The Final Countdown : Episode 20

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When I volunteered originally, I basically was like, whatever mass, whatever job, just put me wherever.

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But now I kept it to just 10 o'clock and the assignments came out for April and I'm reader one on Easter Sunday.

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So you have to come for Easter.

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And because what I immediately, I saw it because reader one, when they do that, you're already up there.

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So you do the opening announcements and you do the first reading.

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So in the opening announcements, there's a whole blurb about, oh, you know, you know, please make a note of access.

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Children must be escorted to the restroom.

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So I looked at Kelly and I'm like, so you think father would be mad if I said children must be escorted to the restroom, including my daughter, who's five weeks old and here for the first time.

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Give it up for baby Josie.

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And she's like, don't do that.

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This is the gray hair and daycare podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ, right?

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In that same range, your hosts, Frank Cereo and Carlo Russo.

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And here we are again, strangely enough, wearing the same shirts as the last episode.

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We are back over seven days.

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He got away from me and I'm never letting him leave again.

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He's locked in.

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So here we are.

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It is episode 20.

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We've made it to 20 and this episode is going to be a little different because we're going to cover, I want to catch you guys up closer to real time.

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So we're going to talk about week 37 and week 38.

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So you get to produce updates this time.

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So the last time I think it was a Swiss charred, Swiss charred.

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We're hopefully between last week and this week, someone has explained to us what that is.

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Phil, Phil, we're looking at you week 37.

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She is the size of a leak.

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Didn't we have that?

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I thought it was way before.

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So maybe a giant leak.

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We're not sure.

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And, but now the, the last update was that her lungs and brain were still developing.

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Now a week later, fully, fully developed.

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That's it.

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So she's got a, she's got a good set of lungs and she has a fully developed brain.

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Love it.

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And week 37, moving into week 38.

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Now she is full term and these, these produce things.

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She's full term now.

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A one week later, she was a leak in 37 horse pumpkin.

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Jesus.

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No wonder Kelly is having a hard time getting around.

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She's a pumpkin now.

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So we know it's a week 38 full term.

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She's the size of a pumpkin.

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That can't be right.

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I think people, whoever writes these, there's like, Oh, it's a pumpkin.

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That's it.

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Halloween pumpkin.

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I don't know.

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There has to be a little, there's a little pumpkin.

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There has to be a little squash.

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Maybe it's like a baking pumpkin.

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They're smaller.

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Thank you.

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It's a baking pumpkin.

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We're going to add value that way.

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So the update this time is the Lenugo.

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It's like the new Buick.

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The Lenugo, which is the fine downy hair that we have said in the past is already gone.

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It's now gone.

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So the, and the other update is her lungs are producing surficant, surficant, surf.

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Oh, I'm sorry.

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Surfactant, surfactant.

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We were going to go, we were going to get called.

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That would be immediately corrected.

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So this is a something that will help her breathe when she is born.

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Gotcha.

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And her nails have now reached the end of the end of her little toes.

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So she has a full set of nails going on and that's, it's a week 38 full term.

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We've got a full little baby there.

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It's yep.

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She's like a real, she's like a real thing.

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Nails and brain.

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Yeah.

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Brain and surfactant.

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This reminds me of these, these words that come up and I have to look up how they're pronounced.

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And then it reminds me of the beginning of my relationship with Kelly because we would be texting back and forth and she would use words that I would have to look up and be like, what did she just say?

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Let me tell you, I make up words cause I don't know enough of words and Trina will just sit there and go, what did you just say?

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No, repeat it.

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And I know the minute I hear that, I'm like, Oh, what did I just say?

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What did I make up?

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You always have, you can fall back on, this is my second language, right?

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You can say that.

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Hey, I'm illiterate in two languages.

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Thank you.

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What is your, what is your excuse?

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That's it.

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That's funny.

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I do say that, but I don't think that's true, but that's, I do have an out on that one.

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It works.

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It works.

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Yep.

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So anyway, so we are, you know, week 37 and 38, we'll talk about that stuff.

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We're going from a leak to a pumpkin.

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Yes.

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Pumpkin fully full term, ready to go.

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Awesome.

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Which is very, very exciting.

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It's getting very exciting.

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So then we're going to do something now that we have not done.

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This is a segment that we have not done for six weeks.

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Oh God.

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It's been a while.

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And what am I dressing up?

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It is.

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We've done that.

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I know we were going to go into check, please.

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So check, please.

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As, as you know, we're, I'm deciding to keep an itemized list of all the things we are spending money on related to the baby.

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Now I have to say this total, I'm to give you a clue.

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I'm going over, dude, I'm just, I'm going to, I'm going to modulate your expectations a little bit.

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So here's what it is.

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So last time, six weeks ago, it was $3,077.17. Yes.

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So, and that would have been week 30 or no, we 32.

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So, and there had been some big purchases.

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Now in six weeks, I'm going to say this didn't change as much as I thought it had, but it's because very frankly of something to be extremely grateful for, which is the just amazing generosity that we have benefited from.

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People have been so like with, between the showers and other just gifts and people giving us stuff that their kids are aging out of.

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We have had, had to do very little compared to what I thought this bill was going to be by now.

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It's not, it's not as much, but it's always fun to have you guess and be wrong.

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So, so here we are.

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And six weeks ago, the total was $3,077.17. Okay.

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Putting that, everything you just said, then you can ask a few questions if you want to see what's in there.

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I'm going to ask questions.

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I'm assuming the coffee machine is not part of the money cost.

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I'll do it in my head.

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If you think that it's fair to bill my child for the coffee machine.

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Yes, but no, I did not include that.

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Okay.

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So I will, I will not put it in there.

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That's not in there.

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Okay.

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You have a three shower lady.

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She took, she had three showers.

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So you got a lot of stuff.

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Yes.

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And like you said, a lot of people have given you stuff.

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I'm going to go and I'm going to be totally wrong because I'm horrible at this game.

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I'm going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm going to even it up, make it easy.

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$5,000.

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Okay.

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Two grand more, two grand more, which is horrible, which is not, it's going to be like, it's going to be like seven thousand, but no, it's not.

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It's actually, it's a lot less than I thought it was going to be.

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So over the last six weeks, it's only gone up barely $500.

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I'm telling you because so many people, I'm not counting any of the gift stuff.

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So, so many people have been so generous.

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Huh?

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You did good.

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Oh, it's been to me.

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I really, this number should be huge.

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Yeah, no, this is, we're at 3503 43.

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Good for you.

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And basically the difference between last time and this time was we've talked about the cradle wise, the crib, we put that in there.

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Cradle wise, of course has proprietary beddings.

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You have to buy it special for them, but they have been on backorder or something.

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So Kelly was concerned that we wouldn't, we'd only have like one set.

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So she ordered stuff from cradle wise and ordered some from Amazon.

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Gotcha.

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So some of it was that.

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And then the other thing that was in there, that was the significant part of this, a little bit more significant at one point or another, we, you know, we're like, what happens a lot to me is I wake up, we get up early, but I usually wake up maybe 30 minutes before the alarm.

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I just wake up before the alarm typically.

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And I'll then think, I'll think like, that's my type.

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I just sit there and think about stuff.

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And I was thinking, and I'm thinking about, you know, how this is going to change with the baby and what we have set up.

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So we've got the cradle wise, we have the crib, we have a changing table and you know, that stuff.

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So we've got the rocker set up for nursing and all that stuff.

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We have the, the, my best friend nursing pillow.

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So we have all this stuff, but really that's pretty much it.

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And I'm thinking, where do we put the baby when you just have to set the baby down?

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Right?

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Like, like I'm, we're not, you can't just like put her in a chair, put her on the couch or just flop over.

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And I'm like, you know, don't they make little seats and, you know, bouncers.

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Yeah.

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The stuff like that.

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And I ask, so I asked my lovely wife, I'm like, shouldn't we have some where to put that?

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And she's like, well, no, you know, she's going to be, they sleep and they eat.

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She'll be in the crib where we'll be holding her.

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And I'm like all the time.

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And I'm like, it doesn't seem like we should have something.

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So they can get their neck strong enough.

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So you're not putting them in a floppy baby.

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Right.

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But I'm like, we should have something.

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Shouldn't we have something else?

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And then she brought up the carrier that you try it out.

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I'm like, but all the time, like, until they're 60.

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And I'm like, this sounds like not, this doesn't sound right.

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So I started asking, I'm like, we should get something.

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So I started doing research and there's these, and of course she knows about the products.

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I'm like, aren't there little seats?

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And she's like, well, yeah, there's a baby Bjorn and there's this and that.

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And I'm like, okay.

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So I look up and I do some research.

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I asked a couple of my, one of my employees is a mom.

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I'm like, shouldn't we have, she's like, absolutely get a swing, get this, get that.

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And so I'm like, okay.

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So I did some research and there were a couple of different options.

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And the baby Bjorn is the product, which is a tennis player, baby Bjorn Borg.

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Okay.

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Well, very good.

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But the baby Bjorn is, it's very nicely engineered, cute.

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It's kind of like spring loaded.

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Okay.

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So the, the baby's movement makes the bit, makes it bounce.

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Okay.

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So it kind of gets, so they can kind of soothe themselves.

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But basically it looks to me like if you pull back on it, it's like a baby catapult, right?

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I know exactly.

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I own that.

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Okay.

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We did.

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Okay.

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And you can place it on a tabletop.

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Right.

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You can put it wherever.

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And it's very, it will be your best friend.

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It's beautifully engineered folds flat.

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You can, you can set it up at three different levels and you can adjust it all with one hand.

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So they know what they're doing.

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It's very well engineered.

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It's come up to date now, but that was one, I don't know how we're going to have you test it, but I will.

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So that was the big, uh, that was the big purchase really that drove that.

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It's great that your mind went to, we can't hold this baby all the time.

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I need to drink and eat, write something.

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It can't be always one of us.

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It's like, that's why I just, my head goes immediately to the future, like a 14 year old baby Josie saying, and they never put me down.

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So I didn't want to go to school while you're still holding her.

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Like you said that.

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Well, that's why it's so important to have as many family members because you just, yeah, I have to, the cool thing is you'll see yourselves eating in shifts.

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Yup.

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Yeah.

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You'll, you'll do that.

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Your turn to eat now.

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I'll hold two, two, two faster.

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Yeah.

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That's a good thing.

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That was it.

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So yeah.

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So that was my big contribution to the supplies.

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So $500.

239
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So when we went up about 500 bucks, the bedding, the bedding and that stuff.

240
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And that was about it.

241
00:13:39,430 --> 00:13:43,730
But yeah, honestly, like this number is not what I thought.

242
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Cause really when you think about it, almost half of that is just the cradle, just the crib.

243
00:13:50,870 --> 00:13:54,130
So yeah, we really, uh, everybody was super generous.

244
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Yeah.

245
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We didn't have to get a lot of the big stuff.

246
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We didn't have to do it again.

247
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Everything disappears with the registry.

248
00:14:01,770 --> 00:14:12,950
My brother, he's been traveling, going back and forth and his, his wife reached out to Kelly and she's like, well, we were going to get you a shower present and there's nothing on the registry.

249
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There was nothing left.

250
00:14:14,490 --> 00:14:17,530
So he's like, well, what do I, what do I tell them?

251
00:14:17,570 --> 00:14:20,270
I'm like, put that $400 stroller on there.

252
00:14:20,650 --> 00:14:21,010
Yeah.

253
00:14:21,790 --> 00:14:25,610
So, uh, and so, and very generously, uh, they, they took care of that.

254
00:14:25,610 --> 00:14:27,470
Well you knew plow for the Jeep.

255
00:14:27,970 --> 00:14:28,070
Yeah.

256
00:14:28,210 --> 00:14:33,650
I would like a new full size pickup with a, with an eight and a half foot plow blade.

257
00:14:34,050 --> 00:14:36,130
So they picked up the last thing that you guys.

258
00:14:36,230 --> 00:14:36,730
That's yeah.

259
00:14:36,850 --> 00:14:38,750
So right now the car has the seat in it, right?

260
00:14:39,270 --> 00:14:45,910
It has the base cause we got the, yeah, well it's, so my, my car is going to become her car.

261
00:14:46,070 --> 00:14:46,470
Right.

262
00:14:46,670 --> 00:14:49,270
Well lately, like for the last couple of weeks, it's interesting.

263
00:14:49,850 --> 00:14:52,350
I've, I've been bringing her to work and picking her up.

264
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So I'm now used to her commute going back and forth.

265
00:14:56,290 --> 00:14:59,750
But yeah, today actually will be her last day of work.

266
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Um, she, she'll be finishing up and, and then ready for baby Josie.

267
00:15:05,590 --> 00:15:05,710
Wow.

268
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But yeah.

269
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Awesome.

270
00:15:06,870 --> 00:15:09,830
So yeah, so that's where we are, but that was check please.

271
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And the next one, like, so now I'm assuming, cause it's, it seems like we have enough clothes actually told like she's three.

272
00:15:19,450 --> 00:15:19,550
Yeah.

273
00:15:19,750 --> 00:15:26,330
So we'll see what we actually, the rest is just going to be diapers, I guess, as that client, but people gave us that stuff too.

274
00:15:26,430 --> 00:15:28,130
It's really a diaper cake will cook.

275
00:15:28,190 --> 00:15:30,210
We'll be that cut into, there you go.

276
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It's still, it's still in town.

277
00:15:31,670 --> 00:15:31,910
Oh yeah.

278
00:15:31,990 --> 00:15:44,210
It's, it's sitting, we, I, we have that in our, in our spare bedroom with, so it's like the, the diaper tower and then all the baby books on one side and games and toys.

279
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It's looks, yeah, it's cute.

280
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So yeah, so we got that.

281
00:15:47,370 --> 00:15:53,110
So, but now we are going to move on to what just happened.

282
00:15:55,090 --> 00:15:59,090
So again, we're going to kind of cover week 37 and week 38.

283
00:15:59,450 --> 00:15:59,830
Let's do it.

284
00:15:59,910 --> 00:16:02,130
So we did week 36 in the last episode.

285
00:16:02,210 --> 00:16:11,230
And if you recall, basically my hero neighbor across the street, Chris came over and cleared, cleared out the driveway.

286
00:16:12,010 --> 00:16:16,890
It just in time for us to go to this doctor's appointment.

287
00:16:17,410 --> 00:16:25,610
So the way this practice has worked, which I'm really not a super fan of is, and I'm sure a lot of, a lot of practices are like this.

288
00:16:26,170 --> 00:16:28,110
Every time we go, we see somebody different.

289
00:16:28,630 --> 00:16:29,070
Yeah.

290
00:16:29,170 --> 00:16:34,610
We've only seen out of all the times we've gone, we've only seen one doctor twice.

291
00:16:35,290 --> 00:16:35,390
Okay.

292
00:16:35,530 --> 00:16:37,370
Everybody else has been a one and done.

293
00:16:37,630 --> 00:16:46,970
So this time when we went in week 37, we get this finally a doctor that I really liked.

294
00:16:47,030 --> 00:16:53,150
And it's funny because she's probably Indian and, but her name was Cavetti.

295
00:16:54,090 --> 00:16:56,110
And I'm like, well, she married an Italian.

296
00:16:57,230 --> 00:17:03,710
So Kelly Kelly's father is immigrated from India.

297
00:17:03,970 --> 00:17:04,810
Mom's Polish.

298
00:17:05,069 --> 00:17:08,650
So there was a little, there's a little connection there.

299
00:17:08,730 --> 00:17:10,329
And then I'm thinking Cavetti, come on.

300
00:17:10,730 --> 00:17:14,829
So I already like her, but she was, she was really, she was nice.

301
00:17:15,250 --> 00:17:16,010
She talked to us.

302
00:17:16,050 --> 00:17:17,089
She answered our questions.

303
00:17:17,490 --> 00:17:21,190
She shared experiences and it was good.

304
00:17:21,250 --> 00:17:22,849
And basically it was all good.

305
00:17:23,050 --> 00:17:24,589
We did another fetal stress test.

306
00:17:24,670 --> 00:17:25,670
That was fine.

307
00:17:25,790 --> 00:17:32,270
Again, she looked at everything and look back to the stuff with the couple of high blood pressure readings yet.

308
00:17:32,490 --> 00:17:42,590
And it was like, look, we would only be worried if you were seeing consistent high blood pressure readings, consistent high blood sugar readings, and you don't have those.

309
00:17:42,710 --> 00:17:44,050
So you're in good shape.

310
00:17:44,070 --> 00:17:52,990
And basically said at that point, again, now, so we're in week 37, everybody all along has been saying week 37, week 39, they're going to induce.

311
00:17:53,370 --> 00:17:54,830
So we're thinking we're going to find out something.

312
00:17:54,950 --> 00:17:57,670
She says, well, no, you know, look, you're going to come back next week.

313
00:17:57,810 --> 00:17:59,290
We're going to do the tests again.

314
00:17:59,690 --> 00:18:05,290
And at that point, if everything is still tracking good, we'll probably schedule you for week sometime in week 39.

315
00:18:06,090 --> 00:18:09,170
And if anything changes, then we might move it sooner.

316
00:18:09,450 --> 00:18:09,730
Okay.

317
00:18:10,070 --> 00:18:11,010
So we're like, okay.

318
00:18:11,330 --> 00:18:18,290
And immediately she leaves, you know, so, so she leaves and we're going to, I'm like, I like her and Kelly saying, she's like, yeah, she was really nice.

319
00:18:18,430 --> 00:18:21,570
This is much more what I would expect.

320
00:18:22,230 --> 00:18:24,350
We should see if she can be the one to deliver.

321
00:18:24,750 --> 00:18:26,810
Like we really, you can do that really.

322
00:18:26,930 --> 00:18:28,870
I don't, at the time we weren't sure.

323
00:18:28,990 --> 00:18:29,270
Okay.

324
00:18:29,290 --> 00:18:31,190
We both really, we both really liked her.

325
00:18:31,250 --> 00:18:31,670
She was great.

326
00:18:31,770 --> 00:18:32,630
You're in a good place with her.

327
00:18:32,710 --> 00:18:32,970
Yeah.

328
00:18:33,070 --> 00:18:34,070
I felt good about it.

329
00:18:34,090 --> 00:18:34,470
I'm like, yeah.

330
00:18:34,910 --> 00:18:41,070
And Cavetti, she must marry an Italian Kelly's like, no, it's with a K committee.

331
00:18:41,410 --> 00:18:42,230
She's she's Indian.

332
00:18:42,230 --> 00:18:44,650
I'm like, okay.

333
00:18:45,970 --> 00:18:46,410
Okay.

334
00:18:46,950 --> 00:18:49,150
So I thought that was kind of funny.

335
00:18:49,310 --> 00:18:53,310
So she was, so we get, yeah, that's it.

336
00:18:53,330 --> 00:18:55,230
She's from Venice.

337
00:18:55,330 --> 00:18:57,590
A lot of Indians in Venice.

338
00:18:58,050 --> 00:18:58,230
Yeah.

339
00:18:58,250 --> 00:18:59,770
So we did basically, we did that.

340
00:18:59,870 --> 00:19:05,990
And then really the kind of the rest of that week was just staying to kind of work stuff.

341
00:19:05,990 --> 00:19:12,350
Cause I'm planning on taking a little bit of time off and Kelly has a lot of time that she's going to take.

342
00:19:12,530 --> 00:19:16,430
So she's, we're both kind of working to finalize as much of that.

343
00:19:16,450 --> 00:19:16,590
Yeah.

344
00:19:16,650 --> 00:19:17,810
We've got a couple of weeks left.

345
00:19:17,910 --> 00:19:21,650
We want to be able to get that all put to bed so we don't have to worry.

346
00:19:22,090 --> 00:19:24,530
So we're focusing on really that.

347
00:19:24,590 --> 00:19:31,430
And then for me continuing to keep up on the snow, cause it was still snowing into that week.

348
00:19:31,430 --> 00:19:36,510
So this would have been like the second week you were gone again, left, left us here.

349
00:19:36,610 --> 00:19:38,010
I will never leave the snow.

350
00:19:38,150 --> 00:19:40,550
You can never, never leave us again.

351
00:19:40,630 --> 00:19:41,150
That's right.

352
00:19:41,250 --> 00:19:41,450
Yeah.

353
00:19:41,450 --> 00:19:42,030
That's right.

354
00:19:42,330 --> 00:19:43,230
When's that?

355
00:19:43,390 --> 00:19:43,930
You're five.

356
00:19:44,170 --> 00:19:44,990
It's in July.

357
00:19:45,090 --> 00:19:47,090
You're going to be swimming with a baby.

358
00:19:47,350 --> 00:19:47,530
That's right.

359
00:19:47,650 --> 00:19:47,930
Yeah.

360
00:19:48,050 --> 00:19:48,410
Okay.

361
00:19:48,490 --> 00:19:49,230
Hopefully by then.

362
00:19:49,530 --> 00:19:58,730
So basically through that, then we're coming up, we're coming to the weekend and had got a visit from a friend, Kate.

363
00:19:59,030 --> 00:20:03,650
She was not able to make it to either of the showers.

364
00:20:04,050 --> 00:20:04,970
This, this friend of yours.

365
00:20:05,030 --> 00:20:05,250
Yeah.

366
00:20:05,250 --> 00:20:10,090
So she came and again, very generous, a bunch of gifts.

367
00:20:10,270 --> 00:20:26,110
And then her, her daughter is, I think coming up on three that in that range and bring, give, gave us literally a tote full of stuff of all, all these cute clothes and stuff like that.

368
00:20:26,150 --> 00:20:36,290
So again, even more than it really is, it's just parents love when other people have babies because it clears their house.

369
00:20:36,390 --> 00:20:37,770
That probably is true.

370
00:20:37,830 --> 00:20:43,870
I can see that because I'm thinking about it now, would not, you know, like, Oh my God, somebody could use this.

371
00:20:44,110 --> 00:20:46,890
I don't have to throw it away or what a solid or whatever.

372
00:20:47,130 --> 00:20:52,870
And it's such a good thing when we did it a couple of times and had done it to us as well when we had ours.

373
00:20:53,090 --> 00:20:56,750
But parents love that when they hear a friend or a family member is pregnant.

374
00:20:57,070 --> 00:20:57,930
Oh yeah.

375
00:20:57,990 --> 00:21:01,530
I have a perfect truckload of stuff to give you.

376
00:21:02,010 --> 00:21:03,070
So there's been a lot of that.

377
00:21:03,890 --> 00:21:06,710
And funnily, funnily enough, we were talking about the baby Bjorn.

378
00:21:07,090 --> 00:21:10,570
One of the things she brings us is kind of a different version of that.

379
00:21:10,750 --> 00:21:12,610
It's not a baby Bjorn, but it's the same idea.

380
00:21:12,950 --> 00:21:14,310
So we got another one of those.

381
00:21:14,770 --> 00:21:15,970
So we get all that stuff.

382
00:21:16,150 --> 00:21:21,950
So she came to visit, I think on Saturday and then, yeah, so we went to mass 515 mass.

383
00:21:22,050 --> 00:21:23,510
I had, I got to read again.

384
00:21:23,510 --> 00:21:24,770
So it was a full day on Saturday.

385
00:21:24,930 --> 00:21:30,530
And then Sunday, one of Kelly's friends who's a former coworker stopped over.

386
00:21:30,950 --> 00:21:38,830
She has like a three month old, four month old who had just, who's just discovered the joys of raspberries.

387
00:21:39,050 --> 00:21:41,530
Like he was having a fun time with that.

388
00:21:41,930 --> 00:21:47,070
So she came, she came to visit with the baby.

389
00:21:47,510 --> 00:21:52,590
I came down here and I did some editing and they got to visit, which was nice.

390
00:21:53,330 --> 00:21:54,910
But again, brought a bunch of stuff.

391
00:21:55,290 --> 00:21:56,870
How, so there's a baby in the house.

392
00:21:57,110 --> 00:21:57,290
Yeah.

393
00:21:57,790 --> 00:21:58,630
How are the dogs?

394
00:21:59,090 --> 00:22:01,090
The dogs were very interested.

395
00:22:01,310 --> 00:22:01,570
Okay.

396
00:22:02,410 --> 00:22:04,530
But they're interested in her.

397
00:22:04,530 --> 00:22:08,930
And then this little guy in a carrier, we had them on a leash, right?

398
00:22:09,050 --> 00:22:09,650
Cause you never know.

399
00:22:09,750 --> 00:22:13,770
So yeah, you know, but they were generally, I think, I think they're going to be okay.

400
00:22:13,870 --> 00:22:14,090
Cool.

401
00:22:14,190 --> 00:22:14,510
Yeah.

402
00:22:14,750 --> 00:22:20,050
So there was that, but basically like the whole weekend was kind of visiting and doing then.

403
00:22:20,250 --> 00:22:28,910
But then the part of the problem with, with all of this stuff that everybody has given us is Kelly's very organized.

404
00:22:29,050 --> 00:22:33,190
We have a limited amount of space, like with dressers and things like that.

405
00:22:33,470 --> 00:22:38,130
So as we get stuff, we're getting it all in waves, right?

406
00:22:38,130 --> 00:22:43,190
So she got all the stuff, all the clothes and everything that everybody gave us from the first shower.

407
00:22:43,190 --> 00:22:45,430
Cause you guys were loaded last time I walked in.

408
00:22:45,430 --> 00:22:52,570
She went through it all, categorized it, like broke all the clothes down by size and then organized it.

409
00:22:52,650 --> 00:22:55,970
So there was this drawer is these, this size is this door is this size.

410
00:22:56,030 --> 00:22:56,790
You know exactly where to go.

411
00:22:57,030 --> 00:23:00,250
But then more shows up from the second shower.

412
00:23:00,530 --> 00:23:04,550
So she's got to reorganize it again and expands into another drawer.

413
00:23:04,770 --> 00:23:10,310
And then the work shower happens and then so-and-so shows up with more and more.

414
00:23:10,630 --> 00:23:16,330
So now she's like reorganizing this stuff on Sunday for like the fifth time.

415
00:23:16,810 --> 00:23:22,110
And I can tell she's like, it's just, it's like, okay, it's a lot.

416
00:23:22,690 --> 00:23:24,770
And I think I'm trying to convince her.

417
00:23:24,890 --> 00:23:27,970
I know coming into this weekend, cause now we're coming down to the wire.

418
00:23:28,470 --> 00:23:29,590
I'm trying to convince her.

419
00:23:29,650 --> 00:23:30,310
I was talking to her last time.

420
00:23:30,370 --> 00:23:43,210
Like what we need to do is take a Sharpie and a garbage bag and say like three to six, throw it all in there and throw it somewhere and just use the space we have for the stuff we're going to use right now.

421
00:23:43,350 --> 00:23:47,650
Cause she's trying to sort it all out, but it's just, there's so much.

422
00:23:47,710 --> 00:23:55,110
I am not convinced that we will be able to wear all of this stuff once over the baby.

423
00:23:55,230 --> 00:23:58,110
I won't be able to wear any of it unless I do hand puppets.

424
00:23:58,630 --> 00:24:03,130
But the fact is she's going to grow up so quick.

425
00:24:03,310 --> 00:24:04,090
I don't know.

426
00:24:04,150 --> 00:24:06,130
Like we could have a different outfit every day.

427
00:24:06,810 --> 00:24:07,610
So yeah.

428
00:24:07,650 --> 00:24:15,370
So I'm not, I'm not sure, but I could tell she was getting a little stressed out with having to reorganize again, but you know, no more snowmageddon.

429
00:24:15,630 --> 00:24:18,250
It was a little more of a relaxing weekend.

430
00:24:18,430 --> 00:24:19,770
So let me ask you, sure.

431
00:24:20,130 --> 00:24:20,970
It's getting closer.

432
00:24:21,270 --> 00:24:21,670
Yes.

433
00:24:22,070 --> 00:24:29,510
You've been praying for this wishing, hoping for a long time, very long time to be a dad.

434
00:24:29,590 --> 00:24:29,910
Yeah.

435
00:24:30,050 --> 00:24:31,410
It's close brother.

436
00:24:31,730 --> 00:24:31,950
Yep.

437
00:24:32,270 --> 00:24:34,270
How are you feeling literally?

438
00:24:34,270 --> 00:24:42,390
Like when you wake up and you have that half hour before the alarm goes off in the last, what, what are you feeling?

439
00:24:42,510 --> 00:24:44,690
What, what's going through your mind right now?

440
00:24:44,790 --> 00:24:53,130
This has been, and I think what happened over the next couple of days, it speaks exactly to that.

441
00:24:53,230 --> 00:24:54,110
You're, you're right.

442
00:24:54,190 --> 00:24:56,850
You're right, right there with what's happening.

443
00:24:56,950 --> 00:24:58,870
So this is the weekend is what it is.

444
00:24:58,890 --> 00:25:02,510
So as we usually do, we've got a Monday morning doctor's appointment.

445
00:25:02,650 --> 00:25:02,830
Okay.

446
00:25:03,070 --> 00:25:05,370
So now it's week 38.

447
00:25:05,790 --> 00:25:06,270
Yes.

448
00:25:06,670 --> 00:25:08,670
They are, have been telling us forever.

449
00:25:09,290 --> 00:25:12,170
Week 39 is when they're going to induce.

450
00:25:12,350 --> 00:25:15,190
So we think they got to tell us something this time.

451
00:25:15,270 --> 00:25:15,650
Of course.

452
00:25:16,030 --> 00:25:28,170
And again, last week, as we, as we discussed, basically we had everything go well, we meet this great doctor and she says, look, if everything goes well, we'll schedule you in week 39.

453
00:25:28,470 --> 00:25:34,490
So we go in Monday morning and the first thing they do is the fetal non-stress test.

454
00:25:34,930 --> 00:25:36,590
Now we've done like four or five of these.

455
00:25:36,750 --> 00:25:38,590
We could walk in the room, boom, boom.

456
00:25:38,670 --> 00:25:40,230
They put the sensors on and we're sitting there.

457
00:25:40,510 --> 00:25:49,230
And to answer your question, I'm sitting there and feeling very honestly, just overwhelming joy.

458
00:25:49,870 --> 00:25:55,350
I'm so happy to the point where I'm almost tearing up watching this happen.

459
00:25:55,350 --> 00:25:56,810
I'm like everything.

460
00:25:56,950 --> 00:25:57,990
We've been so lucky.

461
00:25:58,430 --> 00:26:01,750
People have shown us unbelievable generosity.

462
00:26:02,210 --> 00:26:03,650
It's just, it's been wonderful.

463
00:26:03,830 --> 00:26:04,970
It's so close now.

464
00:26:05,050 --> 00:26:06,930
It's going to, it's going to happen.

465
00:26:08,050 --> 00:26:09,490
And I'm like, you know what?

466
00:26:09,610 --> 00:26:12,010
Everything's and things are, are moving well.

467
00:26:12,050 --> 00:26:14,010
Like the snow begins behind us.

468
00:26:14,350 --> 00:26:18,970
We've got, we have a nice landing pad set up for the baby.

469
00:26:18,970 --> 00:26:19,930
We're ready for it.

470
00:26:19,930 --> 00:26:24,210
We've got a few more things to do this week, but nothing Kelly's going to get done with her work.

471
00:26:24,350 --> 00:26:25,950
I'm going to wrap up my work this week.

472
00:26:26,110 --> 00:26:27,170
Next week it's here.

473
00:26:27,650 --> 00:26:28,150
Right.

474
00:26:28,850 --> 00:26:30,650
And it was awesome.

475
00:26:30,910 --> 00:26:32,050
They're, they're doing the test.

476
00:26:32,250 --> 00:26:36,490
I'm holding, holding Kelly's hand and telling her how I'm feeling.

477
00:26:36,630 --> 00:26:37,830
It's just, it was wonderful.

478
00:26:38,490 --> 00:26:47,270
And, and the interesting thing that happened, I've been watching this, these tests happen and I'm on the first few, I'm paying very close attention.

479
00:26:47,710 --> 00:26:51,310
And when they do this, it's almost like an EKG readout.

480
00:26:51,310 --> 00:27:00,590
It's on a computer and you can see the baby's heart rate and you can see a measurement of the contractions that Kelly might be experiencing.

481
00:27:00,950 --> 00:27:05,190
Now, up until now, the two graphs kind of moved together.

482
00:27:05,730 --> 00:27:05,830
Okay.

483
00:27:06,150 --> 00:27:17,030
So really what it looked like to me was, and you could hear it, little baby Josie would move, her heart rate would go up and it would come back down.

484
00:27:17,090 --> 00:27:24,930
And when she moved the, the graph would move for the contractions, but it really looked like it was more registering just movement of the baby.

485
00:27:25,910 --> 00:27:30,230
And, and I would ask, and, and Kelly would say, yeah, no, I'm not really feeling anything.

486
00:27:30,650 --> 00:27:34,510
So the girl comes in after, because they let this thing run for like 20 minutes.

487
00:27:34,590 --> 00:27:34,790
Okay.

488
00:27:34,930 --> 00:27:36,230
So the girl comes in and looks at it.

489
00:27:36,230 --> 00:27:38,290
She's like, Oh, the heart rate looks good.

490
00:27:38,330 --> 00:27:39,130
Everything looks great.

491
00:27:39,390 --> 00:27:41,030
How are those contractions feeling?

492
00:27:41,870 --> 00:27:47,490
And Kelly, and I'm like, Oh, and Kelly says, Oh, I'm not having any.

493
00:27:48,090 --> 00:27:51,230
And she says, and the girl looks at her and says, yes, you are.

494
00:27:51,390 --> 00:27:57,270
And she points at the graph and now, and I haven't really been paying close attention because I'm all love drunk with happiness.

495
00:27:58,010 --> 00:28:02,690
And I look and there are now they see spikes on that graph.

496
00:28:03,330 --> 00:28:05,770
And she's like, yeah, you're having to see that.

497
00:28:06,030 --> 00:28:06,890
That's a contraction.

498
00:28:07,170 --> 00:28:08,690
And that's a contraction.

499
00:28:09,090 --> 00:28:13,050
And Kelly's like, Oh, yeah.

500
00:28:14,250 --> 00:28:22,150
Now, again, for me, subsequent, I've had subsequent conversations since then with her and other female friends.

501
00:28:23,190 --> 00:28:32,090
And it's one of those things that for us, like for a guy, we think, well, you don't, you feel what's your problem for a woman.

502
00:28:32,850 --> 00:28:33,650
She's so used.

503
00:28:33,710 --> 00:28:40,050
So she's so used to probably serious menstrual cramps that she experiences.

504
00:28:40,210 --> 00:28:41,250
This is like, yeah, that's nothing.

505
00:28:41,330 --> 00:28:43,970
Our pains are totally different because we're such babies.

506
00:28:43,970 --> 00:28:44,610
Right.

507
00:28:45,710 --> 00:28:46,110
Exactly.

508
00:28:46,290 --> 00:28:47,210
So that's what it's all.

509
00:28:47,350 --> 00:28:48,110
I'm fascinated by them.

510
00:28:48,250 --> 00:28:50,850
Like, wow, if all contractions are like this for you, you're going to pop.

511
00:28:51,010 --> 00:28:52,050
It'll be like nothing.

512
00:28:52,190 --> 00:28:52,730
That's great.

513
00:28:52,810 --> 00:28:54,010
So I thought that was funny.

514
00:28:54,310 --> 00:29:00,690
But so we get done with that and they clean up, they clean her up and we go in and we're waiting for the doctor.

515
00:29:00,910 --> 00:29:02,830
But this time we don't get the doctor.

516
00:29:02,910 --> 00:29:03,850
We like last time.

517
00:29:04,150 --> 00:29:05,810
This time we get the doctor.

518
00:29:05,990 --> 00:29:11,350
This is now the first time we get the same doctor twice.

519
00:29:11,710 --> 00:29:13,550
So this is the second time we have this doctor.

520
00:29:13,650 --> 00:29:13,930
Gotcha.

521
00:29:13,990 --> 00:29:14,530
Nice enough.

522
00:29:14,750 --> 00:29:17,930
But she's been pretty perfunctory up until now.

523
00:29:18,090 --> 00:29:19,030
So she sits down.

524
00:29:19,130 --> 00:29:21,750
It's always like I'm holding, like I've got the Stanley cup.

525
00:29:21,830 --> 00:29:22,630
I've got her coat.

526
00:29:22,790 --> 00:29:23,210
I'm sitting.

527
00:29:23,410 --> 00:29:33,570
You're the guy when I used to go take my mom or my wife to go find a dress and I'm outside the dressing room with her purse and the coffee.

528
00:29:33,810 --> 00:29:35,430
That's like you're like at the mall.

529
00:29:35,510 --> 00:29:35,750
Yeah.

530
00:29:35,750 --> 00:29:36,930
I'm at the you're the mall there.

531
00:29:36,930 --> 00:29:37,170
Yeah.

532
00:29:37,550 --> 00:29:38,590
That's exactly it.

533
00:29:38,870 --> 00:29:39,750
So I'm just sitting there.

534
00:29:40,270 --> 00:29:41,030
You know, watch it.

535
00:29:41,170 --> 00:29:44,050
She's she's on the examination table and doctor.

536
00:29:44,190 --> 00:29:45,250
So how are you feeling?

537
00:29:45,650 --> 00:29:50,810
And it's I'm I'm chuckling because she looks at Kelly says, how are you feeling?

538
00:29:51,030 --> 00:29:53,810
And Kelly looks at me like I'm supposed to answer.

539
00:29:53,890 --> 00:29:54,790
Let me look at my lawyer.

540
00:29:56,110 --> 00:29:58,510
And I'm like, she feels great.

541
00:30:00,130 --> 00:30:01,630
She does it a couple of times.

542
00:30:01,670 --> 00:30:03,490
She's like, well, you know, it's been pretty good.

543
00:30:03,630 --> 00:30:05,750
I wonder why people do a lot of people do that.

544
00:30:05,790 --> 00:30:06,670
They turn to their partner.

545
00:30:06,790 --> 00:30:07,470
This was fascinating.

546
00:30:07,590 --> 00:30:10,470
And at one point I even say I'm like, I don't understand why you're looking at me.

547
00:30:10,570 --> 00:30:12,310
Am I supposed to do like color commentary?

548
00:30:12,310 --> 00:30:13,470
Like, what am I, John Madden?

549
00:30:13,710 --> 00:30:14,790
Like, I don't understand.

550
00:30:15,370 --> 00:30:17,050
So I'm okay.

551
00:30:17,570 --> 00:30:25,310
So and then the woman says, well, and this is where the looking to me stops.

552
00:30:25,770 --> 00:30:28,010
And this is where this is where it gets interesting.

553
00:30:28,350 --> 00:30:28,630
Now it stops.

554
00:30:28,910 --> 00:30:29,070
Okay.

555
00:30:29,090 --> 00:30:29,370
No, no.

556
00:30:29,490 --> 00:30:31,770
So she's like, she, she said, how are you feeling?

557
00:30:31,850 --> 00:30:32,990
And she does the look at me.

558
00:30:33,010 --> 00:30:35,090
And she says she's been feeling fine.

559
00:30:35,670 --> 00:30:37,630
The, the feel non-stress test was good.

560
00:30:37,710 --> 00:30:38,670
Her blood pressure was good.

561
00:30:38,790 --> 00:30:39,590
All, everything was good.

562
00:30:39,650 --> 00:30:43,010
So in my head, I'm expecting finally, let's set it up.

563
00:30:43,090 --> 00:30:44,250
We're going to set it up for next week.

564
00:30:44,470 --> 00:30:44,830
Absolutely.

565
00:30:45,150 --> 00:30:45,390
Right.

566
00:30:46,390 --> 00:30:47,510
Kelly's going to be done with work.

567
00:30:47,610 --> 00:30:48,190
This is Monday.

568
00:30:48,310 --> 00:30:49,670
Kelly's going to be doing with work Thursday.

569
00:30:49,770 --> 00:30:50,910
I'll be done with work Friday.

570
00:30:51,070 --> 00:30:52,010
This is perfect.

571
00:30:52,230 --> 00:30:53,090
We'll have a weekend.

572
00:30:53,510 --> 00:30:59,230
We've got actually Kelly's brother and his wife who have been unbelievably generous are coming.

573
00:31:00,050 --> 00:31:06,190
This are going to be coming on the weekend, bringing us food for when the baby comes like, you know, awesome.

574
00:31:06,390 --> 00:31:07,610
So I'm like, this is great.

575
00:31:07,990 --> 00:31:23,030
And the doctor says, well, because of your advanced maternal age and the, and the gestational diabetes and, and your other circumstances, we could have induced you anywhere between week 37 and week 39.

576
00:31:23,030 --> 00:31:28,330
So immediately I'm like, I have never heard anything about 37 or 38.

577
00:31:28,470 --> 00:31:30,570
All I've ever heard was 39, 39, 39.

578
00:31:31,050 --> 00:31:33,610
So she says that she says, you know, we could have done it.

579
00:31:33,610 --> 00:31:37,670
We could have done at any time between 37 and 39 and you're in week 38.

580
00:31:37,770 --> 00:31:38,490
So how about Friday?

581
00:31:40,750 --> 00:31:41,190
No.

582
00:31:41,690 --> 00:31:42,990
So she's, how about Friday?

583
00:31:43,630 --> 00:31:53,770
And now again, when the doctor asks how you're feeling, Kelly looks at me like I, like I should be contributing to this conversation.

584
00:31:54,490 --> 00:31:55,930
And this is the timing.

585
00:31:56,170 --> 00:32:00,010
Say it to me, say to me, the words, how about Friday?

586
00:32:00,330 --> 00:32:00,430
Okay.

587
00:32:01,070 --> 00:32:02,510
Uh, Frank, how about Friday?

588
00:32:02,970 --> 00:32:03,570
Okay, great.

589
00:32:04,010 --> 00:32:06,070
What was that?

590
00:32:06,430 --> 00:32:10,830
My wife, not a pause, not a hesitation.

591
00:32:11,150 --> 00:32:11,850
Oh, you were Kelly.

592
00:32:12,010 --> 00:32:12,250
Okay.

593
00:32:12,630 --> 00:32:13,770
Hey Kelly, how about Friday?

594
00:32:14,290 --> 00:32:14,870
Okay, great.

595
00:32:15,750 --> 00:32:16,230
Yeah.

596
00:32:16,230 --> 00:32:16,790
Not me.

597
00:32:17,130 --> 00:32:17,450
Her.

598
00:32:17,670 --> 00:32:19,350
Did she look in my direction?

599
00:32:19,510 --> 00:32:20,170
Not that time.

600
00:32:20,410 --> 00:32:27,110
Did she say, honey, my dear husband, who's been driving me back and forth to work every day since the snowstorm.

601
00:32:27,110 --> 00:32:28,870
Does she say, what do you think?

602
00:32:29,070 --> 00:32:29,290
Nope.

603
00:32:29,390 --> 00:32:29,930
Okay, great.

604
00:32:30,010 --> 00:32:32,890
She's like, get it out of me now.

605
00:32:32,990 --> 00:32:36,550
And I'm like, and that's, so it's completely incongruent.

606
00:32:36,970 --> 00:32:38,610
I'm like, what is happening?

607
00:32:39,030 --> 00:32:45,310
And so immediately my head, I start thinking about, okay, I, this doesn't make me feel great.

608
00:32:45,370 --> 00:32:47,070
I'm not excited, but okay.

609
00:32:47,090 --> 00:32:48,270
How do I make this work?

610
00:32:48,270 --> 00:32:54,630
And the laundry list, it's like, remember in the Terminator, when you'd see like from the Terminator's point of view and the list of stuff.

611
00:32:54,690 --> 00:32:58,070
So immediately red light, like it's coming in my eye.

612
00:32:58,190 --> 00:32:59,290
Like, okay.

613
00:33:00,450 --> 00:33:07,910
Issue number one, I have things I have to do on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.

614
00:33:08,270 --> 00:33:08,410
Right.

615
00:33:08,770 --> 00:33:09,710
But okay.

616
00:33:09,810 --> 00:33:11,290
So I've got work to do.

617
00:33:11,530 --> 00:33:13,170
She's got stuff we've got to do.

618
00:33:13,510 --> 00:33:25,030
Uh, then the one other thing I didn't mention, I think we talked about earlier or maybe last episode, my, my sister and her husband had traveled and they came back.

619
00:33:25,090 --> 00:33:32,110
So now our plan has always been whenever this happens that my sister and her husband, we're going to take care of the dogs while we're at the hospital.

620
00:33:32,370 --> 00:33:32,770
Gotcha.

621
00:33:32,950 --> 00:33:33,170
Right.

622
00:33:33,230 --> 00:33:34,170
So that's been the plan.

623
00:33:34,570 --> 00:33:38,950
My, my brother-in-law has, has come down with COVID.

624
00:33:39,130 --> 00:33:39,650
Oh Jesus.

625
00:33:39,830 --> 00:33:42,730
So now he's and they're, they're together.

626
00:33:42,870 --> 00:33:49,570
So now they're not going to be able to come anywhere near the baby for until well into a week or two.

627
00:33:49,990 --> 00:33:52,670
So now we don't, we don't have anybody to watch the dogs.

628
00:33:53,390 --> 00:33:56,490
The brother and sister-in-law are coming on the weekend.

629
00:33:56,910 --> 00:33:58,790
So we're going to have to tell them to stay home.

630
00:33:58,890 --> 00:33:59,570
We got to find somebody.

631
00:34:00,210 --> 00:34:04,370
And I'm like, I, so my, I'm scrambling, but I'm not, I didn't say anything.

632
00:34:04,410 --> 00:34:04,970
You didn't show it.

633
00:34:05,030 --> 00:34:05,150
Yeah.

634
00:34:05,150 --> 00:34:05,990
I didn't say anything.

635
00:34:06,550 --> 00:34:10,290
And she's like, uh, and the doctor is like, well great.

636
00:34:10,310 --> 00:34:11,350
Cause I'm working Friday.

637
00:34:12,050 --> 00:34:28,170
So now, so now the other, so now the, I'm, so now the other side, the cynical part of me is like, this woman was working Friday, didn't have anybody she needed to take care of at the hospital and is, let's just put, let's, let's slide right in.

638
00:34:28,210 --> 00:34:35,630
Cause ultimately, and I do believe this and nothing against the medical community, but all these inductions and things like that, this, none of this needs to happen.

639
00:34:35,810 --> 00:34:40,429
They do it now because they have to manage their throughput and manage resources.

640
00:34:40,889 --> 00:34:44,889
So she's like, well, you know what, let me go look at the schedule and see what we can do.

641
00:34:44,969 --> 00:34:45,449
Comes back.

642
00:34:45,570 --> 00:34:46,050
It's a haircut.

643
00:34:46,270 --> 00:34:48,409
She comes, she comes back in 8am.

644
00:34:48,810 --> 00:34:53,929
So I'm like, Oh my God, 8am Friday, we're going to do this.

645
00:34:55,570 --> 00:35:01,290
And I'm just like, how am I going to, how am I going to make this happen?

646
00:35:01,630 --> 00:35:03,650
I don't feel comfortable with this.

647
00:35:03,710 --> 00:35:04,330
I don't like it.

648
00:35:04,450 --> 00:35:10,370
I was thinking the whole time I'm thinking, I'm hoping when we go into this conversation, it's going to be later.

649
00:35:11,030 --> 00:35:21,010
I'm hoping it's going to be like Wednesday, Thursday of next week, a week 39 because I really want her to just go into labor naturally.

650
00:35:21,070 --> 00:35:22,950
I don't want her to have to be induced.

651
00:35:23,250 --> 00:35:28,190
So I'm thinking the longer we wait, the better chance there is that that would happen.

652
00:35:28,290 --> 00:35:30,470
But, and so now that's shot out the window.

653
00:35:32,870 --> 00:35:45,470
So we get done, we check out and I'm bringing, bringing Kelly to work and I'm trying to like, how do I, she hasn't still mentioned anything to you about, so what do you think?

654
00:35:45,550 --> 00:35:46,550
No, not yet.

655
00:35:46,650 --> 00:35:47,910
No, I'm just like, yep, it's Friday.

656
00:35:48,730 --> 00:36:01,470
And so I'm like, so we start to have what I know is going to be a difficult conversation of, Hey, you know, so like, look, I, I, I want to, I want to understand better.

657
00:36:01,730 --> 00:36:04,770
Did you expect that that might happen?

658
00:36:04,810 --> 00:36:06,070
Like, did I miss something?

659
00:36:06,370 --> 00:36:10,050
Cause I never heard anything about week 37 ever.

660
00:36:10,350 --> 00:36:11,950
And she's like, well, no.

661
00:36:12,310 --> 00:36:17,930
And for me, this is one of the things where I think everybody has their own little pieces of crazy.

662
00:36:17,950 --> 00:36:23,970
And this is one of those times, one of those places where her crazy and my crazy interact in a bad way.

663
00:36:24,070 --> 00:36:30,510
And that is Kelly is one of those people that is very, wants to be compliant.

664
00:36:30,750 --> 00:36:33,230
She doesn't like to say no to people.

665
00:36:33,230 --> 00:36:34,870
She doesn't like to be difficult.

666
00:36:35,070 --> 00:36:41,170
She always wants to make it easier for me, which is, which is great, which is a beautiful, it's a wonderful thing.

667
00:36:41,370 --> 00:36:52,610
And I have, I have point, but I have pointed out to her in the past, we've had these conversations where I'm like, you know, I've noticed that you really never say no to anybody but me.

668
00:36:56,330 --> 00:37:01,570
And, and her answer is she's like, well, I know that you love me.

669
00:37:01,950 --> 00:37:07,990
And I know that if I can, I can say no to you and that's not going to change how you feel about me, which is very nice.

670
00:37:08,250 --> 00:37:11,070
Except for the fact that I still keep getting the nose, right?

671
00:37:11,130 --> 00:37:12,050
But it's okay.

672
00:37:12,210 --> 00:37:13,490
So I understand why.

673
00:37:13,930 --> 00:37:14,330
Yes.

674
00:37:14,370 --> 00:37:17,090
But I understand that this is how my wife works.

675
00:37:17,170 --> 00:37:21,110
So I'm trying to assess in my head and then through converse.

676
00:37:21,210 --> 00:37:21,750
Yes, I am.

677
00:37:21,770 --> 00:37:29,570
So I'm trying to figure out in my head, is she really secretly worried and more cause cause she hasn't been demonstrating this to me.

678
00:37:29,570 --> 00:37:33,790
I'm not noticing her all stressed out or saying, Oh my God, I can't wait until this happens.

679
00:37:34,050 --> 00:37:35,490
There's not been none of that.

680
00:37:35,890 --> 00:37:41,590
So I'm trying to understand, is this just her being her and not wanting to make, you know, agreeing with it, just agreeing with it.

681
00:37:41,610 --> 00:37:42,210
And that's it.

682
00:37:42,550 --> 00:37:48,190
Or am I missing something and through conversation and talking to her.

683
00:37:48,210 --> 00:37:49,530
And again, it's one of those things.

684
00:37:49,750 --> 00:37:52,150
It's not a conversation you want to have on the way to work.

685
00:37:52,490 --> 00:37:52,850
Right?

686
00:37:53,190 --> 00:37:55,390
So we talked a little bit about it.

687
00:37:55,590 --> 00:37:56,810
She had to go to work.

688
00:37:57,470 --> 00:37:59,830
I go back, I'm, I'm working through the day.

689
00:37:59,890 --> 00:38:00,710
I go to pick her up.

690
00:38:00,770 --> 00:38:02,150
We talked more that evening.

691
00:38:02,890 --> 00:38:05,850
And I think there was a little bit of that.

692
00:38:05,890 --> 00:38:06,610
She's worried.

693
00:38:07,670 --> 00:38:12,910
And, uh, you know, that, that she's worried that scare that happened.

694
00:38:13,450 --> 00:38:20,150
And I think we talked about it in the, in the last episode when she went to the doctor and they said, we'll do the blood work.

695
00:38:20,890 --> 00:38:26,250
And I just found this out a couple of days ago when they said, we'll do the blood work and we'll let you know.

696
00:38:26,530 --> 00:38:26,690
Sure.

697
00:38:26,990 --> 00:38:30,250
She came home and told me, yeah, they said, you know, they did some blood work and we'll let you know.

698
00:38:30,330 --> 00:38:32,690
And then later that night she said, Oh, well, he came back and they didn't call.

699
00:38:32,810 --> 00:38:34,390
So I guess everything's good.

700
00:38:35,090 --> 00:38:35,410
Okay.

701
00:38:36,350 --> 00:38:44,550
What, while we were planning this morning, I always review with, as I said before, I review with Kelly and I'm like, okay, let's, what did we talk about?

702
00:38:44,570 --> 00:38:47,130
Like what happened for when we do the podcast?

703
00:38:47,130 --> 00:38:50,810
And she said, well, and I was asking her about the, that time.

704
00:38:50,810 --> 00:38:51,830
Cause it was a couple of weeks ago.

705
00:38:51,910 --> 00:38:52,870
I want to remember it.

706
00:38:52,870 --> 00:38:54,230
I didn't want to be another, I was wrong.

707
00:38:54,570 --> 00:38:56,030
So I'm going through it.

708
00:38:56,070 --> 00:38:59,330
I'm looking at, and I said, she's like, well, yeah, they said we'll do the blood work.

709
00:38:59,350 --> 00:39:03,230
And then if anything comes back, we'll bring you into the hospital tonight and induce you.

710
00:39:04,470 --> 00:39:08,370
And I'm like, you never, never told me that.

711
00:39:08,670 --> 00:39:11,130
She just said they did blood work and they'll let us know.

712
00:39:11,130 --> 00:39:13,410
And then when they didn't say anything, we knew we were okay.

713
00:39:13,970 --> 00:39:18,470
But apparently back a few they said that because this is serious, right?

714
00:39:18,570 --> 00:39:30,730
Like if they found something that was indicating that it's preeclampsia, like the baby out at that, she was already at that point, week 36, they could have, they could have induced her and everything probably would have been okay.

715
00:39:30,870 --> 00:39:31,230
Yeah.

716
00:39:31,530 --> 00:39:35,670
But so I'm like, so that gave a little bit different context.

717
00:39:35,770 --> 00:39:39,170
So I think there was part of it was that made her worried.

718
00:39:39,930 --> 00:39:41,450
She doesn't want to push her luck.

719
00:39:41,870 --> 00:39:42,830
Let's get this done.

720
00:39:42,910 --> 00:39:53,190
My wife is very conservative and she, she's not a, well, let's, you know, let's take a, let's take a measured, like I'm much more of the mind.

721
00:39:53,230 --> 00:39:57,630
Like let's take a measured chance to get the optimal, right?

722
00:39:57,790 --> 00:39:58,910
This might be better.

723
00:39:58,950 --> 00:40:03,170
Let's get us a couple more days for it to happen naturally or things like that.

724
00:40:03,170 --> 00:40:04,270
The information that you have.

725
00:40:04,370 --> 00:40:04,710
Exactly.

726
00:40:04,790 --> 00:40:05,690
Not just a blind.

727
00:40:05,810 --> 00:40:06,910
No, let's go for Wednesday.

728
00:40:07,190 --> 00:40:07,930
Let's roll the dice.

729
00:40:08,270 --> 00:40:11,910
Whatever information you have that you can only work on the information you have.

730
00:40:12,030 --> 00:40:12,130
Right.

731
00:40:12,170 --> 00:40:12,590
Right.

732
00:40:12,750 --> 00:40:24,450
So ultimately it was, you know, we had, we talked about it and we decided that Tuesday morning she would reach back out and see if we could see what our options were to move it.

733
00:40:24,450 --> 00:40:24,710
Okay.

734
00:40:25,150 --> 00:40:38,490
And, but then even that was, was kind of a challenge because you talk to them and they're like, well, we don't induce on the weekend, so we can't do Saturday.

735
00:40:38,750 --> 00:40:41,350
So right now we're scheduled for Friday at 8am.

736
00:40:41,930 --> 00:40:42,050
Right.

737
00:40:42,190 --> 00:40:44,590
So you can't do it Saturday or Sunday.

738
00:40:44,870 --> 00:40:46,390
So then you have to push it to Monday.

739
00:40:46,570 --> 00:40:49,510
Now we're in week 39, which is okay.

740
00:40:50,850 --> 00:40:55,570
Monday and Tuesday, there's no midwife on duty at St. Joe's.

741
00:40:56,410 --> 00:40:58,530
So that affects the decision.

742
00:40:58,730 --> 00:41:02,930
And then if you go Sunday night, you're going to get this doctor.

743
00:41:03,670 --> 00:41:07,610
And then if you go Monday, you're going to get this doctor and another doctor.

744
00:41:07,610 --> 00:41:13,610
If you go Tuesday, you'll get this other doctor, but they'll be there for the whole thing.

745
00:41:13,930 --> 00:41:17,670
So it's like just another laundry list of options and time.

746
00:41:17,870 --> 00:41:20,350
Which they just want you to be so confused and go, you know what?

747
00:41:20,410 --> 00:41:21,110
Let's just do Friday.

748
00:41:21,510 --> 00:41:24,250
And of course that's not the way I approach it.

749
00:41:24,430 --> 00:41:24,530
Right.

750
00:41:24,690 --> 00:41:27,790
So we talked, so, and Kelly's at work.

751
00:41:27,930 --> 00:41:31,290
So she calls, leaves a message for the doctor on the way to work.

752
00:41:31,710 --> 00:41:33,090
They call her back.

753
00:41:33,170 --> 00:41:35,910
She calls me, she calls them, we're going back and forth.

754
00:41:36,430 --> 00:41:38,330
And we finally settled on a compromise.

755
00:41:38,730 --> 00:41:44,830
Basically our options were Sunday night, Monday sometime or Tuesday sometime.

756
00:41:44,990 --> 00:41:47,810
And we didn't want to push it any further than Tuesday.

757
00:41:48,530 --> 00:41:48,630
Right.

758
00:41:48,810 --> 00:41:52,430
So we, we ended up settling on Monday.

759
00:41:52,610 --> 00:42:03,210
So right now, so we're recording this today on a Thursday and we are scheduled for Monday at five o'clock.

760
00:42:03,730 --> 00:42:03,850
Wow.

761
00:42:04,150 --> 00:42:06,810
So that it's here.

762
00:42:07,110 --> 00:42:19,050
So now, and then I felt better because I wasn't sure after hearing all this stuff, the last thing I want to do, like, I know this is what happened.

763
00:42:19,110 --> 00:42:19,870
This is what's going on.

764
00:42:19,910 --> 00:42:25,650
The dynamic with me and Kelly, when that doctor said that and, and she said, okay, great.

765
00:42:25,710 --> 00:42:28,990
And I didn't say anything in that moment.

766
00:42:29,010 --> 00:42:33,490
She is doing her thing, which is a tendency to, to be compliant, I think.

767
00:42:33,950 --> 00:42:38,810
And I am doing the, don't be your dad, Frank, keep your mouth shut.

768
00:42:38,870 --> 00:42:39,110
Right.

769
00:42:39,430 --> 00:42:39,730
Right.

770
00:42:39,990 --> 00:42:42,270
This is not the spot.

771
00:42:42,410 --> 00:42:45,930
I'm my dad, my dad was very just, it was his way.

772
00:42:46,030 --> 00:42:49,430
And his reaction to that would have been, what are you out of your mind?

773
00:42:49,470 --> 00:42:49,650
Right.

774
00:42:49,850 --> 00:42:50,470
Like, right.

775
00:42:50,530 --> 00:42:52,390
That's that's, that would never have floated.

776
00:42:52,390 --> 00:42:55,610
So in that moment, I'm like, no, I rein myself in.

777
00:42:56,010 --> 00:42:58,550
But then I, I look at the situation.

778
00:42:58,730 --> 00:43:00,130
I think, okay, this isn't right.

779
00:43:00,470 --> 00:43:07,730
I should have had the skill at that point to just kind of say, well, you know, let's, let's, let's talk about this.

780
00:43:07,790 --> 00:43:07,890
Yeah.

781
00:43:07,890 --> 00:43:08,690
Let's think about this.

782
00:43:08,770 --> 00:43:09,810
I should be able to do that.

783
00:43:09,850 --> 00:43:12,330
I'm a professional, but I don't, I just like sit there.

784
00:43:12,390 --> 00:43:13,030
I'm like, okay.

785
00:43:13,170 --> 00:43:19,170
Well, I noticed something in the doctor's office that you brought this a couple of times that you just want to get out.

786
00:43:20,330 --> 00:43:21,290
Give me the pancakes.

787
00:43:21,570 --> 00:43:24,570
I don't know if anybody remembers episode three or four.

788
00:43:25,150 --> 00:43:25,250
Right.

789
00:43:25,250 --> 00:43:26,750
So you, you think about it afterwards.

790
00:43:26,750 --> 00:43:28,230
Like I should have said this.

791
00:43:28,770 --> 00:43:28,870
Yeah.

792
00:43:28,970 --> 00:43:29,510
You're right.

793
00:43:29,650 --> 00:43:29,890
Right.

794
00:43:30,150 --> 00:43:30,410
Yup.

795
00:43:30,530 --> 00:43:32,770
And when it's good news, it's like fantastic.

796
00:43:32,850 --> 00:43:33,310
Give me it.

797
00:43:33,530 --> 00:43:33,670
Right.

798
00:43:34,210 --> 00:43:35,090
Give me out of here.

799
00:43:35,330 --> 00:43:35,490
Okay.

800
00:43:35,490 --> 00:43:35,910
I heard it.

801
00:43:35,950 --> 00:43:37,790
Give me out before you tell me anything bad.

802
00:43:37,910 --> 00:43:38,190
Yeah.

803
00:43:38,350 --> 00:43:38,570
Yeah.

804
00:43:38,730 --> 00:43:39,510
There's a part of it.

805
00:43:39,510 --> 00:43:40,630
I think that might be part of it.

806
00:43:40,630 --> 00:43:44,190
And also because we're doing it on the way to work.

807
00:43:44,750 --> 00:43:44,850
Right.

808
00:43:44,850 --> 00:43:45,110
Right.

809
00:43:45,110 --> 00:43:49,830
We're always doing like, you know, Kelly doesn't take a day off to go do one of these things.

810
00:43:49,850 --> 00:43:49,970
Right.

811
00:43:50,110 --> 00:43:52,030
So she's going to work.

812
00:43:52,110 --> 00:43:52,830
I'm going home.

813
00:43:53,470 --> 00:43:54,770
We're trying to do that.

814
00:43:54,830 --> 00:43:56,030
So I think that's part of it too.

815
00:43:56,130 --> 00:43:58,510
You had to be surprised, right?

816
00:43:59,010 --> 00:44:02,130
Oh, you were probably like, well, you didn't know what to say in that moment.

817
00:44:02,490 --> 00:44:04,390
I just was tallying up.

818
00:44:04,510 --> 00:44:08,610
I was building my new list of, okay, if this is going to be the way it's going to be.

819
00:44:08,610 --> 00:44:13,650
But at the same time thinking this is, this just doesn't feel, this doesn't feel right.

820
00:44:14,470 --> 00:44:23,610
So, you know, long story short, we settled on Monday and then like the next day or the day after, I think it was yesterday.

821
00:44:24,010 --> 00:44:28,850
We're driving, I'm driving Kelly to work and she seems fine.

822
00:44:29,150 --> 00:44:30,190
She's good with this.

823
00:44:31,330 --> 00:44:40,090
And we're, we're, we're in the car, I'm driving and she's very happily going, well, we got to get this done and this done and we're going to have to do this.

824
00:44:40,350 --> 00:44:45,510
And just going down this list of all this stuff that we still little things, but things we want to have done.

825
00:44:45,630 --> 00:44:48,610
And I, I was very happy to say, yeah.

826
00:44:48,850 --> 00:44:55,650
And if we had gone with that first schedule, we would have 24 hours to get all that done.

827
00:44:55,930 --> 00:44:56,670
And there's friends.

828
00:44:57,610 --> 00:45:05,850
And she's like, I know, like, you know, it's like, so she, I think that, and that tells me, yeah.

829
00:45:05,850 --> 00:45:09,590
In that moment, she was just saying yes to, she was saying yes to it.

830
00:45:09,690 --> 00:45:22,930
When I really, when I, this is how, when I really knew this was a thing, uh, Kelly and I, well, it's Kelly's friend that have become friends of mine now that she used to spend a lot of time with.

831
00:45:23,050 --> 00:45:24,070
We had gone on it.

832
00:45:24,090 --> 00:45:27,750
We had gone to the formula one race in Montreal one year with them.

833
00:45:28,170 --> 00:45:28,270
Okay.

834
00:45:28,370 --> 00:45:34,350
So we're all in like a VRBO, we're getting ready to go out and get dinner.

835
00:45:34,570 --> 00:45:39,490
It's an evening and it's, you know, it's in June, but it was a little chilly.

836
00:45:40,090 --> 00:45:41,670
And Kelly's like, what's the temperature?

837
00:45:41,790 --> 00:45:42,470
And I'm like, look it up.

838
00:45:42,510 --> 00:45:44,870
And I'm like, yeah, it's going to be a little chilly tonight.

839
00:45:44,990 --> 00:45:45,190
Oh yeah.

840
00:45:45,450 --> 00:45:48,230
You know, you probably want a jacket.

841
00:45:48,490 --> 00:45:48,750
Yeah.

842
00:45:48,910 --> 00:45:49,650
I want a coat.

843
00:45:49,790 --> 00:45:50,590
And I go, yeah.

844
00:45:50,690 --> 00:45:52,830
So she goes and finds a sweater coat or something.

845
00:45:52,910 --> 00:45:59,730
She puts it on and we get ready to leave and we get to the door and her friend says, oh, you're wearing a jacket.

846
00:45:59,810 --> 00:46:01,710
And she just takes it off and puts it on.

847
00:46:01,750 --> 00:46:07,390
And I'm like, and it was just such a, and I'm like, you're going to give me your jacket.

848
00:46:07,490 --> 00:46:08,170
I'll carry it.

849
00:46:08,170 --> 00:46:09,850
Like you're going to, you will need this.

850
00:46:09,850 --> 00:46:10,690
You're going to be cold.

851
00:46:11,190 --> 00:46:13,670
And I was just like, that was when I knew I'm okay.

852
00:46:14,070 --> 00:46:14,810
That's funny.

853
00:46:14,910 --> 00:46:17,410
It was like, she just literally did research.

854
00:46:17,650 --> 00:46:18,090
This whole thing?

855
00:46:18,170 --> 00:46:18,350
Yeah.

856
00:46:18,530 --> 00:46:19,250
Made a decision.

857
00:46:19,590 --> 00:46:21,070
And I was like, you're going to wear a coat.

858
00:46:21,770 --> 00:46:22,210
Yeah.

859
00:46:22,810 --> 00:46:26,890
So that was, what made you think that, what made you think that me wearing it?

860
00:46:27,250 --> 00:46:30,270
Uh, so, so I know, I know that that's it.

861
00:46:30,330 --> 00:46:34,910
She probably said that to say, maybe I should wear a coat, but no, she just took it off.

862
00:46:35,010 --> 00:46:37,150
Yeah, no, it was, yeah, that's funny.

863
00:46:37,370 --> 00:46:42,530
So now back to your, back to your question of how I'm feeling.

864
00:46:43,010 --> 00:46:52,910
So once we got that resolved and now that feel, the feeling I had before the fetal stress, non-stress test on Monday is basically here.

865
00:46:53,810 --> 00:46:57,270
Number one, just unbelievably excited.

866
00:46:57,590 --> 00:47:01,210
I want everything to go as smoothly as possible.

867
00:47:01,950 --> 00:47:10,770
I would still like, I know that we've only got till Monday, so we've got basically, you know, the rest of the day today, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and then Monday we go in.

868
00:47:11,370 --> 00:47:15,450
I would still love for her to go into labor naturally.

869
00:47:15,650 --> 00:47:18,530
Cause I just, I want it to go as smoothly as possible.

870
00:47:19,950 --> 00:47:22,610
And so that would be, you know, we're ready for it.

871
00:47:22,610 --> 00:47:23,250
We're prepared.

872
00:47:23,350 --> 00:47:26,170
We still got like, we were watching videos last night.

873
00:47:26,250 --> 00:47:29,770
We've still got those stupid, we still got the classes to watch.

874
00:47:29,990 --> 00:47:30,250
Stop it.

875
00:47:31,110 --> 00:47:31,990
Oh man.

876
00:47:32,130 --> 00:47:34,730
You're going to be the Monday.

877
00:47:34,850 --> 00:47:36,350
You're going to have a baby in your head.

878
00:47:36,390 --> 00:47:37,070
You'll figure it out.

879
00:47:37,090 --> 00:47:42,050
There was a good, at this point, the classes that we're looking at, the classes are on breastfeeding.

880
00:47:42,530 --> 00:47:49,690
So I'm like, I'm not sure I can help, but I, but they go through, they have, I remember I could be wrong.

881
00:47:51,270 --> 00:47:52,650
Trina just turned the volume up.

882
00:47:52,830 --> 00:47:54,010
They do have a hosing.

883
00:47:54,130 --> 00:47:57,130
No, they just hold milk in their mouth.

884
00:47:57,270 --> 00:48:01,390
I think they should, they had like a class or something for the ladies in the hospital.

885
00:48:01,530 --> 00:48:03,950
At least I know there's a lactation consultant.

886
00:48:03,990 --> 00:48:04,550
Let me know.

887
00:48:04,690 --> 00:48:08,030
There's a lactation consultant that will work with us when we're there.

888
00:48:08,290 --> 00:48:10,390
So there'll be that help, but it was good.

889
00:48:10,470 --> 00:48:13,850
And they were talking about how you have to track this.

890
00:48:13,990 --> 00:48:14,090
Yeah.

891
00:48:14,090 --> 00:48:23,750
They're like, well, you should keep track of the first 10 days, how many times they're feeding and when and how, what the diapers are and what's in them and all that stuff.

892
00:48:23,810 --> 00:48:24,930
And so of course I got excited.

893
00:48:24,990 --> 00:48:25,970
I'm like, do I need to make a spreadsheet?

894
00:48:26,090 --> 00:48:26,670
I can make a spreadsheet.

895
00:48:27,850 --> 00:48:36,350
He's like, well, no, there's these, there's an app I apparently called Huckleberry and you can track, you can track that stuff.

896
00:48:37,130 --> 00:48:39,870
So, uh, so that, that's it.

897
00:48:39,890 --> 00:48:42,390
But yeah, so it's, it's super exciting now.

898
00:48:42,590 --> 00:48:51,570
So today will be Kelly's last day of work and then tomorrow will be my last day of work and my team has been great.

899
00:48:51,690 --> 00:48:57,510
I kind of had my last conference call with the whole group of them and they're, it's, it's fun.

900
00:48:57,610 --> 00:49:07,550
They're, they've been really, they've been really good about being prepared and, and, and being ready and they're, I think they're excited and enthusiastic for the baby, which is cool.

901
00:49:07,850 --> 00:49:12,750
So we've got all that stuff going on and then we'll have the weekend Sunday.

902
00:49:13,430 --> 00:49:17,130
We'll have Kelly's brother and his wife are coming to deliver the food.

903
00:49:17,470 --> 00:49:20,450
Uh, so we got that going and then Monday, that'll be it.

904
00:49:20,470 --> 00:49:23,430
And I did have one more interaction.

905
00:49:23,790 --> 00:49:28,450
I had to go to a, like a town hall meeting for church during this week.

906
00:49:28,910 --> 00:49:32,210
And they have like a strategic planning committee and they were presenting.

907
00:49:32,890 --> 00:49:45,990
And at some point I had sent some information to Father Seep and he, he, he asked after the meeting, he's like, do you want to join the, like he wanted me to join the strategic planning meeting, strategic planning committee.

908
00:49:46,010 --> 00:49:47,230
And I'm like, Oh, absolutely.

909
00:49:47,790 --> 00:49:48,730
I'd love to help.

910
00:49:49,110 --> 00:49:52,850
And yet again, he's like, so this is your first still.

911
00:49:53,050 --> 00:49:58,330
And I'm like, this time he asked me, he's like clearly trying to like reconcile this.

912
00:49:58,530 --> 00:50:00,530
And he's like, and how long have you been married?

913
00:50:00,530 --> 00:50:02,430
And I'm like, we're coming up on eight years.

914
00:50:04,530 --> 00:50:06,690
So it was never asked that.

915
00:50:06,970 --> 00:50:08,950
Uh, no, he has, he has never asked.

916
00:50:09,150 --> 00:50:22,910
Uh, but that was the, this was also a funny thing that happened that I was entertained by was it was in the midst of this scheduling thing that happened the night where we had decided it was when this meeting happened.

917
00:50:22,910 --> 00:50:29,650
But before the meeting, basically they had sent out these lists of kind of the initiatives of the church and I'm looking at it.

918
00:50:29,710 --> 00:50:33,550
And as a, from a strategy standpoint, I'm like, like this could use work.

919
00:50:33,610 --> 00:50:34,550
So I sent him an email.

920
00:50:34,650 --> 00:50:44,130
I'm like, Hey, I took this and I kind of drew, I drew up, I drew out a different model and populated it with some of their initiatives and said, look, looking at this, this is what I think.

921
00:50:44,390 --> 00:50:46,050
If you think this is useful, let me know.

922
00:50:46,330 --> 00:50:49,610
If not, I'll see you at the strategic planning or at the town hall.

923
00:50:50,030 --> 00:50:51,690
And he wrote back, he's like, this is great.

924
00:50:51,770 --> 00:50:53,170
I'd like to meet with you afterwards.

925
00:50:53,170 --> 00:50:55,970
And I thought that's nice.

926
00:50:56,150 --> 00:50:57,270
Like I would like to be helpful.

927
00:50:57,550 --> 00:50:59,310
So that was cool.

928
00:50:59,470 --> 00:51:01,890
So I sent that in and it was nice.

929
00:51:01,970 --> 00:51:03,610
I want to be, I want to be helpful.

930
00:51:04,490 --> 00:51:10,070
And, but then before the meeting, I'm, I'm working and I just get off a conference call.

931
00:51:10,110 --> 00:51:18,890
I'm talking to one of my employees and I get a notification and I get a lot of notifications on social media for the podcast because of all the stuff we do for that.

932
00:51:19,310 --> 00:51:23,990
And I, so I look, it's a Facebook thing and I look and it's father wants to be my friend on Facebook.

933
00:51:24,830 --> 00:51:29,510
And I'm like, there, there's a moment there where you go, what is he going to see?

934
00:51:29,790 --> 00:51:30,230
Yeah.

935
00:51:30,990 --> 00:51:34,630
Cause you can't say no, like you can't decline it.

936
00:51:34,690 --> 00:51:35,510
Let me tell you something.

937
00:51:36,210 --> 00:51:41,790
The priest that married me and Trina was, became one of our dearest friends.

938
00:51:41,910 --> 00:51:42,790
Oh, that's nice.

939
00:51:42,930 --> 00:51:45,670
I always said, I always said, what am I going to be on your show?

940
00:51:46,290 --> 00:51:50,470
Back then it was the, back then it was the two Italian guy show.

941
00:51:50,750 --> 00:51:51,390
Oh, okay.

942
00:51:51,490 --> 00:51:53,050
So he would follow that and all that.

943
00:51:53,130 --> 00:51:53,510
Oh, that's nice.

944
00:51:54,450 --> 00:51:55,590
It is so cool to be.

945
00:51:55,850 --> 00:51:56,110
Yeah.

946
00:51:56,250 --> 00:51:56,470
Yeah.

947
00:51:56,930 --> 00:51:59,050
And we got to hang out with him outside of church.

948
00:51:59,130 --> 00:51:59,590
That's nice.

949
00:51:59,810 --> 00:51:59,950
Yeah.

950
00:52:00,150 --> 00:52:06,290
So I think I saw this much more as before he lets me on the strategic planning committee, he wants to make sure I'm not a lunatic.

951
00:52:06,510 --> 00:52:06,910
Absolutely.

952
00:52:07,330 --> 00:52:09,030
He wants to see what you stand for.

953
00:52:09,990 --> 00:52:10,390
Exactly.

954
00:52:10,650 --> 00:52:18,150
And when you look at my Facebook, basically 90% of it is holiday meals and sunrise pictures and my dogs.

955
00:52:18,450 --> 00:52:21,050
And now the podcast probably, and there's really not a lot.

956
00:52:21,130 --> 00:52:23,370
I don't share a lot of stuff on my personal page.

957
00:52:23,910 --> 00:52:29,090
So I was like, okay, except, and then I went, went to the meeting and, and it was good.

958
00:52:29,210 --> 00:52:32,510
So he told you to find another.

959
00:52:32,730 --> 00:52:33,170
It was funny.

960
00:52:33,290 --> 00:52:36,030
Cause they like, he's like, yeah, it was very perfunctory.

961
00:52:36,110 --> 00:52:38,150
He's like, we can meet and talk after the meeting.

962
00:52:38,270 --> 00:52:44,350
So I went and talked to him and we talked about the baby and he said he was going to do is say a little extra prayer for us, which I appreciate.

963
00:52:44,970 --> 00:52:47,230
And then he, and I like, so he's like, so do you want to join?

964
00:52:47,350 --> 00:52:48,310
And I'm like, sure.

965
00:52:48,390 --> 00:52:50,010
Do I talk to, should I talk to Anthony?

966
00:52:50,170 --> 00:52:50,470
Yeah.

967
00:52:50,510 --> 00:52:51,170
Just talk to Anthony.

968
00:52:51,630 --> 00:52:51,990
Okay.

969
00:52:52,290 --> 00:52:53,390
So I went and talked to Anthony.

970
00:52:53,670 --> 00:52:54,010
You are in.

971
00:52:54,650 --> 00:52:55,270
You know what?

972
00:52:55,890 --> 00:52:57,570
I like, I like doing what I'm doing.

973
00:52:57,610 --> 00:53:09,930
I really enjoy the volunteering, but I would also like to do something where I can be like, just be more, have more of an impact, right?

974
00:53:09,950 --> 00:53:12,430
Like anybody can do what I'm doing.

975
00:53:12,550 --> 00:53:14,450
I enjoy it and I'm going to keep doing it.

976
00:53:14,550 --> 00:53:19,330
But if I can help that, look, this is an organization like any other organization.

977
00:53:19,510 --> 00:53:25,710
If I can help them find ways to, to, to be a little bit more strategic and grow.

978
00:53:25,950 --> 00:53:26,770
Cause that's the idea, right?

979
00:53:26,810 --> 00:53:27,350
Make it bigger.

980
00:53:27,670 --> 00:53:30,850
That's what church, you know, you want as many people as possible.

981
00:53:30,990 --> 00:53:32,710
That's the whole idea is yeah.

982
00:53:32,750 --> 00:53:34,870
A thriving, growing church.

983
00:53:35,030 --> 00:53:38,450
And he's had a lot of good, like he's, he's clearly a strategic thinker.

984
00:53:38,510 --> 00:53:42,250
He's, he's doing a good job, but he's one guy for two parishes.

985
00:53:42,630 --> 00:53:50,310
Well, speaking about holidays are coming up, this is going to fall right into, this is going to be Ash Wednesday before and after.

986
00:53:50,430 --> 00:53:56,990
Number one, my, my daughter in all likelihood is going to be born on fat Tuesday, ready for Mardi Gras.

987
00:53:57,130 --> 00:53:58,470
Mardi Gras, here we come.

988
00:53:59,430 --> 00:54:05,370
So yeah, so it'll be, and I was talking, I was talking to the guy, I'm like, well, so we're going to be in the hospital on Ash Wednesday.

989
00:54:05,590 --> 00:54:06,010
I believe so.

990
00:54:06,070 --> 00:54:09,990
But it's a Catholic hospital, so we can just say, send us a priest.

991
00:54:10,110 --> 00:54:10,770
Oh, they're going to come around.

992
00:54:11,010 --> 00:54:11,130
Yeah.

993
00:54:11,310 --> 00:54:12,810
So, so that'll be great.

994
00:54:12,890 --> 00:54:13,310
It's crazy.

995
00:54:13,390 --> 00:54:16,210
Cause we're planning to go to your church, I believe at noon.

996
00:54:16,850 --> 00:54:17,250
Yeah.

997
00:54:17,390 --> 00:54:24,310
And this is the one time you go, I'm not going to be there, but you know, I did should have moved it.

998
00:54:24,910 --> 00:54:26,490
Um, but yeah, so we'll do that.

999
00:54:26,530 --> 00:54:32,990
But that's another thing I'm hoping I booked myself off of volunteering for the church for pretty much all of March.

1000
00:54:34,630 --> 00:54:39,570
Cause I go, but I just don't want to have to worry about going to a particular time.

1001
00:54:39,990 --> 00:54:51,130
And then going back in April, I limited it because usually when I volunteered originally, I basically was like, whatever mass, whatever job just put me where I am.

1002
00:54:51,430 --> 00:55:00,110
But now I kept it to just 10 o'clock and the assignments came out for April and I'm reader one on Easter Sunday.

1003
00:55:00,470 --> 00:55:02,850
So you have to come for Easter.

1004
00:55:03,910 --> 00:55:09,510
And cause what I immediately, I saw it cause reader one, when they do that, you're already up there.

1005
00:55:09,650 --> 00:55:12,230
So you do the opening announcements and you do the first reading.

1006
00:55:12,510 --> 00:55:18,250
So in the opening announcements, there's a whole blurb about, Oh, you know, you know, please make a note of access.

1007
00:55:18,610 --> 00:55:20,570
Children must be escorted to the restroom.

1008
00:55:21,050 --> 00:55:28,490
So I looked at Kelly and I'm like, so you think father would be mad if I said children must be escorted to the restroom, including my daughter.

1009
00:55:28,590 --> 00:55:40,230
Who's five weeks old and here for the first time, she's like, don't do that every week.

1010
00:55:41,730 --> 00:55:43,970
She's back for a second time.

1011
00:55:44,070 --> 00:55:45,290
She's back and crying.

1012
00:55:46,110 --> 00:55:47,490
Look at her new dress.

1013
00:55:47,570 --> 00:55:49,410
She's tearing it up in the crying room.

1014
00:55:49,490 --> 00:55:52,450
He's like, I knew we were in trouble with Kelly.

1015
00:55:52,770 --> 00:55:53,590
Don't do that.

1016
00:55:54,110 --> 00:55:55,470
I'm like, I'll ask for permission.

1017
00:55:55,470 --> 00:55:57,670
Father, my father might let me do it.

1018
00:55:57,950 --> 00:55:59,350
But, but yes, yes.

1019
00:55:59,470 --> 00:56:02,650
So you're going to be, you're going to be in the, in the hospital probably.

1020
00:56:03,550 --> 00:56:11,650
I mean, if we, if everything goes great, we might, we might come home on, uh, on Tuesday, but it probably will be Wednesday.

1021
00:56:12,190 --> 00:56:12,990
I don't know.

1022
00:56:13,070 --> 00:56:13,790
It all depends.

1023
00:56:13,890 --> 00:56:22,830
If everything goes smooth, they basically made it sound like it's going to be 12 to 36 hours somewhere in there, depending on how things go.

1024
00:56:23,710 --> 00:56:25,230
But, but yeah, very holy week.

1025
00:56:26,070 --> 00:56:26,470
Yeah.

1026
00:56:26,670 --> 00:56:32,230
But I thought it was, it was going to be on, on, uh, on fat Tuesday.

1027
00:56:32,450 --> 00:56:35,110
I'm like, no, because obviously there's no baptism yet.

1028
00:56:35,250 --> 00:56:38,110
The baby could still, I don't think, I don't know.

1029
00:56:38,150 --> 00:56:39,310
I don't know how that works.

1030
00:56:40,050 --> 00:56:41,250
Well, it's not a sacrament.

1031
00:56:42,170 --> 00:56:43,530
She might get a little smudge.

1032
00:56:44,350 --> 00:56:45,330
I bet she will.

1033
00:56:45,550 --> 00:56:46,830
I hope that would be awesome.

1034
00:56:47,230 --> 00:56:50,870
I'm, I can't wait to get the right schedule at the right hospital.

1035
00:56:50,970 --> 00:56:51,910
Yeah, absolutely.

1036
00:56:52,810 --> 00:57:02,970
But yeah, I can't wait to schedule cause it is, this is a nice time to have a baby cause it'll be Easter and then baptism will maybe be right around there.

1037
00:57:03,510 --> 00:57:04,690
And then the spring.

1038
00:57:05,350 --> 00:57:10,410
Yeah, yeah, no, this is, it's, uh, it's unbelievable.

1039
00:57:10,630 --> 00:57:13,210
I'm so excited to have this happen.

1040
00:57:13,310 --> 00:57:24,030
This is, and I have to say this, this experience of doing this, especially with you, this has made it so much more fun and get and getting ready for it.

1041
00:57:24,150 --> 00:57:39,430
And for, for all of you out there who have listened and watched, I feel like as I was doing this, I'm like, look, we did, this is 20 episodes of us basically talking about nonsense, right?

1042
00:57:39,450 --> 00:57:43,770
Like, but now it is, everything's going to change.

1043
00:57:43,890 --> 00:57:45,270
The podcast is going to change.

1044
00:57:46,050 --> 00:58:01,210
This is really, this has been, this is like a, we've been basically doing a prequel to now what's going to happen with, when the baby comes, which brings me to my next announcement, which is probably not going to do weekly episodes once the baby starts.

1045
00:58:01,470 --> 00:58:02,450
So once the baby's here.

1046
00:58:02,590 --> 00:58:06,070
So again, today's Thursday, you're going to be hearing this.

1047
00:58:06,350 --> 00:58:13,190
Uh, you're going to be hearing the, this episode will come out a week after the baby is actually born, right?

1048
00:58:13,270 --> 00:58:13,970
You'll get that.

1049
00:58:14,090 --> 00:58:15,530
The baby will be here while you're listening.

1050
00:58:15,710 --> 00:58:16,070
Yes.

1051
00:58:16,210 --> 00:58:19,450
So this will be, she'll be watching me edit the next episode.

1052
00:58:19,750 --> 00:58:25,130
So I think what we're going to do is for the short term, go to every other week.

1053
00:58:25,190 --> 00:58:25,710
Sounds good.

1054
00:58:25,770 --> 00:58:28,630
So after this episode, we'll probably have a week off.

1055
00:58:28,730 --> 00:58:40,790
I might repost an old episode or a bunch of shorts or maybe that, um, maybe there'll be nothing, maybe there'll be something else, but there won't be new episode for two weeks after this one.

1056
00:58:41,350 --> 00:58:53,470
And, and then we'll probably do every other week for a little while until we really get our arms around, uh, everything, everything that's happening and and we'll get back into it.

1057
00:58:53,470 --> 00:59:10,790
I definitely want to get back to weeklies, but it might take us a little time, but at the very least in two weeks from today, you will be able to hear two weeks of stories of what it has been like for me as a, as a new parent, a new father.

1058
00:59:10,970 --> 00:59:26,230
And I'll say this, uh, when you called me many months ago now and told me the reason why we couldn't go to a concert, I believe it was because you had to tell me somebody was pregnant.

1059
00:59:27,010 --> 00:59:33,130
And, um, obviously Kelly and I've known you for so many years.

1060
00:59:33,130 --> 00:59:38,630
We were kids when we, we, we met each other, literally kids and 18 year old kids, whatever.

1061
00:59:38,990 --> 00:59:46,610
And I always knew, I always knew what you felt about being a, I always wanted children.

1062
00:59:46,710 --> 00:59:47,870
You always loved the idea.

1063
00:59:49,990 --> 00:59:56,810
And certain people you can see with children, certain people you can see that they should never have kids.

1064
00:59:57,910 --> 00:59:59,990
And some people do have kids and shouldn't.

1065
01:00:00,110 --> 01:00:05,310
And I always, for some reason, I don't know why I always thought you were going to be a dad.

1066
01:00:05,470 --> 01:00:22,590
I always, even as we got older and marriages and no marriages and single life and this and that and the other, I always thought one day I, you know, and so when I found out that you were expecting your wife, it made sense.

1067
01:00:22,590 --> 01:00:24,290
It made sense because I think.

1068
01:00:25,270 --> 01:00:27,010
You're going to have to explain that to Father Steve.

1069
01:00:27,170 --> 01:00:31,830
As you got closer to the church with this experience, it is something that had to happen to you.

1070
01:00:32,090 --> 01:00:33,410
You had to be a parent.

1071
01:00:33,670 --> 01:00:34,690
You had to be a father.

1072
01:00:34,990 --> 01:00:39,230
I do feel like, because it did come, that came first, right?

1073
01:00:39,630 --> 01:00:45,050
Really becoming more involved in my faith and kind of coming back to church.

1074
01:00:45,150 --> 01:00:50,890
It did happen and it did happen first and maybe that's what needed to happen, right?

1075
01:00:50,950 --> 01:00:51,790
Like that's what needed to happen.

1076
01:00:51,990 --> 01:00:52,390
Everybody has a path.

1077
01:00:52,530 --> 01:00:53,010
Everybody has.

1078
01:00:53,150 --> 01:00:53,270
Yeah.

1079
01:00:53,450 --> 01:00:54,230
There's a reason.

1080
01:00:54,410 --> 01:00:55,870
I know we hate saying that somehow.

1081
01:00:55,990 --> 01:00:58,190
Oh, there's a reason that there's a reason.

1082
01:00:58,310 --> 01:00:59,790
There's a reason why anything's happening.

1083
01:01:00,110 --> 01:01:09,550
So I'm, I'm so happy for you and you know, I love you to death and I'm glad that we had this experience to get back to work together.

1084
01:01:09,730 --> 01:01:10,010
Yeah.

1085
01:01:10,090 --> 01:01:11,030
This has been super fun.

1086
01:01:11,030 --> 01:01:14,810
We've done stuff in the past and we're very successful in it.

1087
01:01:14,850 --> 01:01:15,090
Yeah.

1088
01:01:15,770 --> 01:01:22,570
And the minute I knew that you wanted to be, your head was into another project, I knew it was going to be a success.

1089
01:01:22,770 --> 01:01:24,850
And if it wasn't, we were going to have fun doing it.

1090
01:01:24,930 --> 01:01:25,110
Yeah.

1091
01:01:25,190 --> 01:01:25,970
And we're having fun.

1092
01:01:26,110 --> 01:01:26,710
This is not over.

1093
01:01:26,770 --> 01:01:27,210
We're not done.

1094
01:01:27,310 --> 01:01:27,950
We're not, no, no.

1095
01:01:28,010 --> 01:01:29,450
This is just the beginning of this podcast.

1096
01:01:29,450 --> 01:01:34,550
I think it turns into another chapter of what the podcast turns into.

1097
01:01:35,110 --> 01:01:38,890
You will have firsthand experience on being that, that daddy.

1098
01:01:39,330 --> 01:01:42,130
And I can't wait to see where this goes.

1099
01:01:42,290 --> 01:01:42,390
Yeah.

1100
01:01:42,530 --> 01:01:45,010
And, uh, it's been, it's been, it's been cool.

1101
01:01:45,370 --> 01:01:46,030
It's been very cool.

1102
01:01:46,290 --> 01:01:48,250
Yeah, no, I'm, I'm glad we did it.

1103
01:01:48,290 --> 01:01:51,810
It's been a lot of, you know, it's a lot of work and it does take time.

1104
01:01:52,070 --> 01:01:57,970
And I know I'm, I'm sure the nursery would be further along if we weren't doing this, but I think it's been worth it.

1105
01:01:58,010 --> 01:02:18,470
And again, I talked, I talked a lot about the, like the generosity that we have experienced from family and friends that we're, we're with every day has been great, but also look, there's so many nice comments and emails and, and you guys that listen that I find out people I didn't know were listening and they're like, Oh yeah, they're into it.

1106
01:02:18,490 --> 01:02:20,830
And, and they're experiencing this with us.

1107
01:02:20,850 --> 01:02:25,490
That, that is extremely meaningful, uh, as well.

1108
01:02:25,550 --> 01:02:27,430
Like it's really, it's really gratifying.

1109
01:02:27,430 --> 01:02:29,130
And, and I'm, I'm very thankful.

1110
01:02:29,130 --> 01:02:30,850
And I know, I know Kelly is too.

1111
01:02:31,350 --> 01:02:33,910
Well, it brought you back into being creative again.

1112
01:02:34,450 --> 01:02:38,410
Um, you got your singing, you got your that you haven't done in a while.

1113
01:02:38,870 --> 01:02:46,190
They got you involved with the, the recording and figure out editing and learning all these new things that you weren't doing before.

1114
01:02:46,550 --> 01:02:50,850
And hopefully this can continue as we were weekly.

1115
01:02:51,010 --> 01:02:55,090
But right now with the baby coming, we're going to take it baby steps.

1116
01:02:55,270 --> 01:02:55,770
I don't think it's good.

1117
01:02:55,950 --> 01:02:56,350
Exactly.

1118
01:02:56,710 --> 01:02:57,690
I don't think it'll be long.

1119
01:02:57,810 --> 01:02:57,950
Yeah.

1120
01:02:58,470 --> 01:02:59,290
It's been, yeah.

1121
01:02:59,370 --> 01:03:03,330
I mean, I love, I love learning new stuff and it has been a big learning curve.

1122
01:03:03,590 --> 01:03:08,090
We had some, I was, I was looking back through old episodes thinking it took us like five episodes.

1123
01:03:08,390 --> 01:03:10,990
We were recording with video from the very beginning.

1124
01:03:11,510 --> 01:03:14,650
It's like five episodes for us to get the cameras to work.

1125
01:03:14,850 --> 01:03:14,950
Right.

1126
01:03:15,370 --> 01:03:19,210
And then it took me another two or three episodes just to make it not look like crap.

1127
01:03:19,870 --> 01:03:21,310
Like the color correction was all wrong.

1128
01:03:21,390 --> 01:03:22,490
So I've, yeah, I've learned a lot.

1129
01:03:22,530 --> 01:03:24,510
It's been, uh, it's been fun.

1130
01:03:24,890 --> 01:03:26,790
No, this is, this is a good thing.

1131
01:03:27,270 --> 01:03:30,570
This is the evolution of this podcast.

1132
01:03:31,070 --> 01:03:35,050
Now comes the part where baby Josie is going to be here.

1133
01:03:35,270 --> 01:03:38,350
So, uh, there's not going to be like, Oh, she's a cantaloupe.

1134
01:03:38,610 --> 01:03:40,410
Oh, she's a pumpkin.

1135
01:03:41,190 --> 01:03:44,070
Um, so there's gonna be new stories, different things.

1136
01:03:44,070 --> 01:03:47,750
What happens are going to be totally different and all that good stuff.

1137
01:03:47,850 --> 01:03:56,010
And, um, and hopefully we can, we can grow this and, uh, you guys can keep enjoying listening or watching, uh, the podcast.

1138
01:03:56,010 --> 01:03:56,810
Absolutely.

1139
01:03:56,970 --> 01:03:58,390
No, I, I'm, I'm excited.

1140
01:03:58,950 --> 01:04:00,130
It's going to be fun.

1141
01:04:00,230 --> 01:04:06,070
I keep Kelly keeps saying, are you, are you worried?

1142
01:04:06,210 --> 01:04:11,110
Are you like, like trying to assess if I, are you ready?

1143
01:04:11,230 --> 01:04:19,150
If I'm, yeah, if I'm ready and, and I keep, I keep coming back to the same thing as I, I know it's going to be hard.

1144
01:04:19,730 --> 01:04:27,930
I have, I probably don't understand how hard, but at the same time, it's going to be natural.

1145
01:04:28,170 --> 01:04:29,510
You're going to be fine.

1146
01:04:30,210 --> 01:04:31,330
That's what I keep telling her.

1147
01:04:31,430 --> 01:04:36,190
Like, look from, from my perspective, we're super prepared.

1148
01:04:36,750 --> 01:04:40,430
Some of the things that we did that we thought this is going to be great are not going to work.

1149
01:04:40,730 --> 01:04:45,450
Some things that we have not even considered are going to be our favorite things to do.

1150
01:04:46,330 --> 01:04:52,550
Ultimately, uh, I think it's going to be a, uh, it's just going to be an awesome experience and it's fun.

1151
01:04:52,930 --> 01:04:57,530
You know, how many things in life that when you tell people they get all excited, right?

1152
01:04:57,690 --> 01:05:04,770
I, I, I tease whenever we go anywhere, she's always, it's cold, it's winter and she's always zipped up.

1153
01:05:04,890 --> 01:05:05,990
I'm like, unzip your coat.

1154
01:05:06,070 --> 01:05:06,690
People love the blanket.

1155
01:05:06,690 --> 01:05:07,950
Show baby mamas.

1156
01:05:08,350 --> 01:05:13,110
You can see people just light up seeing a woman.

1157
01:05:13,270 --> 01:05:13,750
Yeah.

1158
01:05:13,770 --> 01:05:14,530
That's creating.

1159
01:05:14,930 --> 01:05:15,050
Yeah.

1160
01:05:15,050 --> 01:05:17,130
That's doing what she's doing.

1161
01:05:17,250 --> 01:05:19,050
You're never ready, but you're always going to be ready.

1162
01:05:21,010 --> 01:05:23,370
You're as ready as, yeah.

1163
01:05:23,670 --> 01:05:36,050
As long as sounds so cliche where you got love, there's love all over your, your family, your, your, your marriage, your friends, everything's going to be great and you're going to learn and you're going to screw up and you're not going to screw up.

1164
01:05:36,050 --> 01:05:37,910
You're going to figure out things.

1165
01:05:38,050 --> 01:05:39,810
Oh my God, I feel like a genius.

1166
01:05:39,930 --> 01:05:48,990
I just figured this thing out that, you know, that everybody's been doing forever and it's just that you figured it out that moment and it helped you out for that moment.

1167
01:05:49,110 --> 01:05:56,990
Like I always say, I remember sitting at the, sitting down with the baby and I thought I will never watch a show again on TV.

1168
01:05:57,650 --> 01:05:59,130
Those days are done.

1169
01:05:59,230 --> 01:06:09,790
And I remember one year, it was years later, the babies, whatever it was, and I'm sitting there watching a meaningless game of football and I'm like, I'm back.

1170
01:06:09,950 --> 01:06:11,290
Oh, wait a minute.

1171
01:06:11,690 --> 01:06:13,390
Hey, it wasn't forever.

1172
01:06:13,610 --> 01:06:14,110
Exactly.

1173
01:06:14,310 --> 01:06:16,810
So, um, yeah, we're all get there.

1174
01:06:16,890 --> 01:06:17,150
Yep.

1175
01:06:17,450 --> 01:06:20,270
No, that's a, so, so there we are.

1176
01:06:20,370 --> 01:06:27,650
So we are just a handful days away from little baby Josie's arrival.

1177
01:06:28,030 --> 01:06:42,310
Have we, we talked about this, I think two episodes ago before we have to ask you, what's the, what's the verdict on baby Josie's first picture that she will not look like that ever again.

1178
01:06:42,310 --> 01:06:45,470
And within an hour is she has said no.

1179
01:06:45,910 --> 01:06:48,990
I think I am.

1180
01:06:49,070 --> 01:06:57,030
I haven't gotten a yes yet, but I think being that things have changed, things will change so quickly.

1181
01:06:57,110 --> 01:06:57,450
Oh my God.

1182
01:06:57,650 --> 01:07:01,570
And your baby will not look like that by the time you take it home.

1183
01:07:01,990 --> 01:07:02,430
Right.

1184
01:07:02,810 --> 01:07:03,730
Well, absolutely.

1185
01:07:03,930 --> 01:07:10,450
And I also feel like again, we talked about Kelly's cousin who just gave birth to their little boy Arman.

1186
01:07:11,290 --> 01:07:18,630
There were some pictures, there was some pictures on, on Facebook of Arman and they're, and he's cute kid.

1187
01:07:18,990 --> 01:07:22,230
And I think that might've also worked in our RV.

1188
01:07:22,290 --> 01:07:27,390
Now I know we're never going to like, we won't, we won't, we're never going to have pictures on social media.

1189
01:07:27,690 --> 01:07:37,550
I'm going to have to set up something to share with people, but I'm, I'm optimistic that you guys will see, there'll be a picture and I'll, and here's what I'll say.

1190
01:07:37,610 --> 01:07:45,090
I will do something so that you guys can see as long as I think I'm going to get a scam from Kelly.

1191
01:07:45,410 --> 01:07:45,810
Yeah.

1192
01:07:45,850 --> 01:07:46,410
I mean, I'll try.

1193
01:07:46,690 --> 01:07:51,730
I'm going to try some kind of a short or a pic or a picture post or something on social media.

1194
01:07:51,850 --> 01:08:05,710
So if you're not on our Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, tick tock, or any of the reddits, any of these things are on, get on them because that will be where that first picture may show up.

1195
01:08:05,870 --> 01:08:10,450
So, so please go on social media and track us down and like us.

1196
01:08:10,710 --> 01:08:13,330
But yeah, I'll, I think I'll, I'll try and do something.

1197
01:08:13,430 --> 01:08:21,010
It won't be like live stream here, but, but something I'll try and do something to share the, this is one of those things.

1198
01:08:21,130 --> 01:08:31,950
It's like, how many, like I know now I know generally that like what other thing in your life that you know, right.

1199
01:08:32,069 --> 01:08:36,950
This is the best, the best moment of my life is going to happen.

1200
01:08:37,210 --> 01:08:37,649
Yeah.

1201
01:08:37,649 --> 01:08:38,870
Like I didn't know.

1202
01:08:39,050 --> 01:08:39,150
Yeah.

1203
01:08:39,170 --> 01:08:41,770
I was all, Oh my God, it's happening in your rush.

1204
01:08:41,950 --> 01:08:42,130
Right.

1205
01:08:42,350 --> 01:08:44,390
You're literally going to the appointment.

1206
01:08:44,590 --> 01:08:45,029
Right.

1207
01:08:45,430 --> 01:08:50,790
I'm like, I literally getting a haircut, getting a haircut yesterday and make it look good.

1208
01:08:50,870 --> 01:08:54,069
Cause this is going to be the haircut that my daughter sees for the first time.

1209
01:08:54,109 --> 01:08:54,370
Yeah.

1210
01:08:54,510 --> 01:08:56,450
Imagining a face right now.

1211
01:08:56,630 --> 01:08:58,430
What I know it's so hard.

1212
01:08:59,350 --> 01:09:03,130
Every time I try to imagine a face, I just know it's going to be blurry.

1213
01:09:03,170 --> 01:09:05,590
Cause I'll be crying basically.

1214
01:09:05,649 --> 01:09:06,550
I'll be a mess.

1215
01:09:07,170 --> 01:09:08,970
Both times I cried.

1216
01:09:09,109 --> 01:09:13,370
I couldn't, I couldn't stop snot bubbles.

1217
01:09:13,550 --> 01:09:22,470
I mean, it was so over the top and, um, and I'm so proud of that moment that I felt that way.

1218
01:09:22,470 --> 01:09:24,810
Cause I knew this is a life changing.

1219
01:09:25,350 --> 01:09:25,450
Yeah.

1220
01:09:25,529 --> 01:09:28,390
You will never love anything more than right.

1221
01:09:28,710 --> 01:09:34,890
That person, that, that baby, it'll, it'll put your priorities straight.

1222
01:09:35,470 --> 01:09:39,770
It'll make you know why you're living, why you're here.

1223
01:09:40,050 --> 01:09:46,990
And I'll tell you the minute you see that face, it's going to be exactly what you always saw.

1224
01:09:47,170 --> 01:09:47,270
Yep.

1225
01:09:47,310 --> 01:09:47,750
That's her.

1226
01:09:48,149 --> 01:09:48,370
Yep.

1227
01:09:49,229 --> 01:09:49,670
Absolutely.

1228
01:09:49,870 --> 01:09:50,130
Yeah.

1229
01:09:50,170 --> 01:09:53,490
The minute you see go, Oh yeah, that's what I was saying.

1230
01:09:53,890 --> 01:09:54,330
Yeah.

1231
01:09:54,390 --> 01:09:58,070
When I was 11 years old or whatever, think of kids, that was it.

1232
01:09:58,130 --> 01:10:02,770
And then you can't ever think of life without this person in your life.

1233
01:10:02,790 --> 01:10:08,230
Even though, you know, you're two minutes old and, and I can't remember the day.

1234
01:10:08,550 --> 01:10:08,750
Yeah.

1235
01:10:08,750 --> 01:10:09,950
It's just, yeah.

1236
01:10:10,310 --> 01:10:10,610
No.

1237
01:10:10,810 --> 01:10:12,590
Congratulations to both of you guys.

1238
01:10:12,650 --> 01:10:13,630
Thank you very much.

1239
01:10:13,830 --> 01:10:18,390
You guys are gonna have a loving family and uh, yeah, that's a lucky baby.

1240
01:10:18,510 --> 01:10:21,870
It's, it's something, uh, it's something I'm looking forward to it.

1241
01:10:21,910 --> 01:10:24,190
Thank you very much to you.

1242
01:10:24,590 --> 01:10:27,230
Thank you to everybody who listens and watches.

1243
01:10:27,990 --> 01:10:34,110
And, uh, this has been great to do this buildup, to do the prequel with you guys.

1244
01:10:34,290 --> 01:10:36,670
And now we're about to get into the main event.

1245
01:10:36,750 --> 01:10:38,370
Now you're going to get the steak.

1246
01:10:38,570 --> 01:10:38,870
Yeah.

1247
01:10:38,910 --> 01:10:40,270
It's just, we had to sell it.

1248
01:10:40,290 --> 01:10:40,830
That's right.

1249
01:10:40,910 --> 01:10:41,450
It's the steak.

1250
01:10:41,530 --> 01:10:42,670
We just didn't put down the bread.

1251
01:10:42,730 --> 01:10:43,130
Yeah.

1252
01:10:43,430 --> 01:10:46,610
Had the salad might be a little full, but you can handle a little bit more.

1253
01:10:47,410 --> 01:10:48,850
There's always room for a good steak.

1254
01:10:48,930 --> 01:10:49,390
That's right.

1255
01:10:49,750 --> 01:10:51,990
So anyway, they went to see on the other side.

1256
01:10:52,310 --> 01:10:52,710
Yeah.

1257
01:10:52,890 --> 01:10:53,890
Thanks very much.

1258
01:10:53,890 --> 01:10:58,730
I look forward to seeing you next time as an actual father.

1259
01:10:58,750 --> 01:11:00,410
You're going to be, I'm Frank.

1260
01:11:00,590 --> 01:11:02,630
I'm 55 and what's your new title?

1261
01:11:02,870 --> 01:11:03,230
Remember?

1262
01:11:03,410 --> 01:11:04,350
Cause you, you always start away.

1263
01:11:04,510 --> 01:11:04,790
Yeah.

1264
01:11:04,790 --> 01:11:06,750
I have to come up with a new start with I'm 55.

1265
01:11:06,950 --> 01:11:08,670
My wife is 30.

1266
01:11:09,150 --> 01:11:10,310
Whatever my wife is.

1267
01:11:10,410 --> 01:11:15,150
Now you're going to be like, I'm 55 and I'm a father of a one week old.

1268
01:11:15,410 --> 01:11:15,670
Yeah.

1269
01:11:16,170 --> 01:11:17,990
Something like that.

1270
01:11:18,110 --> 01:11:19,430
And my wife isn't talking to me.

1271
01:11:20,930 --> 01:11:26,990
I now live with the, I have been sent out.

1272
01:11:27,310 --> 01:11:29,590
It's going to be fun to see where this goes.

1273
01:11:29,690 --> 01:11:30,350
It's going to be awesome.

1274
01:11:30,570 --> 01:11:30,690
Yeah.

1275
01:11:31,270 --> 01:11:32,270
Thanks very much.

1276
01:11:32,410 --> 01:11:33,670
I will see you soon.

1277
01:11:34,510 --> 01:11:34,950
Bye.

1278
01:11:36,130 --> 01:11:40,370
Well folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

1279
01:11:40,890 --> 01:11:43,330
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1280
01:11:43,590 --> 01:11:44,530
We hope it was fun.

1281
01:11:45,170 --> 01:11:51,670
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1282
01:11:52,090 --> 01:12:00,250
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1283
01:12:01,170 --> 01:12:13,130
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1284
01:12:13,230 --> 01:12:14,350
We'd love to hear from you.

1285
01:12:15,170 --> 01:12:16,710
And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to bed.