Spaghetti Squash, Spending, and Carlo wears a Papoose : Episode 4

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This is the Gray Hair and Day Care Podcast.

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With a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ rate in that same range, your hosts, Frank Cirio and Carlo Russo.

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Look at that.

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So, we're back.

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We are back.

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For episode four.

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We made it to four, Frank.

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We made it.

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Now, this is the one I've made some significant investments in technology.

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Yes.

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We have a much neater setup and maybe I'll do some behind the scenes photos later.

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But anyway, welcome back.

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As hopefully some of you know or if this is your first time, my name is Frank Cirio.

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I am 55 years old and my wife is now 21 weeks pregnant.

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So the first thing that we always talk about is the state of the, of the baby, state of the baby.

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So the baby is the, now the size of a spaghetti squash, love spaghetti and squash.

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I do like spaghetti squash.

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Well, I had butternut squash for dinner the other day, but I think that's bigger.

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So spaghetti squash.

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In 22 weeks, it'll be a butternut squash.

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A butternut squash.

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That's right.

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So 21 weeks, spaghetti squash.

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At this point, the baby, the features are developing.

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So it's starting to look like she is going to look.

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It looks like a mini baby.

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Love mini babies.

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And no, but no eye color yet.

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Really?

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Nope.

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21, there's no eye color.

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21, nope.

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None of that.

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So that's where we are.

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And this is going to be fun because we kind of played in the last couple of episodes, we played catch up and we, we've kind of covered week zero through 20 and now we're much more real time and we can start to do some of the segments that we talked about in episode one.

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Yes.

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So, so the first segment that we're going to do is one, I think, I don't know if I've talked to you about the name, but I came up with a cute graphic and if, if the video works, you'll see the graphics.

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It is right now.

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You're going to love it.

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This, so this segment is going to be called the silver Fox mailbox.

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I love it.

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Whenever we have viewer mail or, or things like that or, or, or responses and that's what we really want.

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And we've had some from the first couple of episodes already.

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So I was very excited to see that.

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So the first one we'll talk about, we got, I think a great, what turned into a great idea for a lullaby.

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So Kate, one of the, one of the people who has listened to the podcast reached out and talked about a song that she has sung to her daughter.

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Not as a lullaby, but the song from, from a great movie with Gene Kelly singing in the rain and the song is good morning, good morning, but she's singing it in the morning.

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But I thought, you know, when you look, when you listen to the lyrics, it's another one.

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I can imagine singing this to a child that has stayed up all night, right?

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Like you try to, so I've played around with it and, and I, and I think it's going to become one of the lullabies that we will do to develop that.

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I really liked that.

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That was from Kate from Kate.

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And then we have from Christine, one of our social media posts, we talked about parenting wins and parenting fails.

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So she brought up, I think a win, which would be a big win is her.

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Her daughter was the valedictorian at her high school graduation.

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That's really big.

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And that made me think about, so for you, you have, you were just on a college tour, right?

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With your younger boy.

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So this is a big thing for Kelly and for me, I'm sure is academic achievement.

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How did you, how did you manage that when the reports cards started coming home?

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How did you approach that as a dad?

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Okay.

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I have two versions of this cause I have two kids, not all kids learn alike.

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Not all kids comprehend stuff the same way.

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And one's not better than the other.

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They're just different.

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I know my school career was not as great as my older brothers, but we both ended up pretty, pretty good report cards.

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You have to know your individual that you're dealing with.

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You could never come from a place of you're not trying hard enough because you have no idea what kind of, what they're dealing with.

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My oldest always dealt with some kind of learning, not disability, but challenges where my youngest has not.

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So he's picked up things where as parents, you have, and you'll, you'll get into this.

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My first son was bringing home homework and we were spending two hours on homework, right?

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Now we thought, okay, this is normal.

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When we got to talking to teachers, they were like, wait a minute, you shouldn't spend more than 45 minutes.

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That's too much.

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So you were going to the parent teacher conference and saying, yeah, two hours, you know, and they're like, wait a minute, two hours.

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And we're like, well, we're, we're, we're teaching, you know, he's not getting, we then realized, oh, there's something there.

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So I could be like, we can go into going, what are you doing?

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Don't you listen in school and then make him feel worse.

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So you have to come from a place of, wait a minute, is there something here that I'm missing?

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Now, you'll know when your kid is just spacey and doesn't want to work and has all the tools that he's and he doesn't achieve them.

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That's one thing.

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But he wasn't showing that he was really frustrated and hard and he wanted to learn where my other one report cards were easy days.

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They were like, oh, very good marital honor roll where the other one was like, Hey, you did great.

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Let's get this.

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You know, you have to kind of let them tell you what they need and you have to listen and go, okay, you know better than I do what you're feeling.

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I think about it because I do like, you know, when I think about it, I will have high expectations.

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Kelly, I know will have high expectations too.

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She scares me all the time with the stuff that she knows, like stuff like that.

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She's very, very bright.

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But I do think about the idea that I know how I was as a kid, right?

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The first thing I think about when I think, what's this going to be like is what I was like as a kid.

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Like once I got into middle school, my goal was to get the best grades I could without ever doing any homework.

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I mean, I literally had a bet on, I had a bet with my physics teacher in high school that I could get a B plus or better if, and never opened my book.

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See, I can see that in you now.

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I know that's you.

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And I literally, he's like, okay, he put a piece of tape on my book and I did, I got a B plus.

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And he paid me.

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And how did you do that?

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Just by notes and listening?

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I paid attention in class and that was it.

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You can retain.

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I was, I was good.

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Like physics and math and the science stuff.

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I was not good with, I didn't have like biology a little bit or chemistry I really didn't like.

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I was academically, I was, I was good.

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So I know.

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So my thing is we'll be judging, you know, for my father, it was whatever you did, you, you could have done better.

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It didn't matter no matter what.

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And that was, that was frustrating because I would, I would, I wasn't a slouch, but that's what I always got.

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And I also had my brother who obviously was much older, had done very well academically.

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So there was always that, like you got to do at least as well as Mike.

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So I'm, I think about how am I going to really judge?

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Because yeah, there's no guarantee that the kid is going to have the same talents or strengths.

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And how do I know when they're really trying?

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Because if somebody had really gotten me to try, I might've done even better.

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You know, because there's a difference between being honestly frustrated with themselves because they can't get it.

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That's when you have to realize going, this is beyond, I'm lazy.

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And that's how, and that's when we looked at my son who you wouldn't know if he had a learning.

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I mean, he's not, it's not.

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It is just a different, it's just a different approach, right?

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They just, right.

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People don't like that.

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That's one of the, like, I see that with, with Kelly, right.

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She's even more like book learning oriented, like academic.

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She took it to the next.

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She's even more, more so like that.

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And other people just aren't like that.

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For me, I, I can't learn the same way.

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And I used to think, Oh my God, I'm dumb.

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Right.

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I'm a dumb person.

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I can't achieve what they can until I learned, Oh, wait a minute.

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I can learn it this way, which is not the same.

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But at the end of the day, we're going to get to the same, same place.

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But that expectation that it's this, there's only one path, right?

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Right.

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And that's, and that's when you said, how would I know?

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You're going to know.

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You're going to know your child.

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First of all.

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And you're going to know what they can achieve and how they, how they live.

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So when they say to you, I'm trying, I can't, then you get, instead of going, well, try harder.

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Don't go, stop watching TV.

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Maybe you should go like, Oh, okay.

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This is not sinking in.

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Why?

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Right.

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Is there something, is there a barrier?

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Is there a different way?

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So I think to answer that, you will know, we'll see, we'll see, hopefully I will.

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So that was from Christine, big win valedictorian at same daughter when she was very little.

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This is a fail now or this was a fail when her daughter was very little, that they lost her for a little while.

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And she was in the backyard in her Barbie house, but she was so small.

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You couldn't see her through the window of the Barbie house.

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But did you ever lose like, I can picture it in the tally, like left at a truck stop.

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I'm sure.

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I remember the old department store Kmart and they used to have just the racks.

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And the clothes would just hang.

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Yep.

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Right.

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And when they were little enough and you, and you'll go through this when they learn how to run and walking and all that good stuff and you put them down.

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And one time we were shopping, I'm telling you, it's a, it's a millisecond.

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I just, you take your eye off and all of a sudden you're looking at an empty stroller.

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I can picture that.

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You freak out.

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That must be, your heart must drop.

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The, your heart, your stomach, you start sweating, you start calling their names loud.

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And he was sitting in one of the racks underneath, they're so small that the clothes are, are covering them.

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And he's laughing.

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That's funny.

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And it's the worst feeling.

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I can imagine.

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I couldn't imagine the rock around the house.

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I mean, this is a little bit, they're like, where is she?

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They're a little enough.

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And yeah, that would be something that's scary.

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It made me think of what you just made me think of.

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There was a place, I remember doing this to my mother and there was, I don't know if you will remember this in the Kmart Plaza.

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There was a place, it was a clothing store called Riverboat fashion, Riverboat right up next to Rochester shoes, was it?

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Yes, it was.

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Next to Rochester shoes.

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That's very good.

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And, and I was there and they had the big round racks of clothes and I was little enough that I could get in there.

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And it was like a fort.

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I loved it.

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So there's, yeah, I think, I don't know if my sisters were with us.

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I was little and I got it and I was just hanging out and this was awesome.

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And she was terrified and thinking I got out of the store.

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I did.

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Now that I remember, not my, my kids, but my brother who was younger than us, my mother had him at 40, 50 years ago.

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One time he was missing and this is the scariest moment.

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And I probably, once I say this, we'll probably make your decision of never owning this after you hear what I just, I'm going to say.

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We couldn't find my brother.

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Mike couldn't find him.

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He was a little kid and he could go anywhere.

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And somebody had to say, did we look in the pool and that was the worst five seconds to run in the backyard.

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It was the scariest moment of my life because we had no idea what we were going to find and you couldn't keep this kid.

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He wasn't around and all these bad feelings and all these bad thoughts come in your head in that moment that feels like it's eternity.

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And we all looked in the pool and he went, oh, thank God.

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But that moment was, that's where he's going to be.

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That's where he is.

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I know it.

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I know it.

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Yeah.

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So, um, so yes, that's terrifying.

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So that is a, I don't know if that's a fail or a heart attack.

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I don't know what that is.

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It's not a fail if they found her.

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They did cause she was valedictorian.

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So that's scary.

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Yeah.

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That, that, no doubt.

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Did they take the dollhouse apart?

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Did they just, they condemned it.

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That's it.

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That was my, now Kelly was talking to her about these and she said they, her family went on a trip to Paris when she was about four and her younger sister was about one and they lost, they lost her younger sister for a little while and somewhere a little while.

233
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I don't know how long, I don't think it was very long, but yeah, she's like, oh yeah, we lost, we lost my sister.

234
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But it feels forever.

235
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That's, that's one about parenting that nobody probably, it probably happens to everybody at some time.

236
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Nobody really talks about it because nobody's bragging about what I did.

237
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It's a fail.

238
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It's a fail on every aspect.

239
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You lost your child?

240
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Yeah.

241
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Well, I remember back in the day when there was less laws and stuff, kids were just lost everywhere at the beach.

242
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You ever go to like Green Lakes?

243
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That's one of the things that's unique about our generation.

244
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Now kids are like wrapped in bubble wrap.

245
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They have helmets.

246
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They have their phones.

247
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You just call them.

248
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They have their phones.

249
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You can GPS.

250
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They got tags.

251
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They're low jacked.

252
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Right.

253
00:13:56,980 --> 00:13:57,400
Exactly.

254
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Everybody knows where they are.

255
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For us, it was, it's nine o'clock.

256
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Do you know where your children are?

257
00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:02,860
Right.

258
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Remember the commercial?

259
00:14:04,100 --> 00:14:04,200
Yes.

260
00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,240
How bad was it?

261
00:14:06,660 --> 00:14:06,860
Yeah.

262
00:14:06,900 --> 00:14:10,860
Like Cyndi Lauper had to do a commercial to say, go find your children.

263
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This is Bruce Springsteen.

264
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Do you know?

265
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That's so crazy.

266
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But that's the thing because we had no ways to get a hold of that.

267
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Yeah.

268
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There was nothing.

269
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And nobody.

270
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The lights, it's dark out.

271
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Do you know where your kids are?

272
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It's really dark out and you haven't seen your kids since dinner.

273
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If that.

274
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But the funny thing is also, same brother.

275
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Now he's in a suitcase.

276
00:14:31,300 --> 00:14:35,620
Every year, us immigrants, we're very excited about 4th of July.

277
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4th of July to us immigrants was huge.

278
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It's a big thing.

279
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Yeah.

280
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It's huge.

281
00:14:41,620 --> 00:14:44,760
So we used to go to Green Lakes.

282
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If you live in this area, you know where it is.

283
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If not, it's a park.

284
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It's a state park.

285
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And we go swimming and barbecue.

286
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We spend the whole day.

287
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Yeah.

288
00:14:52,380 --> 00:14:58,260
We would do this from the moment we were, I immigrated to America to like last year.

289
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We've, we've, we've kept the tradition going.

290
00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:21,000
And one year we were all in the, in the water and this is the best, I mean, best thing you can imagine is we're all playing in the water and all we hear is the parents of Mike, whatever the last name, please come to whatever your son is waiting for.

291
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Your son is waiting.

292
00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:23,420
Oh my God.

293
00:15:23,820 --> 00:15:27,620
So yeah, back in the seventies and eighties, we just, there was.

294
00:15:27,620 --> 00:15:31,420
And we were worried about member of the big, don't get kidnapped.

295
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Yeah.

296
00:15:32,420 --> 00:15:32,960
Oh yeah.

297
00:15:33,100 --> 00:15:35,160
Cause we just, you just lost kids everywhere.

298
00:15:35,260 --> 00:15:36,160
That happened.

299
00:15:36,260 --> 00:15:37,140
There were, there were those things.

300
00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:38,720
And I thought, I always thought it was like crazy.

301
00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:43,820
Like with my parents, like there was the field days in the summer firemen field day.

302
00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:45,380
We could never go.

303
00:15:45,500 --> 00:15:45,680
Nope.

304
00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:46,940
And I never understood why.

305
00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:52,680
Well, then I found out later because there were girls, young girls abducted from those field days.

306
00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:53,280
Yeah.

307
00:15:53,580 --> 00:15:54,840
It was, it was not good.

308
00:15:54,840 --> 00:16:10,040
So the, the other thing that we had for, we had Christine, Christine, and then the other one we had for a bow in our friend, Dave, Dave said that his big win is getting his 17 year old to shower now.

309
00:16:11,140 --> 00:16:11,940
Oh, Dave.

310
00:16:12,220 --> 00:16:14,260
When I think about that, you have two boys.

311
00:16:14,340 --> 00:16:15,040
Is that a thing?

312
00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:15,620
No.

313
00:16:15,900 --> 00:16:17,220
None of my family.

314
00:16:17,380 --> 00:16:17,620
Yeah.

315
00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:18,140
No kidding.

316
00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:23,540
We were, we, I had them on cologne and underarm deodorant at two months.

317
00:16:23,540 --> 00:16:26,720
No, I've been so lucky.

318
00:16:26,940 --> 00:16:28,060
My, my kids.

319
00:16:28,620 --> 00:16:29,060
Yeah.

320
00:16:29,180 --> 00:16:30,900
There's no fighting about showers.

321
00:16:31,920 --> 00:16:39,900
Maybe, maybe when they were like real young and they were like, you were stopped them from playing a game, a video game or watching Elmo or something.

322
00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:42,240
They, you know, at night you give them a bath or something.

323
00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:43,140
They give you a hard time.

324
00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:49,160
But as like 17, no, I mean, I don't remember that being a thing either.

325
00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:51,280
So Dave, it's, it's your fault.

326
00:16:51,360 --> 00:16:51,740
It's yeah.

327
00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:52,300
It's Dave.

328
00:16:52,900 --> 00:16:55,360
And Dave will be on, Dave will be on the podcast.

329
00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:56,280
He's one of our guests.

330
00:16:56,460 --> 00:16:58,720
So we can, we can actually yell at him.

331
00:16:58,800 --> 00:16:59,740
We can ask him about this.

332
00:16:59,980 --> 00:17:00,620
Why is your kid?

333
00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:01,780
Why are your children filthy?

334
00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:02,280
Dave?

335
00:17:02,500 --> 00:17:02,860
Why?

336
00:17:03,839 --> 00:17:05,040
But that's a win for him.

337
00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:05,319
Yeah.

338
00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:06,480
He doesn't have to smell them.

339
00:17:06,599 --> 00:17:08,839
And when he gets it, I take, you got to take the wins.

340
00:17:09,060 --> 00:17:13,099
And then the last one we had was from another friend of the podcast, Chris.

341
00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:15,619
Learning that you were born in Italy.

342
00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:17,960
I wanted to know, are you, could you speak Italian?

343
00:17:18,040 --> 00:17:18,680
Are you fluent?

344
00:17:18,940 --> 00:17:21,920
As you know, I speak to my parents only in Italian.

345
00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,819
They've never learned how to speak English.

346
00:17:24,839 --> 00:17:26,000
So that would make it.

347
00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,780
They know, they know how to nod and smile.

348
00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:29,200
Yes.

349
00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:30,200
They smile.

350
00:17:30,620 --> 00:17:32,120
They, they, they fake them.

351
00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:35,180
They fake their way through the American dream.

352
00:17:35,420 --> 00:17:36,940
But I will say this.

353
00:17:37,300 --> 00:17:47,380
I do not speak fluent Italian because what I was brought up was with my dialect from my Sicilian, which is from Palermo.

354
00:17:47,380 --> 00:17:53,480
And then even a language less than Palermo is from our town dialect.

355
00:17:53,820 --> 00:17:53,920
Right.

356
00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:57,840
So yes, I speak Italian, but it's more of a Sicilian dialect.

357
00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:59,040
It's very different.

358
00:17:59,200 --> 00:17:59,660
Very different.

359
00:17:59,860 --> 00:18:04,520
If you learned, if you, if you get the Babel or you get the Rosetta Stone, it has nothing to do.

360
00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:06,140
Be like, why are you speaking Spanish to me?

361
00:18:06,380 --> 00:18:17,200
So in my family, my grandparents, they learned a little, but it was my parents would speak to them in Italian.

362
00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:19,260
So my dad would speak to his mother in Italian.

363
00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:19,660
Sure.

364
00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:24,180
And, and then, but they would still, you know, she would still speak to us in English.

365
00:18:24,360 --> 00:18:24,720
Okay.

366
00:18:24,740 --> 00:18:26,000
But it wasn't, it wasn't great.

367
00:18:26,180 --> 00:18:30,380
So they, they, they went back to their language when they were speaking to each other.

368
00:18:30,380 --> 00:18:30,720
Yes.

369
00:18:30,940 --> 00:18:36,520
But anytime they were talking to the siblings, the nephews, the nieces, the grandkids, it was all English.

370
00:18:36,660 --> 00:18:37,300
Yeah, that was it.

371
00:18:37,300 --> 00:18:37,420
Yeah.

372
00:18:37,420 --> 00:18:38,740
That's because they didn't want you.

373
00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:40,160
They wanted to kind of.

374
00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:42,660
I think they didn't want us to understand what they were saying.

375
00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:44,000
They were secrets.

376
00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:54,760
But no, I think they made it a point of, I think because of the time that they came to the country, it was very important that you, that my father learned English.

377
00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:55,060
Right.

378
00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:58,180
Being the first generation here, they had to learn English.

379
00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:03,680
They had to do that stuff, but they still, there was the Metagon thing where they still talked at home.

380
00:19:03,940 --> 00:19:04,740
They spoke Italian.

381
00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:10,780
I know they had to, we had to go through that, but I think it, I think it watered down our culture.

382
00:19:11,180 --> 00:19:12,140
Our kids don't speak Italian.

383
00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:13,720
You didn't learn Italian.

384
00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:15,080
No, I'm not teaching.

385
00:19:15,300 --> 00:19:20,660
And I come from a, I come from an immigration story and I still didn't teach my kids Italian.

386
00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:28,160
I've tried very hard before we went to like for the year before we went to Italy for the first time I tried to learn.

387
00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:33,260
I had Rosetta stone and I, you know, I, I understand more.

388
00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:42,060
I still remember stuff cause I would, I could pick it up from my, my, you know, my family little bits here and there, but they were dialect as well.

389
00:19:42,060 --> 00:19:46,080
But from Southern Italy, my brother-in-law on the other hand, he is multilingual.

390
00:19:46,300 --> 00:19:47,700
He has learned it.

391
00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:48,240
He speaks.

392
00:19:48,300 --> 00:19:49,280
I don't even want to talk to him.

393
00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:50,360
He's cause he speaks Italian.

394
00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:51,580
It's amazing.

395
00:19:51,740 --> 00:19:51,920
Yeah.

396
00:19:52,060 --> 00:19:55,940
And I'm turning around with Sicilian stuff at him, you know, and he's looking at me going.

397
00:19:57,640 --> 00:19:58,180
He's done.

398
00:19:58,240 --> 00:19:59,020
He's really good.

399
00:19:59,140 --> 00:19:59,680
He's good.

400
00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:00,500
So there we are.

401
00:20:00,580 --> 00:20:01,260
Those are our first.

402
00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:02,640
Yeah.

403
00:20:02,980 --> 00:20:03,200
Really.

404
00:20:03,500 --> 00:20:07,420
And anyway, comment on our social stuff, questions, ideas.

405
00:20:07,740 --> 00:20:10,320
This, we want to, we want to tell your stories.

406
00:20:10,900 --> 00:20:11,080
Yeah.

407
00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:13,300
Because it's easier than making up our own.

408
00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:15,660
The next up, I know you've been waiting for it.

409
00:20:15,780 --> 00:20:16,160
Can't wait.

410
00:20:16,540 --> 00:20:17,200
Check, please.

411
00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:18,440
Check, please.

412
00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:20,460
So check, please.

413
00:20:20,540 --> 00:20:26,160
The whole idea is I'm going to keep a running total of what we spend on my daughter.

414
00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:31,320
And then when she graduates high school, I'm going to give her the bill itemized.

415
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:34,760
So I keep, do you think it ends as high school?

416
00:20:35,140 --> 00:20:38,460
No, I just figured I'm going to try to draw a line in the sand.

417
00:20:38,940 --> 00:20:41,560
Hey, we're into you for 22 million.

418
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,780
And really this is what it is so far.

419
00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:46,780
I'm trying to organize it and keep track.

420
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:48,740
So I broke it up into a few categories.

421
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:49,780
Okay, this would be interesting.

422
00:20:49,980 --> 00:20:52,100
So the categories are total spending so far.

423
00:20:52,180 --> 00:20:52,740
Do you want to guess?

424
00:20:53,120 --> 00:20:54,040
We're very preliminary.

425
00:20:54,340 --> 00:20:56,180
From zero to now, right?

426
00:20:56,360 --> 00:20:56,660
Yep.

427
00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:58,200
Just up till now.

428
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:00,320
I'm going to say a couple hundred dollars.

429
00:21:00,860 --> 00:21:04,780
The grand total so far, $370.08. We're very close.

430
00:21:04,780 --> 00:21:06,420
A little bit over budget there.

431
00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:07,640
A little bit over budget.

432
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:09,160
And I broke it down.

433
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,500
So we have categories are books.

434
00:21:12,260 --> 00:21:13,100
Doggy books.

435
00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:14,480
A lot of dog books.

436
00:21:15,020 --> 00:21:16,080
Pharmacological stuff.

437
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:17,360
Vitamins and things.

438
00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:17,660
Yeah.

439
00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:18,780
Home goods.

440
00:21:19,380 --> 00:21:19,920
Home goods.

441
00:21:20,060 --> 00:21:20,580
You got to have home goods.

442
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:21,060
Hardware.

443
00:21:21,340 --> 00:21:21,720
Sure.

444
00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:22,860
And equipment.

445
00:21:23,180 --> 00:21:23,960
Just general equipment.

446
00:21:24,120 --> 00:21:24,900
Podcast equipment.

447
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:25,880
Not podcast equipment.

448
00:21:26,300 --> 00:21:29,700
We would be way over $300 for that.

449
00:21:30,620 --> 00:21:32,920
So books is the number one category.

450
00:21:33,860 --> 00:21:35,120
$147 on books.

451
00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:36,900
Got some readers in the house.

452
00:21:36,900 --> 00:21:39,800
But I'm so excited because I finally finished the last dog book.

453
00:21:39,860 --> 00:21:40,720
Yes, you were talking about.

454
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:46,420
And I am now in the book that everyone is supposed to read, What to Expect When You're Expecting.

455
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:47,340
Oh, yes.

456
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:47,940
Of course.

457
00:21:48,380 --> 00:21:50,360
Obviously, I start at the beginning.

458
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:51,820
And it starts at the beginning.

459
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:52,340
And I'm going through.

460
00:21:52,380 --> 00:21:54,480
I'm like, I wish I had known all of this.

461
00:21:54,780 --> 00:21:57,240
When we had all those scares, I'd have been like, shut up.

462
00:21:57,780 --> 00:21:59,000
Make me a sandwich.

463
00:21:59,300 --> 00:21:59,580
Exactly.

464
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:00,860
I read about this.

465
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:01,320
Relax.

466
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:02,120
I know all about this.

467
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:03,640
So absolutely.

468
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:04,600
I'm excited to be in that.

469
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,700
But yeah, a lot of money on books.

470
00:22:05,700 --> 00:22:08,520
Second equipment at about $100.

471
00:22:09,120 --> 00:22:10,800
Around $100 on home goods.

472
00:22:11,380 --> 00:22:14,020
And then the others are kind of home goods.

473
00:22:14,060 --> 00:22:17,000
What do you like for the bed?

474
00:22:17,620 --> 00:22:21,040
Yeah, like the pregnancy pillow.

475
00:22:21,380 --> 00:22:22,820
Things like that.

476
00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:24,280
And it's almost.

477
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,160
I didn't bring the breakdown.

478
00:22:26,380 --> 00:22:28,700
But the vast majority of it is all on Amazon.

479
00:22:29,300 --> 00:22:30,480
It's all Amazon stuff.

480
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:42,440
So that is, check please, $370.38. So at this date, episode four, we are $370.08. Don't forget the cents.

481
00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,380
Because this makes no sense at all.

482
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,120
All the money you're going to be throwing around.

483
00:22:47,300 --> 00:22:48,160
No cents or eight cents.

484
00:22:48,740 --> 00:22:49,240
That's cool.

485
00:22:49,420 --> 00:22:50,340
Yeah, so that's it.

486
00:22:50,580 --> 00:22:52,440
You're going to look at that number and go, oh.

487
00:22:53,060 --> 00:22:53,880
That was nothing.

488
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:55,080
I remember back when it was.

489
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:56,120
$300.

490
00:22:56,940 --> 00:22:58,880
I'm going to throw that away in the toilet.

491
00:22:59,100 --> 00:23:02,520
My brother was on a transatlantic cruise home.

492
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:06,420
So he hadn't heard any of these podcasts until yesterday.

493
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:07,180
He's catching up.

494
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,820
And I talked to him today for the first time.

495
00:23:10,100 --> 00:23:14,080
And the first thing he brought up was, have you bought the $1,000 bassinet yet?

496
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,220
And I went, no, not yet.

497
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:17,400
The Eddie Bauer.

498
00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:19,140
That's the one I saw.

499
00:23:19,260 --> 00:23:21,220
The Eddie Bauer scroller.

500
00:23:21,620 --> 00:23:22,700
Oh my God.

501
00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:23,340
It's all coming.

502
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:24,720
So there you are.

503
00:23:24,780 --> 00:23:25,240
Check please.

504
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:26,200
Next segment.

505
00:23:27,100 --> 00:23:29,880
This one is one that I think is going to be a lot of fun.

506
00:23:29,940 --> 00:23:31,140
We're going to have to figure out as we go.

507
00:23:31,140 --> 00:23:31,860
Can't wait.

508
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:41,340
And that is Crash Test Daddy, where we test out some of the different baby and parenting products that we're going to have.

509
00:23:41,380 --> 00:23:43,620
I feel this is where I earn my paycheck.

510
00:23:43,700 --> 00:23:46,000
This is going to be, I think this is going to be fun.

511
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:51,220
So we've got this time, it is called the Ergo Baby.

512
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:52,260
Ergo Baby.

513
00:23:52,420 --> 00:23:53,220
Because that's the brand.

514
00:23:53,360 --> 00:23:56,840
And it's an embrace cozy newborn carrier.

515
00:23:57,260 --> 00:24:00,100
It is $80 on Amazon.

516
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:02,680
And it's one of those Papoose things.

517
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:03,240
Papoosh.

518
00:24:03,460 --> 00:24:08,260
So what I want to do is, we're going to have Carlo.

519
00:24:08,700 --> 00:24:09,000
What?

520
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:10,380
I'm going to give you the instructions.

521
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:10,820
Excuse me?

522
00:24:10,940 --> 00:24:11,960
I'm going to give you the instructions.

523
00:24:12,140 --> 00:24:14,100
And I want you to figure out how to put this thing on.

524
00:24:14,140 --> 00:24:14,360
Okay.

525
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:15,580
Oh my God.

526
00:24:15,620 --> 00:24:17,220
If you guys could see this.

527
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:19,440
It is.

528
00:24:19,740 --> 00:24:20,180
Okay.

529
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:24,540
I'm going to read the Chinese one.

530
00:24:25,660 --> 00:24:25,880
Good.

531
00:24:26,860 --> 00:24:30,920
So, can you hold this?

532
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:34,260
Is there any way I can get you to work with me here?

533
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:36,600
Because I need to see this.

534
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:38,260
Here, let me get this.

535
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:46,320
Okay.

536
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:47,200
I'm going to.

537
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:48,600
You're going to.

538
00:24:52,110 --> 00:24:53,210
This is going to be.

539
00:24:53,230 --> 00:24:54,130
So here we are.

540
00:24:54,890 --> 00:24:56,590
Carlo is going to try this out.

541
00:24:56,830 --> 00:24:57,130
Okay.

542
00:24:57,190 --> 00:24:58,030
I think you got it.

543
00:24:58,630 --> 00:24:59,090
So wait a minute.

544
00:24:59,470 --> 00:25:00,050
I'm going to be.

545
00:25:00,770 --> 00:25:02,050
This will be like one of those things.

546
00:25:02,110 --> 00:25:08,030
It's like a Friday night board game where you have to tell somebody how to do something.

547
00:25:08,130 --> 00:25:08,330
Okay.

548
00:25:08,350 --> 00:25:09,150
Number one.

549
00:25:10,690 --> 00:25:11,790
So I got this.

550
00:25:12,730 --> 00:25:14,410
I think that is the way you start.

551
00:25:14,670 --> 00:25:15,590
I got this like this.

552
00:25:15,730 --> 00:25:16,070
Yep.

553
00:25:16,250 --> 00:25:17,930
And I make this tight.

554
00:25:18,630 --> 00:25:19,490
As you pull.

555
00:25:19,730 --> 00:25:20,070
Yep.

556
00:25:20,390 --> 00:25:22,090
Because that's how the baby would slide out and.

557
00:25:22,190 --> 00:25:22,990
Baby will slide.

558
00:25:23,690 --> 00:25:24,010
Now.

559
00:25:24,550 --> 00:25:25,950
Then you're going to take.

560
00:25:27,350 --> 00:25:29,930
So those go across your shoulder.

561
00:25:30,170 --> 00:25:30,410
So do.

562
00:25:30,550 --> 00:25:30,810
No, no.

563
00:25:31,250 --> 00:25:31,970
So go.

564
00:25:32,130 --> 00:25:33,310
So the one on your right hand.

565
00:25:33,450 --> 00:25:35,010
You're going to go over your right shoulder.

566
00:25:35,850 --> 00:25:36,870
This should be facing.

567
00:25:37,990 --> 00:25:39,450
That should probably be facing out.

568
00:25:39,570 --> 00:25:41,410
Oh, and also that thing.

569
00:25:42,590 --> 00:25:43,750
So that thing.

570
00:25:44,070 --> 00:25:44,590
Yes.

571
00:25:45,410 --> 00:25:47,710
Because then this thing flops up.

572
00:25:47,830 --> 00:25:48,030
Right.

573
00:25:48,750 --> 00:25:49,270
Okay.

574
00:25:49,350 --> 00:25:51,710
So by now that your child is has scurried away.

575
00:25:54,270 --> 00:25:54,790
Okay.

576
00:25:55,710 --> 00:25:56,550
Wait, hold on a minute.

577
00:25:56,790 --> 00:25:57,050
Yes.

578
00:25:57,250 --> 00:25:58,630
The baby's crying, right?

579
00:25:58,710 --> 00:25:59,010
Right.

580
00:25:59,750 --> 00:26:00,770
I'm freaking out.

581
00:26:00,770 --> 00:26:01,110
Yes.

582
00:26:01,110 --> 00:26:02,070
Hold on.

583
00:26:02,250 --> 00:26:02,690
Shut up.

584
00:26:02,690 --> 00:26:03,770
We're getting married.

585
00:26:04,150 --> 00:26:04,410
Okay.

586
00:26:04,850 --> 00:26:05,950
So now I take these.

587
00:26:05,950 --> 00:26:06,490
Yes.

588
00:26:07,090 --> 00:26:08,430
And I'm going to put them over.

589
00:26:08,950 --> 00:26:10,910
And then they crisscross back there.

590
00:26:10,930 --> 00:26:12,230
And they crisscross like a bra.

591
00:26:12,610 --> 00:26:13,050
Yes.

592
00:26:13,350 --> 00:26:14,170
Like a bra.

593
00:26:14,410 --> 00:26:15,190
So I'm going to do that.

594
00:26:15,770 --> 00:26:16,090
Now.

595
00:26:17,170 --> 00:26:18,210
How do I?

596
00:26:18,310 --> 00:26:21,730
Now they connect into those clippies there.

597
00:26:21,750 --> 00:26:21,910
Gotcha.

598
00:26:22,310 --> 00:26:22,590
Yeah.

599
00:26:22,710 --> 00:26:23,290
So now.

600
00:26:23,310 --> 00:26:24,330
So you're going to have to make that.

601
00:26:24,450 --> 00:26:25,090
There you go.

602
00:26:25,970 --> 00:26:26,470
This.

603
00:26:31,070 --> 00:26:31,970
And this.

604
00:26:34,530 --> 00:26:35,710
This is fantastic.

605
00:26:36,270 --> 00:26:36,770
There you go.

606
00:26:37,530 --> 00:26:38,230
Look at that.

607
00:26:39,430 --> 00:26:40,330
You're getting it.

608
00:26:41,410 --> 00:26:41,890
Okay.

609
00:26:42,390 --> 00:26:43,350
This is fantastic.

610
00:26:45,210 --> 00:26:45,910
Oh, no.

611
00:26:46,010 --> 00:26:46,550
There is a clip.

612
00:26:46,670 --> 00:26:48,110
It's just further up on that thing.

613
00:26:48,730 --> 00:26:49,550
You got to.

614
00:26:49,550 --> 00:26:50,930
You got to slide it down.

615
00:26:51,250 --> 00:26:52,210
There you go.

616
00:26:52,470 --> 00:26:53,530
Clip it here.

617
00:26:54,730 --> 00:26:55,070
Now.

618
00:26:55,490 --> 00:26:56,590
I'm going to take this.

619
00:26:57,450 --> 00:26:58,190
This side.

620
00:26:58,290 --> 00:26:58,710
Yes.

621
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,860
I'm so glad that you're the one that has to do this and not me.

622
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:09,240
Okay.

623
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:14,700
Now I got this.

624
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:15,060
Okay.

625
00:27:21,860 --> 00:27:23,140
There you go.

626
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,380
You got to go.

627
00:27:25,500 --> 00:27:25,680
Yeah.

628
00:27:25,700 --> 00:27:25,920
Yeah.

629
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:26,320
There you go.

630
00:27:27,340 --> 00:27:28,180
There you go.

631
00:27:28,220 --> 00:27:28,800
That's it.

632
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:29,760
Get your little clippy.

633
00:27:30,020 --> 00:27:31,020
Slide the clippy down.

634
00:27:32,540 --> 00:27:33,060
Yes.

635
00:27:33,860 --> 00:27:34,860
This is fantastic.

636
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:36,320
Now.

637
00:27:36,820 --> 00:27:37,740
I got this.

638
00:27:38,580 --> 00:27:39,700
Clip this up here.

639
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:41,460
All you really have to do.

640
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:43,360
Slide it down.

641
00:27:43,980 --> 00:27:44,940
There you go.

642
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:45,760
Clip it in.

643
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:47,260
And we clip it in.

644
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:47,820
That's it.

645
00:27:48,740 --> 00:27:49,580
I feel like.

646
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:50,280
We are secure.

647
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:52,640
I feel like when I'm on a flight and they're giving the instructions.

648
00:27:52,820 --> 00:27:55,300
And always adjust your mask before saving your child.

649
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:56,300
Now.

650
00:27:56,700 --> 00:27:57,140
Now.

651
00:27:57,340 --> 00:27:57,940
Go get the baby.

652
00:27:58,740 --> 00:27:59,180
Okay.

653
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:00,060
Now you got the baby.

654
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:01,060
I got the baby.

655
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:01,900
I got my daughter.

656
00:28:02,460 --> 00:28:03,520
And I assume.

657
00:28:04,460 --> 00:28:04,880
Yes.

658
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:05,380
And it just.

659
00:28:05,820 --> 00:28:06,260
She's.

660
00:28:06,620 --> 00:28:07,280
That's it.

661
00:28:08,060 --> 00:28:08,380
And then.

662
00:28:08,500 --> 00:28:08,760
But now.

663
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:09,180
See now.

664
00:28:09,260 --> 00:28:10,480
The bottom strap.

665
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:11,020
I think.

666
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:11,920
This thing.

667
00:28:12,020 --> 00:28:13,000
You got to cinch up.

668
00:28:13,120 --> 00:28:14,100
Because that's what keeps.

669
00:28:14,180 --> 00:28:14,480
Yeah.

670
00:28:14,980 --> 00:28:16,980
Otherwise the kid's just going to slide out the front.

671
00:28:19,060 --> 00:28:21,500
And now you're ready to jump out of the airplane.

672
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:22,720
Fantastic.

673
00:28:23,460 --> 00:28:24,320
Well done.

674
00:28:24,700 --> 00:28:25,700
That is beautiful.

675
00:28:27,420 --> 00:28:28,020
That's great.

676
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:28,960
Okay.

677
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:30,620
I think you did a great job.

678
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:32,520
I've never seen this before in my life.

679
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:34,340
You did better than I would have done.

680
00:28:34,340 --> 00:28:36,680
And I was looking at this and still confused.

681
00:28:36,700 --> 00:28:37,580
I did it with a hoodie.

682
00:28:37,740 --> 00:28:38,120
That's it.

683
00:28:38,300 --> 00:28:38,800
So that is.

684
00:28:38,820 --> 00:28:39,000
Yeah.

685
00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:40,720
That is the.

686
00:28:40,740 --> 00:28:42,140
Can I do the rest of the show with the baby?

687
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:43,280
If you want to.

688
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:43,680
You can.

689
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:44,680
Let's see if we can sit down.

690
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:44,960
Okay.

691
00:28:45,220 --> 00:28:45,480
Yeah.

692
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:46,400
That's an interesting idea.

693
00:28:46,540 --> 00:28:46,760
Yeah.

694
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:47,440
Let's give it a shot.

695
00:28:47,500 --> 00:28:47,720
Okay.

696
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:48,200
Let's see if I can.

697
00:28:48,500 --> 00:28:48,860
Okay.

698
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:53,680
So that is the Ergo Baby Embrace Cozy Newborn Carrier.

699
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:54,760
How does it feel?

700
00:28:55,660 --> 00:28:56,120
It's okay.

701
00:28:56,620 --> 00:28:57,000
I just.

702
00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:58,560
It was not the baby.

703
00:28:59,020 --> 00:28:59,580
That's it.

704
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:02,240
Is the baby facing the other way?

705
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:03,620
Or am I suffocating it?

706
00:29:03,620 --> 00:29:04,820
I think.

707
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:06,880
Did I kill the baby?

708
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:07,320
I don't know.

709
00:29:07,420 --> 00:29:08,120
Well, let's see.

710
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:09,200
Have I killed the baby?

711
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:10,620
This shows the baby either way.

712
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:10,940
Okay.

713
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:11,560
All right.

714
00:29:11,900 --> 00:29:13,300
The baby could be facing you.

715
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:13,560
Because they do turn their heads.

716
00:29:13,620 --> 00:29:13,980
Yes.

717
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:14,720
This is.

718
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,040
Or it could be out the other way.

719
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:19,960
And then as they get older, you can do it forward and have the legs.

720
00:29:20,060 --> 00:29:20,200
Legs sticking out.

721
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,060
Legs hanging out.

722
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:21,400
Yes.

723
00:29:21,420 --> 00:29:27,600
So right now, you either can go this way or if you want the baby to be part of the world.

724
00:29:28,740 --> 00:29:29,540
Facing the world.

725
00:29:29,620 --> 00:29:30,980
You can face it this way.

726
00:29:31,100 --> 00:29:31,640
There you go.

727
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:32,060
The legs are cozy.

728
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,140
And as Frank said, as they get older.

729
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,560
The legs can fit outside.

730
00:29:36,820 --> 00:29:38,340
There it is.

731
00:29:38,420 --> 00:29:38,680
Okay.

732
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:39,260
So that is.

733
00:29:39,300 --> 00:29:39,560
That was fun.

734
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:41,020
That is our first.

735
00:29:41,140 --> 00:29:42,440
That is our first.

736
00:29:42,620 --> 00:29:43,000
That was.

737
00:29:43,100 --> 00:29:45,160
Our first crash test daddy.

738
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:46,080
So what do you think?

739
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:46,740
I think.

740
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:47,280
I think.

741
00:29:47,620 --> 00:29:48,220
I mean.

742
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:49,180
It seems like it'll be not.

743
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,240
You know, Kelly tried it on immediately.

744
00:29:51,540 --> 00:29:53,040
And I was like, how does this like?

745
00:29:53,260 --> 00:29:53,420
Yeah.

746
00:29:53,540 --> 00:29:55,820
And you know, I think that it's going to be good.

747
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:59,280
We actually got it early in an effort to.

748
00:30:00,460 --> 00:30:01,620
She's going to start wearing it.

749
00:30:01,620 --> 00:30:03,380
To get the dogs used to.

750
00:30:03,820 --> 00:30:03,920
Something.

751
00:30:03,980 --> 00:30:04,080
Yeah.

752
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:04,640
Yeah.

753
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:04,840
Yeah.

754
00:30:04,860 --> 00:30:04,960
Yeah.

755
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:05,460
With the doll.

756
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:05,820
Great idea.

757
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:06,200
So.

758
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:09,440
Now, is this something that is meant to be by yourself to do it?

759
00:30:09,460 --> 00:30:10,420
Because it was kind of tough.

760
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:11,980
It was kind of tough.

761
00:30:12,020 --> 00:30:12,260
I mean.

762
00:30:12,460 --> 00:30:13,100
I don't know.

763
00:30:13,380 --> 00:30:14,100
Like, I think.

764
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:15,260
I mean, it's possible I did it.

765
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,700
It doesn't say that it's a team sport to put it on.

766
00:30:17,940 --> 00:30:18,680
It better be.

767
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:19,160
But it looked like.

768
00:30:19,220 --> 00:30:19,840
It certainly would be.

769
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:20,220
I know.

770
00:30:20,260 --> 00:30:20,560
I helped.

771
00:30:20,740 --> 00:30:21,100
It was tough.

772
00:30:21,100 --> 00:30:21,980
I helped her put it on.

773
00:30:22,020 --> 00:30:22,180
Yeah.

774
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:23,020
And I did it by myself.

775
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:23,480
When we tried.

776
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:23,920
You did.

777
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:24,180
I was.

778
00:30:24,180 --> 00:30:24,620
So.

779
00:30:24,620 --> 00:30:26,320
I hope the video was close or not.

780
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:27,060
All for the.

781
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:28,320
All for just the.

782
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:29,900
The entertainment of our.

783
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:30,340
Our fans.

784
00:30:30,340 --> 00:30:31,340
You were laughing at me.

785
00:30:31,340 --> 00:30:31,980
It's fantastic.

786
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:33,040
And for my entertainment.

787
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:34,340
I'm kind of proud of what I just did.

788
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:35,760
I'm going to readjust the cameras.

789
00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:37,400
That is our.

790
00:30:37,540 --> 00:30:38,020
Inaugural.

791
00:30:38,140 --> 00:30:38,980
Crash Test Daddy.

792
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:39,760
So.

793
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:40,460
The.

794
00:30:40,660 --> 00:30:41,380
The next thing.

795
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:42,020
The.

796
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:42,880
The next segment.

797
00:30:43,020 --> 00:30:43,940
This is another one.

798
00:30:44,180 --> 00:30:44,660
Inaugural.

799
00:30:45,140 --> 00:30:45,540
Segment.

800
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:46,840
Is book report.

801
00:30:47,220 --> 00:30:47,640
Book report.

802
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:48,920
We're here for book report.

803
00:30:49,700 --> 00:30:50,180
So.

804
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,220
The book report.

805
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,300
This title is.

806
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,040
Good dog.

807
00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:58,060
Happy baby.

808
00:30:59,100 --> 00:31:02,080
Preparing your dog for the arrival of your child.

809
00:31:02,220 --> 00:31:06,260
So it is 4.4 stars on on Amazon.

810
00:31:06,540 --> 00:31:07,700
It's about 14 dollars.

811
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:09,540
The author's name is Michael.

812
00:31:10,220 --> 00:31:10,660
Wombacher.

813
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:11,780
Michael Wombacher.

814
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:13,580
Published in 2015.

815
00:31:14,220 --> 00:31:15,300
Of the.

816
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,320
Books that I have read so far and I've read many.

817
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:19,080
About the dog.

818
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:20,160
I think this is.

819
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:20,840
is the best one.

820
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:26,660
What I like about it is, first of all, I agree with this guy's approach.

821
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:28,220
Like this guy has a dog trainer.

822
00:31:30,140 --> 00:31:36,560
He is relevant to everything else I've ever learned about how you train and take care of dogs.

823
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:36,980
Gotcha.

824
00:31:37,300 --> 00:31:47,480
And the outline of what you mean, what he's saying that some of them, like the last book, it was just completely like, Oh, the pack thing doesn't, you know, the pack mentality with animals has all been proven wrong.

825
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:48,200
Horseshit.

826
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:50,720
They operate that way.

827
00:31:50,760 --> 00:32:00,660
I think, but anyhow, what I like about it is not, you know, not a huge, not a huge read, but it breaks it down.

828
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:05,540
He breaks it down into 12 steps of how you, first of all, evaluate your dog.

829
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:10,380
So understanding, okay, when this happens, what does your dog do?

830
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:18,920
And kind of helps you to categorize your dog is, is your dog going to be really Is your dog going to require a little bit of training or is your dog going to need to be put down, right?

831
00:32:19,020 --> 00:32:20,760
Like, Oh God, you're going to get rid of them.

832
00:32:21,020 --> 00:32:21,120
Right.

833
00:32:21,220 --> 00:32:35,020
So he, you know, it's first assess the dog and then how, okay, how do you, how do you train dog B to, to get better, to, to be a dog a, and I think, you know, very tactical, easy to understand this.

834
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,260
I think of the ones that I will review is the best one.

835
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:42,520
So I'm going to assume there's, there's ideas of what to do in their practices and stuff, right?

836
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:51,460
And what you've read with the other books, this seems like something that makes more sense to you and your dogs, I think, because you have to take your dogs in into play.

837
00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,460
The second book, and we'll do a review there.

838
00:32:53,560 --> 00:33:01,740
The other books were either very similar to this, but less, I think this was like a system which made sense to me, right?

839
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:02,360
Okay.

840
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:03,520
This is what you do first.

841
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:04,860
It works for your assess.

842
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:05,320
Yeah.

843
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:06,940
Assess what your dogs are doing.

844
00:33:07,700 --> 00:33:09,820
Then do this, do this, do this.

845
00:33:09,820 --> 00:33:14,880
And it also called out throughout the, throughout the steps, it called out the potential pitfalls.

846
00:33:15,260 --> 00:33:18,640
This is, you want to do this because this could happen, right?

847
00:33:18,660 --> 00:33:26,100
Like, so it was very logical, simple, easy to understand, and gave you things to do to get yourself.

848
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,920
So you're comfortable and confident and it's an easy, it's easy transition.

849
00:33:30,060 --> 00:33:31,260
So you recommend that book?

850
00:33:31,340 --> 00:33:39,900
I would of the ones I'll do the reviews on the others at some point, but I think knowing now I would have read, there's one other one that I would say.

851
00:33:40,940 --> 00:33:50,280
Those two are worth it, but this one, if you only do one, I think this is the one good dog, happy baby, preparing your dog for the arrival of your child.

852
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,020
And it's a cute picture of a little baby.

853
00:33:52,180 --> 00:33:52,720
It is adorable.

854
00:33:53,000 --> 00:34:07,080
It's, it is a scary thought of animals with your child, a baby, because you have no idea how the animal is going to react because up to this point, they're your babies, right?

855
00:34:07,139 --> 00:34:09,060
They are the only, you're taking care of them.

856
00:34:09,159 --> 00:34:10,280
You're mom and daddy to them.

857
00:34:10,639 --> 00:34:19,780
I think in your case, I think you might be more worried about, because your one dog is so big that even with love, it could be dangerous, right?

858
00:34:19,860 --> 00:34:21,719
With weight and size.

859
00:34:22,380 --> 00:34:27,320
And a dog like, you know, one time and the only time, but Watson is a big dog.

860
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:47,460
But I remember one time I didn't know what I had done, but all of a sudden we're in the kitchen and Watson looks at me and growls at me and when an 85 pound dog growls at you, no matter how experienced you are, I was like, what the, and I, I yelled at him.

861
00:34:47,679 --> 00:34:56,540
And then I looked down on the floor and I realized I had stepped on the fur of his tail and yanked a chunk of fur out of his tail.

862
00:34:56,540 --> 00:34:57,880
So you were the best.

863
00:34:58,000 --> 00:34:59,400
I was the bad guy, right?

864
00:34:59,540 --> 00:35:04,100
But a little kid, you know, a kid, a little kid grabs you with those nails, right?

865
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:07,820
Like the wrong thing happens in the dog reacts naturally.

866
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:09,260
It could be bad.

867
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:13,120
But I think we talked about this too, maybe episode one or two.

868
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:16,440
I think that, I think they know it's a child.

869
00:35:16,500 --> 00:35:17,320
I don't know what it is.

870
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:17,940
Animals.

871
00:35:18,060 --> 00:35:21,340
They, they must feel like this is, I have to protect this.

872
00:35:21,420 --> 00:35:25,820
I think it's not the same as maybe you or me to them.

873
00:35:25,860 --> 00:35:26,320
I don't know.

874
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:27,680
I don't, maybe, maybe I'm wrong.

875
00:35:27,780 --> 00:35:33,560
I don't, I think, I think they probably, I think they probably do have, have those instincts.

876
00:35:33,780 --> 00:35:36,060
Like they're, they can't do like what I like.

877
00:35:36,140 --> 00:35:39,460
They see this, not innocent, but like, I don't know what the word.

878
00:35:39,620 --> 00:35:48,980
You see videos online of these dogs that are big, you know, pit bulls and big dogs and they're playing with the babies very gently and all that stuff.

879
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:57,620
And I would love it if we could get there, you know, if we can get there, that'd be great, but I just want to make sure we set them up for, I think it's going to be fine.

880
00:35:57,940 --> 00:36:03,260
But does Kelly have any kind of a thought over more than you do about this?

881
00:36:03,380 --> 00:36:07,460
Not, no, I think, I think she, I think she just wants to be prepared.

882
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:13,600
She's had, so the dog she had when she was growing up was a dog that was rehomed because of a child.

883
00:36:13,940 --> 00:36:23,500
Oh, then she had a dog before we were together that she got from a friend who rehomed their dog because of a, because of a child.

884
00:36:23,740 --> 00:36:24,100
I remember.

885
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:29,360
So she just doesn't, she's seen it happen and doesn't, because it's, it's a horrible thing for the dog.

886
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:33,260
So I think she just wants to, to, you know, make sure that's not going to happen.

887
00:36:33,380 --> 00:36:36,400
I don't think it's going to be, you know, I think you guys will be fine.

888
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:37,340
I think we're going to be okay.

889
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:37,660
Yeah.

890
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:44,100
But if better, better safe than sorry, somebody's out there that is going through that, that book helped you a little bit, right?

891
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:44,660
It helped you out.

892
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:46,300
No, it was, this is a worthwhile read.

893
00:36:46,300 --> 00:36:47,420
I would, I would read it.

894
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:55,940
I don't know if I would read for one, maybe, or maybe I'd start with the one you've moved on to start with the one about the baby, but that's it.

895
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:57,980
So, so, but yeah, but there'll be more.

896
00:36:58,160 --> 00:36:59,760
Like I said, I just started with another book.

897
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:00,720
I've got a stack of books.

898
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:01,180
So that's it.

899
00:37:01,220 --> 00:37:02,040
That's a thumbs up.

900
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:06,020
Like it's a four, four out of five duckies, duckies, radlers.

901
00:37:06,220 --> 00:37:07,540
We're going to come out with, that can be a thing.

902
00:37:07,720 --> 00:37:08,980
It can be a rat that you guys get.

903
00:37:09,100 --> 00:37:09,300
Yeah.

904
00:37:09,660 --> 00:37:11,700
Four, four, four, four out of five rattles.

905
00:37:12,220 --> 00:37:12,980
I like that.

906
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:13,840
So yeah, good book.

907
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:22,260
Next segment really is, is the one where we just talk about what happened, what just happened, what's up, what just happened this week.

908
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:22,580
Okay.

909
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:35,060
So, but the, the, the thing I wanted to talk about, you know, we talked about in the last episode, finding out that it's a girl and the very next thing that you think about is names, right?

910
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:39,600
I was talking with Kelly about it and I, you know, and I'm like, well, I'm going to, we're going to talk about names.

911
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:49,520
And she, she reminded me very nicely that I am not allowed to share our name choice for being the internet and that you people could be crazy.

912
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:51,720
I'm not supposed to share that.

913
00:37:51,740 --> 00:37:54,560
So I feel bad that I can't share.

914
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:55,420
But they understand.

915
00:37:55,540 --> 00:37:56,320
I think people understand.

916
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:58,440
I know, but I, so I, but I want, I still, I feel bad.

917
00:37:58,460 --> 00:37:59,640
So I want to make it fun for them.

918
00:37:59,780 --> 00:38:02,040
I want to make it fun for the, for our listeners.

919
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:07,080
So what we should do is let our listeners name the baby.

920
00:38:08,060 --> 00:38:10,260
So I'm going to want to use a name.

921
00:38:10,460 --> 00:38:15,440
I'm not going to always want to say the Kelly and the baby or Kelly and the bill, the baby or the baby.

922
00:38:15,620 --> 00:38:21,300
So I think we're going to ask everybody, please give us some ideas.

923
00:38:21,900 --> 00:38:26,140
You, you've gotten to know me a little bit, you know, now it's a little girl.

924
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:29,140
I can share the name that it almost was.

925
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:37,060
This name is off the, this is, this, this, this can't be used if they vote for it and they want it to be used as our name, but it won't be used.

926
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:41,280
This is not going to be the name, but it was going to be Olivia.

927
00:38:41,460 --> 00:38:42,360
Love that name.

928
00:38:42,420 --> 00:38:43,780
And Olivia is a pretty name.

929
00:38:44,240 --> 00:38:52,020
What I think is fascinating is I had no idea, but Olivia is a very popular name.

930
00:38:53,420 --> 00:38:53,800
Too early.

931
00:38:53,900 --> 00:39:03,280
And I didn't know this, but my sister, I was talking with my sister one morning and we're talking about names and she's very invested in the names.

932
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:18,880
And for some reason thinks she has a say at one point, like, she's like, well, I, I gave you ideas when you named my sister at home or sister away, my local sister, Paula, and we're talking about it.

933
00:39:18,900 --> 00:39:36,380
She's like, well, I gave, I got to suggest names for, for, uh, for Watson, for the dog and I'm like, well, yeah, you did, but you'll notice that none of your names got picked and we went in a different direction, but we're talking about, and I mentioned Olivia and she's like, oh, Olivia.

934
00:39:36,620 --> 00:39:36,780
Yeah.

935
00:39:36,980 --> 00:39:52,280
And then she goes and she searches and Olivia is, has been like the number one girl name for the last three or four years and in the top five for the last decade, really?

936
00:39:52,420 --> 00:39:53,160
And I've been, I don't know.

937
00:39:53,300 --> 00:39:59,820
And I don't know not one, I have an Olivia, an employee who's an Olivia in Erie, Pennsylvania.

938
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,240
And other than that, no, Olivia is in my life.

939
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:11,980
And about when the, about the time we were having these conversations, I went and got a haircut and the girl who cuts my hair for, for many, many years, a great, a great girl, Danielle.

940
00:40:12,180 --> 00:40:14,120
She has, she has four kids.

941
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:15,220
They're all named Olivia.

942
00:40:15,620 --> 00:40:17,020
But I asked her like, is Olivia?

943
00:40:17,140 --> 00:40:20,540
She's like, my daughter has 22 Olivia's in her class.

944
00:40:20,700 --> 00:40:22,160
Like they're everywhere.

945
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:25,340
So apparently we're already lousy with Olivia's.

946
00:40:25,540 --> 00:40:27,140
So Olivia got eliminated.

947
00:40:27,140 --> 00:40:34,480
And which I was, I was okay with, I think we landed on a great name, but you can do even better.

948
00:40:34,740 --> 00:40:37,340
So I'm very interested to see what you want to call.

949
00:40:37,660 --> 00:40:38,800
Do you just want to get rid of Olivia?

950
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:40,420
Let's not even do it as a fake name.

951
00:40:40,620 --> 00:40:41,280
I'm okay.

952
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:48,040
If you vote, if the, if the, if the people speak and they want Olivia on the table, guys, Olivia is okay.

953
00:40:48,220 --> 00:40:52,220
Olivia is on the table, but, uh, that's a, you know, I think it'd be fun.

954
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:57,020
I knew we weren't having a daughter when we couldn't come up with a name.

955
00:40:59,220 --> 00:41:13,880
My wife and I were like, do you like the, it was kind of like everybody's named Bella and I was like, and we knew Nick, you know, we knew that right off the bat, we're like, you know, we're not having a girl because we're not even, we don't even know what the, not even entertaining.

956
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:14,100
Yeah.

957
00:41:14,100 --> 00:41:14,900
We're not even in it.

958
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:23,300
So when you knew, did you, I know you waited to find out that they were boy, the day of the labor head.

959
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,800
So you obviously didn't have a name, but you had ideas.

960
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,280
Like how did you come to your two boys name?

961
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:33,300
So we went to traditional first son was my father's name.

962
00:41:33,780 --> 00:41:35,460
I didn't want to go Carlo jr.

963
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:37,480
No, I didn't want to do that.

964
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:42,360
So my first one was my father's first name, which is Natalia.

965
00:41:43,060 --> 00:41:43,840
So that's my son.

966
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:46,500
And his middle name is my wife's father's name.

967
00:41:46,900 --> 00:41:47,220
Okay.

968
00:41:47,340 --> 00:41:47,680
Thomas.

969
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,880
So Tali Thomas, Tali Thomas, Tali Thomas Russo.

970
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:51,240
Yes.

971
00:41:51,660 --> 00:41:52,140
It's a good name.

972
00:41:52,240 --> 00:41:52,420
Yeah.

973
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:53,180
Strong name.

974
00:41:53,260 --> 00:41:53,500
Yeah.

975
00:41:53,740 --> 00:41:54,680
So good name.

976
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:59,580
So when we had our second, we went to my wife's side of the family.

977
00:41:59,900 --> 00:42:00,820
Funny story here.

978
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:02,960
My last name Russo.

979
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:04,020
I'm Carlo Russo.

980
00:42:04,260 --> 00:42:06,500
My wife's family partner.

981
00:42:06,700 --> 00:42:09,260
Mother's side is also Russo.

982
00:42:09,620 --> 00:42:11,220
My mother-in-law is Russo.

983
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:11,720
Okay.

984
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:15,020
So Russo is the Jones and Smiths of Italy.

985
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:22,720
So that's not a big deal that you find two people named Russo, but her grandfather was Nicholas Russo.

986
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:23,120
Okay.

987
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:35,180
So when we named my second son, Nick, we both have Natalia Russo, which is his, and then Nicholas Russo, you know, because generally you don't have the same last name.

988
00:42:35,300 --> 00:42:35,820
Yeah, absolutely.

989
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:36,940
So that's what we went.

990
00:42:37,140 --> 00:42:38,860
If it was a female, right.

991
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,560
I never, then it would have been my grandmother.

992
00:42:41,820 --> 00:42:44,180
Her name was Graciella, which is grace.

993
00:42:44,380 --> 00:42:44,740
Graciella.

994
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:45,140
Okay.

995
00:42:45,940 --> 00:42:46,860
But that's a pretty name.

996
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:47,480
You don't hear it.

997
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,220
It is a pretty name, but it never stuck with us.

998
00:42:50,220 --> 00:42:51,560
So we're like, it's not going to happen.

999
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:52,040
Right.

1000
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:53,120
That's interesting.

1001
00:42:53,460 --> 00:42:59,800
It's funny because when I was young, people would ask you what your father's name is.

1002
00:42:59,880 --> 00:43:03,320
And I was embarrassed of my own name because I didn't know any Carlos, right?

1003
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:03,980
There was no Carl.

1004
00:43:04,100 --> 00:43:04,900
There was Carl's.

1005
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,280
There wasn't a lot of Carlos at the time either.

1006
00:43:07,620 --> 00:43:11,440
So Carlo, I didn't, everybody just didn't know my name.

1007
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:12,040
I didn't like it.

1008
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:16,560
So then when they asked me my father's name, I really didn't want to say his name.

1009
00:43:16,780 --> 00:43:21,500
I'm like, if you're having trouble with Carlo, you're really going to have a field day with Natalia, right?

1010
00:43:21,500 --> 00:43:24,100
So I used to call my father, Nick.

1011
00:43:24,340 --> 00:43:28,840
So all the school stuff that would come to my house, it'd be parents of Nick Russo.

1012
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:34,720
So I always had this name in my mind for some reason, Nick Russo, Nick Russo.

1013
00:43:34,780 --> 00:43:35,180
That's interesting.

1014
00:43:35,660 --> 00:43:37,320
And then now I have a son named Nick Russo.

1015
00:43:37,420 --> 00:43:38,340
So it's weird how it works.

1016
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:41,820
How that kind of, because Natalia and Nick are not the same.

1017
00:43:41,980 --> 00:43:47,800
So, so with your, I know initially I thought your name was a short for John Carlo, but you're just Carlo.

1018
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:48,460
I'm just Carlo.

1019
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:48,960
Okay.

1020
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:49,320
Okay.

1021
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:57,800
And the middle names were my father-in-law, Thomas, and then Nicholas took my, my name as a middle name.

1022
00:43:58,080 --> 00:43:58,940
So he's Nicholas Carlo.

1023
00:43:59,180 --> 00:44:07,260
With the, with the girl names, obviously Olivia got kicked out, but the family name thing for us, I would have liked.

1024
00:44:07,740 --> 00:44:09,820
So my mom was Pauline.

1025
00:44:09,900 --> 00:44:10,380
Okay.

1026
00:44:11,260 --> 00:44:17,500
I was like, so I said, what about, you know, I said, what about Pauline?

1027
00:44:17,500 --> 00:44:26,800
Kelly was like, did not like that and enough where I would, I would have liked to have done that, but my mother hated her name.

1028
00:44:26,860 --> 00:44:29,460
Like she, she didn't like her name anyway.

1029
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:31,000
So I'm like, okay, that's not going to happen.

1030
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:43,980
My grandmothers were Marianne and, and then my, my, my, my dad's mom was Lucia, but you know, it's cute.

1031
00:44:44,100 --> 00:44:47,260
Could be, could be, but she was such a miserable woman.

1032
00:44:47,260 --> 00:44:50,340
The last thing I want to do, like she's onto a baby.

1033
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:51,100
Oh, good.

1034
00:44:51,140 --> 00:44:51,340
Yeah.

1035
00:44:51,340 --> 00:44:51,900
She was awful.

1036
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:54,000
So that wasn't going to happen.

1037
00:44:54,040 --> 00:45:00,680
And then for Kelly, it was, you know, there wasn't a family name that really resonated.

1038
00:45:01,260 --> 00:45:05,500
So anyway, so now we landed on whatever, whatever you say.

1039
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:12,060
So at some point, we're going to put a post out on social and just give us your name away, give us your ideas.

1040
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:15,280
We'll vote and that'll be, that will be the baby's name.

1041
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:21,060
And that will be now for just a little girl's life.

1042
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:25,320
I'm going to, if this podcast is successful, I'm going to be calling her by the wrong name.

1043
00:45:25,500 --> 00:45:27,260
Kelly and the baby.

1044
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:30,540
Now, did your, now you have an older brother and younger brother.

1045
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:33,980
Did you get constantly called Pete?

1046
00:45:33,980 --> 00:45:34,840
Yes, you did.

1047
00:45:35,060 --> 00:45:38,040
So that was, I would, I, I got them.

1048
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:43,920
I was kind of, they were all my father, my Frank, I only have two.

1049
00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:45,200
And I screw it up.

1050
00:45:45,260 --> 00:45:46,800
I mean, it's only Nick or Natalia.

1051
00:45:46,900 --> 00:45:51,800
And I'm like, if you screw it up, you're going to be called Watson.

1052
00:45:52,500 --> 00:45:59,440
I mean, your problem is you got, you got dog names and podcast names you're going to throw in there.

1053
00:45:59,540 --> 00:45:59,820
Oh yeah.

1054
00:45:59,980 --> 00:46:01,340
I'm going to be completely confused.

1055
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:03,060
That'll be a no.

1056
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:08,700
So, so you've decided you and Kelly have decided we have, we have decided wow, big, big step.

1057
00:46:08,820 --> 00:46:09,080
Yep.

1058
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:15,620
I got to listen to the conversation, Kelly talking with her mother and discussing the name choice.

1059
00:46:16,300 --> 00:46:17,000
Now I don't know.

1060
00:46:17,140 --> 00:46:17,800
I don't even know.

1061
00:46:18,100 --> 00:46:32,800
Is this a family name or is this a brand new addition name to the, to the, I will say it has similarities to some of the names we have discussed, but no, it is not a family name, but I think it's a, I think it's very pretty.

1062
00:46:32,900 --> 00:46:40,080
My brother broke the tradition when he had his daughter to not have a traditional family name.

1063
00:46:40,180 --> 00:46:40,520
Right.

1064
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:42,760
And you think it's a big deal.

1065
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:43,180
It's not.

1066
00:46:43,180 --> 00:46:52,940
The other thing that's difficult with a girl name is, as I said, my cousin, three girls, my, my other cousin, a girl, my brother, two girls.

1067
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,860
There's a lot of girls that they've taken all the good ones that go with our last name, with our surname.

1068
00:46:57,380 --> 00:47:00,800
The funny thing I know really, you have to think of the name, the whole name.

1069
00:47:01,020 --> 00:47:11,020
We were at, I remember Trina was pregnant and we were at dinner and our name, for some reason we were just, like I said, having a hard time with a female name.

1070
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:14,220
And I was like, is it going to go to Graciela's?

1071
00:47:14,220 --> 00:47:15,780
Am I going to have a baby grace?

1072
00:47:15,860 --> 00:47:17,600
I'm like, I still wasn't sold in that.

1073
00:47:17,820 --> 00:47:23,580
And for some reason, the popular name of the time, other than Olivia was Bella.

1074
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:25,020
Everybody's Bella.

1075
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:27,680
My sister's granddaughter is a Bella.

1076
00:47:27,780 --> 00:47:28,200
There you are.

1077
00:47:28,420 --> 00:47:30,520
So, and I thought I can live with Bella.

1078
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:40,080
I can live with, and then I get, I get a phone call as we're eating dinner and we're kind of sold into this name for a couple days now.

1079
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,320
My younger brother calls me and says, Hey, I just got a dog.

1080
00:47:43,380 --> 00:47:44,420
I named it Bella.

1081
00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:45,620
That's right.

1082
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:46,720
He had a Bella.

1083
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:47,620
Yeah, that's right.

1084
00:47:47,720 --> 00:47:49,940
And I'm like, well, that's off the table.

1085
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,780
I'm not naming the baby after the dog.

1086
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:55,020
So he took my Bella.

1087
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,180
So that's a, so we didn't have to worry about it.

1088
00:47:58,220 --> 00:47:59,140
And it came out anyways.

1089
00:47:59,500 --> 00:48:01,660
So we'll be looking for names, the contest.

1090
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:03,000
We'll do a little contest.

1091
00:48:03,540 --> 00:48:09,160
And then the name that we do pick, we'll send them out a, Oh yeah.

1092
00:48:09,300 --> 00:48:10,080
I ate t-shirt.

1093
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:10,500
Okay.

1094
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:11,360
Do we can do that?

1095
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:11,880
Absolutely.

1096
00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:16,560
Just a limited edition edition of Frank and I are the only ones that have them.

1097
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:17,180
That's right.

1098
00:48:17,420 --> 00:48:18,960
The GHDC podcast.

1099
00:48:19,140 --> 00:48:19,240
Sure.

1100
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:19,980
So we'll get that.

1101
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:21,940
That'd be our first giveaway of the podcast.

1102
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:22,520
There you go.

1103
00:48:22,540 --> 00:48:23,280
That sounds fun.

1104
00:48:23,420 --> 00:48:23,720
Awesome.

1105
00:48:24,060 --> 00:48:34,020
So the other thing that happened for this week for what just happened is we were talking, we were going through the podcast that we did last week.

1106
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:34,380
Okay.

1107
00:48:35,020 --> 00:48:41,680
And one of the things that we talk about, it was that the non-invasive prenatal testing, right?

1108
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:46,380
So the, and the whole thing with that is it's looking for chromosomal abnormalities.

1109
00:48:46,580 --> 00:48:50,580
So we did it the first time and it came back inconclusive.

1110
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:52,280
So we had to do it again.

1111
00:48:52,460 --> 00:48:54,080
Second time, everything came back good.

1112
00:48:54,740 --> 00:49:01,340
So we were talking about that Kelly, while we're talking about it says, well, I didn't say anything at the time.

1113
00:49:01,340 --> 00:49:01,980
Oh God.

1114
00:49:01,980 --> 00:49:18,440
But the most typical result when there's no result, when you do the testing, typically it's because there is an abnormality and we redid it when we redid it and it, everything came back good.

1115
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:23,440
That was, you know, a period of, oh, you know, it was like two weeks.

1116
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:29,920
So for two weeks, she knew, she knew that and did not tell me.

1117
00:49:30,620 --> 00:49:35,680
And I wasn't sure how to process that because I thought, okay.

1118
00:49:36,940 --> 00:49:41,740
So for two weeks, she's thinking there's something wrong.

1119
00:49:41,980 --> 00:49:44,080
And she didn't tell me.

1120
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,560
And it bothered me a little bit.

1121
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:48,660
I thought I felt bad.

1122
00:49:48,820 --> 00:49:49,300
I should know.

1123
00:49:49,560 --> 00:50:01,680
I felt bad less that it was, I should know and more that I should be sharing that burden with her, whether it's a real burden or not.

1124
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:02,840
Don't spare me.

1125
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:04,580
Don't don't spare me.

1126
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:15,900
I, my feeling, I hate the idea of she already has to go all of the physical stuff, like pretty much on her own.

1127
00:50:15,900 --> 00:50:16,060
Right?

1128
00:50:16,060 --> 00:50:17,860
Like I can't have this baby for her.

1129
00:50:18,240 --> 00:50:19,140
Everything's happening to her.

1130
00:50:19,260 --> 00:50:21,120
I can be supportive, but she's doing the work.

1131
00:50:21,180 --> 00:50:25,020
She's doing literally the heavy lifting, everything she's doing.

1132
00:50:25,020 --> 00:50:28,200
So it, I think it made me feel bad.

1133
00:50:28,460 --> 00:50:38,000
I understand why that she's thinking, you know, that it's probably nothing and we're just going to do it again and it'll be fine.

1134
00:50:38,220 --> 00:50:50,560
But when she said, and I don't think when she told me, I don't think she thought that I was going to be bothered by it and I didn't, I don't know if I even let on because it wasn't until later on when I talked about what we're going to talk about on this podcast.

1135
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:53,240
I was like, yeah, you know that, you know, that bothered me a little.

1136
00:50:53,660 --> 00:51:06,020
And, and it just made me, it made me think about throughout this whole process, you know, I, I think it's worth us having a conversation and talking about, don't spare me, don't spare me.

1137
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:08,820
And secrets are bad, right?

1138
00:51:08,820 --> 00:51:10,020
Like they're just going to hurt.

1139
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:12,000
They're going to eat somebody up, right?

1140
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:12,320
Yeah.

1141
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:13,860
Why, why, why put that more on?

1142
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:14,260
Yeah.

1143
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,980
I like it because it's easier when it's out there.

1144
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:19,240
If it had gone, it went, it went the right way.

1145
00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:20,140
That's a good thing.

1146
00:51:20,580 --> 00:51:30,680
But if it went the wrong way, I don't know if it saved me two weeks of knowing, but now you have to think about why didn't you let me share this with you?

1147
00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:36,880
Like, yeah, you know, I don't want to be, you know, this is a learning, this is a learning thing for everybody.

1148
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:46,840
This is not, this is her first child, obviously like you, she already experienced a little bit of fear and saw you react to that.

1149
00:51:47,620 --> 00:51:49,020
So that's a good point.

1150
00:51:49,020 --> 00:51:51,780
You know, she already saw me turn into a mess.

1151
00:51:51,980 --> 00:52:04,280
She already saw the low end of what your feelings are and how much you want this so bad, where you even said to yourself, when you heard the good news, you ran out of the room because you didn't want to hear anything else.

1152
00:52:04,460 --> 00:52:05,420
It'd be those pancakes.

1153
00:52:06,720 --> 00:52:09,840
So at the same time, is she sparing?

1154
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:14,940
No, she's probably thinking, listen, if it's out there, it's going to come out.

1155
00:52:15,100 --> 00:52:16,820
We're both going to deal with it anyways.

1156
00:52:17,100 --> 00:52:17,260
Right.

1157
00:52:17,260 --> 00:52:24,440
And I think if I'm going to throw something out there that is probably nothing anyways, do I really want to set the world on fire right now?

1158
00:52:24,620 --> 00:52:24,900
Right.

1159
00:52:25,060 --> 00:52:33,920
I do think, yeah, I do think that also for her in that moment, yes, that's the most likely that that's that, that happens.

1160
00:52:33,980 --> 00:52:39,440
But also we really don't know, like there isn't anything definitive.

1161
00:52:39,560 --> 00:52:40,580
So why share it?

1162
00:52:40,580 --> 00:52:42,280
And I, and I understand that too.

1163
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,040
And I didn't, this is helpful.

1164
00:52:44,460 --> 00:52:48,740
It's very, this is almost like therapy because I think this is what the show is.

1165
00:52:49,140 --> 00:52:58,600
Well, because you do point out, yeah, I just, we just did a whole podcast on how I was a mess when this stuff was going on and yeah, and I didn't hide it well.

1166
00:52:58,720 --> 00:53:01,380
So that makes me feel, that makes me feel a little bit better.

1167
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:08,120
You have to understand that if something eventually is good and bad, it's, you're going to have to deal with it.

1168
00:53:08,380 --> 00:53:08,740
Right.

1169
00:53:08,780 --> 00:53:17,420
So it's a learning process for everybody and you're never going to figure this out until our dying day of what we're doing.

1170
00:53:17,940 --> 00:53:20,060
Sometimes we, it's a hit or miss, you know, it's hit or miss.

1171
00:53:20,260 --> 00:53:21,620
Should I've done this differently?

1172
00:53:21,820 --> 00:53:22,860
Do I, do I do it?

1173
00:53:22,860 --> 00:53:29,220
And next time maybe she'll, if something comes up, she'll take that conversation you had and go, let me tell him right now.

1174
00:53:29,340 --> 00:53:29,700
Yeah.

1175
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:31,700
Or next time it happens, she does it again.

1176
00:53:31,800 --> 00:53:35,540
You also understand, listen, it was something that she dealt with.

1177
00:53:35,860 --> 00:53:37,040
She made a decision that.

1178
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,300
This was not done thoughtlessly.

1179
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:40,520
Yeah, no, not at all.

1180
00:53:40,620 --> 00:53:40,780
Right.

1181
00:53:40,900 --> 00:53:42,400
So, yeah, so there was that.

1182
00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:46,800
And then the thing that I thought was more funny was Kelly had been talking

1183
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:52,940
about reaching out to like some of her family members because she feels like

1184
00:53:52,940 --> 00:53:57,840
she hasn't had, she didn't grow up with where there was like a little cousin or

1185
00:53:57,840 --> 00:54:02,400
a younger or a much younger sister where she feels like she has a lot of

1186
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:07,780
experience around children and, but she has, you know, other cousins and

1187
00:54:07,780 --> 00:54:08,700
friends and stuff like that.

1188
00:54:08,700 --> 00:54:11,360
So she was talking about, about that.

1189
00:54:11,980 --> 00:54:21,320
And I said, well, you know, when you think about it, you live, you've lived in me for a while now and living with me is very much like living with a child.

1190
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:21,620
Right.

1191
00:54:21,620 --> 00:54:24,760
I say things that you think are completely inappropriate.

1192
00:54:25,540 --> 00:54:29,340
I, I, I have, I have biological issues that you think are disgusting.

1193
00:54:30,460 --> 00:54:33,580
You can't watch what you want on TV cause you gotta watch what I want.

1194
00:54:33,580 --> 00:54:36,120
And a surprising amount of what we watch is cartoons.

1195
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:44,960
I'm like, I'm just like, I'm going down the, I'm going down the list of, you know, the, the, you know, I never want what you plan on making for dinner.

1196
00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:47,300
I like, there's, there's all those things.

1197
00:54:47,380 --> 00:54:52,100
I'm like, yeah, I'm like, you basically are living with a child.

1198
00:54:52,100 --> 00:54:54,380
Like you have a lot of, you have a lot of experience.

1199
00:54:54,720 --> 00:54:57,060
You're always using words that I don't understand.

1200
00:54:57,700 --> 00:55:00,600
Like I'm always asking questions.

1201
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,480
So, you know, I think you're like, you're good, right?

1202
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:05,540
Like you're, you're all set.

1203
00:55:05,540 --> 00:55:16,860
That is one of the things that I do like about our relationship is this is another insight into my, my wonderful wife, Kelly is Kelly has two laughs.

1204
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:25,880
She has her practiced laugh, or which is, I found out later in meeting some of her extended family, it's her father's laugh.

1205
00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:27,040
Oh, right.

1206
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:32,820
She has a laugh is that, and she has a laugh that is her real laugh.

1207
00:55:32,820 --> 00:55:41,180
And my favorite thing is to get the real is to get the real, the genuine.

1208
00:55:41,340 --> 00:55:41,560
Oh yeah.

1209
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:42,440
That's what I love.

1210
00:55:42,500 --> 00:55:49,040
Cause I know, I know not everybody gets, I see that you get right.

1211
00:55:49,260 --> 00:55:51,420
But I think I see that.

1212
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:53,800
And I, I, I love getting the real laugh.

1213
00:55:53,820 --> 00:55:57,760
So when, when I say stuff like that, she just starts laughing and I'm like, okay.

1214
00:55:57,880 --> 00:56:01,440
Like that, that's, that's when you can tell you're a partner, right?

1215
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:04,740
Like that's my, that's, that's who I want to make happy.

1216
00:56:04,980 --> 00:56:07,800
That was a big thing in the, that was a big thing in the, in the beginning was

1217
00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:12,780
figuring out getting her to, I knew this is like, this is clearly a person I'm

1218
00:56:12,780 --> 00:56:16,860
very interested in and I'm attracted to she's yeah, we, we have great

1219
00:56:18,140 --> 00:56:23,080
conversations, but finding out kind of the real person when she relaxed a

1220
00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:27,560
little bit and I started to get the real laugh, okay, like this is who, this is who

1221
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:34,720
we used to walk every day and used to talk when you guys were dating and this

1222
00:56:34,720 --> 00:56:39,460
is nothing that, oh my God, this is a fresh dating month, two months, whatever.

1223
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:44,500
When you are supposed to have questions and, and figure people out and we would, you would, you would bring that up.

1224
00:56:44,580 --> 00:56:45,920
I got to get to the real.

1225
00:56:46,060 --> 00:56:46,500
Yeah.

1226
00:56:46,700 --> 00:56:48,260
I just felt like it wasn't there.

1227
00:56:48,260 --> 00:56:53,640
And then one, one day it broke through all of a sudden there was the real laugh and I'm like, oh, okay.

1228
00:56:53,640 --> 00:57:03,260
I got like, it's like, you can see inside there, whoever they are, then, you know, I mean, you feel like, okay, now she trusts me enough to relax.

1229
00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:11,900
And so she was amused by, so she's at this point, she's, she's not concerned, but she's questioning, like, I haven't been really around kids.

1230
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:20,820
Do I know what I'm going to, she's thinking now, like very tactically, like, how is this going to work overnight?

1231
00:57:20,820 --> 00:57:23,420
Like the baby's going to be in the room with us.

1232
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:24,740
What do you do?

1233
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:28,140
Leo, my sister in Texas is a, is a great reason.

1234
00:57:28,300 --> 00:57:29,320
One is a great resource.

1235
00:57:29,740 --> 00:57:30,520
Talk to her.

1236
00:57:30,620 --> 00:57:31,840
She's got family members.

1237
00:57:32,140 --> 00:57:40,420
She's getting the, all the textbook stuff and she wants practical experience of, and I think a lot of this, a lot of this stuff also falls into place when it happens.

1238
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:42,420
It's natural, you're going to figure it out.

1239
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:42,800
You know what I mean?

1240
00:57:42,840 --> 00:57:47,200
Cause half the time for the first couple of weeks, you're going to be doing everything without sleep.

1241
00:57:48,420 --> 00:57:50,660
So there's going to be chaos in your mind.

1242
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:55,100
There's going to be lack of sleep, lack of thought, lack of, you're not gonna put a sentence together.

1243
00:57:55,200 --> 00:58:00,520
The only thought is the baby, you know, feed, clean, keep everything alive.

1244
00:58:00,940 --> 00:58:10,200
Keep this child alive and you figure it out in your worst times of when you're weak and hungry and you're eating patterns are all over the place.

1245
00:58:10,380 --> 00:58:12,260
And you do the best work.

1246
00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:14,820
That's when, like you figure it out, like, oh yeah.

1247
00:58:15,180 --> 00:58:23,640
And then when you get your sleep in, when the baby starts getting into a little pattern, then you're like, you can breathe and go, oh, okay, we got that out.

1248
00:58:23,820 --> 00:58:26,900
We did the whole, we figured it out.

1249
00:58:27,020 --> 00:58:36,300
I mean, the first scary part of everything, when the baby finally comes to you is how do I bring this home without crashing into anything?

1250
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:44,940
My car is going to be, you know, you're going to be driving 10 miles an hour and everything that you see around you is aiming at you in your mind.

1251
00:58:45,020 --> 00:58:46,180
This car is going to hit me.

1252
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:47,600
This person's going to hit me.

1253
00:58:48,020 --> 00:58:50,340
You know, everything, I'm going to get a flat tire.

1254
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:55,420
So that's going to be your first initial freak out when you walk out of that hospital, right?

1255
00:58:55,740 --> 00:58:56,840
Baby's not even home yet.

1256
00:58:56,980 --> 00:58:59,260
No, it comes together.

1257
00:58:59,360 --> 00:58:59,980
It'll be fun.

1258
00:59:00,080 --> 00:59:00,820
Yeah, it'll be fine.

1259
00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:03,200
Well, once again, this is a fun one.

1260
00:59:03,260 --> 00:59:03,620
Yeah.

1261
00:59:03,660 --> 00:59:04,880
We covered a lot of ground.

1262
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:14,320
I forgot that I was doing a bunch of, um, crash, crash test, daddy, all that stuff again, if you stayed with us until the end, we really appreciate it.

1263
00:59:14,320 --> 00:59:15,780
And we thank you for taking the time.

1264
00:59:16,580 --> 00:59:24,520
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1265
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:31,980
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1266
00:59:32,260 --> 00:59:36,840
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1267
00:59:36,860 --> 00:59:39,640
So share us, like us do all that stuff.

1268
00:59:39,640 --> 00:59:40,060
Subscribe.

1269
00:59:40,340 --> 00:59:40,780
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1270
00:59:40,880 --> 00:59:41,780
It helps us out.

1271
00:59:41,980 --> 00:59:42,260
Yeah.

1272
00:59:42,420 --> 00:59:43,560
Get those names in there.

1273
00:59:43,620 --> 00:59:52,660
You can be owning a rare merch limited edition, right off the press gray hair and daycare podcast t-shirt.

1274
00:59:52,780 --> 00:59:53,040
That's right.

1275
00:59:53,140 --> 00:59:55,120
So this will be someday that could be worth a lot of money.

1276
00:59:55,180 --> 00:59:56,300
Let's do a timeframe.

1277
00:59:56,600 --> 00:59:57,660
How long do we want to do this?

1278
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:58,220
It's right now.

1279
00:59:58,240 --> 00:59:59,020
This'll come out.

1280
00:59:59,620 --> 01:00:02,020
So this'll come, this'll come out in a couple of weeks.

1281
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:06,040
We could say that when we were recording for the week of Christmas.

1282
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:06,800
Okay.

1283
01:00:06,860 --> 01:00:07,260
Let's do it.

1284
01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:07,480
Yeah.

1285
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:12,340
So you'll have basically all of the rest of November and all, and some of December.

1286
01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:12,620
Yeah.

1287
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:13,160
Yeah.

1288
01:00:13,220 --> 01:00:13,520
Okay.

1289
01:00:13,620 --> 01:00:20,040
So you give time to, to build up some people do a, we'll do a post with what we're looking for and then you guys can submit your answers.

1290
01:00:20,780 --> 01:00:21,680
That's crushing it.

1291
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:22,240
That's killing it.

1292
01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:23,380
We're going to grab it.

1293
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:23,680
Okay.

1294
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:24,160
All right.

1295
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:24,500
Oh yeah.

1296
01:00:24,500 --> 01:00:26,240
This will be interesting to see what people think.

1297
01:00:26,460 --> 01:00:27,660
So it's all going to be Olivia.

1298
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:30,780
Kelly is going to have a, a baby name pretty soon.

1299
01:00:30,940 --> 01:00:31,740
Kelly's baby name.

1300
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:32,720
Francine.

1301
01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:37,320
Do you want something funny or do you, I think it's all, it's all up to them.

1302
01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:39,300
But it's what is it?

1303
01:00:39,380 --> 01:00:39,780
What's his name?

1304
01:00:39,820 --> 01:00:40,380
Mark Hamill.

1305
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:42,380
He had, he had his fans name, his dog.

1306
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:43,680
And then came Barkham.

1307
01:00:45,300 --> 01:00:46,420
Come up with something fun.

1308
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:47,280
I'm all for it.

1309
01:00:48,420 --> 01:00:48,680
Okay.

1310
01:00:49,340 --> 01:00:50,120
Thanks again.

1311
01:00:50,220 --> 01:00:51,960
And we will see you next time.

1312
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:57,780
Well, folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

1313
01:00:58,360 --> 01:01:00,720
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1314
01:01:00,900 --> 01:01:01,920
We hope it was fun.

1315
01:01:02,460 --> 01:01:06,900
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1316
01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:10,380
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1317
01:01:10,760 --> 01:01:30,520
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1318
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:31,780
We'd love to hear from you.

1319
01:01:32,260 --> 01:01:34,300
And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to bed.