Fartzilla & 20-Terabyte Fails: Gen X Dad Life Season 1 Finale Extravaganza!

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It's going on nine o'clock in the morning, and I'm giving everybody the sob story like I'm at St. Joe's, my wife just gave birth, she's had complications, and my placement's full, I need some.

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And I find somebody, they say I can get somebody there at 10 a.m. I'm like, fantastic, thank you.

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Then I'm like, okay, I got to call like ServPro or one of those places just to get the water out.

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So I start calling every single place.

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I go down the list in Google, every single place.

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We're two weeks out, we're three weeks out, because this flooding, there's been ice damming because of all the snow, they're booked everywhere because so many people need help.

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So there's no chance of that.

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So I call one of my, it's my cousin's son, who also happens to work for me.

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I thought he was gonna be in Buffalo that day for work.

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He happened to be here in town.

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I'm like, can you do me a favor and go over?

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He came over and helped the plumber, got, I told him where my shop vac was, he opt up a bunch of the water.

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While he's doing that, I go online.

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Oh, without it, we'd be completely, it would have been a mess.

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I go online, I order three big dehumidifiers for him to pick up and you know, and get them set up.

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We had one, but I ordered that stuff, had all that, and I thought, okay.

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And then again, I feel better.

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But now I feel like I'm missing something because doctors are coming in and out.

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I keep having to leave the room.

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Right, right, right.

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I'm on the phone talking to people.

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You're taking care of other things.

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Yeah, I want to be, I want to know what's going on with the baby.

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So, but I feel a little better.

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So now 10 o'clock comes, 1030, things are looking good with the baby.

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Kelly's still, you know, she's exhausted.

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She's lost a lot of blood.

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We're talking about, I'm encouraging her.

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I'm like, just, I'm like, look, what's the downside to taking the transfusion if it's gonna help you to be able to recover in all the other ways you're going to need to.

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But she, because of her experience with the IVs, she's reluctant to do that.

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So, you know, we're kind of having that discussion and then I get another phone call and it's the plumber and the plumber says, look, you know, I got this.

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I got the new sump pump in.

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I got the old sump pump out.

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I got the new sump pump in and I hooked it up and it's not pumping.

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And he's basically telling me that the outflow pipe, something's wrong.

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Something's not, it's not pushing the water out and I can hear in the guy's voice.

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He's got five other guys.

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He's telling me, I got five other calls I got to get to.

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And I can hear in his voice.

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He's ready to be like, I'm all attuned.

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And I'm like, look, you know, is if there's anything, you know, if there's anything he can do, he's like, well, I'm gonna try this and, you know, I'll call you back.

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He lets me talk to Frank and I'm like, look, just try to convince him to whatever, if he even has to run a temporary pipe.

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Get something going.

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And I hung up, I hung up and it was a combination of, I think, the exhaustion, everything that had happened, feeling so helpless with what Kelly went through.

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Yeah.

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And my head went to some really dark, I broke down.

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I went, my head went to some really dark places.

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I just, I broke down crying.

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And I mean, when you say dark places, just like, like Matt, like just feeling like, why is this happening?

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Why?

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There's nothing I can do.

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I can't win.

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Why does this have to happen now?

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Like, I can't take, I can't take care of him.

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I can't do anything to help my wife.

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I can't really do anything for my baby because all she wants is my wife.

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I can't do it.

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My, my, I can't even go home.

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I can't, I can't, I can't.

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Like, there's no, I'm feeling helpless.

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And in that moment, I just, it stopped.

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It was like a switch.

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And I literally felt like this is nothing but the devil in your head.

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If you're going to have problems with your wife and your barely day old baby in the hospital, and the big problem is there's a flood in your basement.

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That's the problem you want.

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And it's all that crap turned off and my phone rang and it was Frank.

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And I answered the phone and he's like, we opened up the basement window.

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He's plumbing a temporary pipe.

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It's pumping.

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And the water level is already going down.

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God is good.

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God is good.

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All right.

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And I thought, okay.

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And, and from then on this, like all that crap was done.

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I just like, whatever it was, it was, I'll fix it.

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It was God saying, listen, we're going to, we're going to set you right, right now.

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Yeah.

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We're going to set your, your brain.

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What is important and everything.

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And I think it was at that point, I think it was around that time.

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I was tech, I was texting you and I think I said, I said to you, everything I had, everything I've ever wanted is in the room with me right now.

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Everything else is.

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This is the gray hair and daycare podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ, right?

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In that same range, your hosts, Frank Cereo and Carlo Russo.

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Welcome to a very special episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast.

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Here we are with our season one finale finale.

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Oh my God.

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We've been talking about this for a year now.

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It has been, it's been more than a year.

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It was our very first episode hit the, hit the airwaves on October 29th of 2024.

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So we are 18 months in.

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We're in 2026 because we started, so Kelly was 18 or 19 weeks pregnant when we started and we kind of worked backwards and came forward and kind of talked about the whole pregnancy experience, did all that stuff.

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But we have, we have, if you count the two parters and three parters, 43 episodes to look at good for us.

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And thanks to a betrayal of technology, all of those files are gone.

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I had this 20 terabyte hard drive full of files and it just crapped out the other day.

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I know that's maybe it's telling us something.

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Yeah.

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It's like, we don't, these files.

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Hmm.

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No, you should, no one should have these.

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That's funny.

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Yeah.

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But over 40, 43 episodes, 43 episodes that luckily are all online.

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Sure.

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I can download them and use it because we wanted to go back and kind of cover some of the highlights and things that we thought were fun to look back at.

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And it was fun going back and looking through all this stuff and kind of seeing how far we've come.

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You're going to notice watching this, the start, obviously we have stuff that's not even visual yet.

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We have traditional podcast audio.

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As much as we wanted to start from the beginning with video, we had a lot of technical problems.

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Do you remember those days?

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Oh my God.

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And sometimes it seems like it was just earlier today.

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So we have our fair share of technical challenges, but I do think we have our production quality has improved significantly.

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So we're going to go back to the very first episode and where it all, where it all began and then work our way forward.

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So there'll be some audio only, but then we'll move right into our very rough video in the beginning and through some of that stuff, and then we'll roll through some of our segments that we always do.

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Our crash test day.

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Oh, I can't wait.

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That'd be fun.

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There's some fun stuff.

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I think you're going to enjoy it.

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So here we are going back to October 29th of 2024 with episode one.

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I am Frank Cereo.

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I am 55 years old and my wife is currently 18 weeks pregnant with our first child.

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First child for her and for me.

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And I am here with my friend, Carlo Russo.

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And obviously we want the podcast to, well, really I want the podcast because I'm, I'm terrified, I have no idea what I'm doing.

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You just want me here.

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I just, I'm easily going to be like my, my little blue blankie.

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I have, I've always wanted to be a father.

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I always wanted a family.

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It had just never worked out until now.

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But obviously it's a huge, a huge lifestyle change and, and lots to learn.

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And as excited as I am, as soon as I thought about it, as soon as I said, Oh, okay, this is happening.

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I thought Carlo would be a great, a great resource.

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Having seen, having seen him, uh, kind of go through everything, go through life with, with his wife, it's kind of, you know, I want to do it because I want help.

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I also think what has been interesting for me is as I started to look and try to learn, there are these groups, I've joined these groups on Facebook, on social media, and I see the questions that are being asked and the answers.

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And there is a desperate need for guidance for good content, right?

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Like the, the questions are scary.

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The answers are worse.

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It is terrifying.

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So in week 20, the baby is the size of a banana.

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I love bananas.

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The baby can swallow their digestives.

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And this is the most important, most interesting thing for me.

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The digestive system in the baby is now producing meconium.

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Meconium.

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Right.

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Isn't that what kills Superman?

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That's kryptonite.

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Oh, sorry.

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No, basically what it means is she's working at the, she, or he is working on his first poop.

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So now that word, I know it could happen in there.

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It could happen on the way out, or it could happen in the diaper the first time.

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So wait a minute, wait a minute, wait, wait, let's back it up.

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It's working on poop.

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There's no guarantee when it could come out after they have arrived in the world.

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It just, they just hold onto it.

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I don't know how it works.

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I just know it's meconium.

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That's what it said.

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And it could happen in the womb on the way out or in, in, in a diaper after they're settled in and going to college.

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I don't know.

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So that, that's where we are in week 20.

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Size of a banana when they go to college.

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Yeah, that's right.

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Oh, I'll be alive.

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I don't know if we have to beep that word.

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I don't know for it.

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I think, I don't know if the rules and regulations are.

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So, uh, as you know, we kind of, we're trying to play catch up.

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We want this to be kind of live and, and we got through week nine last week.

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So we're going to pick up on week 10.

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Sure.

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So the notable stuff week 10 up to this point, I think probably around week six.

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Maybe even seven.

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Kelly started with, it's a boy.

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I just know it's a boy.

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And I'm like, how do you like, how do you know this first time?

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Woman pregnant.

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I can feel it's a boy.

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In my family.

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All the old Italian ladies were like really good.

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My grandmother told my mother she was pregnant with me before my mother knew.

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She's like, you're pregnant.

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She's like, you're crazy.

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I'm like 19 is what I thought might be a pregnancy thing, but it wasn't.

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Okay.

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It was the arrival of Fartzilla.

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I heard Kelly toot more in three days than I had in our whole relationship.

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I'm like, what is going on?

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Like, and for me, it's the baby.

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I'm excited.

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Like, I'm like, finally.

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Yes.

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You're like me.

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Yeah.

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That's it.

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We're a team now.

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You can't yell at me anymore.

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Yes, I can.

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You're disgusting.

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I, I have toots.

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This is the baby.

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So I thought, wow, this will be fun.

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But it went away in a couple of days.

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So by week 20 Fartzilla is gone.

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But I'm still like, so is her weight on track where it should be?

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And I realized as this is coming out of my mouth at this point, I don't think she looks like she's not showing at all.

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She doesn't have a little baby bump or anything.

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She's tall.

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She's thin.

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And then there's me.

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Okay.

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So, and as I'm saying this, I see the look on the, the doctor's face go from interested to what an asshole, because I think somehow she's interpreting my question, not that is she gaining enough weight, but is she too much weight?

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Oh my God.

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And I'm like, and I can see the, like, the look is like, oh yeah, she's, she's fine.

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So how did you ask that again?

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I think I just said is, so is her weight on track?

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Like weight on track?

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But how could you look at her?

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She doesn't even have to be the worst.

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She's four months pregnant and, and, but I can see it.

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I'm just like, and the nurse is just like, I get the side eye from the nurse.

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I'm like, it was, I, I, so how did you get out of that?

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I, I just was like, okay, but I could definitely see there was that.

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I would've been like, I think she's too skinny.

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Listen, buddy.

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Like I could just, yeah, maybe we should, you want us to weigh you?

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Like who's pregnant here?

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It was just, that's funny.

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So I'm like, I'm probably never going to ask another question as long as we're going there.

233
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I was going through my, uh, my pictures for my mom, uh, that recently passed away.

234
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I found all these other pictures and it's crazy.

235
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Did you, when your, when your mom passed away and you looked at pictures, didn't it bring, I don't know if you did that.

236
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You did that with your family.

237
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You know what I want?

238
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I don't want to say like one of the things I was, I've talked about it before I do hallow and one of the things I'm listening to on how this morning talked about how looking at your child, it's a thing about, it's a thing about basically how to be a good father in the context of faith.

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And they're talking about how you can't look at your child as this child is going to be what I want, what I make of them, that you have to think about it in terms of for whatever reason, God chose you to, to be the caretaker for this person.

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And that it made me think about your mom very recently passed away.

241
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And I don't, I didn't, I didn't know your mom very well.

242
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I've only a little bit, but I know you and it is a testament to who your mother was because God gave entrusted her with you.

243
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Right.

244
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And the kind of, the kind of soul you are, the kind of person you are, it says a lot about your mom.

245
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And you know, I, I think, you know, I know how, I know how hard it is when you lose a parent and to answer your question.

246
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One of the most therapeutic things I did was those pictures.

247
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I went through all the pictures.

248
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I did all that and made a slideshow and picked music, picked the music to play behind it and did that stuff and cried and cried and cried for some reason.

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When I was a kid, I would take my tricycle, I would flip it over.

250
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Okay.

251
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So the seat and the handlebars were on the ground and then you could grab the, the pedal on the wheel and I would crank the pedal.

252
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And in my head, I was making ice cream.

253
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Why?

254
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I don't know why this is a child.

255
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It's not like there didn't have ice cream.

256
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I was making ice cream.

257
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Most kids would die for a bike, for a tricycle, like, give me a tricycle.

258
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You go, I need that tricycle because I want to make ice cream.

259
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Yeah.

260
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I wanted to make it.

261
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That's hilarious.

262
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That's what I did with my tricycle.

263
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Made me make an ice cream.

264
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Where you're like, did you have like anything other than like you're, you're running a business?

265
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I don't know.

266
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You were going to make ice cream for the fans.

267
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No.

268
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You're just happy enough just to make it.

269
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I don't know.

270
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Like part of me, part of me, as I think about this and I'm trying desperately to figure out why I would do that.

271
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Oh, that's so good.

272
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So our driveway was not, we didn't have a paved.

273
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Probably rocks.

274
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We had run across because my dad, the, my dad, as we have discussed was a distributor for stout door cookies.

275
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So we would have a tractor trailer show up and there was a warehouse.

276
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We had a, he had a, like a 1300 square foot warehouse with a full bay door in the backyard, which was strange because we lived in a neighborhood, but, but there it is.

277
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So that was it.

278
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So we would have a tractor trailer show up once a week with like commercial, commercial things going through this residential, our home was zoned commercial.

279
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She's a huge Harry Potter fan, but Harry Potter was a no, no.

280
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It was not allowed in the house.

281
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So they had a hidden set of Harry Potter books.

282
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Really?

283
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That's their version of being bad, which I think is amusing.

284
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That's their version of me hiding my Jewish priest and black Sabbath albums.

285
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I couldn't have her on the hospital.

286
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It looked evil.

287
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That's why I'm always amused.

288
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It's just like you had Harry Potter books and my mom found my lockpicks.

289
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I'm like, what's he doing with these?

290
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Why do you have these?

291
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I'm struggling with this because it's personal, but it's, it's, it's, it's, it has to be done.

292
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Okay.

293
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Our first child, we go to the, we go and to get things moving, they tell the wife, the mother to get into a bathtub and go on like fours.

294
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And for me to hose her down.

295
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Really?

296
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This has not been on the video so far.

297
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Because the relaxation of the water over the body does the same idea.

298
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Calm's the, the, the, the, but the whole time you're just were you laughing as you did it?

299
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Oh, no.

300
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Yes.

301
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Okay.

302
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Inside, inside, not laughing, not laughing.

303
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I was, what am I doing?

304
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Why?

305
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What am I doing?

306
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But I was a good husband.

307
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Cause I know at that point she also is going, what is he doing?

308
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Why am I here?

309
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Why am I in this situation?

310
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Now the closest thing she's going to kill me, but I think it's something that the doctors say you have to, cause the warm water and it was, it was, it did work.

311
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The best analogy I can give is the baby is like being handed an Oscar, right?

312
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So this is my acceptance speech, right?

313
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This is my acceptance because there are many people that I need to think, right?

314
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Because without them, this would not be possible, right?

315
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Our producer, our producer and my lovely wife, Kelly, I cannot, yeah, there's nothing, I will gladly spend the rest of my life repaying what she did, what she went through, how strong she was.

316
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I can't tell you how unbelievably proud I am of how she faced everything step by step, even when things went wrong for her, she was absolutely amazing.

317
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It was incredible.

318
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After the baby was born, there's a picture that I took of her, the way she never looked as she had never looked as beautiful holding our baby.

319
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It was a very, it was, I have tremendous respect for any woman who has gone through this, going through that experience and given of themselves in that way that they were able to create successfully created another human being.

320
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But my wife is, I've always thought she was brilliant and wonderful and I love but she completely blew me away with her, her strength and her courage and her willingness to just give everything she could.

321
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It was amazing.

322
00:21:16,590 --> 00:21:22,310
So I'm, I'm 56 years old and I just had my youngest at a graduation party.

323
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Do you allow yourself to even go down that route or are you, are you not like, cause obviously you're older and graduation's going to be 18 years down the line.

324
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Do you?

325
00:21:33,230 --> 00:21:34,390
Well, here's what I think about that.

326
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What do you do with that?

327
00:21:35,210 --> 00:21:37,970
What I think about that is, I think I'm 55.

328
00:21:38,350 --> 00:21:43,690
I think I'm, she's going to graduate high school when I'm about 67 cause she's going to be so brilliant.

329
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She'll graduate early.

330
00:21:45,590 --> 00:21:45,710
Yeah.

331
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She's going to be 11.

332
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So she's going to save me that I do.

333
00:21:49,970 --> 00:21:54,730
I'm no honest, to be honest, I've never done that math and thought, but it's easy to do.

334
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Right.

335
00:21:55,490 --> 00:21:55,890
1873.

336
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Right.

337
00:21:57,310 --> 00:21:58,970
That sounds pretty old.

338
00:21:58,970 --> 00:22:05,530
I think about like my brother right now is 75 and I've always used him because he's 19 years older.

339
00:22:05,670 --> 00:22:05,770
Sure.

340
00:22:05,890 --> 00:22:06,910
That's kind of a barometer.

341
00:22:07,050 --> 00:22:16,510
He has been more fit than me for a long time and he's very healthy and he's doing great at that age, but no, I don't really think about it.

342
00:22:16,630 --> 00:22:24,670
I could very easily think about that stuff and have it make me worry and think, am I going to miss out or is she going to miss out not having me as long?

343
00:22:25,270 --> 00:22:37,770
And all it does, whenever I even flirt with that kind of thought, it brings me back to, Nope, here she is right now, the president right now, this is what I have.

344
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And I'm not going to let any thoughts about that intrude on, not intrude on what I have right now.

345
00:22:45,270 --> 00:22:45,450
Yeah.

346
00:22:45,450 --> 00:22:46,010
That's it.

347
00:22:46,050 --> 00:22:53,530
I said to Kelly, like maybe a weekend, like the, the baby we came home with has already disappeared.

348
00:22:53,690 --> 00:22:54,370
Oh yeah.

349
00:22:54,670 --> 00:23:06,450
It is just, it is unbelievable how, because you're fascinated by this and you're looking at it all the time, but it, she just changes so quickly.

350
00:23:07,230 --> 00:23:09,610
That's my photos from night to morning.

351
00:23:09,690 --> 00:23:09,830
Yeah.

352
00:23:09,830 --> 00:23:12,310
When you start going back through photos, like what?

353
00:23:12,590 --> 00:23:13,530
Yeah, it is.

354
00:23:13,570 --> 00:23:18,230
It is amazing, especially because she was so small and so skinny.

355
00:23:18,370 --> 00:23:25,510
So now she's starting to plump up and she's got a little, you know, little cheeks and chubby cheeks and getting a little old.

356
00:23:25,510 --> 00:23:28,570
That is funny though, the thought of the disappearing baby.

357
00:23:28,670 --> 00:23:29,890
She's, yeah, whatever.

358
00:23:30,530 --> 00:23:33,390
She's, she's on like version 3.0 already.

359
00:23:33,570 --> 00:23:34,090
Right, right, right.

360
00:23:34,270 --> 00:23:35,630
It's just completely different.

361
00:23:35,650 --> 00:23:37,830
And you fall in love with each, each version.

362
00:23:38,010 --> 00:23:39,490
It's like, Oh yeah, okay.

363
00:23:39,670 --> 00:23:41,730
This is exactly what I thought you looked like.

364
00:23:41,850 --> 00:23:44,730
And then you look at the picture and go, Oh my God, that's nothing like we brought home.

365
00:23:45,270 --> 00:23:56,930
Honestly, honestly, you, what you just hit on is exactly, last, last time when I was talking about how I wanted to have this profound feeling to be able to explain what it meant.

366
00:23:57,490 --> 00:24:02,390
And I think what you just said is since then I've thought about it.

367
00:24:03,110 --> 00:24:18,810
It is, I think that's what it boils down to is if you have been lucky enough at any point in your life, hopefully everyone has to, to be in that madly in love with somebody that, Oh, this is, this is the person.

368
00:24:18,810 --> 00:24:21,050
This is the, this is the person for me.

369
00:24:21,170 --> 00:24:23,230
And that's a wonderful thing.

370
00:24:23,310 --> 00:24:29,670
And hopefully it lasts longer, but it is also the intensity of it is fleeting, I think.

371
00:24:30,610 --> 00:24:42,430
And it's there and hopefully it builds into something that lasts a long time when we're talking about a relationship, but that intense realization is fleeting.

372
00:24:42,550 --> 00:24:43,070
It goes away.

373
00:24:43,070 --> 00:24:51,410
This is a day after day of exactly, of just ramping up.

374
00:24:51,630 --> 00:24:56,430
Like it is just, you can't, you are, you can't pause.

375
00:24:56,570 --> 00:25:00,750
Like you just, you, you think you, I can't possibly love this little girl anymore.

376
00:25:00,990 --> 00:25:16,550
And then she just looks at you and it's more and more and more, you know, what the crazy thing is, I have a 24 year old and an 18 year old and I look at them and I have the same still falling in love with that wonderful feeling of these are my boys.

377
00:25:16,930 --> 00:25:18,070
Yeah, this is my baby.

378
00:25:18,250 --> 00:25:19,590
Yeah, this is my baby.

379
00:25:20,090 --> 00:25:26,250
Even though one baby comes with a face full of hair and, you know, and you know, we have a drink together.

380
00:25:26,410 --> 00:25:27,930
The other one, you need a ladder to get in the other one.

381
00:25:28,030 --> 00:25:29,490
I need a ladder to comb his hair.

382
00:25:30,250 --> 00:25:35,610
We've talked about the Aiko Puka cloud, the pink cloud that we put on the shopping cart.

383
00:25:35,730 --> 00:25:35,930
Yes.

384
00:25:35,990 --> 00:25:36,230
Yes.

385
00:25:36,490 --> 00:25:48,090
One of the things that I'm now entertained by is I think because it's so, you know, she's little and the shopping cart is wide and this thing covers the whole thing and now it's so soft and comfy.

386
00:25:48,230 --> 00:25:49,190
She just sleeps.

387
00:25:49,450 --> 00:25:52,130
Now, baby Josie does the North Side Lean.

388
00:25:53,250 --> 00:25:57,550
And I said that to Kelly.

389
00:25:57,650 --> 00:25:59,410
She's like, what's, what's the North Side Lean?

390
00:25:59,410 --> 00:25:59,890
Yeah.

391
00:26:00,170 --> 00:26:02,670
But I don't know if that's just a, is that a Syracuse thing?

392
00:26:02,690 --> 00:26:04,050
It must be a Syracuse thing.

393
00:26:04,170 --> 00:26:19,150
But so when we were growing up, when we were younger, we would call it the North Side Lean where everybody would be driving around left hand on the wheel, right hand, like right elbow on the center console, you could barely see over the dash.

394
00:26:19,870 --> 00:26:21,250
But so now she kind of does that.

395
00:26:21,390 --> 00:26:25,210
I want, I always, I don't straighten her up because it just looks so cute.

396
00:26:25,310 --> 00:26:26,730
She's kind of hanging out there looking.

397
00:26:27,050 --> 00:26:27,350
So funny.

398
00:26:27,590 --> 00:26:30,590
So she does the North Side Lean, which I think is really cute.

399
00:26:30,670 --> 00:26:31,090
North Side!

400
00:26:31,790 --> 00:26:34,690
So she has these latex bibs that have like a trough.

401
00:26:34,990 --> 00:26:37,190
So it catches the food if it slides down.

402
00:26:37,190 --> 00:26:39,350
But she uses it like a little holding thing.

403
00:26:39,370 --> 00:26:44,310
She'll be like, puts it back, gets something else, and she reaches around, you'll see her.

404
00:26:44,350 --> 00:26:46,110
She'll be reaching, rooting around in her little...

405
00:26:46,110 --> 00:26:46,710
They're so funny.

406
00:26:46,870 --> 00:26:48,090
It's like it's a little purse.

407
00:26:48,210 --> 00:26:49,170
What do I have in here?

408
00:26:49,370 --> 00:26:49,970
What do I got in here?

409
00:26:50,230 --> 00:26:50,950
Is that a gum?

410
00:26:51,050 --> 00:26:52,490
A Werther's Original, hold on.

411
00:26:54,070 --> 00:26:56,050
And here we are back with that.

412
00:26:56,270 --> 00:27:06,210
So it was something to go through when, as I was doing this and trying to pick out different clips, different clips and stuff and seeing how you've changed.

413
00:27:06,750 --> 00:27:13,190
I've changed a little bit, not as much, and just how our, like, kind of the look of everything.

414
00:27:14,610 --> 00:27:16,390
Some of it, sadly, there were a couple episodes.

415
00:27:16,450 --> 00:27:27,430
There was one episode in particular in the very beginning where I talked about some very touching things, but the audio quality was so bad, I was like, hmm, we're not going to even, we're going to talk, we're not going to talk.

416
00:27:27,570 --> 00:27:34,490
Yeah, it's funny how I forgot the audio portion of our four weeks.

417
00:27:34,490 --> 00:27:42,230
I guess we had four episodes, four or five episodes, because we were trying, but we never would end up with enough video to do anything with it.

418
00:27:42,230 --> 00:27:44,670
Oh, because we would go back to the video and something would happen.

419
00:27:44,710 --> 00:27:48,170
When we started, this was not, you know, we weren't super well funded.

420
00:27:48,410 --> 00:27:56,930
This is a pet project and we basically were doing three old phones, three old phones.

421
00:27:57,150 --> 00:27:58,310
So that was it.

422
00:27:58,410 --> 00:28:03,730
So it wasn't working real well, but we learned a lot and we kept plugging away.

423
00:28:03,730 --> 00:28:07,330
And now, and after then spending hundreds of dollars on better equipment.

424
00:28:08,110 --> 00:28:14,530
But also, and you'll see this further into the clip show, how much more comfortable I think we got.

425
00:28:14,850 --> 00:28:15,470
I think we did.

426
00:28:15,770 --> 00:28:19,290
And the quality, you'll see it's going to get that much better.

427
00:28:19,410 --> 00:28:23,010
And we got into a different part of the studio, as you'll see.

428
00:28:23,150 --> 00:28:29,590
So it's kind of cool to go back on this, because I honestly forgot that we were audio only for the first four or five shows.

429
00:28:29,670 --> 00:28:31,090
Yeah, first few we were.

430
00:28:31,310 --> 00:28:31,690
Yeah, yeah.

431
00:28:31,690 --> 00:28:41,190
So the first thing of our, of our segments that we're going to go to, we're going to now move into the, our best of the book report.

432
00:28:46,550 --> 00:28:52,610
So we're doing two at a time because I'm sick of doing the, I'm just sick of doing the dog ones.

433
00:28:53,050 --> 00:28:55,770
So this is not, if they're bad, you're going to tell us, right?

434
00:28:55,830 --> 00:28:57,170
I mean, you're going to say, don't read this.

435
00:28:58,090 --> 00:29:00,250
One of these, I'm going to say exactly.

436
00:29:00,350 --> 00:29:00,730
Oh, really?

437
00:29:00,810 --> 00:29:01,030
Okay.

438
00:29:01,030 --> 00:29:08,650
The other I'm going to say, I didn't even read it because I already read three, but I'll say the name because we spent 12 bucks on the thing, I guess.

439
00:29:09,110 --> 00:29:17,210
So first one is dogs, bumps, and babies by Aileen Stevenson.

440
00:29:17,470 --> 00:29:17,790
Love her.

441
00:29:18,090 --> 00:29:20,450
First of all, phoning it in with the cover.

442
00:29:20,570 --> 00:29:24,710
Everybody else has got dogs, babies, cute pictures, Aileen.

443
00:29:25,350 --> 00:29:25,850
Okay.

444
00:29:26,490 --> 00:29:27,410
No, it's not going well.

445
00:29:27,990 --> 00:29:31,190
So a guide to preparing your dog for life with your baby.

446
00:29:31,410 --> 00:29:31,910
Okay.

447
00:29:32,230 --> 00:29:33,330
This woman's an idiot.

448
00:29:33,810 --> 00:29:36,330
No, no, it's, it's no good.

449
00:29:36,390 --> 00:29:37,430
So it equals the cover.

450
00:29:37,610 --> 00:29:38,430
It's bad.

451
00:29:38,610 --> 00:29:39,910
No, I don't like it.

452
00:29:40,170 --> 00:29:40,690
Disappointed.

453
00:29:41,010 --> 00:29:41,890
Do not read.

454
00:29:42,310 --> 00:29:42,850
I wouldn't.

455
00:29:42,950 --> 00:29:44,950
Is there a reason why, what is she saying?

456
00:29:44,990 --> 00:29:52,410
So all the other books kind of approached it from the standpoint of the way you train a dog, fundamental to that.

457
00:29:52,510 --> 00:29:57,070
None of, basically didn't come at it from that direction at all.

458
00:29:57,070 --> 00:29:58,370
Very unconventional.

459
00:29:58,990 --> 00:30:04,490
I don't, I just didn't, as I read it, if you're reading something like this and you're like, no, that's bullshit.

460
00:30:04,490 --> 00:30:06,710
Like, you know, it's, it's not worth it.

461
00:30:07,030 --> 00:30:14,210
So yeah, this one, you know, we had one, four stars got three, three, four rattles.

462
00:30:14,270 --> 00:30:14,610
That's right.

463
00:30:14,870 --> 00:30:17,310
Four rattles for the first one that we did.

464
00:30:17,430 --> 00:30:22,550
And then the second one I like because of the audio link, the link for the downloadable baby sounds.

465
00:30:22,570 --> 00:30:23,390
It's a good idea.

466
00:30:23,910 --> 00:30:33,290
This one, nah, I wouldn't want one, one rattle, one rattle only because I don't know why they took the time to print it.

467
00:30:33,610 --> 00:30:34,890
So, so that's it.

468
00:30:34,950 --> 00:30:38,350
So dogs and bumps and baby, I wouldn't bother with that.

469
00:30:38,630 --> 00:30:39,010
Sorry, Aileen.

470
00:30:39,970 --> 00:30:45,390
And then the last one, because I read all the others, I didn't read this and neither did Kelly.

471
00:30:45,530 --> 00:30:47,890
She's like, I'm like, did, what are you, can tell me what to say about this?

472
00:30:47,910 --> 00:30:48,670
She's like, I didn't read it.

473
00:30:49,250 --> 00:30:49,630
Okay.

474
00:30:50,670 --> 00:30:51,470
I saw the movie.

475
00:30:51,470 --> 00:30:57,810
But, but I did see the movie, but I like this one because at least the name is good and cute picture on the cover.

476
00:30:58,130 --> 00:31:00,430
Please, please don't bite the baby.

477
00:31:01,130 --> 00:31:02,310
Please don't bite the baby.

478
00:31:02,310 --> 00:31:04,470
And please don't chase the dogs.

479
00:31:04,890 --> 00:31:07,730
Would you now, why did you read that first?

480
00:31:08,790 --> 00:31:13,730
I, I, cause I, I listened to my wife and she handed me the, I just finished that.

481
00:31:13,750 --> 00:31:14,790
She, she'd read it.

482
00:31:15,190 --> 00:31:17,830
She's, she's way ahead of me in the reading list.

483
00:31:18,350 --> 00:31:19,270
I was, yeah.

484
00:31:19,270 --> 00:31:29,510
So this one is by Lisa J Edwards, bestselling author of a dog named boo, not a, not familiar with the work, but there's this one.

485
00:31:29,570 --> 00:31:31,610
Can't tell you if you want to try it out or not.

486
00:31:31,770 --> 00:31:35,950
And post a, and a cute, really cute, really cute kid.

487
00:31:36,230 --> 00:31:36,910
Look at that hair.

488
00:31:37,010 --> 00:31:37,590
Very cute.

489
00:31:38,770 --> 00:31:40,210
And then there's the dog.

490
00:31:41,030 --> 00:31:48,610
So that is, so that's going to be it for, for book report instances about dog books.

491
00:31:48,610 --> 00:31:49,990
We're done with the dog books.

492
00:31:50,690 --> 00:32:02,930
So the guardian online, there was this article and it's one that Kelly found and had mentioned, and then I accidentally found this too, and I was reading about it and I didn't really give it as much credence as she did.

493
00:32:03,030 --> 00:32:07,930
It was written by one of their contributors, Rhiannon Lucy Coslet.

494
00:32:08,170 --> 00:32:08,790
Love her stuff.

495
00:32:09,290 --> 00:32:16,350
And the title of the article was parents who film their children crying for clicks should have a good look at themselves.

496
00:32:16,410 --> 00:32:16,650
Oh my God.

497
00:32:16,650 --> 00:32:20,970
We would have had a million clicks on that cry that we just had now.

498
00:32:21,110 --> 00:32:27,890
And I get like, so we're obviously Kelly and I are very protective of like photos, pictures.

499
00:32:28,010 --> 00:32:35,510
We don't, we don't put a lot of her and, and trust me being motivated to have us be a successful podcast.

500
00:32:35,730 --> 00:32:46,750
It would be great if we could, adorable couple videos of my kid and I would have millions of views and hundreds of subscribers, but no, I don't want to do that.

501
00:32:46,910 --> 00:33:04,170
Um, and, and, uh, this woman is talking about, and I don't know if you've seen these, but I have seen these videos and I just laugh at them because I don't think, I don't read into things as deeply sometimes as I think some other more thoughtful people like my wife.

502
00:33:05,530 --> 00:33:09,110
So there's these videos of, and you may have seen some of them.

503
00:33:09,470 --> 00:33:12,830
There'll be this cute kid and he'll be in a high chair and just crying.

504
00:33:12,950 --> 00:33:13,430
Okay.

505
00:33:13,430 --> 00:33:24,150
And then all of a sudden you'll see out of, out of frame, we'll fly in a piece of American cheese that will just hit their head and they just stop.

506
00:33:24,750 --> 00:33:30,370
They, it just shocks them and they stop crying and, and you know, and the parents laugh.

507
00:33:31,010 --> 00:33:32,230
And I like that.

508
00:33:32,970 --> 00:33:33,770
I see.

509
00:33:33,870 --> 00:33:34,890
I know exactly what you're talking about.

510
00:33:34,910 --> 00:33:45,930
Now, of course, this is a very thoughtful columnist and expressing to her, her disdain for these people and how they're using their children without their consent.

511
00:33:46,630 --> 00:33:50,130
And this, that, okay, yes, yes they are.

512
00:33:50,210 --> 00:33:52,430
And I get it, but it's a video.

513
00:33:52,570 --> 00:33:56,270
Every video we take from a, a birthday party is without their consent.

514
00:33:56,530 --> 00:33:56,930
Yes.

515
00:33:56,970 --> 00:34:00,910
Every video we've been taking to our kids until they can go, stop filming me.

516
00:34:01,090 --> 00:34:01,490
Right.

517
00:34:01,590 --> 00:34:10,330
I know it's one of those things that I feel like someday, and this is one of the points that the writer makes is someday that kid's going to see that video and how are they going to feel?

518
00:34:10,330 --> 00:34:15,409
And I think if you've parented them the right way, they're going to laugh because it's funny.

519
00:34:16,469 --> 00:34:25,090
But if you convince them that they should be offended by anything and everything that people do to them, then they're going to want to take you to court and sue for emancipation at 12 years old.

520
00:34:25,670 --> 00:34:29,790
Number two, your words are more powerful than you realize.

521
00:34:30,210 --> 00:34:30,330
Yeah.

522
00:34:30,489 --> 00:34:32,949
I mean, you got to watch out what you're saying.

523
00:34:33,350 --> 00:34:33,630
Yeah.

524
00:34:33,730 --> 00:34:34,989
Not just the swear words.

525
00:34:35,150 --> 00:34:35,949
Not the swear words.

526
00:34:36,030 --> 00:34:41,570
Just, just little things like, I mean, I hate saying the word you don't want to use Oh my God, don't be so stupid.

527
00:34:41,909 --> 00:34:43,389
Why do you always do that?

528
00:34:43,510 --> 00:34:46,610
Why do you always, you know, why can't you be like this person?

529
00:34:46,710 --> 00:34:50,409
Why can't, everything we say is powerful.

530
00:34:50,409 --> 00:34:53,610
We are the, the most important people.

531
00:34:53,850 --> 00:34:55,190
I mean, there's a stretch of time.

532
00:34:55,290 --> 00:35:09,470
All they're, all they know is their daddy and their mommy and that there's no one more powerful and smart and experienced than them, you know, the mom and dad and everything, every word we say holds so much weight.

533
00:35:10,110 --> 00:35:15,210
That's why in, in, in good ways either, uh, you know, you can be like, Oh my God, you're the best person ever.

534
00:35:15,290 --> 00:35:16,790
You're never, that's not good either.

535
00:35:17,110 --> 00:35:17,370
Yeah.

536
00:35:17,510 --> 00:35:20,910
Because you have to, you know, you can create a, you can create a monster adult.

537
00:35:21,230 --> 00:35:21,590
Yeah.

538
00:35:21,890 --> 00:35:24,950
So words are very heavy when you throw them out there.

539
00:35:24,970 --> 00:35:26,430
I think that's, that's the thing, right?

540
00:35:26,450 --> 00:35:34,190
Like, I know it is that for me, when I think about your, our voice becomes the voice in their head, right?

541
00:35:34,350 --> 00:35:34,890
Yeah, absolutely.

542
00:35:35,130 --> 00:35:35,250
Right.

543
00:35:35,910 --> 00:35:46,010
Like I, I talk about this stuff with Kelly all the time, Kelly and, and how her, her mom and, and she interact, that's there, right?

544
00:35:46,050 --> 00:35:46,390
It's there.

545
00:35:46,490 --> 00:35:49,030
I know that's, that's the way it is with, with my, with my dad.

546
00:35:49,230 --> 00:35:51,890
I hear his voice in my head.

547
00:35:52,590 --> 00:35:53,030
Absolutely.

548
00:35:53,430 --> 00:35:56,490
And it's gotten us out of a lot of trouble because it's good and bad.

549
00:35:56,570 --> 00:35:56,710
Yeah.

550
00:35:56,850 --> 00:36:05,730
And then it's also created some problems because we didn't hear those or didn't want to, we heard stuff we shouldn't have and we didn't hear the stuff we should have.

551
00:36:06,090 --> 00:36:08,450
So, but I like that your words are more powerful.

552
00:36:08,690 --> 00:36:11,230
How you speak to them is how they will talk to themselves.

553
00:36:13,170 --> 00:36:14,530
From newsweek.com.

554
00:36:14,650 --> 00:36:14,930
Okay.

555
00:36:15,030 --> 00:36:16,090
So I get these newsletters.

556
00:36:16,150 --> 00:36:24,690
I would never think to look for kids stuff on, on Newsweek, but this was, I think a really good article and it brought up a lot of my own childhood trauma that we can talk about.

557
00:36:24,770 --> 00:36:25,010
Okay.

558
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:33,070
So it is a child psychologist reveals parenting habits that create struggling adults.

559
00:36:34,250 --> 00:36:34,350
Okay.

560
00:36:34,570 --> 00:36:38,950
And basically it was a, a psychology professor named Daniel J.

561
00:36:39,070 --> 00:36:55,190
Morin and he had a, there were a bunch of blurbs and basically what it was talking about overall throughout the article is parents that generally may have not had the best childhood that then decide they want to make their child's childhood perfect.

562
00:36:55,310 --> 00:36:55,870
Okay.

563
00:36:56,030 --> 00:37:06,690
So they remove all obstacles and they're constantly, they're constantly trying to make things perfect for the kid, which has its own set of problems.

564
00:37:06,690 --> 00:37:07,050
Right?

565
00:37:07,290 --> 00:37:12,450
So, you know, he's taught basically the Daniel Morin, I think he made a few points that I thought were really good.

566
00:37:12,690 --> 00:37:18,870
Learning to stay present, feel the hard stuff and keep moving forward.

567
00:37:18,990 --> 00:37:20,110
That's what matters.

568
00:37:20,110 --> 00:37:42,170
Talking about getting the kid, letting the kid struggle a little bit safely, but not just removing, not making them dependent on you by doing everything for them when there are things that they can do, that you're kind of robbing them of any sense of agency or accomplishment or things like that.

569
00:37:42,530 --> 00:37:48,230
He also made a point, which I thought was really good about overscheduling versus boredom.

570
00:37:48,670 --> 00:37:52,750
Now I know my childhood, my childhood, there was a lot of boredom.

571
00:37:52,890 --> 00:37:52,990
Yeah.

572
00:37:53,150 --> 00:37:54,730
Imagination goes crazy.

573
00:37:55,090 --> 00:37:56,210
And that was exactly his point.

574
00:37:56,950 --> 00:38:00,850
Boredom is where creativity and self-direction grow.

575
00:38:01,310 --> 00:38:01,410
Yeah.

576
00:38:01,590 --> 00:38:06,410
Like, I mean, I remember a lot of times just, but that's what you do.

577
00:38:06,490 --> 00:38:10,170
You turn to your own imagination and creativity.

578
00:38:10,710 --> 00:38:17,110
That's where people pick up drawing or building something or playing an instrument or even reading.

579
00:38:17,110 --> 00:38:17,630
I'm bored.

580
00:38:17,730 --> 00:38:23,910
I mean, I guess this book everybody talks about, let me see what's, then all of a sudden you become a great reader and love books.

581
00:38:24,110 --> 00:38:25,550
So yeah, you need to be bored.

582
00:38:26,230 --> 00:38:27,930
And we are back from the book report.

583
00:38:28,090 --> 00:38:30,750
I had forgotten how many dog books there were in the beginning.

584
00:38:31,630 --> 00:38:35,630
I think I got so tired of the dog books that that's why now it's almost always articles.

585
00:38:35,870 --> 00:38:38,390
It's never dog books anymore, or books in general.

586
00:38:38,690 --> 00:38:40,810
And again, and I love doing this clip show.

587
00:38:40,930 --> 00:38:43,070
I forgot about all the dog books.

588
00:38:43,230 --> 00:38:45,350
It was such a long time ago because that was what we were doing.

589
00:38:45,350 --> 00:38:48,710
We got into the first four books I read were all about.

590
00:38:48,970 --> 00:38:50,990
And it's funny because that all got thrown out the window.

591
00:38:51,230 --> 00:38:59,730
I did get to use a couple of the techniques and I, and luckily when we brought baby Josie home, the, the reception from the dogs was good.

592
00:39:00,150 --> 00:39:01,170
Um, and they're great.

593
00:39:01,370 --> 00:39:05,170
They're great with her now, but yeah, that was a lot of the reading.

594
00:39:05,350 --> 00:39:08,870
I was just like, I just want to be done with it, uh, with the dog books.

595
00:39:08,910 --> 00:39:11,870
But yeah, so that was, uh, that was our, our book report.

596
00:39:12,030 --> 00:39:13,710
And then you graduated to no books.

597
00:39:13,710 --> 00:39:14,150
Yes.

598
00:39:14,270 --> 00:39:16,590
And now it's just like articles, which are cool.

599
00:39:16,990 --> 00:39:18,570
The, I mean, I do, I like that.

600
00:39:18,690 --> 00:39:21,130
There's a, I have a continual flow of all these articles.

601
00:39:21,210 --> 00:39:22,990
Thanks to Google alerts.

602
00:39:23,390 --> 00:39:23,770
Yeah.

603
00:39:23,830 --> 00:39:29,970
That, I think we found some, some great articles that we've covered that had some valuable content.

604
00:39:30,050 --> 00:39:42,010
Well, that's why I really enjoyed this podcast because outside of the silliness, we do have a lot of times things you learn about things that you don't know anything about until you hear it or read it or whatever.

605
00:39:42,010 --> 00:39:43,990
So I like that about our podcast.

606
00:39:44,110 --> 00:39:44,210
Yeah.

607
00:39:44,210 --> 00:39:51,650
We do silly stuff and stuff like that, but the roots of it is, yeah, you might have not, maybe, you know, the dog books.

608
00:39:51,810 --> 00:39:55,690
So you're, you threw them out the window, as you say, but someone that was listening might've went, Oh, you know what?

609
00:39:55,730 --> 00:39:56,510
Let me pick that up.

610
00:39:56,590 --> 00:39:57,750
Or that really helped me.

611
00:39:58,050 --> 00:39:58,710
A couple of them were really good.

612
00:39:58,850 --> 00:39:58,950
Yeah.

613
00:39:59,190 --> 00:40:00,390
So absolutely.

614
00:40:00,590 --> 00:40:05,650
And we'll, we'll probably return to other books cause I'm going to need to, at some point, need to learn about toddler stuff.

615
00:40:06,410 --> 00:40:08,450
So, so we'll see how that goes.

616
00:40:08,770 --> 00:40:08,990
Nice.

617
00:40:09,110 --> 00:40:10,030
That's a nice segment.

618
00:40:10,130 --> 00:40:10,890
We like that segment.

619
00:40:10,970 --> 00:40:11,850
Yeah, absolutely.

620
00:40:12,010 --> 00:40:14,310
So that's, that was our book report.

621
00:40:14,490 --> 00:40:18,990
And now we're going to move into our best of check, please.

622
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:23,740
So check, please.

623
00:40:23,820 --> 00:40:29,420
The whole idea is I'm going to keep a running total of what we spend on my daughter.

624
00:40:29,700 --> 00:40:34,600
And then when she graduates high school, I'm going to give her the bill itemized.

625
00:40:34,740 --> 00:40:38,060
So I'm, do you think it ends as high school?

626
00:40:38,380 --> 00:40:41,740
No, I just figured I'm going to try to draw a line in the sand.

627
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,840
Hey, we're into you for 22 million.

628
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,060
And really this is what it is so far.

629
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,040
I'm trying to organize it and keep track.

630
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,000
So I broke it up into a few categories.

631
00:40:52,180 --> 00:40:54,820
So far, the categories are total spending.

632
00:40:54,820 --> 00:40:55,400
So far.

633
00:40:55,460 --> 00:40:59,220
Do you want to guess from zero to now?

634
00:40:59,300 --> 00:40:59,500
Right.

635
00:40:59,620 --> 00:40:59,940
Yup.

636
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:07,620
Just up until now, I'm going to say a couple hundred dollars, the grand total so far, $370 and eight cents.

637
00:41:07,720 --> 00:41:10,960
You're a little bit over a little bit over budget.

638
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:12,440
And I broke it down.

639
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:20,660
So we have categories, our books, doggy books, a lot of dog books, pharmacological stuff, vitamins and things.

640
00:41:20,740 --> 00:41:20,940
Yeah.

641
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:25,020
Home goods, hardware, sure.

642
00:41:25,260 --> 00:41:28,240
And equipment is general equipment, podcast equipment.

643
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:33,000
We would be way over $300 for that.

644
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:37,700
So books is the number one category, $147.

645
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:44,000
I've got some readers in there, but I'm so excited because I finally finished the last dog book you were talking about.

646
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:47,760
And I am now in the book that everyone is supposed to read.

647
00:41:47,860 --> 00:41:49,560
What to expect when you're expecting.

648
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:50,620
Oh yes.

649
00:41:50,700 --> 00:42:02,100
So I'm going through and I'm going, I obviously, I started the beginning and it starts at the beginning and I'm going through, I'm like, I wish I had known all of this when we had all those scares, I'd have been like, shut up, make me a sandwich.

650
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:13,160
We were at $1,401.95. So 1,400, 1,400, 1,400, four weeks ago.

651
00:42:14,660 --> 00:42:19,080
And if you want to ask for clues, I love, I love the guess.

652
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:21,520
So where do you think we are?

653
00:42:21,700 --> 00:42:32,680
So a month ago, 1,400 month ago, any purchases on furniture yet for the baby or that's what you always go there first because that's expensive.

654
00:42:33,180 --> 00:42:33,440
Yes.

655
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:37,380
Any paints of the room bought?

656
00:42:37,780 --> 00:42:42,400
No, no paint because paint could be expensive clothing for the baby.

657
00:42:42,860 --> 00:42:47,300
Oh, we've been accumulating a lot of that through shower and gifts.

658
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:57,060
So gifts, nothing on the, I'm going to give you, I'm going to give you a freebie and say it is only furniture.

659
00:42:57,300 --> 00:43:00,320
That was going to be my next question.

660
00:43:00,580 --> 00:43:01,200
Is it only furniture?

661
00:43:01,780 --> 00:43:01,980
Okay.

662
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:07,840
I'm going to say the new total because I always under, I'm very underwhelming.

663
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,900
You have missed a couple of times and you're usually under very under.

664
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,480
So I'm going to go over, I'm going to say right now, I'm just going to say it.

665
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,060
I'm going a thousand dollars more.

666
00:43:16,180 --> 00:43:18,120
I'm going to go 2,400, 2,400.

667
00:43:18,700 --> 00:43:23,960
So if we were playing prices, right rules, you would not, you would not be over.

668
00:43:24,500 --> 00:43:29,080
Uh, but you are under 3,077 17.

669
00:43:29,780 --> 00:43:31,240
So let me explain.

670
00:43:33,100 --> 00:43:36,320
Well, 3,000, no, not another 3,000 total.

671
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:40,720
So we went up, we went up about 1,660 bucks.

672
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,180
So, so here's, here's where we are.

673
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:44,980
Explain yourself.

674
00:43:44,980 --> 00:43:50,480
The thing you were talking about was not a stroller, but I've been talking about a bassinet bassinet.

675
00:43:50,700 --> 00:43:52,820
That's what it was called the SNU.

676
00:43:53,260 --> 00:43:54,120
That's what it was.

677
00:43:54,240 --> 00:43:55,180
I, okay.

678
00:43:55,340 --> 00:43:55,820
Apparently.

679
00:43:56,180 --> 00:44:00,880
So the SNU very fancy bassinet, the very fancy bassinet had some.

680
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:02,480
Availability issues.

681
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:03,820
Of course it did.

682
00:44:03,980 --> 00:44:08,940
So of course there is a, even more expensive thing called a cradle wise.

683
00:44:09,140 --> 00:44:12,200
So the cradle wise, it does a step higher than the snow.

684
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:12,960
Yes.

685
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:17,100
Now some, there are some things that made me feel a little better.

686
00:44:17,340 --> 00:44:25,300
So the, the SNU is a bassinet and is supposedly only viable for six months.

687
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:25,760
Okay.

688
00:44:25,900 --> 00:44:26,280
Okay.

689
00:44:26,540 --> 00:44:32,300
The cradle wise is a bassinet that transforms into a cradle.

690
00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:35,020
Basically you can use it for up to two years.

691
00:44:35,460 --> 00:44:36,040
Oh, okay.

692
00:44:36,220 --> 00:44:36,620
Okay.

693
00:44:36,700 --> 00:44:42,100
So you get two years use out of it, but it's another $400 on top of it.

694
00:44:42,100 --> 00:44:46,300
But the cradle wise is a modern wonder of technology.

695
00:44:46,460 --> 00:44:47,680
This thing is amazing.

696
00:44:47,860 --> 00:44:48,540
What does it do?

697
00:44:48,700 --> 00:44:50,080
So it does all kinds of fun things.

698
00:44:50,500 --> 00:44:52,540
Last time we did this was May 13th.

699
00:44:52,720 --> 00:44:52,940
Ooh.

700
00:44:53,420 --> 00:44:56,400
So it's been almost a full, almost a full month.

701
00:44:56,640 --> 00:45:05,300
Last time we did it, we were at 49, 25, 53, but we talked about a lot.

702
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:06,880
We've done some work in the nursery.

703
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:10,120
I bought some materials, things like that.

704
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:15,960
I was surprised at the diapers and desiccant is very expensive.

705
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:16,580
Yes.

706
00:45:17,420 --> 00:45:19,060
Diapers, desiccant and wipes.

707
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:21,360
That's there's a continual flow of that.

708
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:25,540
And you were telling us, she'll just make a joke and go, I'm going to do this three times in a minute.

709
00:45:25,720 --> 00:45:27,220
That she's gotten way back, right?

710
00:45:27,380 --> 00:45:27,480
Yeah.

711
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:31,420
For the first time and Kelly called me out on it.

712
00:45:31,500 --> 00:45:38,480
It was so bad at one point it would, I would never, I wouldn't even open the, the diaper that was on her without another one under it.

713
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:44,240
And the, I did it without like, and she's like, you didn't put a diaper on him.

714
00:45:44,380 --> 00:45:45,440
I'm like, no, I didn't.

715
00:45:45,500 --> 00:45:46,140
And it was okay.

716
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:46,700
Yeah.

717
00:45:46,740 --> 00:45:47,680
So there's a lot of diapers.

718
00:45:48,020 --> 00:45:49,200
You're doing fanny roulette.

719
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:51,000
Not roulette.

720
00:45:51,500 --> 00:45:52,940
What's that game?

721
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:56,040
Uh, they did that Russian roulette, right?

722
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:56,260
Yeah.

723
00:45:56,460 --> 00:45:57,340
Fanny roulette.

724
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:06,000
So on October 15th, our total had risen to $8,263.

725
00:46:06,700 --> 00:46:08,020
Still under 10 grand.

726
00:46:08,060 --> 00:46:08,320
Okay.

727
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:18,300
But now in fairness, so it's been a couple of months, a few months, but I just want to remind you, we do not include gifts.

728
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:22,380
So Christmas, like that, that's not in here.

729
00:46:22,620 --> 00:46:28,200
This is more things, you know, like necessities, you know, things like that.

730
00:46:28,460 --> 00:46:36,080
So that's November, December, January, February, March, almost five, four and a half months, four and a half months.

731
00:46:36,220 --> 00:46:38,100
Where do you think, where do you think we're at?

732
00:46:38,100 --> 00:46:39,480
That was seven months in.

733
00:46:39,940 --> 00:46:41,940
I'm going to just shits and giggles.

734
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:43,780
I'm going to make this easy on all of us.

735
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,840
I'm going to just say, let's, let's add another 300 to that.

736
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:48,600
So it's a thousand dollar difference.

737
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:49,000
Okay.

738
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:50,580
So 82, you said?

739
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:51,880
82, 63.

740
00:46:51,980 --> 00:46:55,100
I'm going to say, let's just add a thousand, 92.

741
00:46:55,540 --> 00:46:56,020
92.

742
00:46:57,540 --> 00:46:58,620
You're pretty close.

743
00:46:58,760 --> 00:46:58,900
Really?

744
00:46:59,140 --> 00:47:01,320
This number was less than I expected.

745
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:05,760
Oh, I'm not sure if Kelly is being completely transparent.

746
00:47:06,260 --> 00:47:11,040
By the, by the way, I walked through that door with all the Amazon stuff, lying.

747
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:12,740
Every day, four packages.

748
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:13,960
It's crazy out there.

749
00:47:14,460 --> 00:47:15,120
It is.

750
00:47:15,220 --> 00:47:18,200
It's like, it's like my porch is like an obstacle course.

751
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:19,760
The dogs are so confused.

752
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:21,120
They don't know what's happening.

753
00:47:21,260 --> 00:47:22,460
They're like constantly going crazy.

754
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,220
They want to go play with the Amazon guy.

755
00:47:25,140 --> 00:47:26,640
Things just add up, Frank.

756
00:47:26,720 --> 00:47:27,800
It does keep adding up.

757
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:30,000
It does keep, it does keep adding up.

758
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,440
And we've had some, we've had some big purchases.

759
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:34,280
We have not done an update in a while.

760
00:47:34,940 --> 00:47:38,300
But we will, we will very soon season two.

761
00:47:38,460 --> 00:47:39,300
We will have some updates.

762
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:40,420
Yes, absolutely.

763
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:44,980
And where we're at, all these will, we'll, we'll carry, uh, carry forward.

764
00:47:45,140 --> 00:47:55,300
You know, the cool thing I like though, is we're doing things that people do not want to even touch adding up how much money they spent on their children.

765
00:47:55,460 --> 00:47:57,720
This is, you know, we're, we're breaking ground here.

766
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:01,100
I think it's people just hush hush on this because they don't want to remind themselves.

767
00:48:01,220 --> 00:48:03,920
It's a, it's a public, it's a public service, public service.

768
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:05,680
We're doing, we're doing good work.

769
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:10,640
So, so that, that was our, our check please.

770
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:19,880
And now we're going to go into where you, where you as the viewers and listeners make the difference, the silver Fox mailbox.

771
00:48:24,620 --> 00:48:32,460
So Christine said sleep when the baby sleeps, except help when it's offered because there's nothing wrong with getting help.

772
00:48:33,540 --> 00:48:35,480
Ordered takeout watch.

773
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:41,980
I Christine is like one of my favorite people already order, take out, watch a movie, clean the house later.

774
00:48:42,500 --> 00:48:44,820
Tell your wife every day she's beautiful.

775
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:49,420
Enjoy every all caps minute because your kids grow up too fast.

776
00:48:49,820 --> 00:48:55,820
And I think that's, she is so 100% on the money, especially the takeout.

777
00:48:56,040 --> 00:49:00,340
But no, I think that's, that's also great advice.

778
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:01,600
And it's funny.

779
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:08,460
I have found myself, I never understood people would say, Oh, women, they're so beautiful when they're pregnant.

780
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,280
I was that always, I never got it.

781
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,420
And now I'm like, look how cute you are.

782
00:49:14,620 --> 00:49:15,820
She's just adorable.

783
00:49:16,140 --> 00:49:17,300
Yeah, she is.

784
00:49:17,340 --> 00:49:17,960
She's adorable.

785
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:27,280
We discussed at length a couple episodes now, your original statement, and then some reaction from Trina about the hose.

786
00:49:27,380 --> 00:49:29,620
My wife, are we still talking about this?

787
00:49:30,290 --> 00:49:44,320
The only reason we are is I will say that this is my single favorite comment from anyone on anything that we have done is that we did a little short, it was on tick tock, right?

788
00:49:44,780 --> 00:49:50,280
And of course, tick tock is bigger with the younger folks, some of whom are your sons.

789
00:49:50,720 --> 00:49:50,960
Yes.

790
00:49:51,340 --> 00:49:54,040
And the comment was very succinct.

791
00:49:54,100 --> 00:49:58,860
It was brief, but it was on the one where we discuss hosing, hosing.

792
00:49:58,860 --> 00:50:11,080
That was in Trina and it was just Nikki and his comment was, what just the, just the word I almost died.

793
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:15,220
I loved the comment immediately that made me laugh.

794
00:50:15,380 --> 00:50:17,780
So I, we're literally, I'm looking at my phone and laying in bed.

795
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:19,520
Kelly's I was, she's like, what are you laughing at?

796
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,660
I'm like, Oh God.

797
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:22,080
Yeah.

798
00:50:22,300 --> 00:50:28,160
So I thought just what my sisters, not sure about my brother, but my sisters listen every week.

799
00:50:28,300 --> 00:50:31,560
And I got a call from my sister Lucille in Texas.

800
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,780
And she said, I can solve the mystery of where that came from.

801
00:50:35,060 --> 00:50:35,160
Really?

802
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:36,060
Yeah.

803
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:38,140
And I thought, okay.

804
00:50:38,260 --> 00:50:42,040
And I'm like, uh, like I don't have any association of this with my siblings.

805
00:50:42,140 --> 00:50:44,180
I just moved in driveway, tricycle.

806
00:50:44,420 --> 00:50:45,400
Can't wait to hear this.

807
00:50:45,500 --> 00:50:47,440
She said, I taught you that.

808
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:54,460
So apparently, apparently my sister Lucille.

809
00:50:55,140 --> 00:50:57,840
Taught me how to play the, you're making ice cream game.

810
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,340
And I'm like, and I'm like, okay.

811
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:10,700
And then as she said it, I'm like vague, distant memories in my, that maybe she, she, she must've taught me that that's something to do with the tricycle.

812
00:51:11,340 --> 00:51:13,320
And, and that's where I got it from.

813
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:18,040
And so I thought, okay, she's like, well, where did that come from?

814
00:51:18,040 --> 00:51:20,140
Like, who taught you to do it?

815
00:51:20,140 --> 00:51:21,440
She's like, I don't know.

816
00:51:21,660 --> 00:51:23,400
She's like, she just came up with it.

817
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:28,140
So I don't, I'm not sure the inventor of the mystery really isn't solved.

818
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:31,120
We just know that whatever it was, it wasn't me.

819
00:51:31,420 --> 00:51:34,240
I was taught the ice cream with the tricycle game.

820
00:51:35,980 --> 00:51:37,900
She fabricated it somehow herself.

821
00:51:38,100 --> 00:51:43,260
Now that you, now that she told you, do you remember when she was teaching you this?

822
00:51:43,380 --> 00:51:45,060
Is it, is the memory coming back?

823
00:51:45,180 --> 00:51:50,920
Cause at one time, I mean, when you said that you thought you were just doing it yourself, you don't have that memory of her going.

824
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:56,640
Now, what we do here with a tricycle is we turn it upside down and we make ice cream.

825
00:51:57,220 --> 00:51:58,880
Did you guys play house?

826
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:02,920
I say this, like everybody knows what that means.

827
00:52:02,940 --> 00:52:03,540
Is that what it's called?

828
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:04,200
Playing house?

829
00:52:04,380 --> 00:52:05,220
Like, I don't know.

830
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:06,160
I'm the daddy.

831
00:52:06,260 --> 00:52:06,800
You're the mommy.

832
00:52:07,020 --> 00:52:08,720
And no, I don't think we did that.

833
00:52:08,740 --> 00:52:12,280
Cause they were like, playing house could be like, we own an ice cream shop.

834
00:52:12,420 --> 00:52:13,340
And yeah, you know what I mean?

835
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:14,640
I think that's what she said.

836
00:52:14,680 --> 00:52:15,900
She always wanted to either.

837
00:52:15,980 --> 00:52:23,460
She said something like she always wanted to own a business or I don't know what it wasn't a bike shop, but no repair.

838
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:25,800
Let's make the bike into a ice cream machine.

839
00:52:25,980 --> 00:52:29,960
It was an easy thing would be like, I'm going to open up a business that fixes bikes.

840
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:30,320
Right.

841
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:31,640
Yeah, sure.

842
00:52:31,740 --> 00:52:33,120
That would make more sense.

843
00:52:33,860 --> 00:52:38,240
So we basically just kind of passed the mystery to one of my siblings.

844
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:40,840
So we don't know why she came up with that.

845
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:41,900
Asked the others.

846
00:52:42,420 --> 00:52:46,020
Maybe they have the, I have not, I'm going to be with the other two.

847
00:52:46,180 --> 00:52:48,680
Could you imagine if it was Mike who started this whole thing?

848
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:50,280
I don't think he's that creative.

849
00:52:51,100 --> 00:52:54,820
That he came up with that of, of the four of us.

850
00:52:54,880 --> 00:53:00,240
I think my sister Lucille is probably the more, yeah, she was the more imaginative.

851
00:53:00,540 --> 00:53:01,720
Well, hopefully we can get to the bottom of it.

852
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:03,360
Yeah, yeah, we might.

853
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:05,720
And I asked, I told you there were other examples.

854
00:53:06,300 --> 00:53:10,460
So immediately I wanted to, to kind of get rid of all of that baggage.

855
00:53:10,460 --> 00:53:13,700
So I was like, well, did you teach me how to do this other thing?

856
00:53:13,780 --> 00:53:14,100
Right.

857
00:53:14,660 --> 00:53:16,040
And she's like, oh no, that's all you.

858
00:53:16,980 --> 00:53:18,140
So I'm going to save that.

859
00:53:18,140 --> 00:53:25,500
Now, didn't you, didn't you tell me, tell us on the podcast, I could be wrong that you got a tricycle already for Josie.

860
00:53:25,740 --> 00:53:34,420
So yeah, very nice gift from, so how old do you think you were when this first started five or lower?

861
00:53:34,660 --> 00:53:36,100
No, definitely under five.

862
00:53:36,420 --> 00:53:36,760
Under five.

863
00:53:36,860 --> 00:53:37,020
Oh yeah.

864
00:53:37,760 --> 00:53:46,640
So I want, don't even, I want, I would love to see if Josie makes ice cream with the tricycle on her own.

865
00:53:46,680 --> 00:53:47,080
Yeah.

866
00:53:47,660 --> 00:53:47,980
Okay.

867
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,000
Yeah, that would be, then we know it's a genetic disorder.

868
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:53,880
You guys need freaking ice cream.

869
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:55,880
It could be.

870
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:57,620
Yeah, but we could do that.

871
00:53:57,660 --> 00:53:58,600
That'll be a little experiment.

872
00:53:59,240 --> 00:54:02,040
We can, we can see if she comes up with it on her own.

873
00:54:02,180 --> 00:54:05,400
Listen, if that happens, I'm going to just, we're going to buy an ice cream shop.

874
00:54:05,420 --> 00:54:06,060
Every once in a while.

875
00:54:06,060 --> 00:54:08,380
I'm just going to kick the tricycle over and see what she does.

876
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:13,060
We're going to have to open up an ice cream shop with a tricycle, upside down tricycle.

877
00:54:13,340 --> 00:54:14,520
No one will know what that means.

878
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:17,460
Little Josie's tricks and cones.

879
00:54:17,580 --> 00:54:21,720
And you just have a tricycle with ice cream flying out of it upside down.

880
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:23,200
Oh, we could try it.

881
00:54:23,380 --> 00:54:40,180
My favorite part of all this Silver Fox mailbox stuff is basically anytime there's always, the comments are always funny, but there are, they're also very heartfelt, like Christine and comments she has made.

882
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:53,580
And it's always nice because you feel like you have this extended family, a community out there that's interested in listening and, and is looking forward to hearing more about baby Josie.

883
00:54:53,620 --> 00:54:56,740
And that really, it adds to, it adds to the experience.

884
00:54:56,780 --> 00:55:01,420
What I like is, um, it proves that we're not just talking to ourselves.

885
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:04,960
There's people on the other end of this listening and commenting.

886
00:55:05,260 --> 00:55:06,720
So I'm like, Oh, we're not alone.

887
00:55:06,720 --> 00:55:12,360
We're not talking into a shallow or a, a, a empty cage screaming into the abyss.

888
00:55:12,740 --> 00:55:24,580
Well, although I have to admit the, the, some of the clips that we picked, a lot of them were stuff from family, it was like this Trina or Nicky stuff because it was funny stuff on there.

889
00:55:24,820 --> 00:55:33,820
But the cool thing about the, uh, the, uh, emails and a mail from you guys, uh, is that we, you know, we know, Oh my God, people are listening and this is a real thing.

890
00:55:33,860 --> 00:55:34,120
Okay.

891
00:55:34,380 --> 00:55:35,400
They're in, they're interested.

892
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:37,060
It is great.

893
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:37,600
Yeah, it is.

894
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:38,260
It's really nice.

895
00:55:38,700 --> 00:55:38,820
Yeah.

896
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:44,440
So, and now we used to do a lot more of these and we have fewer and fewer now.

897
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:50,520
So, which is another sign that I think we've made a lot of progress, uh, which is for, I was wrong.

898
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:52,060
We used to have a lot of, I was wrong.

899
00:55:52,160 --> 00:56:01,700
Some of them were pretty serious and mostly on my part, I think you're much better at modulating your, your, your responses to things where I'm like, that's stupid.

900
00:56:02,060 --> 00:56:09,020
And then later on, I find out from my lovely wife that I may have offended huge swaths of the American public.

901
00:56:09,020 --> 00:56:15,640
I learned how to censor myself before I think, yeah, I'm going to go home and I'm going to be called on.

902
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:20,900
So here we are with a best of, I was wrong.

903
00:56:26,860 --> 00:56:31,560
Methods that you described during childbirth with Trina.

904
00:56:31,720 --> 00:56:32,640
Oh God, don't please.

905
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:33,920
Let's not bring that back up.

906
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:35,360
That, that's the one.

907
00:56:36,880 --> 00:56:40,320
So I was, I was notified, I was notified.

908
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:57,900
I've heard on previous episodes that Trina listens on her way back and forth to work and at other times, as soon as she gets home, she will intervene, which would lead us to that actually is related to my, I was wrong, but anyhow.

909
00:56:57,900 --> 00:57:03,020
So she texted me immediately on release day, that episode.

910
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:27,120
And she said the, her, I was wrong was they did not say quote, bold face hose down your wife when you were trying to do some, but she did say the point was that the warm water in that instance was to help relax, relax, relieve the pressure on the lower back.

911
00:57:27,620 --> 00:57:30,780
And she said it worked like a charm because you only had to do it for five minutes.

912
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:34,900
And immediately after she had been, she was at 10 centimeters and ready to go.

913
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:38,760
So valuable, but was the question, the terminology.

914
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:41,900
I can't believe you said hosed me down.

915
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:49,960
I said, well, I gotta come up with a little comedy at this whole, you know, call it when you're not a comedy podcast.

916
00:57:50,820 --> 00:57:53,400
Well, you know, I don't know.

917
00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:54,300
I think we might be.

918
00:57:54,300 --> 00:58:00,240
I have to try to be serious about this because we want to make sure it's certain, certain information.

919
00:58:00,420 --> 00:58:01,480
We want to make sure it comes across.

920
00:58:01,580 --> 00:58:01,800
Correct.

921
00:58:01,940 --> 00:58:02,120
Right.

922
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:05,400
Because we don't want to, we're not, we're not doing this to be comedians.

923
00:58:05,620 --> 00:58:11,960
And there's part of that where we laugh and joke, but there's also, we're talking about serious stuff where people are dealing with.

924
00:58:12,420 --> 00:58:19,520
So I was, I was fairly dismissive of the whole gestational diabetes thing and saying like, come on now.

925
00:58:19,520 --> 00:58:21,900
I maintain for Kelly.

926
00:58:22,480 --> 00:58:29,780
I think things have kind of gone in my direction as far as things are looking pretty good, but we'll talk more about that later.

927
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:37,760
So Kelly did want me to make it clear, make clear though, for the, she did that first test and then she went back for the three hour glucose test.

928
00:58:38,340 --> 00:58:40,160
So then she wanted me to make it clear.

929
00:58:40,260 --> 00:58:42,420
She went in, she was completely fasted.

930
00:58:42,580 --> 00:58:50,720
Then they have her take the drink and then they did readings at one hour, two hours and three hours to measure what you did mention that.

931
00:58:50,820 --> 00:58:50,940
Yeah.

932
00:58:50,940 --> 00:58:52,960
So she did that now.

933
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:56,220
And I was saying, you know, the risks are, it's a big baby.

934
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:56,860
That's yeah.

935
00:58:56,920 --> 00:59:00,540
I, when you said it, I thought already he's going to be in trouble.

936
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:04,680
That was going to be a segment because I was like, Oh, there has to be a little bit more than that.

937
00:59:04,700 --> 00:59:10,980
So now it, and there is now, obviously it is one of the considerations is the baby gets bigger.

938
00:59:11,660 --> 00:59:14,100
That leads to complications during childbirth.

939
00:59:14,300 --> 00:59:20,340
It increases the odds of having to have a cesarean, which is always more risky than a natural birth.

940
00:59:21,740 --> 00:59:30,760
But unchecked, it can also lead to impaired lung development and the baby can end up being hypoglycemic after the baby is born.

941
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:34,880
And as they get older, they also are at a higher risk for diabetes.

942
00:59:35,500 --> 00:59:36,420
So it's serious stuff.

943
00:59:36,580 --> 00:59:42,860
And then the most, the really serious one is if it is completely uncontrolled, it can lead to stillbirth.

944
00:59:43,380 --> 00:59:48,080
So it is very, it is very serious thing and that's why they address it.

945
00:59:48,460 --> 00:59:49,220
So, so yeah.

946
00:59:50,660 --> 00:59:57,640
At one point I lost my place and it created a pause and then I picked up again.

947
00:59:58,220 --> 01:00:03,360
Now it felt like an eternity to me, but I did not read.

948
01:00:03,460 --> 01:00:04,180
I did not take that.

949
01:00:04,620 --> 01:00:05,940
You didn't get, you didn't catch it.

950
01:00:06,020 --> 01:00:10,840
And I know you and I, so I honestly, I thought it was like, this is nice.

951
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:12,820
He's very, yeah.

952
01:00:13,020 --> 01:00:16,660
So there was a little, I thought I covered it.

953
01:00:16,760 --> 01:00:17,020
Okay.

954
01:00:17,220 --> 01:00:17,520
Yeah.

955
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:21,360
So we get home and I'm right into finishing dinner and getting everything ready.

956
01:00:21,480 --> 01:00:24,440
We have dinner, I clean up, Kelly's kind of tired.

957
01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:39,360
So she's, she's in the, in the bedroom with the baby and I'm kind of doing the dishes and dishes and I'm thinking about the day and I walk in and I walk into the bedroom and I say, so how painfully obvious was my pause?

958
01:00:39,460 --> 01:00:41,740
Oh, it was, it was very obvious.

959
01:00:42,900 --> 01:00:43,340
Yes.

960
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:46,820
And I'm like, and it was just like a gut punch.

961
01:00:46,820 --> 01:00:51,980
I'm like, Oh, and I, I just like, I don't think I can be with you anymore.

962
01:00:52,340 --> 01:00:54,240
That's how uncomfortable I walked away.

963
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:58,580
So, and it was funny cause we talked about it before, before you came over.

964
01:00:58,620 --> 01:01:02,300
I'm like, I'm going to, I'm, I'm going to ask to see cause you were there.

965
01:01:02,540 --> 01:01:07,960
How funny that I thought, what a great job Frank is doing now.

966
01:01:08,260 --> 01:01:11,220
The truth lies somewhere in between those two assessments.

967
01:01:11,440 --> 01:01:16,320
But yeah, you, I, you know, again, I was like, wow, he did this very well.

968
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:22,420
In this case, Kelly, you were wrong and I did a great job.

969
01:01:22,900 --> 01:01:26,220
So you made me feel so much better.

970
01:01:26,340 --> 01:01:31,760
So we're back and I love the fact that we ended on a Kelly was wrong.

971
01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:34,480
That made me, that made me feel not just us.

972
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,600
There's, it is not always just us.

973
01:01:37,020 --> 01:01:47,120
Uh, but now my, these were the, the, the next clips up were the ones that I enjoyed watching the most because this was the crash test.

974
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:53,700
Daddy, just getting to mostly make you do these things.

975
01:01:54,040 --> 01:01:54,800
Dance monkey.

976
01:01:55,060 --> 01:01:55,460
Yeah.

977
01:01:55,860 --> 01:01:56,300
Okay.

978
01:01:56,560 --> 01:01:57,300
Earn your pay.

979
01:01:57,860 --> 01:01:59,980
Um, it was, it's, it's always fun.

980
01:02:00,140 --> 01:02:01,280
I can't wait to see this there.

981
01:02:01,400 --> 01:02:02,840
They are a lot of fun.

982
01:02:02,860 --> 01:02:05,080
And, and, uh, I really enjoy them.

983
01:02:05,140 --> 01:02:10,680
And usually when we do shorts, the crash test, daddy, uh, the crash test, daddy, one's the ones that, yeah, they do pretty well.

984
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:15,140
So here we are with the best of crash test.

985
01:02:15,260 --> 01:02:15,740
Daddy.

986
01:02:19,720 --> 01:02:25,300
Test out some of the, the different baby and parenting products.

987
01:02:25,840 --> 01:02:29,540
The, that we're going to have, I feel this is where I earned my paycheck.

988
01:02:29,680 --> 01:02:31,960
This is, this is going to be, I think this is going to be fun.

989
01:02:32,800 --> 01:02:42,820
So we've got this time it is called the ergo baby ergo baby, because that's the brand and it's an embrace cozy newborn carrier.

990
01:02:43,040 --> 01:02:45,920
It is $80 on Amazon.

991
01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:48,600
And it's one of those Papoose things.

992
01:02:49,120 --> 01:02:54,200
So what I want to do, we're going to have Carlo.

993
01:02:54,660 --> 01:02:54,960
What?

994
01:02:55,220 --> 01:02:56,320
I'm going to give you the instructions.

995
01:02:56,780 --> 01:03:00,060
I'm going to give you the instructions and I want you to figure out how to put this thing on.

996
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:01,540
Oh my God.

997
01:03:01,580 --> 01:03:09,660
If you guys could see this, this is going to be, so here we are, Carlo is going to try this out.

998
01:03:09,660 --> 01:03:10,160
Okay.

999
01:03:10,320 --> 01:03:11,120
I think you got it.

1000
01:03:11,660 --> 01:03:12,180
So wait a minute.

1001
01:03:12,780 --> 01:03:15,120
I'm going to be, this will be like one of those things.

1002
01:03:15,220 --> 01:03:21,120
It's like a, a, a Friday night board game where you have to tell somebody how to do something.

1003
01:03:21,180 --> 01:03:21,400
Okay.

1004
01:03:21,460 --> 01:03:22,260
Number one.

1005
01:03:25,840 --> 01:03:27,500
I think that is the way you start.

1006
01:03:28,720 --> 01:03:29,120
Yep.

1007
01:03:32,660 --> 01:03:33,060
Yep.

1008
01:03:33,260 --> 01:03:43,020
Cause that's how the baby would slide out and so those go across your shoulder.

1009
01:03:43,280 --> 01:03:43,940
So do no, no.

1010
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:45,060
So go.

1011
01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:48,140
So the one on your right hand, you're going to go over your right shoulder.

1012
01:03:51,120 --> 01:03:52,520
That should probably be facing out.

1013
01:03:52,620 --> 01:03:52,780
Oh.

1014
01:03:52,860 --> 01:03:54,500
And also that thing.

1015
01:03:55,740 --> 01:03:56,820
So that thing.

1016
01:03:57,240 --> 01:03:57,680
Yes.

1017
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:01,120
Cause then this thing flops up, right?

1018
01:04:02,080 --> 01:04:02,360
Okay.

1019
01:04:02,380 --> 01:04:10,140
So by now that your child has scurried away, yes.

1020
01:04:10,140 --> 01:04:11,700
I'm going to say the baby's crying, right?

1021
01:04:11,820 --> 01:04:12,100
You're right.

1022
01:04:15,540 --> 01:04:16,180
That's it.

1023
01:04:16,980 --> 01:04:17,460
Okay.

1024
01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:19,280
Yes.

1025
01:04:20,220 --> 01:04:21,520
And I'm going to put them over.

1026
01:04:22,120 --> 01:04:24,020
And then they crisscross back there.

1027
01:04:26,400 --> 01:04:27,340
Like a, like a bra.

1028
01:04:28,660 --> 01:04:34,760
Now, now they connect into those clippies there.

1029
01:04:35,400 --> 01:04:35,660
Yeah.

1030
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:37,420
So you're going to have to make that.

1031
01:04:37,520 --> 01:04:38,200
There you go.

1032
01:04:47,560 --> 01:04:48,080
Yes.

1033
01:04:48,080 --> 01:04:48,640
This is fantastic.

1034
01:04:49,300 --> 01:04:49,880
There you go.

1035
01:04:50,500 --> 01:04:51,360
Look at that.

1036
01:04:52,480 --> 01:04:53,400
You're getting it.

1037
01:04:54,560 --> 01:04:55,000
Okay.

1038
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:56,420
This is fantastic.

1039
01:04:58,260 --> 01:04:59,640
Oh no, there is a clip.

1040
01:04:59,760 --> 01:05:01,220
It's just further up on that thing.

1041
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:04,020
Oh, you gotta, you gotta slide it down.

1042
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:05,320
There you go.

1043
01:05:07,700 --> 01:05:09,660
Now I'm going to take this.

1044
01:05:10,540 --> 01:05:11,240
This side.

1045
01:05:11,360 --> 01:05:11,780
Yes.

1046
01:05:17,980 --> 01:05:21,000
I'm so glad that you're the one that has to do this and not me.

1047
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:25,960
Okay.

1048
01:05:35,180 --> 01:05:36,260
There you go.

1049
01:05:36,960 --> 01:05:38,460
You, you gotta go.

1050
01:05:38,580 --> 01:05:38,780
Yup.

1051
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:39,000
Yup.

1052
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:39,400
There you go.

1053
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:41,260
Oh, there you go.

1054
01:05:41,300 --> 01:05:41,880
That's it.

1055
01:05:41,940 --> 01:05:42,840
Get your little clippy.

1056
01:05:42,840 --> 01:05:44,100
Slide the clippy down.

1057
01:05:45,580 --> 01:05:46,120
Yes.

1058
01:05:46,980 --> 01:05:48,520
This is fantastic.

1059
01:05:50,120 --> 01:05:50,860
I got this.

1060
01:05:51,700 --> 01:05:52,780
Flip this up here.

1061
01:05:53,260 --> 01:05:54,500
All you really have to do.

1062
01:05:55,300 --> 01:05:56,420
Slide it down.

1063
01:05:56,980 --> 01:05:58,000
There you go.

1064
01:05:58,240 --> 01:05:58,840
Clip it in.

1065
01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:00,860
That's it.

1066
01:06:01,740 --> 01:06:08,380
I feel like, I feel like when I'm on a flight and they're given the, and always adjust your mask before saving your child.

1067
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:11,040
Now, now go get the baby.

1068
01:06:11,720 --> 01:06:12,260
Okay.

1069
01:06:12,260 --> 01:06:13,160
Now you got the baby.

1070
01:06:16,500 --> 01:06:16,940
Yes.

1071
01:06:18,160 --> 01:06:20,360
And it just, she's, that's it.

1072
01:06:21,120 --> 01:06:27,180
And then, but now it's, you know, the, the bottom strap, I think this thing you got to cinch up because that's what keeps.

1073
01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:27,700
Yeah.

1074
01:06:28,080 --> 01:06:34,800
Otherwise the kid's just going to slide out the front and now you're ready to jump out of the airplane.

1075
01:06:35,620 --> 01:06:36,060
Fantastic.

1076
01:06:36,560 --> 01:06:37,420
Well done.

1077
01:06:37,700 --> 01:06:38,840
That is beautiful.

1078
01:06:40,540 --> 01:06:41,140
That's great.

1079
01:06:41,540 --> 01:06:41,940
Okay.

1080
01:06:42,380 --> 01:06:43,720
I think you did a great job.

1081
01:06:45,640 --> 01:06:47,480
You did better than I would have done.

1082
01:06:47,700 --> 01:06:49,640
And I was looking at this and still confused.

1083
01:06:49,900 --> 01:06:57,860
We are back again with the Fisher price baby to toddler bath four in one sling and seat swing and seat tub.

1084
01:06:57,960 --> 01:06:59,660
I'm so glad you did not ask me to.

1085
01:07:00,340 --> 01:07:01,400
I don't know if I could.

1086
01:07:01,560 --> 01:07:01,720
Yeah.

1087
01:07:01,780 --> 01:07:04,580
You could probably wear it like a big helmet.

1088
01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:06,200
So let's see what comes with it.

1089
01:07:06,200 --> 01:07:08,220
What's it because it comes with some other little thingy.

1090
01:07:08,240 --> 01:07:10,040
So that, that is the sling.

1091
01:07:10,780 --> 01:07:18,520
So I think the sling, I have the manual here to try to see what might be done with these things.

1092
01:07:18,700 --> 01:07:23,100
Would this be a sling for like, maybe if the baby's smaller, maybe.

1093
01:07:23,180 --> 01:07:23,480
Yes.

1094
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:29,540
So when the baby's an infant, the sling somehow attaches to this thing and they sit in that.

1095
01:07:29,660 --> 01:07:35,860
So like a, like a, like a hammock, like a, it clips those clips clip around the edge of the, the tubby.

1096
01:07:36,040 --> 01:07:37,720
I think it goes the other way.

1097
01:07:38,360 --> 01:07:38,880
Yeah.

1098
01:07:38,880 --> 01:07:40,360
So it's that way.

1099
01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:44,700
And then, yeah, those hooks hook around the, the lip of the thing.

1100
01:07:44,920 --> 01:07:48,580
So then the kids in the water, but in the little sling securely.

1101
01:07:48,720 --> 01:07:50,260
So there's that when they're really little.

1102
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:56,440
And then once they get bigger, they have the green thing, the, that tub, and there's a little head pad.

1103
01:07:56,700 --> 01:07:57,880
So they're in that way.

1104
01:07:57,960 --> 01:07:59,460
And then I don't know what that is.

1105
01:07:59,500 --> 01:08:06,860
So this looks like maybe for, um, over the head, a little sprinkler when you, when the baby has, um, shampoo and yeah.

1106
01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:07,300
Okay.

1107
01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:08,160
Eyes.

1108
01:08:08,260 --> 01:08:09,260
And you just kind of, okay.

1109
01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:10,420
Very nice.

1110
01:08:10,640 --> 01:08:11,080
Cute.

1111
01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:11,760
And what else?

1112
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:15,899
And then a little dish for, uh, fishies you want to eat.

1113
01:08:16,000 --> 01:08:16,800
No, I don't know.

1114
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:18,100
It has holes in it.

1115
01:08:18,300 --> 01:08:19,760
That's just like maybe a little toy.

1116
01:08:19,960 --> 01:08:23,140
So it's basically like three sizes, a couple of toys.

1117
01:08:23,260 --> 01:08:26,520
It goes right in the sink and ready to go.

1118
01:08:27,220 --> 01:08:29,160
So it does look pretty easy.

1119
01:08:29,319 --> 01:08:35,840
So now we're going to go, you will estimate the temperature and then we will drop in the ducky.

1120
01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:37,460
And see how well you do.

1121
01:08:40,270 --> 01:08:43,609
So we're back and yeah.

1122
01:08:43,770 --> 01:08:47,930
Carlo has filled the water by temp by dad hand measurement.

1123
01:08:48,430 --> 01:08:53,029
And we're going to drop in Mr. Duck and see what digital digital, see what the temperature is.

1124
01:08:53,470 --> 01:08:54,810
Carlo on the honor system.

1125
01:08:54,930 --> 01:08:58,550
We'll make a note of his temperature and we'll see from there.

1126
01:08:58,670 --> 01:08:59,790
So is it climbing?

1127
01:09:00,069 --> 01:09:03,350
Is it giving a number on the little number, but it's still blinking.

1128
01:09:03,710 --> 01:09:05,029
Is the, is the number.

1129
01:09:05,290 --> 01:09:06,490
Oh, it's blinking blue.

1130
01:09:06,590 --> 01:09:07,010
Right.

1131
01:09:07,010 --> 01:09:10,510
So I don't know if it's, if it goes, I think the blue blinking is.

1132
01:09:10,670 --> 01:09:12,430
So this is a fairly sophisticated duck.

1133
01:09:12,990 --> 01:09:14,689
The duck has a target temperature.

1134
01:09:14,689 --> 01:09:18,210
And if it gets below a certain temperature, that's too cold for the baby.

1135
01:09:18,490 --> 01:09:19,250
It's blue.

1136
01:09:19,250 --> 01:09:21,189
And if it's too hot, it's red.

1137
01:09:21,310 --> 01:09:24,310
So you may be, you may have this number.

1138
01:09:24,510 --> 01:09:25,189
It's okay.

1139
01:09:25,410 --> 01:09:26,830
Or maybe it's just flashing blue.

1140
01:09:26,830 --> 01:09:27,670
Cause it's way too hot.

1141
01:09:27,689 --> 01:09:28,250
I don't know blue.

1142
01:09:28,310 --> 01:09:29,670
Cause your child is now dead.

1143
01:09:30,130 --> 01:09:31,510
Um, I know the number.

1144
01:09:31,609 --> 01:09:32,410
So you got the number.

1145
01:09:32,670 --> 01:09:33,069
Okay.

1146
01:09:33,390 --> 01:09:33,710
Yeah.

1147
01:09:33,890 --> 01:09:35,930
We'll be back and it will be on me.

1148
01:09:38,979 --> 01:09:39,340
Okay.

1149
01:09:39,560 --> 01:09:40,359
So we're back.

1150
01:09:40,540 --> 01:09:47,760
I have filled the little tubby with my, you can see in my wet hands and I'm going to drop in Mr. Duck and see what it says.

1151
01:09:48,080 --> 01:09:49,319
Ooh, I got a blue flash.

1152
01:09:49,700 --> 01:09:50,540
I'm climbing.

1153
01:09:51,979 --> 01:09:53,300
I might be a little low.

1154
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:55,300
Is this flashing blue?

1155
01:09:55,400 --> 01:09:56,340
Yeah, that's what mine was doing.

1156
01:09:56,520 --> 01:09:58,660
I guess we should have read the directions, but we can figure it out.

1157
01:09:59,360 --> 01:10:00,340
Why would we do that?

1158
01:10:00,360 --> 01:10:01,400
Well, you know, has it?

1159
01:10:01,520 --> 01:10:01,680
Yeah.

1160
01:10:02,220 --> 01:10:09,140
My number is 85.8. Mine was 83.4. That's pretty.

1161
01:10:09,280 --> 01:10:09,900
So we were close.

1162
01:10:09,980 --> 01:10:13,040
Do you know what the temperature is supposed to be?

1163
01:10:14,120 --> 01:10:23,080
No, 90, 98.4. So we were both in the safety range, but we could have been a little warmer.

1164
01:10:23,320 --> 01:10:23,460
Okay.

1165
01:10:25,240 --> 01:10:41,440
So as you can see, what you can see, what Carlo has in front of him now is the, my breast friends, super deluxe 25th anniversary nursing pillow.

1166
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:50,740
And I thought it would be fun for you to try it out and see, see how it works.

1167
01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:52,220
It's a very, very well reviewed.

1168
01:10:52,340 --> 01:10:54,420
Can I take a look at what you go right ahead?

1169
01:10:54,540 --> 01:10:55,220
Slide that out of the way.

1170
01:10:55,300 --> 01:10:56,540
I'll narrate as you go.

1171
01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:57,860
You want me to hold baby Josie?

1172
01:10:58,160 --> 01:11:00,740
Cause you're going to need to figure this out by the head.

1173
01:11:01,000 --> 01:11:01,420
Great.

1174
01:11:02,380 --> 01:11:02,980
Here we go.

1175
01:11:03,420 --> 01:11:04,560
We have to give it a proper.

1176
01:11:04,560 --> 01:11:06,420
We got to give it a proper test.

1177
01:11:06,980 --> 01:11:11,000
That's what I would do if I were you, cause it's not, it's going to be snug.

1178
01:11:12,580 --> 01:11:13,560
There you go.

1179
01:11:14,800 --> 01:11:15,120
There.

1180
01:11:15,240 --> 01:11:15,400
Yeah.

1181
01:11:15,400 --> 01:11:16,040
That's not so bad.

1182
01:11:17,660 --> 01:11:17,980
Yeah.

1183
01:11:18,060 --> 01:11:18,520
Look at that.

1184
01:11:18,620 --> 01:11:19,260
You got some stuff.

1185
01:11:19,420 --> 01:11:19,520
Yeah.

1186
01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:26,580
So I'm going to, so I think you want, you want it more down on your, more toward your waist, a little bit lower.

1187
01:11:29,360 --> 01:11:30,280
Well, that's true.

1188
01:11:30,940 --> 01:11:32,940
And now, and then there you go.

1189
01:11:33,000 --> 01:11:33,540
You got the baby.

1190
01:11:34,100 --> 01:11:34,460
Yes.

1191
01:11:34,740 --> 01:11:36,200
So now, and that's it.

1192
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:38,520
Now you'll notice there's a little bump.

1193
01:11:38,540 --> 01:11:41,960
If you put your hand on the surface, there's a little bump.

1194
01:11:42,360 --> 01:11:47,540
So it cradles the baby and, and allows them to be like right position correctly.

1195
01:11:48,140 --> 01:11:49,520
And that, that is it.

1196
01:11:49,560 --> 01:11:55,780
So, and you can then now you can then lean back and it kind of stays nice and easy.

1197
01:11:55,860 --> 01:12:01,600
So, and then by your left hand, there's a little pocket for other accessories.

1198
01:12:04,260 --> 01:12:08,900
Cigarettes and cheese sticks, whatever, you know, whatever you got in there.

1199
01:12:10,920 --> 01:12:11,400
Yeah.

1200
01:12:11,400 --> 01:12:14,580
There was none of the, is it uncomfortable?

1201
01:12:14,860 --> 01:12:15,620
Not at all.

1202
01:12:15,720 --> 01:12:16,920
And the back is great.

1203
01:12:17,000 --> 01:12:17,340
Okay.

1204
01:12:19,460 --> 01:12:23,640
I might remove the baby and put a drink into maybe some chips.

1205
01:12:23,980 --> 01:12:25,240
Now I have a little table.

1206
01:12:25,400 --> 01:12:25,900
There you go.

1207
01:12:26,020 --> 01:12:32,940
You could, we could do that as well, but this is supposed to be the Cadillac of, of breastfeeding pillows.

1208
01:12:32,940 --> 01:12:35,080
Let me tell you, it makes sense.

1209
01:12:35,680 --> 01:12:36,920
I just love that.

1210
01:12:37,040 --> 01:12:39,800
When I saw the name, I'm like, it's really called the My Breast Friend.

1211
01:12:41,940 --> 01:12:43,340
Having a tea party.

1212
01:12:43,700 --> 01:12:48,780
That is, this is, I think this is designed specifically for dads.

1213
01:12:48,900 --> 01:13:01,660
It doesn't state that, but this is the Fisher Price Toddler Toy Laugh and Learn Sweet Manners tea set with music and lights.

1214
01:13:03,440 --> 01:13:13,520
So this is, this takes the imagination almost completely out of this whole process, but it's fascinating.

1215
01:13:13,740 --> 01:13:17,280
So as you can see, you have the full set.

1216
01:13:17,400 --> 01:13:19,500
So you have a little sugar, you got your spoon.

1217
01:13:19,920 --> 01:13:22,000
These are treats, apparently.

1218
01:13:22,260 --> 01:13:22,780
Oh, okay.

1219
01:13:22,820 --> 01:13:23,780
The heart and the tray.

1220
01:13:24,100 --> 01:13:27,700
And then we have two cups and the teapot.

1221
01:13:27,760 --> 01:13:31,000
The teapot also can open up.

1222
01:13:32,820 --> 01:13:35,440
But you will see, and I'll, we'll give a little demo.

1223
01:13:36,800 --> 01:13:39,040
It, it has multiple levels.

1224
01:13:39,040 --> 01:13:40,820
So we're going to have Carlo try it out.

1225
01:13:41,620 --> 01:13:42,420
Different levels.

1226
01:13:42,540 --> 01:13:48,080
It plays music once it's on, but we're going to, I'll start it off.

1227
01:13:48,160 --> 01:13:53,500
So we're going to go, I'll have you switch it to level one and then just see what happens.

1228
01:13:53,980 --> 01:13:54,580
All right.

1229
01:13:54,660 --> 01:13:56,360
As I'm holding, I don't have to put it back down, right?

1230
01:13:56,500 --> 01:13:57,140
I don't think so.

1231
01:13:58,820 --> 01:13:59,680
There we go.

1232
01:14:02,520 --> 01:14:03,310
Listen and learn.

1233
01:14:03,490 --> 01:14:03,970
I'm listening.

1234
01:14:10,030 --> 01:14:11,810
Pour me some.

1235
01:14:23,600 --> 01:14:24,780
Five treats.

1236
01:14:26,420 --> 01:14:28,220
So let's go to level two.

1237
01:14:33,060 --> 01:14:33,800
Please.

1238
01:14:44,650 --> 01:14:45,780
I want my tea.

1239
01:14:48,380 --> 01:14:48,980
There we go.

1240
01:14:53,870 --> 01:14:55,480
The purple oval treat.

1241
01:14:56,140 --> 01:14:56,580
That's it.

1242
01:14:56,960 --> 01:14:57,840
There we go.

1243
01:15:00,860 --> 01:15:01,760
Oh, of course.

1244
01:15:02,000 --> 01:15:02,520
We've got blue tea.

1245
01:15:15,070 --> 01:15:16,510
Sugar bowl.

1246
01:15:17,230 --> 01:15:18,410
Open that up.

1247
01:15:18,970 --> 01:15:20,310
Look at that.

1248
01:15:24,490 --> 01:15:25,530
A lot of tea.

1249
01:15:26,810 --> 01:15:28,050
This is a diuretic.

1250
01:15:28,250 --> 01:15:28,970
You gotta be careful.

1251
01:15:32,180 --> 01:15:32,880
It sure is.

1252
01:15:33,260 --> 01:15:34,060
Level three.

1253
01:15:34,440 --> 01:15:34,720
Sure.

1254
01:15:40,730 --> 01:15:45,150
Pour some tea.

1255
01:16:00,960 --> 01:16:01,440
Wonderful.

1256
01:16:02,780 --> 01:16:03,980
That is incredible.

1257
01:16:04,220 --> 01:16:05,760
It's fascinating, isn't it?

1258
01:16:07,040 --> 01:16:13,640
After all that, after all that, look at that, but it's kind of, it's adorable in many ways.

1259
01:16:13,740 --> 01:16:14,620
So what I found out.

1260
01:16:17,220 --> 01:16:18,040
Oh my God.

1261
01:16:18,040 --> 01:16:19,660
I forgot all that stuff.

1262
01:16:21,660 --> 01:16:27,740
That putting that babushka, whatever they call it, what do they call it, the pouch, the, oh my God, it's so funny.

1263
01:16:27,900 --> 01:16:28,300
Yeah.

1264
01:16:28,320 --> 01:16:28,440
That's funny.

1265
01:16:28,440 --> 01:16:33,240
That was, that was a lot of fun watching that because I think, I think we did a short on that.

1266
01:16:33,600 --> 01:16:34,560
We did it on that.

1267
01:16:34,720 --> 01:16:42,160
We did a short on that, but I sped it up and I put like a junior brown guitar track behind it.

1268
01:16:42,260 --> 01:16:42,860
It was excellent.

1269
01:16:43,060 --> 01:16:45,820
I wish I could find, I think that was one of the things that was lost.

1270
01:16:46,120 --> 01:16:47,320
Although it's got to exist somewhere.

1271
01:16:47,440 --> 01:16:49,040
My favorite one is my, what's it called?

1272
01:16:49,060 --> 01:16:49,880
My Breast Friend.

1273
01:16:50,080 --> 01:16:51,080
The My Breast Friend Pillow.

1274
01:16:51,120 --> 01:16:53,900
That's, that's, that's, that's, I would do that right now.

1275
01:16:54,440 --> 01:17:03,240
That guy ended up getting, although that was the Cadillac of breastfeeding pillows that has gone by the wayside in favor of the Boppy.

1276
01:17:04,080 --> 01:17:07,080
The Boppy is the one that is in use to this day.

1277
01:17:07,280 --> 01:17:08,660
Maybe season two will show.

1278
01:17:08,760 --> 01:17:10,020
We could talk about the Boppy.

1279
01:17:10,080 --> 01:17:12,180
The Boppy should be being retired very soon.

1280
01:17:13,140 --> 01:17:14,740
But there, there was that.

1281
01:17:14,780 --> 01:17:16,440
So that was our Crash Test Daddy.

1282
01:17:16,980 --> 01:17:23,140
This next clip is from like right after the episode, right after the baby was born.

1283
01:17:23,140 --> 01:17:23,680
Okay.

1284
01:17:23,880 --> 01:17:27,320
Um, and trying to capture what it meant to me at that time.

1285
01:17:27,400 --> 01:17:27,520
Yeah.

1286
01:17:27,760 --> 01:17:28,580
So here it is.

1287
01:17:29,920 --> 01:17:32,680
What do I say about this experience?

1288
01:17:33,080 --> 01:17:37,020
Because everybody says the same thing when they talk about it.

1289
01:17:37,060 --> 01:17:38,720
It's like, it's life changing.

1290
01:17:39,660 --> 01:17:40,380
It's indescribable.

1291
01:17:40,740 --> 01:17:40,840
Yep.

1292
01:17:41,040 --> 01:17:42,540
It's, there's no way to put it in words.

1293
01:17:42,820 --> 01:17:48,640
And I, and I'm thinking all along, I'm going to, there's going to be something that I can, that I can sink my teeth into that.

1294
01:17:48,720 --> 01:17:50,640
I can say, this is what this experience means to me.

1295
01:17:50,640 --> 01:17:55,500
And what it is, is it's indescribable and life changing.

1296
01:17:55,760 --> 01:17:59,000
And other, and there's really, there is no way.

1297
01:17:59,040 --> 01:18:14,960
There's no way to explain how this little person sums up everything, everything that's important, everything that's important in just in, in one little six pound package.

1298
01:18:15,400 --> 01:18:38,500
So I think now what's interesting is going through all this stuff and hearing the things that I was concerned about during the pregnancy and building up and, and then having experienced everything and now having a little bit of fatherhood under my belt has changed, has kind of changed my assessment.

1299
01:18:38,720 --> 01:18:40,600
And one of the, it's kind of, it's two things.

1300
01:18:40,880 --> 01:19:03,440
One thing I think I said in a very recently in an episode, not, not long ago, and I do stand by it now that you, I would never have said this before I became a parent or knew I was going to become a parent, but you are not, you're not a whole person until you do this.

1301
01:19:04,000 --> 01:19:05,540
I felt like a whole person.

1302
01:19:05,700 --> 01:19:11,780
And I felt like I had lived a very interesting and very kind of fulfilling life.

1303
01:19:12,320 --> 01:19:22,440
And then the parenthood happens and everything changes and you realize, oh, I, I, there's a, there's a whole different world.

1304
01:19:23,280 --> 01:19:25,520
And it really does feel like that.

1305
01:19:25,560 --> 01:19:30,920
Like that all of a sudden this it's, you've unlocked a new level of the video game, right?

1306
01:19:30,960 --> 01:19:38,040
And there's, and there's a new level of meaning, a new level of, of how hard you're willing to work and how all those things.

1307
01:19:38,040 --> 01:19:38,860
Absolutely.

1308
01:19:39,040 --> 01:19:45,360
But also you don't know that until you're in that scenario.

1309
01:19:46,100 --> 01:19:53,940
When you're single without kids, you don't know that you're, you are as fulfilled as you are now as a parent, but because you don't know the other half of that.

1310
01:19:54,020 --> 01:19:59,080
And people have done that and will do that and have a fulfilled life without children.

1311
01:19:59,560 --> 01:20:09,500
And they, but the minute you taste that other side of that level, then you can honestly say, okay, I thought I had it, but this.

1312
01:20:09,880 --> 01:20:17,540
And it's why people, people who are, who have become parents, when they're talking to those people who say they don't want to sound crazy.

1313
01:20:17,680 --> 01:20:18,140
Right.

1314
01:20:18,240 --> 01:20:23,160
Because they do, they are fulfilled and they are, they're having a full experience of life.

1315
01:20:23,320 --> 01:20:25,220
And you're saying, Oh, you don't get it.

1316
01:20:25,260 --> 01:20:26,560
Like it's, it's like a salesman.

1317
01:20:26,600 --> 01:20:27,800
No, you don't understand.

1318
01:20:28,480 --> 01:20:29,480
You're missing out.

1319
01:20:29,660 --> 01:20:30,720
Your life means nothing.

1320
01:20:31,440 --> 01:20:34,520
Which obviously does not, that's not the case.

1321
01:20:34,520 --> 01:20:58,920
But there is that the other thing that I think when I was thinking about this, and I'm going through all these clips and thinking about what my biggest worry going into it and trying to take parenting seriously, because I want, it's like you have this opportunity that you thought was lost for me at my age and you want to do, you want to do it the right way.

1322
01:20:58,960 --> 01:21:00,000
You want to do the best you can.

1323
01:21:00,000 --> 01:21:19,760
And I think what I thought, what I thought all along was the hardest thing that I was going to face as a parent was being able, was wanting to protect my kid and not being able to, like eventually there's going to be something that you're not going to, that you have to let them go.

1324
01:21:20,120 --> 01:21:21,040
You can't be around all that you can't.

1325
01:21:21,040 --> 01:21:22,340
You can't protect them forever.

1326
01:21:22,840 --> 01:21:23,060
Horrible.

1327
01:21:23,320 --> 01:21:27,780
And I thought that was going to be the worst, the kind of the worst of it.

1328
01:21:27,780 --> 01:21:38,380
And what I have, I think, discovered now, there's all these choices that you have to make as a parent, even with the limited amount of parenting I've done so far.

1329
01:21:38,560 --> 01:21:57,600
And what I came to this realization shortly, not very far in that because there's this weird thing that when that baby shows up in front of you, you aren't worried at all about protecting them from anything because you feel like you could hold the world back.

1330
01:21:57,880 --> 01:22:07,820
Like there's this thing in your head as a man, I did not expect there would be a biological impact on me of becoming a parent, but there was.

1331
01:22:07,900 --> 01:22:12,960
I felt like, oh no, I will, I will, I will stop everything.

1332
01:22:13,340 --> 01:22:13,440
Yeah.

1333
01:22:13,440 --> 01:22:14,300
Nothing will get to this.

1334
01:22:14,400 --> 01:22:15,100
I get the barrier.

1335
01:22:15,360 --> 01:22:17,100
Nothing will get to this child.

1336
01:22:17,240 --> 01:22:17,420
Right.

1337
01:22:17,420 --> 01:22:19,760
And then your rational brain.

1338
01:22:20,440 --> 01:22:26,520
Your rational brain kicks in and you realize, oh no, it's not that I won't be able to.

1339
01:22:26,840 --> 01:22:29,040
It's that I'm going to have to choose.

1340
01:22:29,340 --> 01:22:43,040
I'm going to have to choose the pain that I let this little person experience so that they can grow and they can become self-sufficient and they can become a kind of a fully realized.

1341
01:22:43,040 --> 01:22:45,060
So you're not worried every day.

1342
01:22:45,180 --> 01:22:45,460
Right.

1343
01:22:45,460 --> 01:22:48,560
Because you know, the way they, you brought them up.

1344
01:22:48,620 --> 01:22:48,960
Right.

1345
01:22:49,080 --> 01:22:53,820
Is going to give them that fighting chance of you not going, oh my God, they left the doorway.

1346
01:22:54,120 --> 01:22:54,600
Oh my God.

1347
01:22:54,960 --> 01:22:56,520
Because you'll drive yourself crazy.

1348
01:22:56,880 --> 01:22:57,040
Right.

1349
01:22:57,100 --> 01:23:01,760
You have to, if you want to, your job as a parent is to make them not need you.

1350
01:23:03,480 --> 01:23:08,180
And I dread, like I'm still in that stage where she really needs us.

1351
01:23:08,200 --> 01:23:11,580
Oh no, you're in the, you better be around.

1352
01:23:11,580 --> 01:23:18,720
Every step she gets closer to needing me less is hard, but that's, that's the, that's it.

1353
01:23:18,860 --> 01:23:23,140
It's that you have to get them to the point that they're going to be okay without you.

1354
01:23:23,160 --> 01:23:33,180
And to do that, you're going to have to let them fall down and you're going to have to let them struggle and you're going to have to let them do all those things that you don't want, that your instinct tells you not to do.

1355
01:23:33,320 --> 01:23:36,940
I'm at the point where exactly is my give up.

1356
01:23:36,940 --> 01:23:46,240
I'm giving up them staying in my house and in the bedroom and controlling the safety.

1357
01:23:46,940 --> 01:23:52,120
I've given that up because now my son has moved out and he has his own life and I have to accept that.

1358
01:23:52,180 --> 01:23:55,880
I have to understand he's a grown adult and my youngest is in college.

1359
01:23:56,260 --> 01:23:58,940
And as much as I want to call him every day and go, did you eat today?

1360
01:23:59,160 --> 01:23:59,820
Did you do that?

1361
01:24:00,160 --> 01:24:05,540
I have to understand that we raised him to be safe out there.

1362
01:24:05,540 --> 01:24:06,060
He's okay.

1363
01:24:06,060 --> 01:24:06,760
And he's okay.

1364
01:24:06,960 --> 01:24:18,660
So I'm at that part where it's like you don't, I don't know what type of parent I am now because I know how I, I know how to be the parent that has my kids in the house.

1365
01:24:18,760 --> 01:24:21,840
I know how, I know that, I know that figuring it out.

1366
01:24:21,880 --> 01:24:22,020
Right.

1367
01:24:22,080 --> 01:24:23,120
I know that person.

1368
01:24:23,220 --> 01:24:32,240
How do I become the empty nester parent and still not freak out every morning, every day when I, you know, close my eyes and think of my kids are out there.

1369
01:24:32,360 --> 01:24:33,260
I'm not with them.

1370
01:24:33,280 --> 01:24:34,040
I can't stop them.

1371
01:24:34,100 --> 01:24:34,640
I can't do this.

1372
01:24:34,640 --> 01:24:37,820
How do I, how do I, how do I be the dad of a 20?

1373
01:24:37,940 --> 01:24:40,060
How do I be the dad of adults?

1374
01:24:40,800 --> 01:24:41,160
Yeah.

1375
01:24:41,500 --> 01:24:45,080
And that's another challenge that I'm learning now.

1376
01:24:45,260 --> 01:24:45,520
Yeah.

1377
01:24:45,600 --> 01:24:47,880
Even though I've been a parent for 25 years.

1378
01:24:48,000 --> 01:24:50,920
Well, take notes because you're going to need to tell me about this in 15 years.

1379
01:24:50,980 --> 01:24:54,220
Oh, just watch the podcast season two, three, four, five.

1380
01:24:54,320 --> 01:24:55,260
We're going to be going back.

1381
01:24:55,960 --> 01:24:57,040
Taking our own advice.

1382
01:24:59,840 --> 01:25:02,160
So I'm going to start with the same question.

1383
01:25:02,620 --> 01:25:10,160
I think I started the podcast with is, is this what you thought parenting at this point?

1384
01:25:10,340 --> 01:25:10,580
Right.

1385
01:25:11,100 --> 01:25:17,380
What did, what, what, what surprised you and what said, Oh my God, didn't even think of that.

1386
01:25:17,380 --> 01:25:18,100
If you have any.

1387
01:25:18,560 --> 01:25:23,100
It is, I think it's, it's more wonderful and gratifying.

1388
01:25:23,960 --> 01:25:24,920
It's better.

1389
01:25:25,040 --> 01:25:26,480
I thought it was going to be great.

1390
01:25:26,560 --> 01:25:27,520
I really did.

1391
01:25:27,560 --> 01:25:29,220
I thought I wanted to be a dad.

1392
01:25:30,340 --> 01:25:33,100
And, and again, I kind of thought that ship had sailed.

1393
01:25:33,300 --> 01:25:36,120
So to get to do it now, it's, it's incredible.

1394
01:25:36,260 --> 01:25:36,720
It's better.

1395
01:25:36,840 --> 01:25:38,100
It's better than I even expected.

1396
01:25:38,740 --> 01:25:46,300
It is also, I think that the thing that has surprised the two biggest surprises are number one.

1397
01:25:46,700 --> 01:25:49,420
I always thought I was a pretty hard worker.

1398
01:25:50,160 --> 01:25:51,700
I was pretty motivated.

1399
01:25:51,960 --> 01:25:52,460
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1400
01:25:52,540 --> 01:25:53,700
You accomplished a lot.

1401
01:25:53,740 --> 01:25:55,080
And I've accomplished a lot.

1402
01:25:55,080 --> 01:25:58,760
I work harder now for, for her.

1403
01:25:59,100 --> 01:26:04,000
And just in general, just, I, I, I unlocked a whole new level.

1404
01:26:04,420 --> 01:26:05,040
You're working with a purpose.

1405
01:26:05,360 --> 01:26:11,740
I, I have a, I have a purpose that now I work way harder than I have ever worked even as a younger man.

1406
01:26:12,320 --> 01:26:22,960
Um, and so that's been a big, like, wow, I wouldn't have, I wouldn't have suspected that I didn't think I had more bandwidth to do that.

1407
01:26:23,630 --> 01:26:51,480
And it also is, I think it's also the other thing that's been surprising is how difficult it is when, with a relationship that, that works really well between two people, but then you have this third person that is equally important and needs a lot more and needs more.

1408
01:26:51,480 --> 01:27:09,500
And you both have instincts of how, what should happen and coming to communicating and coming to consensus and understanding, um, and making decisions together about what to do and how to move forward.

1409
01:27:09,900 --> 01:27:19,620
And, and, uh, that's more, more difficult than I thought it was going to be challenging, but it's been more difficult and good in many ways.

1410
01:27:19,620 --> 01:27:25,760
I think I've come to understand, I've come to understand Kelly on a much deeper level.

1411
01:27:26,180 --> 01:27:31,400
I wish I could say the same for, for her understanding me, but I'm pretty simple.

1412
01:27:31,560 --> 01:27:38,300
Like I tell her all the time, like there's no subtext, like I'm me and I think she understands me really well.

1413
01:27:38,620 --> 01:27:48,740
Um, but I, I think I've grown to understand her better and, and we've talked a lot about our own childhoods and, and all those things that you carry into being a parent.

1414
01:27:48,740 --> 01:27:50,560
So, but that's it.

1415
01:27:50,580 --> 01:27:54,300
But it has, the short answer to your question is it's way better.

1416
01:27:54,660 --> 01:27:57,220
I thought it was going to be great and it's way better.

1417
01:27:57,780 --> 01:28:20,080
Exceeded, exceeded all your, there's, there's nothing like watching this little person come into being and, and, and learning and figuring like she's so curious and she's figuring things out and, and you can see kind of the talents taking shape and what she's interested in and what she's going to be good at.

1418
01:28:20,800 --> 01:28:24,480
And it's, it's really, really a lot, it's a lot of fun.

1419
01:28:24,840 --> 01:28:31,940
I, I've said this before and, uh, I don't know if I can clearly explain what I'm saying, articulate what I feel.

1420
01:28:32,300 --> 01:28:39,640
I remember seeing both of my children and five seconds before I saw them, I had no idea who they were.

1421
01:28:40,040 --> 01:28:42,900
And the minute I saw them, I knew exactly who they were.

1422
01:28:42,960 --> 01:28:45,000
They were always in my, my vision.

1423
01:28:45,120 --> 01:28:46,260
They were always in my mind.

1424
01:28:47,000 --> 01:28:48,780
It's the craziest thing that I experienced.

1425
01:28:48,920 --> 01:28:50,700
I don't know if that's just me.

1426
01:28:51,600 --> 01:28:57,840
It felt like, you know, five minutes before the baby was introduced to us, I had no idea how it would look.

1427
01:28:57,920 --> 01:28:59,240
I had no idea what the sex was.

1428
01:28:59,280 --> 01:29:00,200
I had no idea about anything.

1429
01:29:00,580 --> 01:29:04,180
And the minute I put my eyes, it felt like I've seen this child.

1430
01:29:04,380 --> 01:29:05,200
This is my child.

1431
01:29:05,840 --> 01:29:09,300
He's always been, or she's always been in my life in my case, two boys.

1432
01:29:09,700 --> 01:29:15,300
And it's just something I can't explain how it, but it just felt like, oh, okay.

1433
01:29:15,300 --> 01:29:16,540
I remember you.

1434
01:29:16,680 --> 01:29:17,240
There you are.

1435
01:29:17,380 --> 01:29:18,060
Yeah, there you are.

1436
01:29:18,220 --> 01:29:18,780
It's crazy.

1437
01:29:19,080 --> 01:29:19,400
Yeah.

1438
01:29:19,520 --> 01:29:24,300
And that's, I think that's the miracle of what we're going with, what, what this is.

1439
01:29:24,340 --> 01:29:24,660
Yeah.

1440
01:29:24,700 --> 01:29:26,000
It's, it's more than, yeah, yeah.

1441
01:29:26,000 --> 01:29:30,440
We're animals and we have children and that's, you're discovering, discovering someone, you know?

1442
01:29:30,760 --> 01:29:31,120
Yes.

1443
01:29:31,320 --> 01:29:32,720
It felt like, like, oh, I know.

1444
01:29:32,900 --> 01:29:34,160
Oh, you were supposed to be here.

1445
01:29:34,360 --> 01:29:34,540
Yeah.

1446
01:29:34,640 --> 01:29:35,760
Oh, I remembered.

1447
01:29:36,100 --> 01:29:39,060
So I don't know if I can explain it right, but that's how I felt.

1448
01:29:39,220 --> 01:29:40,100
It's, it's interesting.

1449
01:29:40,100 --> 01:29:59,640
Just today, uh, Carrie was saying my, one of my, my cousins, um, my was talking about the baby and said, boy, if she's half as much fun as aunt Paul, which is her, my mother, um, if she's half as much fun as aunt Paul, it'll be wonderful.

1450
01:29:59,740 --> 01:30:02,400
And I thought, what a nice, what a wonderful thing to say.

1451
01:30:02,640 --> 01:30:02,880
Yeah.

1452
01:30:02,940 --> 01:30:06,000
The idea that she would like, I, I hope I see those things.

1453
01:30:06,000 --> 01:30:15,800
I think I do see, I do see parts of my, me and Kelly, but to see that kind of some, some of my mother's qualities or just cause we miss them.

1454
01:30:15,900 --> 01:30:16,420
Oh yeah.

1455
01:30:16,940 --> 01:30:19,700
I mean, you've been a while now without your mom.

1456
01:30:19,940 --> 01:30:20,040
Yeah.

1457
01:30:20,140 --> 01:30:25,000
And yeah, in just a short time, I, I miss that person.

1458
01:30:25,120 --> 01:30:25,460
Sure.

1459
01:30:25,600 --> 01:30:33,700
And when you can see a little glimmer of it, glimmer in your children or wherever you see it, it's just a, it fills your heart.

1460
01:30:33,980 --> 01:30:34,220
Yep.

1461
01:30:34,220 --> 01:30:36,920
No, I saw, I'm looking for, but that was such a nice thing to hear.

1462
01:30:37,040 --> 01:30:39,320
I thought, yeah, boy, wouldn't, wouldn't that be a wonderful thing.

1463
01:30:39,520 --> 01:30:39,760
Right.

1464
01:30:40,380 --> 01:30:46,600
So it's been, it's great, but, uh, we look, we covered, uh, we covered a lot of ground.

1465
01:30:46,740 --> 01:30:50,600
This has been a really fun, uh, experience.

1466
01:30:50,920 --> 01:30:52,340
Some of the challenges we've had.

1467
01:30:52,680 --> 01:30:53,000
Yeah.

1468
01:30:53,000 --> 01:30:53,540
I'm glad.

1469
01:30:53,580 --> 01:30:56,380
And I want to, I want to keep, I want to keep doing it.

1470
01:30:56,560 --> 01:30:58,340
We achieved some stuff.

1471
01:30:59,920 --> 01:31:03,700
We've achieved some stuff from, from going from the days of just audio.

1472
01:31:03,700 --> 01:31:04,220
Yeah.

1473
01:31:04,260 --> 01:31:07,600
And we, you know, we've been recognized here and there, uh, through the podcast.

1474
01:31:07,600 --> 01:31:07,960
That's true.

1475
01:31:07,980 --> 01:31:13,960
We haven't really talked about that, but yeah, we have a, we got a badge of, uh, from a pod ranker.

1476
01:31:13,960 --> 01:31:15,960
We're in the top 25.

1477
01:31:16,060 --> 01:31:16,180
Yeah.

1478
01:31:16,200 --> 01:31:17,040
We're number 23.

1479
01:31:17,140 --> 01:31:17,540
Dad podcast.

1480
01:31:18,320 --> 01:31:25,800
We're also ranked now, uh, for some reason or another in, on the top 100 parenting podcasts in the UK.

1481
01:31:26,220 --> 01:31:26,520
Really?

1482
01:31:26,680 --> 01:31:31,700
The United States, not yet, but for some reason, great Britain loves us.

1483
01:31:31,740 --> 01:31:32,280
They love us.

1484
01:31:32,280 --> 01:31:37,180
Cause the parenting space is pretty, the parenting space is pretty competitive.

1485
01:31:37,520 --> 01:31:37,620
Yeah.

1486
01:31:37,740 --> 01:31:43,880
So that's, I mean, we should be very proud of what we started and idea and, uh, you know, who knows what season two will bring.

1487
01:31:44,240 --> 01:31:48,540
It'll, it's going to bring lots of, lots of fun, uh, lots of fun.

1488
01:31:48,540 --> 01:31:54,580
And, and we hope you, you continue to indulge us and listen to, listen to all the baby Josie stories.

1489
01:31:54,580 --> 01:31:59,880
And we really sincerely appreciate you guys spending time with us.

1490
01:32:00,560 --> 01:32:01,320
Thank you.

1491
01:32:01,320 --> 01:32:02,360
Thank you very much.

1492
01:32:03,080 --> 01:32:06,020
Uh, we'll, we'll see you in season two.

1493
01:32:07,060 --> 01:32:11,320
Well, folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

1494
01:32:11,820 --> 01:32:14,260
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1495
01:32:14,560 --> 01:32:15,460
We hope it was fun.

1496
01:32:15,940 --> 01:32:22,580
If you enjoyed this week's descent into the madness of dadness, be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any of our future adventures.

1497
01:32:23,200 --> 01:32:31,180
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1498
01:32:32,140 --> 01:32:44,060
Have any hilarious parenting stories of your own questions about navigating fatherhood later in life, or even when normal people do it, email us at g h d c.podcast at gmail.com.

1499
01:32:44,120 --> 01:32:45,320
We'd love to hear from you.

1500
01:32:45,760 --> 01:32:47,500
And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going.