk about, and I'm not sure, I think I know what you guys do, but grandparent name.

825
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:02,740
Okay.

826
00:44:03,060 --> 00:44:09,540
So the typical, so do you, so your dad and mom are, are Nono and Nona?

827
00:44:09,720 --> 00:44:09,900
Yep.

828
00:44:10,060 --> 00:44:12,920
So Nona, Nono, grandma and grandpa.

829
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:18,860
So we're a little different because my wife's side is from a divorced family.

830
00:44:19,060 --> 00:44:21,640
So we have different, we have extras.

831
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:27,960
So there is a Bopshi thrown in there, which is, okay.

832
00:44:28,240 --> 00:44:30,700
There could be a couple of ways to say this.

833
00:44:30,740 --> 00:44:32,680
We, in our family say Bopshi.

834
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:33,580
It's a Polish.

835
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:36,300
Like in my, my grandmother was Nani.

836
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:36,760
Nani.

837
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:37,100
Right.

838
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:37,640
Yeah.

839
00:44:37,780 --> 00:44:42,400
So we have Bopshi and then we have grandpa and grandma.

840
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:42,760
Okay.

841
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:46,660
They are my wife's father's side, right?

842
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:47,140
Yeah.

843
00:44:47,140 --> 00:44:47,700
Her father's side.

844
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:50,840
And then on her mother is Nona as well.

845
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,460
Cause her mother was Sicilian and.

846
00:44:52,540 --> 00:44:52,740
Okay.

847
00:44:52,900 --> 00:44:53,180
Okay.

848
00:44:53,360 --> 00:45:00,120
And the funny thing is my mother always loved the name grandpa.

849
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:01,800
Oh really?

850
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:04,340
She wanted to be called grandma for the voice.

851
00:45:04,460 --> 00:45:05,280
And I'm like, what Nona?

852
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,940
She goes, yeah, but that's what we, she, she heard that all her life.

853
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:09,220
Yeah.

854
00:45:09,220 --> 00:45:13,100
But when she came to America and she heard this grandma, grandpa, she loved it.

855
00:45:13,180 --> 00:45:14,340
She goes, oh, I wish you guys come.

856
00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:18,260
Well, my kids just, they couldn't bring it to themselves and say grandma.

857
00:45:18,540 --> 00:45:19,260
It's funny.

858
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:20,360
But she always loved it.

859
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:21,480
She wanted to be called grandma.

860
00:45:21,580 --> 00:45:22,380
She wanted to be called grandma.

861
00:45:22,700 --> 00:45:22,880
Yeah.

862
00:45:22,940 --> 00:45:23,560
That's interesting.

863
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:26,760
So my grandmother, we called Nani.

864
00:45:27,620 --> 00:45:30,000
I think my other grandmother, I never met.

865
00:45:30,060 --> 00:45:31,260
She passed away before I was born.

866
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:31,480
Sure.

867
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:33,800
But I think they called her Nani as well.

868
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:34,100
Okay.

869
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:38,000
And then my grandfather, my mom's dad, I, my mom's dad.

870
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:38,880
I called Pappy.

871
00:45:39,380 --> 00:45:40,480
They, we called him Pappy.

872
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,260
And I think it was what, there were a lot.

873
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:57,460
I don't know why, but they were, uh, I think on that's on my mom's side, a lot of times what would happen is like the oldest grandchild would just, whatever they came up with, that kind of became like whatever they could pronounce the name.

874
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:09,060
Like my, my aunt and uncle, my aunt Shirley and uncle Frank, my aunt Shirley ended up getting called honey because her oldest, her oldest grandchild, they would call, she would call everybody.

875
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:10,520
They'd call everybody honey.

876
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:14,620
So he, at some point, her oldest grandchild called her honey.

877
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:22,600
My nephew calls her, my nephew calls his mother honey from day one to this day.

878
00:46:22,620 --> 00:46:23,820
He's 20 something years old.

879
00:46:24,220 --> 00:46:24,620
That's interesting.

880
00:46:25,180 --> 00:46:41,200
The other, so there, there was that, but so we had Nani and with Kelly's mom and dad, so Kelly's father emigrated from India, East Punjabi and they have a very, they have a different system.

881
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:52,400
So if you are the maternal grandfather, which her dad will be, you were called Nanaji, Nanaji, Nanaji.

882
00:46:52,580 --> 00:46:57,940
And if you are the paternal grandfather, so if it was my dad, it would be Papaji.

883
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:03,040
So he would be, if they go the traditional route, Nanaji.

884
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:07,620
And, but I don't know if that's going to be his choice or not.

885
00:47:07,780 --> 00:47:12,540
I don't know if you want to keep this, if this is, he's also, he already has grandkids.

886
00:47:12,860 --> 00:47:13,140
He does.

887
00:47:13,220 --> 00:47:14,600
He has, he has two grandchildren.

888
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:15,920
And what do they call it?

889
00:47:15,940 --> 00:47:16,520
I don't know.

890
00:47:16,620 --> 00:47:16,860
Okay.

891
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:18,920
I don't know if they have, if they have a name.

892
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:20,420
That would probably answer your question.

893
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,000
Yeah, yeah, it might.

894
00:47:22,780 --> 00:47:26,960
But yeah, so that's the one that's out there is Nanaji or Papaji, but Nanaji.

895
00:47:28,420 --> 00:47:32,360
Maybe, maybe, or maybe he's going to be grandpa or mima.

896
00:47:32,620 --> 00:47:33,080
I don't know.

897
00:47:33,260 --> 00:47:34,560
So it could be anything.

898
00:47:37,260 --> 00:47:41,000
And then, and then her mom, her mom is Polish.

899
00:47:41,380 --> 00:47:46,440
So it would be, I think what, what Kelly said was Babcia, maybe like Babci.

900
00:47:46,860 --> 00:47:47,380
Right.

901
00:47:47,700 --> 00:47:48,560
So it could be that.

902
00:47:48,820 --> 00:47:49,660
So Babcia.

903
00:47:49,900 --> 00:48:03,200
And then, I don't know, I'm hoping that with some of my older siblings, that maybe one of them, since my folks are fast, that they will, one of them might be an Anani.

904
00:48:03,540 --> 00:48:04,020
Right.

905
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:07,000
Or a grandpa or something, but you never know.

906
00:48:07,260 --> 00:48:09,660
That's, they already have, they have grandchildren.

907
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:12,280
Most of them, or all of them have grandchildren.

908
00:48:13,300 --> 00:48:15,300
So we'll see how that goes.

909
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:20,920
And then the other thing I thought about was what about, what did you want to be called as a dad?

910
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:22,700
Like, did you always think.

911
00:48:22,700 --> 00:48:25,840
So I called my father, never called him dad.

912
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:26,700
Right.

913
00:48:26,820 --> 00:48:28,780
My, we, we referred to my father as Papa.

914
00:48:29,120 --> 00:48:29,820
Oh, really?

915
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:30,180
Yeah.

916
00:48:30,540 --> 00:48:30,960
Okay.

917
00:48:31,100 --> 00:48:37,800
We, we traditional Italian, Pa, maybe Pa, but generally Papa.

918
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:38,420
Right.

919
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:39,500
Which is so weird.

920
00:48:39,500 --> 00:48:42,480
Cause when you think about it, it's what a child would say, Papa, Papa.

921
00:48:42,780 --> 00:48:43,020
Yeah.

922
00:48:43,100 --> 00:48:47,700
And we just, we just, and everybody in Italy, my age would call their father, Papa.

923
00:48:47,900 --> 00:48:48,840
Papa and Ma.

924
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:49,480
Mama.

925
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:51,020
I don't say, that's weird.

926
00:48:51,120 --> 00:48:51,300
Right.

927
00:48:51,300 --> 00:48:52,140
We don't say Mama.

928
00:48:52,700 --> 00:48:52,940
No.

929
00:48:53,180 --> 00:48:53,860
But we say Papa.

930
00:48:54,060 --> 00:48:54,940
Papa and Ma.

931
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:55,320
And Ma.

932
00:48:55,640 --> 00:48:55,880
Yeah.

933
00:48:55,940 --> 00:48:58,380
So, so I never thought I was going to be Papa.

934
00:48:58,820 --> 00:49:03,480
I just, I, if I spoke Italian at the house with my kids, maybe.

935
00:49:03,620 --> 00:49:03,980
Right.

936
00:49:04,180 --> 00:49:06,980
Um, but I, I love, I love hearing dad.

937
00:49:07,240 --> 00:49:08,760
Dad is yeah.

938
00:49:08,820 --> 00:49:11,640
When my kids call me dad, but we never really talked about it.

939
00:49:11,720 --> 00:49:13,560
But yeah, that's what I call my dad, Papa.

940
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:15,240
And I'm dad.

941
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:16,140
Right.

942
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:16,540
Yeah.

943
00:49:16,620 --> 00:49:18,280
So I, that it's interesting.

944
00:49:18,540 --> 00:49:20,820
I always called my dad, dad.

945
00:49:20,820 --> 00:49:21,340
Right.

946
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:24,520
And then I ended up calling my mother Ma a lot.

947
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:28,580
But I think, but my siblings, I think called her mommy or mom.

948
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:31,580
I always ended up calling her Ma for some reason.

949
00:49:31,740 --> 00:49:33,900
Actually, you just reminded me what my kids call me.

950
00:49:34,540 --> 00:49:37,660
It's, it started probably like five years ago.

951
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:38,140
Right.

952
00:49:38,540 --> 00:49:43,260
They, no, they call me father.

953
00:49:44,140 --> 00:49:44,960
Hi father.

954
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:45,640
Father.

955
00:49:45,780 --> 00:49:46,440
It's so funny.

956
00:49:46,580 --> 00:49:46,880
Peter.

957
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:48,120
Hi father.

958
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,660
So I don't know if it started like with a TikTok thing.

959
00:49:50,660 --> 00:49:54,460
Would somebody, but somehow, Hey mother.

960
00:49:54,660 --> 00:49:55,140
Hey father.

961
00:49:55,260 --> 00:49:55,400
Yeah.

962
00:49:55,500 --> 00:49:56,960
So you just reminded me.

963
00:49:57,020 --> 00:49:57,240
Yes.

964
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:59,320
They, he'll call me on the phone.

965
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:03,080
My, my sons and they'll be like, Hey father, how are you father?

966
00:50:03,380 --> 00:50:07,280
And I'm like, we're so proper, but yes, I've been, yeah, it's more father.

967
00:50:07,660 --> 00:50:08,800
It's weird.

968
00:50:09,340 --> 00:50:09,740
I go back.

969
00:50:09,820 --> 00:50:28,720
I like, I think, I don't know when I think of a little boy, I think dad, I don't know if I would want to be called daddy as a, from a little boy, but from a little girl or my cousins, my cousin, Sharon and her family, they called their father, papa.

970
00:50:28,940 --> 00:50:30,060
And I think it's cute.

971
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:31,140
It is cute.

972
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:32,880
And I might not.

973
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:34,040
Yeah.

974
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:39,380
So I haven't, I don't know if I've decided if I want to be dad or daddy.

975
00:50:39,460 --> 00:50:43,040
You know, sometimes they, they, they decide for you.

976
00:50:43,060 --> 00:50:43,560
That's true.

977
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:45,400
Whatever they can say the first words.

978
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:45,700
Yep.

979
00:50:45,700 --> 00:50:46,340
You know what I mean?

980
00:50:46,500 --> 00:50:46,800
Dada.

981
00:50:47,260 --> 00:50:48,660
You might be dada for a while.

982
00:50:48,900 --> 00:50:49,500
I could be dada.

983
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:50,940
But yeah, I guess.

984
00:50:51,260 --> 00:50:53,240
Was, was there a first for, for you?

985
00:50:53,340 --> 00:50:55,400
Like, what did your boys say first?

986
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:56,180
Mama or dada?

987
00:50:57,020 --> 00:51:02,460
Um, I, I think the, the, I think dada, I think that was the first, I think so.

988
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:06,520
Cause I used to make fun of Trina going, ah, you know, something like that.

989
00:51:06,620 --> 00:51:19,000
But believe it or not, I think it was my first, my first son, his first words, I swear to God, I don't know why it was clock, clock, just clock.

990
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:25,480
So I don't know if dada or mama came first, but clock was, was always said.

991
00:51:25,900 --> 00:51:26,000
Interesting.

992
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:29,060
So, uh, and we left, we'd be clock, clock.

993
00:51:29,420 --> 00:51:32,640
So somehow that became his, one of his first words.

994
00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:37,640
But yeah, dada would probably be, I think there is, I don't know.

995
00:51:37,860 --> 00:51:38,840
We'll look it up.

996
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:40,620
What are the first ones?

997
00:51:40,900 --> 00:51:42,480
Most majority of the people.

998
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:44,400
Mama is easier for most kids.

999
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:47,400
The M sounds are easier than the D sounds.

1000
00:51:47,500 --> 00:51:48,040
Yeah, I guess so.

1001
00:51:49,020 --> 00:51:50,320
But maybe I didn't lose that one.

1002
00:51:50,460 --> 00:51:52,200
Maybe mama was, but I got clock.

1003
00:51:53,100 --> 00:51:53,800
That's true.

1004
00:51:54,060 --> 00:52:00,820
I think we could do a whole segment where Trina does like a commentary on these and is like, no, he's wrong.

1005
00:52:00,900 --> 00:52:01,540
He's wrong.

1006
00:52:01,620 --> 00:52:01,980
He does not.

1007
00:52:02,060 --> 00:52:03,040
That is not true.

1008
00:52:03,260 --> 00:52:06,040
He wasn't even home when I got pregnant.

1009
00:52:07,820 --> 00:52:09,400
He doesn't know what he's talking about.

1010
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:12,180
But yeah, it might be mama, but yeah, but it was fun.

1011
00:52:12,260 --> 00:52:13,780
Natalia would say clock.

1012
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:14,860
I'm going to have to decide.

1013
00:52:14,980 --> 00:52:15,520
We're going to have to decide.

1014
00:52:15,660 --> 00:52:18,280
So you're going to help decide another contest.

1015
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:21,720
What should I be called?

1016
00:52:23,180 --> 00:52:24,680
Other than, Hey, you.

1017
00:52:25,820 --> 00:52:26,180
ATM.

1018
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:35,060
So, well, so, but that is, that brings us, that brings us up to date through week 22.

1019
00:52:35,840 --> 00:52:36,900
So this is fun.

1020
00:52:36,900 --> 00:52:41,260
Once again, thank you very much for sticking with us all the way to the end.

1021
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:48,840
And since this is the week and a couple of days, enjoy, enjoy your Thanksgiving and have a great holiday.

1022
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:53,200
Spend all the time you can with your family, watch some football and that kind of stuff.

1023
00:52:53,420 --> 00:52:54,540
Don't talk about politics.

1024
00:52:54,580 --> 00:52:57,480
Don't talk about politics.

1025
00:52:57,720 --> 00:52:58,340
Or football.

1026
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:01,940
People are passionate about that.

1027
00:53:01,940 --> 00:53:02,720
That's what I'm saying.

1028
00:53:02,720 --> 00:53:10,860
It's like, you know, you talk about the cowboys and the giants and you got a fight in five minutes and the, I mean, we're already talking about the bills.

1029
00:53:10,980 --> 00:53:11,780
We'll have a mafia.

1030
00:53:11,940 --> 00:53:12,480
Come on.

1031
00:53:12,740 --> 00:53:15,160
It's a, it's already a mafia out there.

1032
00:53:15,180 --> 00:53:15,660
That's right.

1033
00:53:15,860 --> 00:53:16,840
You don't want to make them mad.

1034
00:53:17,260 --> 00:53:26,700
One of my favorite things when it comes to, I know nothing about football, but I know enough that my nephew who is a, he's a, a police officer.

1035
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:27,100
Yes.

1036
00:53:27,180 --> 00:53:30,220
He's in Dallas and obviously with the cowboys there.

1037
00:53:30,220 --> 00:53:32,320
And he is a, he is an Eagles fan.

1038
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:34,620
Thank God he has a gun.

1039
00:53:35,820 --> 00:53:37,240
At least, you know, he's safe.

1040
00:53:37,380 --> 00:53:37,900
Yeah, he's safe.

1041
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,320
But otherwise, but that was, yeah.

1042
00:53:39,420 --> 00:53:44,800
And the funny thing is Thanksgiving has now become, we, we used to have what, I think two games.

1043
00:53:45,100 --> 00:53:46,920
I would think, I think there's 17 of them.

1044
00:53:48,020 --> 00:53:50,080
They start, they start in Germany.

1045
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:52,820
Like around the clock.

1046
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:55,940
Yeah, you get up at, you get up at seven in the morning, there's football.

1047
00:53:56,240 --> 00:54:00,400
And now with Thanksgiving, they have the Thanksgiving morning, afternoon.

1048
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:03,520
Now they have at night because it's Thursday night.

1049
00:54:03,660 --> 00:54:06,800
So now it falls in the, it's football all over the place.

1050
00:54:07,100 --> 00:54:13,600
But now see when you're not, when you're not tied to football like that, for me, it's the parade parade has to happen.

1051
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:15,420
And it is the dog show.

1052
00:54:16,300 --> 00:54:22,580
The national dog show is I always watch and I always root for the breeds that I own and they never win.

1053
00:54:23,020 --> 00:54:25,540
Because they're jumping at each other.

1054
00:54:25,740 --> 00:54:28,340
Because they're horribly behaved basically.

1055
00:54:28,340 --> 00:54:30,400
So happy Thanksgiving, everyone.

1056
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:32,080
Thanks again.

1057
00:54:32,300 --> 00:54:43,760
Please send us your ideas, questions, comments, thoughts, name suggestions, certainly, and share the podcast with friends and give us some reviews.

1058
00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:45,280
We appreciate it.

1059
00:54:45,580 --> 00:54:48,540
And again, have a great, have a great holiday.

1060
00:54:50,180 --> 00:54:55,340
Well, folks, that's another episode of the Gray Hair and Daycare podcast in the books.

1061
00:54:55,820 --> 00:54:58,280
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1062
00:54:58,480 --> 00:54:59,500
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1063
00:54:59,980 --> 00:55:04,480
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1064
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:07,960
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1065
00:55:08,140 --> 00:55:15,220
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1066
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:23,220
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1067
00:55:23,740 --> 00:55:28,100
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1068
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:29,320
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1069
00:55:30,140 --> 00:55:31,620
And now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to