The Final Countdown : Episode 20

0:00 When I volunteered originally, I basically was like, whatever mass, whatever job, just put me wherever. But now I kept it to just 10 o'clock and the assignments came out for April and I'm reader one on Easter Sunday. So you have to come for Easter. And because what I immediately, I saw it because reader one, when they do that, you're already up there. So you do the opening announcements and you do the first reading. So in the opening announcements, there's a whole blurb about, oh, you know, you know, please make a note of access. Children must be escorted to the restroom. So I looked at Kelly and I'm like, so you think father would be mad if I said children must be escorted to the restroom, including my daughter, who's five weeks old and here for the first time.

0:46 Give it up for baby Josie. And she's like, don't do that. This is the gray hair and daycare podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ, right? In that same range, your hosts, Frank Cereo and Carlo Russo. And here we are again, strangely enough, wearing the same shirts as the last episode.

1:27 We are back over seven days. He got away from me and I'm never letting him leave again. He's locked in. So here we are. It is episode 20. We've made it to 20 and this episode is going to be a little different because we're going to cover, I want to catch you guys up closer to real time. So we're going to talk about week 37 and week 38. So you get to produce updates this time. So the last time I think it was a Swiss charred, Swiss charred. We're hopefully between last week and this week, someone has explained to us what that is.

2:10 Phil, Phil, we're looking at you week 37. She is the size of a leak. Didn't we have that? I thought it was way before. So maybe a giant leak. We're not sure. And, but now the, the last update was that her lungs and brain were still developing. Now a week later, fully, fully developed. That's it. So she's got a, she's got a good set of lungs and she has a fully developed brain. Love it. And week 37, moving into week 38. Now she is full term and these, these produce things.

2:55 She's full term now. A one week later, she was a leak in 37 horse pumpkin. Jesus. No wonder Kelly is having a hard time getting around. She's a pumpkin now. So we know it's a week 38 full term. She's the size of a pumpkin. That can't be right. I think people, whoever writes these, there's like, Oh, it's a pumpkin. That's it. Halloween pumpkin. I don't know. There has to be a little, there's a little pumpkin. There has to be a little squash. Maybe it's like a baking pumpkin. They're smaller. Thank you. It's a baking pumpkin. We're going to add value that way. So the update this time is the Lenugo.

3:39 It's like the new Buick. The Lenugo, which is the fine downy hair that we have said in the past is already gone. It's now gone. So the, and the other update is her lungs are producing surficant, surficant, surf. Oh, I'm sorry. Surfactant, surfactant. We were going to go, we were going to get called. That would be immediately corrected. So this is a something that will help her breathe when she is born. Gotcha. And her nails have now reached the end of the end of her little toes.

4:25 So she has a full set of nails going on and that's, it's a week 38 full term. We've got a full little baby there. It's yep. She's like a real, she's like a real thing. Nails and brain. Yeah. Brain and surfactant. This reminds me of these, these words that come up and I have to look up how they're pronounced. And then it reminds me of the beginning of my relationship with Kelly because we would be texting back and forth and she would use words that I would have to look up and be like, what did she just say? Let me tell you, I make up words cause I don't know enough of words and Trina will just sit there and go, what did you just say?

5:11 No, repeat it. And I know the minute I hear that, I'm like, Oh, what did I just say? What did I make up? You always have, you can fall back on, this is my second language, right? You can say that. Hey, I'm illiterate in two languages. Thank you. What is your, what is your excuse? That's it. That's funny. I do say that, but I don't think that's true, but that's, I do have an out on that one. It works. It works. Yep. So anyway, so we are, you know, week 37 and 38, we'll talk about that stuff. We're going from a leak to a pumpkin. Yes. Pumpkin fully full term, ready to go. Awesome. Which is very, very exciting.

5:53 It's getting very exciting. So then we're going to do something now that we have not done. This is a segment that we have not done for six weeks. Oh God. It's been a while. And what am I dressing up? It is. We've done that. I know we were going to go into check, please. So check, please. As, as you know, we're, I'm deciding to keep an itemized list of all the things we are spending money on related to the baby. Now I have to say this total, I'm to give you a clue. I'm going over, dude, I'm just, I'm going to, I'm going to modulate your expectations a little bit.

6:33 So here's what it is. So last time, six weeks ago, it was $3,077.17. Yes. So, and that would have been week 30 or no, we 32. So, and there had been some big purchases. Now in six weeks, I'm going to say this didn't change as much as I thought it had, but it's because very frankly of something to be extremely grateful for, which is the just amazing generosity that we have benefited from. People have been so like with, between the showers and other just gifts and people giving us stuff that their kids are aging out of.

7:18 We have had, had to do very little compared to what I thought this bill was going to be by now. It's not, it's not as much, but it's always fun to have you guess and be wrong. So, so here we are. And six weeks ago, the total was $3,077.17. Okay. Putting that, everything you just said, then you can ask a few questions if you want to see what's in there. I'm going to ask questions. I'm assuming the coffee machine is not part of the money cost. I'll do it in my head. If you think that it's fair to bill my child for the coffee machine. Yes, but no, I did not include that.

7:58 Okay. So I will, I will not put it in there. That's not in there. Okay. You have a three shower lady. She took, she had three showers. So you got a lot of stuff. Yes. And like you said, a lot of people have given you stuff. I'm going to go and I'm going to be totally wrong because I'm horrible at this game. I'm going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm going to even it up, make it easy. $5,000. Okay. Two grand more, two grand more, which is horrible, which is not, it's going to be like, it's going to be like seven thousand, but no, it's not. It's actually, it's a lot less than I thought it was going to be. So over the last six weeks, it's only gone up barely $500.

8:44 I'm telling you because so many people, I'm not counting any of the gift stuff. So, so many people have been so generous. Huh? You did good. Oh, it's been to me. I really, this number should be huge. Yeah, no, this is, we're at 3503 43. Good for you. And basically the difference between last time and this time was we've talked about the cradle wise, the crib, we put that in there. Cradle wise, of course has proprietary beddings. You have to buy it special for them, but they have been on backorder or something. So Kelly was concerned that we wouldn't, we'd only have like one set. So she ordered stuff from cradle wise and ordered some from Amazon.

9:30 Gotcha. So some of it was that. And then the other thing that was in there, that was the significant part of this, a little bit more significant at one point or another, we, you know, we're like, what happens a lot to me is I wake up, we get up early, but I usually wake up maybe 30 minutes before the alarm. I just wake up before the alarm typically. And I'll then think, I'll think like, that's my type. I just sit there and think about stuff. And I was thinking, and I'm thinking about, you know, how this is going to change with the baby and what we have set up. So we've got the cradle wise, we have the crib, we have a changing table and you know, that stuff. So we've got the rocker set up for nursing and all that stuff.

10:13 We have the, the, my best friend nursing pillow. So we have all this stuff, but really that's pretty much it. And I'm thinking, where do we put the baby when you just have to set the baby down? Right? Like, like I'm, we're not, you can't just like put her in a chair, put her on the couch or just flop over. And I'm like, you know, don't they make little seats and, you know, bouncers. Yeah. The stuff like that. And I ask, so I asked my lovely wife, I'm like, shouldn't we have some where to put that? And she's like, well, no, you know, she's going to be, they sleep and they eat. She'll be in the crib where we'll be holding her.

10:53 And I'm like all the time. And I'm like, it doesn't seem like we should have something. So they can get their neck strong enough. So you're not putting them in a floppy baby. Right. But I'm like, we should have something. Shouldn't we have something else? And then she brought up the carrier that you try it out. I'm like, but all the time, like, until they're 60. And I'm like, this sounds like not, this doesn't sound right. So I started asking, I'm like, we should get something. So I started doing research and there's these, and of course she knows about the products. I'm like, aren't there little seats? And she's like, well, yeah, there's a baby Bjorn and there's this and that. And I'm like, okay. So I look up and I do some research.

11:34 I asked a couple of my, one of my employees is a mom. I'm like, shouldn't we have, she's like, absolutely get a swing, get this, get that. And so I'm like, okay. So I did some research and there were a couple of different options. And the baby Bjorn is the product, which is a tennis player, baby Bjorn Borg. Okay. Well, very good. But the baby Bjorn is, it's very nicely engineered, cute. It's kind of like spring loaded. Okay. So the, the baby's movement makes the bit, makes it bounce. Okay. So it kind of gets, so they can kind of soothe themselves. But basically it looks to me like if you pull back on it, it's like a baby catapult, right?

12:17 I know exactly. I own that. Okay. We did. Okay. And you can place it on a tabletop. Right. You can put it wherever. And it's very, it will be your best friend. It's beautifully engineered folds flat. You can, you can set it up at three different levels and you can adjust it all with one hand. So they know what they're doing. It's very well engineered. It's come up to date now, but that was one, I don't know how we're going to have you test it, but I will. So that was the big, uh, that was the big purchase really that drove that. It's great that your mind went to, we can't hold this baby all the time. I need to drink and eat, write something. It can't be always one of us.

12:57 It's like, that's why I just, my head goes immediately to the future, like a 14 year old baby Josie saying, and they never put me down. So I didn't want to go to school while you're still holding her. Like you said that. Well, that's why it's so important to have as many family members because you just, yeah, I have to, the cool thing is you'll see yourselves eating in shifts. Yup. Yeah. You'll, you'll do that. Your turn to eat now. I'll hold two, two, two faster. Yeah. That's a good thing. That was it. So yeah. So that was my big contribution to the supplies. So $500. So when we went up about 500 bucks, the bedding, the bedding and that stuff.

13:38 And that was about it. But yeah, honestly, like this number is not what I thought. Cause really when you think about it, almost half of that is just the cradle, just the crib. So yeah, we really, uh, everybody was super generous. Yeah. We didn't have to get a lot of the big stuff. We didn't have to do it again. Everything disappears with the registry. My brother, he's been traveling, going back and forth and his, his wife reached out to Kelly and she's like, well, we were going to get you a shower present and there's nothing on the registry. There was nothing left. So he's like, well, what do I, what do I tell them? I'm like, put that $400 stroller on there.

14:20 Yeah. So, uh, and so, and very generously, uh, they, they took care of that. Well you knew plow for the Jeep. Yeah. I would like a new full size pickup with a, with an eight and a half foot plow blade. So they picked up the last thing that you guys. That's yeah. So right now the car has the seat in it, right? It has the base cause we got the, yeah, well it's, so my, my car is going to become her car. Right. Well lately, like for the last couple of weeks, it's interesting. I've, I've been bringing her to work and picking her up. So I'm now used to her commute going back and forth. But yeah, today actually will be her last day of work. Um, she, she'll be finishing up and, and then ready for baby Josie.

15:05 Wow. But yeah. Awesome. So yeah, so that's where we are, but that was check please. And the next one, like, so now I'm assuming, cause it's, it seems like we have enough clothes actually told like she's three. Yeah. So we'll see what we actually, the rest is just going to be diapers, I guess, as that client, but people gave us that stuff too. It's really a diaper cake will cook. We'll be that cut into, there you go. It's still, it's still in town. Oh yeah. It's, it's sitting, we, I, we have that in our, in our spare bedroom with, so it's like the, the diaper tower and then all the baby books on one side and games and toys. It's looks, yeah, it's cute.

15:45 So yeah, so we got that. So, but now we are going to move on to what just happened. So again, we're going to kind of cover week 37 and week 38. Let's do it. So we did week 36 in the last episode. And if you recall, basically my hero neighbor across the street, Chris came over and cleared, cleared out the driveway. It just in time for us to go to this doctor's appointment. So the way this practice has worked, which I'm really not a super fan of is, and I'm sure a lot of, a lot of practices are like this.

16:26 Every time we go, we see somebody different. Yeah. We've only seen out of all the times we've gone, we've only seen one doctor twice. Okay. Everybody else has been a one and done. So this time when we went in week 37, we get this finally a doctor that I really liked. And it's funny because she's probably Indian and, but her name was Cavetti. And I'm like, well, she married an Italian. So Kelly Kelly's father is immigrated from India. Mom's Polish. So there was a little, there's a little connection there.

17:08 And then I'm thinking Cavetti, come on. So I already like her, but she was, she was really, she was nice. She talked to us. She answered our questions. She shared experiences and it was good. And basically it was all good. We did another fetal stress test. That was fine. Again, she looked at everything and look back to the stuff with the couple of high blood pressure readings yet. And it was like, look, we would only be worried if you were seeing consistent high blood pressure readings, consistent high blood sugar readings, and you don't have those. So you're in good shape. And basically said at that point, again, now, so we're in week 37, everybody all along has been saying week 37, week 39, they're going to induce.

17:53 So we're thinking we're going to find out something. She says, well, no, you know, look, you're going to come back next week. We're going to do the tests again. And at that point, if everything is still tracking good, we'll probably schedule you for week sometime in week 39. And if anything changes, then we might move it sooner. Okay. So we're like, okay. And immediately she leaves, you know, so, so she leaves and we're going to, I'm like, I like her and Kelly saying, she's like, yeah, she was really nice. This is much more what I would expect. We should see if she can be the one to deliver. Like we really, you can do that really. I don't, at the time we weren't sure. Okay. We both really, we both really liked her. She was great. You're in a good place with her. Yeah. I felt good about it.

18:34 I'm like, yeah. And Cavetti, she must marry an Italian Kelly's like, no, it's with a K committee. She's she's Indian. I'm like, okay. Okay. So I thought that was kind of funny. So she was, so we get, yeah, that's it. She's from Venice. A lot of Indians in Venice. Yeah. So we did basically, we did that. And then really the kind of the rest of that week was just staying to kind of work stuff. Cause I'm planning on taking a little bit of time off and Kelly has a lot of time that she's going to take. So she's, we're both kind of working to finalize as much of that.

19:16 Yeah. We've got a couple of weeks left. We want to be able to get that all put to bed so we don't have to worry. So we're focusing on really that. And then for me continuing to keep up on the snow, cause it was still snowing into that week. So this would have been like the second week you were gone again, left, left us here. I will never leave the snow. You can never, never leave us again. That's right. Yeah. That's right. When's that? You're five. It's in July. You're going to be swimming with a baby. That's right. Yeah. Okay. Hopefully by then. So basically through that, then we're coming up, we're coming to the weekend and had got a visit from a friend, Kate.

19:59 She was not able to make it to either of the showers. This, this friend of yours. Yeah. So she came and again, very generous, a bunch of gifts. And then her, her daughter is, I think coming up on three that in that range and bring, give, gave us literally a tote full of stuff of all, all these cute clothes and stuff like that. So again, even more than it really is, it's just parents love when other people have babies because it clears their house. That probably is true. I can see that because I'm thinking about it now, would not, you know, like, Oh my God, somebody could use this.

20:44 I don't have to throw it away or what a solid or whatever. And it's such a good thing when we did it a couple of times and had done it to us as well when we had ours. But parents love that when they hear a friend or a family member is pregnant. Oh yeah. I have a perfect truckload of stuff to give you. So there's been a lot of that. And funnily, funnily enough, we were talking about the baby Bjorn. One of the things she brings us is kind of a different version of that. It's not a baby Bjorn, but it's the same idea. So we got another one of those. So we get all that stuff. So she came to visit, I think on Saturday and then, yeah, so we went to mass 515 mass. I had, I got to read again. So it was a full day on Saturday.

21:24 And then Sunday, one of Kelly's friends who's a former coworker stopped over. She has like a three month old, four month old who had just, who's just discovered the joys of raspberries. Like he was having a fun time with that. So she came, she came to visit with the baby. I came down here and I did some editing and they got to visit, which was nice. But again, brought a bunch of stuff. How, so there's a baby in the house. Yeah. How are the dogs? The dogs were very interested. Okay. But they're interested in her. And then this little guy in a carrier, we had them on a leash, right?

22:09 Cause you never know. So yeah, you know, but they were generally, I think, I think they're going to be okay. Cool. Yeah. So there was that, but basically like the whole weekend was kind of visiting and doing then. But then the part of the problem with, with all of this stuff that everybody has given us is Kelly's very organized. We have a limited amount of space, like with dressers and things like that. So as we get stuff, we're getting it all in waves, right? So she got all the stuff, all the clothes and everything that everybody gave us from the first shower. Cause you guys were loaded last time I walked in. She went through it all, categorized it, like broke all the clothes down by size and then organized it.

22:52 So there was this drawer is these, this size is this door is this size. You know exactly where to go. But then more shows up from the second shower. So she's got to reorganize it again and expands into another drawer. And then the work shower happens and then so-and-so shows up with more and more. So now she's like reorganizing this stuff on Sunday for like the fifth time. And I can tell she's like, it's just, it's like, okay, it's a lot. And I think I'm trying to convince her. I know coming into this weekend, cause now we're coming down to the wire. I'm trying to convince her. I was talking to her last time. Like what we need to do is take a Sharpie and a garbage bag and say like three to six, throw it all in there and throw it somewhere and just use the space we have for the stuff we're going to use right now.

23:43 Cause she's trying to sort it all out, but it's just, there's so much. I am not convinced that we will be able to wear all of this stuff once over the baby. I won't be able to wear any of it unless I do hand puppets. But the fact is she's going to grow up so quick. I don't know. Like we could have a different outfit every day. So yeah. So I'm not, I'm not sure, but I could tell she was getting a little stressed out with having to reorganize again, but you know, no more snowmageddon. It was a little more of a relaxing weekend. So let me ask you, sure. It's getting closer. Yes. You've been praying for this wishing, hoping for a long time, very long time to be a dad.

24:29 Yeah. It's close brother. Yep. How are you feeling literally? Like when you wake up and you have that half hour before the alarm goes off in the last, what, what are you feeling? What, what's going through your mind right now? This has been, and I think what happened over the next couple of days, it speaks exactly to that. You're, you're right. You're right, right there with what's happening. So this is the weekend is what it is. So as we usually do, we've got a Monday morning doctor's appointment. Okay. So now it's week 38. Yes. They are, have been telling us forever. Week 39 is when they're going to induce.

25:12 So we think they got to tell us something this time. Of course. And again, last week, as we, as we discussed, basically we had everything go well, we meet this great doctor and she says, look, if everything goes well, we'll schedule you in week 39. So we go in Monday morning and the first thing they do is the fetal non-stress test. Now we've done like four or five of these. We could walk in the room, boom, boom. They put the sensors on and we're sitting there. And to answer your question, I'm sitting there and feeling very honestly, just overwhelming joy. I'm so happy to the point where I'm almost tearing up watching this happen.

25:55 I'm like everything. We've been so lucky. People have shown us unbelievable generosity. It's just, it's been wonderful. It's so close now. It's going to, it's going to happen. And I'm like, you know what? Everything's and things are, are moving well. Like the snow begins behind us. We've got, we have a nice landing pad set up for the baby. We're ready for it. We've got a few more things to do this week, but nothing Kelly's going to get done with her work. I'm going to wrap up my work this week. Next week it's here. Right. And it was awesome. They're, they're doing the test. I'm holding, holding Kelly's hand and telling her how I'm feeling.

26:36 It's just, it was wonderful. And, and the interesting thing that happened, I've been watching this, these tests happen and I'm on the first few, I'm paying very close attention. And when they do this, it's almost like an EKG readout. It's on a computer and you can see the baby's heart rate and you can see a measurement of the contractions that Kelly might be experiencing. Now, up until now, the two graphs kind of moved together. Okay. So really what it looked like to me was, and you could hear it, little baby Josie would move, her heart rate would go up and it would come back down.

27:17 And when she moved the, the graph would move for the contractions, but it really looked like it was more registering just movement of the baby. And, and I would ask, and, and Kelly would say, yeah, no, I'm not really feeling anything. So the girl comes in after, because they let this thing run for like 20 minutes. Okay. So the girl comes in and looks at it. She's like, Oh, the heart rate looks good. Everything looks great. How are those contractions feeling? And Kelly, and I'm like, Oh, and Kelly says, Oh, I'm not having any. And she says, and the girl looks at her and says, yes, you are. And she points at the graph and now, and I haven't really been paying close attention because I'm all love drunk with happiness.

27:58 And I look and there are now they see spikes on that graph. And she's like, yeah, you're having to see that. That's a contraction. And that's a contraction. And Kelly's like, Oh, yeah. Now, again, for me, subsequent, I've had subsequent conversations since then with her and other female friends. And it's one of those things that for us, like for a guy, we think, well, you don't, you feel what's your problem for a woman. She's so used. So she's so used to probably serious menstrual cramps that she experiences.

28:40 This is like, yeah, that's nothing. Our pains are totally different because we're such babies. Right. Exactly. So that's what it's all. I'm fascinated by them. Like, wow, if all contractions are like this for you, you're going to pop. It'll be like nothing. That's great. So I thought that was funny. But so we get done with that and they clean up, they clean her up and we go in and we're waiting for the doctor. But this time we don't get the doctor. We like last time. This time we get the doctor. This is now the first time we get the same doctor twice. So this is the second time we have this doctor. Gotcha. Nice enough. But she's been pretty perfunctory up until now. So she sits down. It's always like I'm holding, like I've got the Stanley cup.

29:21 I've got her coat. I'm sitting. You're the guy when I used to go take my mom or my wife to go find a dress and I'm outside the dressing room with her purse and the coffee. That's like you're like at the mall. Yeah. I'm at the you're the mall there. Yeah. That's exactly it. So I'm just sitting there. You know, watch it. She's she's on the examination table and doctor. So how are you feeling? And it's I'm I'm chuckling because she looks at Kelly says, how are you feeling? And Kelly looks at me like I'm supposed to answer. Let me look at my lawyer. And I'm like, she feels great. She does it a couple of times. She's like, well, you know, it's been pretty good.

30:03 I wonder why people do a lot of people do that. They turn to their partner. This was fascinating. And at one point I even say I'm like, I don't understand why you're looking at me. Am I supposed to do like color commentary? Like, what am I, John Madden? Like, I don't understand. So I'm okay. So and then the woman says, well, and this is where the looking to me stops. And this is where this is where it gets interesting. Now it stops. Okay. No, no. So she's like, she, she said, how are you feeling? And she does the look at me. And she says she's been feeling fine. The, the feel non-stress test was good. Her blood pressure was good. All, everything was good. So in my head, I'm expecting finally, let's set it up. We're going to set it up for next week.

30:44 Absolutely. Right. Kelly's going to be done with work. This is Monday. Kelly's going to be doing with work Thursday. I'll be done with work Friday. This is perfect. We'll have a weekend. We've got actually Kelly's brother and his wife who have been unbelievably generous are coming. This are going to be coming on the weekend, bringing us food for when the baby comes like, you know, awesome. So I'm like, this is great. And the doctor says, well, because of your advanced maternal age and the, and the gestational diabetes and, and your other circumstances, we could have induced you anywhere between week 37 and week 39. So immediately I'm like, I have never heard anything about 37 or 38.

31:28 All I've ever heard was 39, 39, 39. So she says that she says, you know, we could have done it. We could have done at any time between 37 and 39 and you're in week 38. So how about Friday? No. So she's, how about Friday? And now again, when the doctor asks how you're feeling, Kelly looks at me like I, like I should be contributing to this conversation. And this is the timing. Say it to me, say to me, the words, how about Friday? Okay. Uh, Frank, how about Friday? Okay, great. What was that? My wife, not a pause, not a hesitation.

32:11 Oh, you were Kelly. Okay. Hey Kelly, how about Friday? Okay, great. Yeah. Not me. Her. Did she look in my direction? Not that time. Did she say, honey, my dear husband, who's been driving me back and forth to work every day since the snowstorm. Does she say, what do you think? Nope. Okay, great. She's like, get it out of me now. And I'm like, and that's, so it's completely incongruent. I'm like, what is happening? And so immediately my head, I start thinking about, okay, I, this doesn't make me feel great. I'm not excited, but okay. How do I make this work? And the laundry list, it's like, remember in the Terminator, when you'd see like from the Terminator's point of view and the list of stuff.

32:54 So immediately red light, like it's coming in my eye. Like, okay. Issue number one, I have things I have to do on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. Right. But okay. So I've got work to do. She's got stuff we've got to do. Uh, then the one other thing I didn't mention, I think we talked about earlier or maybe last episode, my, my sister and her husband had traveled and they came back. So now our plan has always been whenever this happens that my sister and her husband, we're going to take care of the dogs while we're at the hospital. Gotcha. Right. So that's been the plan. My, my brother-in-law has, has come down with COVID.

33:39 Oh Jesus. So now he's and they're, they're together. So now they're not going to be able to come anywhere near the baby for until well into a week or two. So now we don't, we don't have anybody to watch the dogs. The brother and sister-in-law are coming on the weekend. So we're going to have to tell them to stay home. We got to find somebody. And I'm like, I, so my, I'm scrambling, but I'm not, I didn't say anything. You didn't show it. Yeah. I didn't say anything. And she's like, uh, and the doctor is like, well great. Cause I'm working Friday. So now, so now the other, so now the, I'm, so now the other side, the cynical part of me is like, this woman was working Friday, didn't have anybody she needed to take care of at the hospital and is, let's just put, let's, let's slide right in.

34:28 Cause ultimately, and I do believe this and nothing against the medical community, but all these inductions and things like that, this, none of this needs to happen. They do it now because they have to manage their throughput and manage resources. So she's like, well, you know what, let me go look at the schedule and see what we can do. Comes back. It's a haircut. She comes, she comes back in 8am. So I'm like, Oh my God, 8am Friday, we're going to do this. And I'm just like, how am I going to, how am I going to make this happen? I don't feel comfortable with this. I don't like it. I was thinking the whole time I'm thinking, I'm hoping when we go into this conversation, it's going to be later.

35:11 I'm hoping it's going to be like Wednesday, Thursday of next week, a week 39 because I really want her to just go into labor naturally. I don't want her to have to be induced. So I'm thinking the longer we wait, the better chance there is that that would happen. But, and so now that's shot out the window. So we get done, we check out and I'm bringing, bringing Kelly to work and I'm trying to like, how do I, she hasn't still mentioned anything to you about, so what do you think? No, not yet. No, I'm just like, yep, it's Friday. And so I'm like, so we start to have what I know is going to be a difficult conversation of, Hey, you know, so like, look, I, I, I want to, I want to understand better.

36:01 Did you expect that that might happen? Like, did I miss something? Cause I never heard anything about week 37 ever. And she's like, well, no. And for me, this is one of the things where I think everybody has their own little pieces of crazy. And this is one of those times, one of those places where her crazy and my crazy interact in a bad way. And that is Kelly is one of those people that is very, wants to be compliant. She doesn't like to say no to people. She doesn't like to be difficult. She always wants to make it easier for me, which is, which is great, which is a beautiful, it's a wonderful thing. And I have, I have point, but I have pointed out to her in the past, we've had these conversations where I'm like, you know, I've noticed that you really never say no to anybody but me.

36:56 And, and her answer is she's like, well, I know that you love me. And I know that if I can, I can say no to you and that's not going to change how you feel about me, which is very nice. Except for the fact that I still keep getting the nose, right? But it's okay. So I understand why. Yes. But I understand that this is how my wife works. So I'm trying to assess in my head and then through converse. Yes, I am. So I'm trying to figure out in my head, is she really secretly worried and more cause cause she hasn't been demonstrating this to me. I'm not noticing her all stressed out or saying, Oh my God, I can't wait until this happens. There's not been none of that. So I'm trying to understand, is this just her being her and not wanting to make, you know, agreeing with it, just agreeing with it.

37:41 And that's it. Or am I missing something and through conversation and talking to her. And again, it's one of those things. It's not a conversation you want to have on the way to work. Right? So we talked a little bit about it. She had to go to work. I go back, I'm, I'm working through the day. I go to pick her up. We talked more that evening. And I think there was a little bit of that. She's worried. And, uh, you know, that, that she's worried that scare that happened. And I think we talked about it in the, in the last episode when she went to the doctor and they said, we'll do the blood work. And I just found this out a couple of days ago when they said, we'll do the blood work and we'll let you know.

38:26 Sure. She came home and told me, yeah, they said, you know, they did some blood work and we'll let you know. And then later that night she said, Oh, well, he came back and they didn't call. So I guess everything's good. Okay. What, while we were planning this morning, I always review with, as I said before, I review with Kelly and I'm like, okay, let's, what did we talk about? Like what happened for when we do the podcast? And she said, well, and I was asking her about the, that time. Cause it was a couple of weeks ago. I want to remember it. I didn't want to be another, I was wrong. So I'm going through it. I'm looking at, and I said, she's like, well, yeah, they said we'll do the blood work. And then if anything comes back, we'll bring you into the hospital tonight and induce you. And I'm like, you never, never told me that.

39:08 She just said they did blood work and they'll let us know. And then when they didn't say anything, we knew we were okay. But apparently back a few they said that because this is serious, right? Like if they found something that was indicating that it's preeclampsia, like the baby out at that, she was already at that point, week 36, they could have, they could have induced her and everything probably would have been okay. Yeah. But so I'm like, so that gave a little bit different context. So I think there was part of it was that made her worried. She doesn't want to push her luck. Let's get this done. My wife is very conservative and she, she's not a, well, let's, you know, let's take a, let's take a measured, like I'm much more of the mind.

39:53 Like let's take a measured chance to get the optimal, right? This might be better. Let's get us a couple more days for it to happen naturally or things like that. The information that you have. Exactly. Not just a blind. No, let's go for Wednesday. Let's roll the dice. Whatever information you have that you can only work on the information you have. Right. Right. So ultimately it was, you know, we had, we talked about it and we decided that Tuesday morning she would reach back out and see if we could see what our options were to move it. Okay. And, but then even that was, was kind of a challenge because you talk to them and they're like, well, we don't induce on the weekend, so we can't do Saturday.

40:38 So right now we're scheduled for Friday at 8am. Right. So you can't do it Saturday or Sunday. So then you have to push it to Monday. Now we're in week 39, which is okay. Monday and Tuesday, there's no midwife on duty at St. Joe's. So that affects the decision. And then if you go Sunday night, you're going to get this doctor. And then if you go Monday, you're going to get this doctor and another doctor. If you go Tuesday, you'll get this other doctor, but they'll be there for the whole thing. So it's like just another laundry list of options and time. Which they just want you to be so confused and go, you know what?

41:20 Let's just do Friday. And of course that's not the way I approach it. Right. So we talked, so, and Kelly's at work. So she calls, leaves a message for the doctor on the way to work. They call her back. She calls me, she calls them, we're going back and forth. And we finally settled on a compromise. Basically our options were Sunday night, Monday sometime or Tuesday sometime. And we didn't want to push it any further than Tuesday. Right. So we, we ended up settling on Monday. So right now, so we're recording this today on a Thursday and we are scheduled for Monday at five o'clock.

42:03 Wow. So that it's here. So now, and then I felt better because I wasn't sure after hearing all this stuff, the last thing I want to do, like, I know this is what happened. This is what's going on. The dynamic with me and Kelly, when that doctor said that and, and she said, okay, great. And I didn't say anything in that moment. She is doing her thing, which is a tendency to, to be compliant, I think. And I am doing the, don't be your dad, Frank, keep your mouth shut. Right. Right. This is not the spot. I'm my dad, my dad was very just, it was his way.

42:46 And his reaction to that would have been, what are you out of your mind? Right. Like, right. That's that's, that would never have floated. So in that moment, I'm like, no, I rein myself in. But then I, I look at the situation. I think, okay, this isn't right. I should have had the skill at that point to just kind of say, well, you know, let's, let's, let's talk about this. Yeah. Let's think about this. I should be able to do that. I'm a professional, but I don't, I just like sit there. I'm like, okay. Well, I noticed something in the doctor's office that you brought this a couple of times that you just want to get out. Give me the pancakes. I don't know if anybody remembers episode three or four. Right. So you, you think about it afterwards.

43:26 Like I should have said this. Yeah. You're right. Right. Yup. And when it's good news, it's like fantastic. Give me it. Right. Give me out of here. Okay. I heard it. Give me out before you tell me anything bad. Yeah. Yeah. There's a part of it. I think that might be part of it. And also because we're doing it on the way to work. Right. Right. We're always doing like, you know, Kelly doesn't take a day off to go do one of these things. Right. So she's going to work. I'm going home. We're trying to do that. So I think that's part of it too. You had to be surprised, right? Oh, you were probably like, well, you didn't know what to say in that moment. I just was tallying up. I was building my new list of, okay, if this is going to be the way it's going to be.

44:08 But at the same time thinking this is, this just doesn't feel, this doesn't feel right. So, you know, long story short, we settled on Monday and then like the next day or the day after, I think it was yesterday. We're driving, I'm driving Kelly to work and she seems fine. She's good with this. And we're, we're, we're in the car, I'm driving and she's very happily going, well, we got to get this done and this done and we're going to have to do this. And just going down this list of all this stuff that we still little things, but things we want to have done. And I, I was very happy to say, yeah.

44:48 And if we had gone with that first schedule, we would have 24 hours to get all that done. And there's friends. And she's like, I know, like, you know, it's like, so she, I think that, and that tells me, yeah. In that moment, she was just saying yes to, she was saying yes to it. When I really, when I, this is how, when I really knew this was a thing, uh, Kelly and I, well, it's Kelly's friend that have become friends of mine now that she used to spend a lot of time with. We had gone on it. We had gone to the formula one race in Montreal one year with them. Okay. So we're all in like a VRBO, we're getting ready to go out and get dinner.

45:34 It's an evening and it's, you know, it's in June, but it was a little chilly. And Kelly's like, what's the temperature? And I'm like, look it up. And I'm like, yeah, it's going to be a little chilly tonight. Oh yeah. You know, you probably want a jacket. Yeah. I want a coat. And I go, yeah. So she goes and finds a sweater coat or something. She puts it on and we get ready to leave and we get to the door and her friend says, oh, you're wearing a jacket. And she just takes it off and puts it on. And I'm like, and it was just such a, and I'm like, you're going to give me your jacket. I'll carry it. Like you're going to, you will need this. You're going to be cold. And I was just like, that was when I knew I'm okay. That's funny.

46:14 It was like, she just literally did research. This whole thing? Yeah. Made a decision. And I was like, you're going to wear a coat. Yeah. So that was, what made you think that, what made you think that me wearing it? Uh, so, so I know, I know that that's it. She probably said that to say, maybe I should wear a coat, but no, she just took it off. Yeah, no, it was, yeah, that's funny. So now back to your, back to your question of how I'm feeling. So once we got that resolved and now that feel, the feeling I had before the fetal stress, non-stress test on Monday is basically here. Number one, just unbelievably excited.

46:57 I want everything to go as smoothly as possible. I would still like, I know that we've only got till Monday, so we've got basically, you know, the rest of the day today, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and then Monday we go in. I would still love for her to go into labor naturally. Cause I just, I want it to go as smoothly as possible. And so that would be, you know, we're ready for it. We're prepared. We still got like, we were watching videos last night. We've still got those stupid, we still got the classes to watch. Stop it. Oh man. You're going to be the Monday. You're going to have a baby in your head. You'll figure it out. There was a good, at this point, the classes that we're looking at, the classes are on breastfeeding.

47:42 So I'm like, I'm not sure I can help, but I, but they go through, they have, I remember I could be wrong. Trina just turned the volume up. They do have a hosing. No, they just hold milk in their mouth. I think they should, they had like a class or something for the ladies in the hospital. At least I know there's a lactation consultant. Let me know. There's a lactation consultant that will work with us when we're there. So there'll be that help, but it was good. And they were talking about how you have to track this. Yeah. They're like, well, you should keep track of the first 10 days, how many times they're feeding and when and how, what the diapers are and what's in them and all that stuff.

48:23 And so of course I got excited. I'm like, do I need to make a spreadsheet? I can make a spreadsheet. He's like, well, no, there's these, there's an app I apparently called Huckleberry and you can track, you can track that stuff. So, uh, so that, that's it. But yeah, so it's, it's super exciting now. So today will be Kelly's last day of work and then tomorrow will be my last day of work and my team has been great. I kind of had my last conference call with the whole group of them and they're, it's, it's fun. They're, they've been really, they've been really good about being prepared and, and, and being ready and they're, I think they're excited and enthusiastic for the baby, which is cool.

49:07 So we've got all that stuff going on and then we'll have the weekend Sunday. We'll have Kelly's brother and his wife are coming to deliver the food. Uh, so we got that going and then Monday, that'll be it. And I did have one more interaction. I had to go to a, like a town hall meeting for church during this week. And they have like a strategic planning committee and they were presenting. And at some point I had sent some information to Father Seep and he, he, he asked after the meeting, he's like, do you want to join the, like he wanted me to join the strategic planning meeting, strategic planning committee. And I'm like, Oh, absolutely. I'd love to help.

49:49 And yet again, he's like, so this is your first still. And I'm like, this time he asked me, he's like clearly trying to like reconcile this. And he's like, and how long have you been married? And I'm like, we're coming up on eight years. So it was never asked that. Uh, no, he has, he has never asked. Uh, but that was the, this was also a funny thing that happened that I was entertained by was it was in the midst of this scheduling thing that happened the night where we had decided it was when this meeting happened. But before the meeting, basically they had sent out these lists of kind of the initiatives of the church and I'm looking at it.

50:29 And as a, from a strategy standpoint, I'm like, like this could use work. So I sent him an email. I'm like, Hey, I took this and I kind of drew, I drew up, I drew out a different model and populated it with some of their initiatives and said, look, looking at this, this is what I think. If you think this is useful, let me know. If not, I'll see you at the strategic planning or at the town hall. And he wrote back, he's like, this is great. I'd like to meet with you afterwards. And I thought that's nice. Like I would like to be helpful. So that was cool. So I sent that in and it was nice. I want to be, I want to be helpful. And, but then before the meeting, I'm, I'm working and I just get off a conference call.

51:10 I'm talking to one of my employees and I get a notification and I get a lot of notifications on social media for the podcast because of all the stuff we do for that. And I, so I look, it's a Facebook thing and I look and it's father wants to be my friend on Facebook. And I'm like, there, there's a moment there where you go, what is he going to see? Yeah. Cause you can't say no, like you can't decline it. Let me tell you something. The priest that married me and Trina was, became one of our dearest friends. Oh, that's nice. I always said, I always said, what am I going to be on your show? Back then it was the, back then it was the two Italian guy show.

51:50 Oh, okay. So he would follow that and all that. Oh, that's nice. It is so cool to be. Yeah. Yeah. And we got to hang out with him outside of church. That's nice. Yeah. So I think I saw this much more as before he lets me on the strategic planning committee, he wants to make sure I'm not a lunatic. Absolutely. He wants to see what you stand for. Exactly. And when you look at my Facebook, basically 90% of it is holiday meals and sunrise pictures and my dogs. And now the podcast probably, and there's really not a lot. I don't share a lot of stuff on my personal page. So I was like, okay, except, and then I went, went to the meeting and, and it was good. So he told you to find another.

52:32 It was funny. Cause they like, he's like, yeah, it was very perfunctory. He's like, we can meet and talk after the meeting. So I went and talked to him and we talked about the baby and he said he was going to do is say a little extra prayer for us, which I appreciate. And then he, and I like, so he's like, so do you want to join? And I'm like, sure. Do I talk to, should I talk to Anthony? Yeah. Just talk to Anthony. Okay. So I went and talked to Anthony. You are in. You know what? I like, I like doing what I'm doing. I really enjoy the volunteering, but I would also like to do something where I can be like, just be more, have more of an impact, right? Like anybody can do what I'm doing. I enjoy it and I'm going to keep doing it.

53:14 But if I can help that, look, this is an organization like any other organization. If I can help them find ways to, to, to be a little bit more strategic and grow. Cause that's the idea, right? Make it bigger. That's what church, you know, you want as many people as possible. That's the whole idea is yeah. A thriving, growing church. And he's had a lot of good, like he's, he's clearly a strategic thinker. He's, he's doing a good job, but he's one guy for two parishes. Well, speaking about holidays are coming up, this is going to fall right into, this is going to be Ash Wednesday before and after. Number one, my, my daughter in all likelihood is going to be born on fat Tuesday, ready for Mardi Gras.

53:57 Mardi Gras, here we come. So yeah, so it'll be, and I was talking, I was talking to the guy, I'm like, well, so we're going to be in the hospital on Ash Wednesday. I believe so. But it's a Catholic hospital, so we can just say, send us a priest. Oh, they're going to come around. Yeah. So, so that'll be great. It's crazy. Cause we're planning to go to your church, I believe at noon. Yeah. And this is the one time you go, I'm not going to be there, but you know, I did should have moved it. Um, but yeah, so we'll do that. But that's another thing I'm hoping I booked myself off of volunteering for the church for pretty much all of March. Cause I go, but I just don't want to have to worry about going to a particular time.

54:39 And then going back in April, I limited it because usually when I volunteered originally, I basically was like, whatever mass, whatever job just put me where I am. But now I kept it to just 10 o'clock and the assignments came out for April and I'm reader one on Easter Sunday. So you have to come for Easter. And cause what I immediately, I saw it cause reader one, when they do that, you're already up there. So you do the opening announcements and you do the first reading. So in the opening announcements, there's a whole blurb about, Oh, you know, you know, please make a note of access. Children must be escorted to the restroom.

55:21 So I looked at Kelly and I'm like, so you think father would be mad if I said children must be escorted to the restroom, including my daughter. Who's five weeks old and here for the first time, she's like, don't do that every week. She's back for a second time. She's back and crying. Look at her new dress. She's tearing it up in the crying room. He's like, I knew we were in trouble with Kelly. Don't do that. I'm like, I'll ask for permission. Father, my father might let me do it. But, but yes, yes. So you're going to be, you're going to be in the, in the hospital probably.

56:03 I mean, if we, if everything goes great, we might, we might come home on, uh, on Tuesday, but it probably will be Wednesday. I don't know. It all depends. If everything goes smooth, they basically made it sound like it's going to be 12 to 36 hours somewhere in there, depending on how things go. But, but yeah, very holy week. Yeah. But I thought it was, it was going to be on, on, uh, on fat Tuesday. I'm like, no, because obviously there's no baptism yet. The baby could still, I don't think, I don't know. I don't know how that works. Well, it's not a sacrament. She might get a little smudge.

56:44 I bet she will. I hope that would be awesome. I'm, I can't wait to get the right schedule at the right hospital. Yeah, absolutely. But yeah, I can't wait to schedule cause it is, this is a nice time to have a baby cause it'll be Easter and then baptism will maybe be right around there. And then the spring. Yeah, yeah, no, this is, it's, uh, it's unbelievable. I'm so excited to have this happen. This is, and I have to say this, this experience of doing this, especially with you, this has made it so much more fun and get and getting ready for it. And for, for all of you out there who have listened and watched, I feel like as I was doing this, I'm like, look, we did, this is 20 episodes of us basically talking about nonsense, right?

57:39 Like, but now it is, everything's going to change. The podcast is going to change. This is really, this has been, this is like a, we've been basically doing a prequel to now what's going to happen with, when the baby comes, which brings me to my next announcement, which is probably not going to do weekly episodes once the baby starts. So once the baby's here. So again, today's Thursday, you're going to be hearing this. Uh, you're going to be hearing the, this episode will come out a week after the baby is actually born, right? You'll get that. The baby will be here while you're listening. Yes. So this will be, she'll be watching me edit the next episode.

58:19 So I think what we're going to do is for the short term, go to every other week. Sounds good. So after this episode, we'll probably have a week off. I might repost an old episode or a bunch of shorts or maybe that, um, maybe there'll be nothing, maybe there'll be something else, but there won't be new episode for two weeks after this one. And, and then we'll probably do every other week for a little while until we really get our arms around, uh, everything, everything that's happening and and we'll get back into it. I definitely want to get back to weeklies, but it might take us a little time, but at the very least in two weeks from today, you will be able to hear two weeks of stories of what it has been like for me as a, as a new parent, a new father.

59:10 And I'll say this, uh, when you called me many months ago now and told me the reason why we couldn't go to a concert, I believe it was because you had to tell me somebody was pregnant. And, um, obviously Kelly and I've known you for so many years. We were kids when we, we, we met each other, literally kids and 18 year old kids, whatever. And I always knew, I always knew what you felt about being a, I always wanted children. You always loved the idea. And certain people you can see with children, certain people you can see that they should never have kids.

59:57 And some people do have kids and shouldn't. And I always, for some reason, I don't know why I always thought you were going to be a dad. I always, even as we got older and marriages and no marriages and single life and this and that and the other, I always thought one day I, you know, and so when I found out that you were expecting your wife, it made sense. It made sense because I think. You're going to have to explain that to Father Steve. As you got closer to the church with this experience, it is something that had to happen to you. You had to be a parent. You had to be a father. I do feel like, because it did come, that came first, right?

1:00:39 Really becoming more involved in my faith and kind of coming back to church. It did happen and it did happen first and maybe that's what needed to happen, right? Like that's what needed to happen. Everybody has a path. Everybody has. Yeah. There's a reason. I know we hate saying that somehow. Oh, there's a reason that there's a reason. There's a reason why anything's happening. So I'm, I'm so happy for you and you know, I love you to death and I'm glad that we had this experience to get back to work together. Yeah. This has been super fun. We've done stuff in the past and we're very successful in it. Yeah. And the minute I knew that you wanted to be, your head was into another project, I knew it was going to be a success.

1:01:22 And if it wasn't, we were going to have fun doing it. Yeah. And we're having fun. This is not over. We're not done. We're not, no, no. This is just the beginning of this podcast. I think it turns into another chapter of what the podcast turns into. You will have firsthand experience on being that, that daddy. And I can't wait to see where this goes. Yeah. And, uh, it's been, it's been, it's been cool. It's been very cool. Yeah, no, I'm, I'm glad we did it. It's been a lot of, you know, it's a lot of work and it does take time. And I know I'm, I'm sure the nursery would be further along if we weren't doing this, but I think it's been worth it. And again, I talked, I talked a lot about the, like the generosity that we have experienced from family and friends that we're, we're with every day has been great, but also look, there's so many nice comments and emails and, and you guys that listen that I find out people I didn't know were listening and they're like, Oh yeah, they're into it.

1:02:18 And, and they're experiencing this with us. That, that is extremely meaningful, uh, as well. Like it's really, it's really gratifying. And, and I'm, I'm very thankful. And I know, I know Kelly is too. Well, it brought you back into being creative again. Um, you got your singing, you got your that you haven't done in a while. They got you involved with the, the recording and figure out editing and learning all these new things that you weren't doing before. And hopefully this can continue as we were weekly. But right now with the baby coming, we're going to take it baby steps. I don't think it's good. Exactly. I don't think it'll be long. Yeah. It's been, yeah.

1:02:59 I mean, I love, I love learning new stuff and it has been a big learning curve. We had some, I was, I was looking back through old episodes thinking it took us like five episodes. We were recording with video from the very beginning. It's like five episodes for us to get the cameras to work. Right. And then it took me another two or three episodes just to make it not look like crap. Like the color correction was all wrong. So I've, yeah, I've learned a lot. It's been, uh, it's been fun. No, this is, this is a good thing. This is the evolution of this podcast. Now comes the part where baby Josie is going to be here. So, uh, there's not going to be like, Oh, she's a cantaloupe. Oh, she's a pumpkin.

1:03:41 Um, so there's gonna be new stories, different things. What happens are going to be totally different and all that good stuff. And, um, and hopefully we can, we can grow this and, uh, you guys can keep enjoying listening or watching, uh, the podcast. Absolutely. No, I, I'm, I'm excited. It's going to be fun. I keep Kelly keeps saying, are you, are you worried? Are you like, like trying to assess if I, are you ready? If I'm, yeah, if I'm ready and, and I keep, I keep coming back to the same thing as I, I know it's going to be hard. I have, I probably don't understand how hard, but at the same time, it's going to be natural.

1:04:28 You're going to be fine. That's what I keep telling her. Like, look from, from my perspective, we're super prepared. Some of the things that we did that we thought this is going to be great are not going to work. Some things that we have not even considered are going to be our favorite things to do. Ultimately, uh, I think it's going to be a, uh, it's just going to be an awesome experience and it's fun. You know, how many things in life that when you tell people they get all excited, right? I, I, I tease whenever we go anywhere, she's always, it's cold, it's winter and she's always zipped up. I'm like, unzip your coat. People love the blanket. Show baby mamas.

1:05:08 You can see people just light up seeing a woman. Yeah. That's creating. Yeah. That's doing what she's doing. You're never ready, but you're always going to be ready. You're as ready as, yeah. As long as sounds so cliche where you got love, there's love all over your, your family, your, your, your marriage, your friends, everything's going to be great and you're going to learn and you're going to screw up and you're not going to screw up. You're going to figure out things. Oh my God, I feel like a genius. I just figured this thing out that, you know, that everybody's been doing forever and it's just that you figured it out that moment and it helped you out for that moment.

1:05:49 Like I always say, I remember sitting at the, sitting down with the baby and I thought I will never watch a show again on TV. Those days are done. And I remember one year, it was years later, the babies, whatever it was, and I'm sitting there watching a meaningless game of football and I'm like, I'm back. Oh, wait a minute. Hey, it wasn't forever. Exactly. So, um, yeah, we're all get there. Yep. No, that's a, so, so there we are. So we are just a handful days away from little baby Josie's arrival. Have we, we talked about this, I think two episodes ago before we have to ask you, what's the, what's the verdict on baby Josie's first picture that she will not look like that ever again.

1:06:42 And within an hour is she has said no. I think I am. I haven't gotten a yes yet, but I think being that things have changed, things will change so quickly. Oh my God. And your baby will not look like that by the time you take it home. Right. Well, absolutely. And I also feel like again, we talked about Kelly's cousin who just gave birth to their little boy Arman. There were some pictures, there was some pictures on, on Facebook of Arman and they're, and he's cute kid. And I think that might've also worked in our RV. Now I know we're never going to like, we won't, we won't, we're never going to have pictures on social media.

1:07:27 I'm going to have to set up something to share with people, but I'm, I'm optimistic that you guys will see, there'll be a picture and I'll, and here's what I'll say. I will do something so that you guys can see as long as I think I'm going to get a scam from Kelly. Yeah. I mean, I'll try. I'm going to try some kind of a short or a pic or a picture post or something on social media. So if you're not on our Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, tick tock, or any of the reddits, any of these things are on, get on them because that will be where that first picture may show up. So, so please go on social media and track us down and like us.

1:08:10 But yeah, I'll, I think I'll, I'll try and do something. It won't be like live stream here, but, but something I'll try and do something to share the, this is one of those things. It's like, how many, like I know now I know generally that like what other thing in your life that you know, right. This is the best, the best moment of my life is going to happen. Yeah. Like I didn't know. Yeah. I was all, Oh my God, it's happening in your rush. Right. You're literally going to the appointment. Right. I'm like, I literally getting a haircut, getting a haircut yesterday and make it look good.

1:08:50 Cause this is going to be the haircut that my daughter sees for the first time. Yeah. Imagining a face right now. What I know it's so hard. Every time I try to imagine a face, I just know it's going to be blurry. Cause I'll be crying basically. I'll be a mess. Both times I cried. I couldn't, I couldn't stop snot bubbles. I mean, it was so over the top and, um, and I'm so proud of that moment that I felt that way. Cause I knew this is a life changing. Yeah. You will never love anything more than right. That person, that, that baby, it'll, it'll put your priorities straight.

1:09:35 It'll make you know why you're living, why you're here. And I'll tell you the minute you see that face, it's going to be exactly what you always saw. Yep. That's her. Yep. Absolutely. Yeah. The minute you see go, Oh yeah, that's what I was saying. Yeah. When I was 11 years old or whatever, think of kids, that was it. And then you can't ever think of life without this person in your life. Even though, you know, you're two minutes old and, and I can't remember the day. Yeah. It's just, yeah. No. Congratulations to both of you guys. Thank you very much. You guys are gonna have a loving family and uh, yeah, that's a lucky baby.

1:10:18 It's, it's something, uh, it's something I'm looking forward to it. Thank you very much to you. Thank you to everybody who listens and watches. And, uh, this has been great to do this buildup, to do the prequel with you guys. And now we're about to get into the main event. Now you're going to get the steak. Yeah. It's just, we had to sell it. That's right. It's the steak. We just didn't put down the bread. Yeah. Had the salad might be a little full, but you can handle a little bit more. There's always room for a good steak. That's right. So anyway, they went to see on the other side. Yeah. Thanks very much. I look forward to seeing you next time as an actual father.

1:10:58 You're going to be, I'm Frank. I'm 55 and what's your new title? Remember? Cause you, you always start away. Yeah. I have to come up with a new start with I'm 55. My wife is 30. Whatever my wife is. Now you're going to be like, I'm 55 and I'm a father of a one week old. Yeah. Something like that. And my wife isn't talking to me. I now live with the, I have been sent out. It's going to be fun to see where this goes. It's going to be awesome. Yeah. Thanks very much. I will see you soon. Bye. Well folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

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