Sleep Training Wars & The "Mayo Omelet" Secret: Gen X Dad Humor : Episode 34 Part 3

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She is 10 months old and has never had anything but breast milk.

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Of course.

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She doesn't like...

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The taste is going to be...

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She doesn't like it.

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So we start first, Kelly tries to give her a bottle and she's like, won't have it, doesn't want it.

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So then I start trying, when Kelly's at work, I start trying to mix it.

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So I take two or three ounces of breast milk, put in just an ounce of...

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And it's literally, it's like handing an alcoholic, a non-alcoholic beer.

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It's like you give her the bottle and she's like, here, I don't want this.

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She's no interest whatsoever.

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So we're trying, we're trying to put it in stuff.

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Gosh.

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Like, and she just doesn't want it.

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Giving a cat a pill.

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Yeah, that's exactly right.

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What if we wrap it in here?

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This is the Gray Hair and Day Care Podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ right in that same range.

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Your hosts, Frank Sirio and Carlo Russo.

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Welcome back to episode 34, part three.

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It's our first three-parter because we had so much to talk about when we recorded and we couldn't fit it all in last week.

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So we're back to finish up the job and get you all caught up.

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So thank you for sticking with us.

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And here is episode 34, part three.

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So we come home and we're making this adjustment.

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And when Kelly goes to work, she's been nothing but breastfed or eating food for the whole time with us.

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Now we got to get back to bottles.

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She's not a big fan.

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And also we got to get her to take naps.

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Well, the baby will often fall asleep while she's nursing when it's with Kelly.

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Well, she doesn't even want a bottle.

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She's not nursing.

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So she's having a very hard time napping and eating.

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So to the point where one afternoon she will not go down and she gets dysregulated.

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So it's like four o'clock.

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Kelly will usually get home like 630.

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And usually Kerry will stay until about five.

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But this day, I thought things were going okay.

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I've got the baby.

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I had finished up.

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So I'm like, you can take off it early.

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So it's four o'clock.

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Then she just starts.

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She's a little grousey, a little upset.

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She hadn't had a nap.

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And I can see she's tired.

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She's exhausted.

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But she will not let herself fall asleep.

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So I'm holding her.

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Now I'm like trying to soothe her.

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She's even grousing when I'm holding her.

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So I'm walking around with her for like a half hour, 40 minutes.

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And if I try to sit down, she won't even let me sit down.

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If I sit down, she's crying.

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So I get back.

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So I'm wandering around.

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Now, if I stop walking, she won't.

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She starts crying.

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Like she's kind of just so exhausted.

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She's overtired.

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But she will not fall asleep.

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She will not let herself fall asleep.

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Sounds like my father.

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Until finally Kelly's on her way home.

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I'm talking to her on the phone.

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And I finally.

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And you've been battling this for like an hour and a half?

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Two hours.

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Wow.

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And I finally feel her head slump against me.

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Yeah.

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So she basically would not fall asleep until she passed out.

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Right.

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And I'm like, we got to do something different.

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Like we got to change something because this isn't fair to the baby.

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She can't.

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She can't.

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She just got into another routine.

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Exactly.

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And the same thing happens.

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Like, so that was a Friday, I think.

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And then the Monday, same thing happens to Carrie.

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So it's not me or her.

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It's just she like, she can't get her going out until the only way she can get her to fall asleep is to get her to fall asleep in her arms.

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And you can't even put her down.

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You got a whole.

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I'm so by the time Kelly comes home, I'm in my chair at the kitchen table with her in my arm and I'm just like, I'm just letting her sleep on me because I want her to get some rest and I don't want to take a chance.

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So we kind of make the decision that, okay, we got to do something different.

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We're going to do some sleep training, getting her to go down without falling asleep at Kelly's breast.

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Gotcha.

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And we're going to do it while we're off for Christmas.

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So if we have to suffer through a couple sleepless nights, she's, she's not working.

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I'm not working.

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We got some time.

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So we make the decision to do that.

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The other thing that came up was she had ended up with a little bit of kind of not great, like not diarrhea, but soft stools when we were on the cruise coming home.

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And she had some diaper rash, a little bit of diaper rash.

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So, you know, it's kind of started then.

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And one of the things that happened while we were on the cruise was when we were first leaving, we go through the TSA and they took her Desitin.

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Oh God.

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Because Kelly forgot.

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We use a bigger bottle.

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We use the regular, like the, a tub of the, like the maximum strength stuff.

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So all we had with us was like the travel stuff, which is not as thick or medicated.

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So I think that might've been part of what happened.

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But so she ended up with some diaper, diaper rash and we couldn't get it to go away.

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So that like that week of Christmas, right before Christmas, we went to the pediatrician to have him take a look at it.

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So the first thing they do when you go to the pediatrician every time, measure, weigh, they kind of triage you and then you go see the doctor.

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So they do that and they immediately, they weigh her and we're thinking she, because she's been breastfed constantly, like while we were on the cruise, we've been together.

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She's eating, eating, eating.

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Then she's been eating all kinds of food.

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She ate all kinds of stuff on the cruise too.

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So she's eating solid foods.

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She's getting lots of breast milk.

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We're thinking, oh, she's going to be up another, you know, pound and a half, two pounds.

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No weight change.

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So in the two weeks from when we had our appointment right before the cruise to coming back from the cruise, no weight gain.

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And now the graph is starting to look a little.

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Yeah.

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Now it goes a little further down.

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The doctor that we're seeing doesn't seem concerned at all.

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They're looking at her.

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She's healthy.

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They look at her bum and they give us a prescription.

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But now Kelly's pretty worried, right?

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Now Kelly's thinking, okay, something's wrong because she's not getting.

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We're feeding her.

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She's not gaining weight.

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She's going to love this when she's like 16, 17.

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She can eat and not gain weight.

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So now we're going to be off.

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We're going to be together and we're going to try some new things.

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Right.

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So we actually, for the first time, buy some baby food, right?

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Because we've, we've been doing just whatever we eat.

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We're doing simple versions of that stuff.

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And she's been eating pretty well, but we're going to try some of that stuff.

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And we're doing the, we're doing the diaper cream that they gave us.

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And it seems to be improving a little bit.

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Oh, she had a heavy, huh?

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She had, they had to give her a prescription.

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Yeah.

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And it was really, you could tell it was hurting her.

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So we got the trees trimmed.

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We got everything set.

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I normally, if I'm cooking a holiday meal, the two of the, I usually do as much of it as I can ahead.

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Yeah.

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And we'll bake and we'll do other stuff.

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We'll bake, you know, sweets and stuff.

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But again, with the baby.

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Things change.

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You don't, there's no time.

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There's just no time.

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Especially when you're dealing with something with the baby.

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Yes.

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On top of that.

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So there, there is that.

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So the other thing was I would never roll the dice on a new recipe for a holiday meal.

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I'll always try it out ahead of time.

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So I had picked out a bunch of recipes I was going to do.

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I hadn't, I didn't have any time to try them.

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So I'm, I was a little nervous with some of, with, with a couple, but it was like all new recipes I was going to do for Christmas day.

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Christmas Eve, I had to read a Christmas Eve mass.

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So we got that.

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We got to go to, and Kelly's sister was coming to visit.

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We had to pick her up at the airport.

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So it was like, okay, Christmas Eve.

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We're going to have Christmas Eve at our house.

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So I figured out, okay, I'm going to do surf and turf.

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I can do steaks in the sous vide.

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They're cooking, just do lobster tails.

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They're quick in the oven and asked my sister to bring some sides.

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She did that and they were good.

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So it's like Christmas Eve.

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We hit the ground.

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I cook what I need to cook ahead of time that day.

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I get ready.

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We go to, we go to mass.

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I did my reading.

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I didn't mess up.

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And then straight from mass, pick up Kelly's sister.

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We get home, get the steaks ready to go on the grill, out of the sous vide and do the lobster tails.

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Everything came out great for Christmas Eve.

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And then the next day on Christmas day, the whole morning, I have done no prep.

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And I'm making, we made brand new recipes.

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I made brajal and it was so good.

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I made brajal.

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I made menikati.

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It's inspired by when you brought some over.

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Thank you, sir.

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And I had already made, I did have, had already made meatballs and sauce.

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I meatballs and sauce and some sausage.

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And then Kelly's family, because they were there, she wanted to have some Polish stuff too.

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Of course.

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So they brought and did kielbasa, lazy pierogi.

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There was a bunch of stuff.

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I don't know.

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I wasn't in charge of that.

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So I don't know.

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Stuff with cabbage.

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It was all stuff, stuff that would never show up at Christmas.

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I didn't even know how to pronounce it that good.

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But, but they have the kielbasa was good.

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The lazy pierogi were good.

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All delicious.

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It's all good stuff.

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All delicious.

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Yeah.

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So, so they were doing that stuff, but the whole morning, basically from seven o'clock in the morning straight through to eating at like one o'clock, I'm.

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You're in the kitchen.

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I'm cooking.

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Yeah.

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But luckily everything comes out.

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Everything came out great.

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I was very pleased.

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All the recipes that were new worked out very well.

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So I was super happy.

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It was, it was a.

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Did you rope the Brazil or did you.

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This is, this is how I did the Brazil.

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What I was very happy about was Wegmans had flank steaks that were already kind of filleted.

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Okay.

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Nice and thin.

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They were ready for.

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So I didn't even have to really pound them out.

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But what I did was I did that.

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So you had the meat.

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Then I did a little bit of olive oil.

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Then Genoa salami.

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Then a, I made a stuffing of pine nuts, Parmesan, Romano and breadcrumbs.

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Okay.

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Spread that on.

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Then a slice of provolone cheese and then a whole hard boiled egg.

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Roll it all up.

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So everybody got their own Brazil instead of slicing.

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Everybody got their own, which I had never done.

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My mom would always make the whole roll and slice it.

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But I did that.

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And then I cooked them, brown them.

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And then I cooked them in the sauce for seven hours.

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Seven hours.

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They were fantastic.

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It was incredible.

250
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But that whole thing.

251
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So I have that.

252
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Then manicotti, a beef and cheese filled manicotti.

253
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It was a Giada De Laurentiis recipe.

254
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Of course.

255
00:11:34,530 --> 00:11:35,670
That was, so that's heavy.

256
00:11:35,810 --> 00:11:36,610
So did you rope the.

257
00:11:36,910 --> 00:11:38,030
Oh yeah, I had to tie them.

258
00:11:38,050 --> 00:11:39,250
I tied both ways.

259
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Like a little, like a little present.

260
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It's perfect.

261
00:11:42,050 --> 00:11:47,070
Because with the egg in there, but they were absolutely fantastic.

262
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But just the Brazil is a whole hard boiled egg, a slice of provolone, three slices of salami.

263
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It's by itself.

264
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So.

265
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But it's so freaking good.

266
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Oh my, it was so good.

267
00:11:58,830 --> 00:12:01,950
I will make, and my sauce was fantastic.

268
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I was very, very happy.

269
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So yeah, so that was all good.

270
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And what was, what I really enjoyed was once dinner's over, I'm done.

271
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And I spent the rest of the afternoon just having fun with the baby.

272
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That's awesome.

273
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And it was just a wonderful Christmas.

274
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It was nice to see her, see the baby, get to spend time with her aunties.

275
00:12:23,130 --> 00:12:27,750
She had got to spend more time with Kelly's sister and they really got on.

276
00:12:27,810 --> 00:12:35,210
You could tell there was a lot of, when you see the baby with Kelly's brother, David, you can tell she's like, you're like man mommy, right?

277
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Like they resemble each other.

278
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But her sister, they're very, they have a very strong resemblance.

279
00:12:40,450 --> 00:12:41,390
She's confused the heck out of the baby.

280
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So she's like, oh, okay.

281
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New mommy.

282
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So she had fun.

283
00:12:46,230 --> 00:12:47,770
Mommy, you changed your clothes real quick.

284
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So, so it was great.

285
00:12:50,630 --> 00:12:52,270
We had a, we had a very, very nice Christmas.

286
00:12:52,550 --> 00:12:52,670
That's fun.

287
00:12:52,890 --> 00:12:53,750
So we get presents.

288
00:12:53,950 --> 00:12:58,810
So Kelly's cousin had her baby Arman, who we have mentioned.

289
00:12:59,070 --> 00:12:59,250
Yep.

290
00:12:59,490 --> 00:13:02,230
Like a month before baby Josie.

291
00:13:02,830 --> 00:13:05,410
So she sent some presents and it's interesting.

292
00:13:05,970 --> 00:13:09,970
She always sends stuff that baby Arman likes.

293
00:13:11,430 --> 00:13:16,510
And inevitably baby Josie wants nothing to do with the toys.

294
00:13:17,230 --> 00:13:19,110
Like the first thing that she sent was this thing.

295
00:13:19,190 --> 00:13:19,810
It's really cute.

296
00:13:20,290 --> 00:13:21,650
It's like, it looks like a cactus.

297
00:13:22,170 --> 00:13:22,310
Okay.

298
00:13:22,430 --> 00:13:23,350
It's an animated cactus.

299
00:13:23,570 --> 00:13:24,490
So you turn it on.

300
00:13:24,570 --> 00:13:28,450
And if the baby makes a sound or you talk to it, it mimics back to you.

301
00:13:28,470 --> 00:13:30,450
And it like wiggles and talks back to you.

302
00:13:30,910 --> 00:13:32,370
I want that now for myself.

303
00:13:32,370 --> 00:13:33,590
Baby Arman loves it.

304
00:13:35,270 --> 00:13:37,930
Josie's not maybe Josie wants nothing to do with it.

305
00:13:38,010 --> 00:13:39,350
They send this other thing.

306
00:13:39,430 --> 00:13:43,210
It's like some kind of a VTech thing that kind of talks and does stuff.

307
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Turn it on.

308
00:13:45,510 --> 00:13:47,970
Nothing wants nothing to do with it.

309
00:13:48,030 --> 00:13:48,830
Absolutely not.

310
00:13:48,910 --> 00:13:55,910
The big hit present wise were like some little stuffies and we got her a xylophone.

311
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She really likes the xylophone.

312
00:13:57,790 --> 00:14:00,310
So that was, that was fun.

313
00:14:00,310 --> 00:14:04,450
And then we were rolled into the week, kind of the week between Christmas and new year.

314
00:14:04,590 --> 00:14:07,730
And we started the, to try the sleep training.

315
00:14:07,930 --> 00:14:08,290
Gotcha.

316
00:14:08,510 --> 00:14:08,750
Right.

317
00:14:09,050 --> 00:14:22,310
So we're not sure at that point, she's having some challenges and she's having a hard time going down, but we're kind of wondering how much of it is the diaper rash that isn't full.

318
00:14:22,490 --> 00:14:23,330
She's not comfortable.

319
00:14:23,450 --> 00:14:23,750
Yeah.

320
00:14:23,750 --> 00:14:25,130
She's not, not super comfortable.

321
00:14:25,130 --> 00:14:31,290
So we're trying, it's not going horrible, but it's also, you don't know how much she's in pain.

322
00:14:31,390 --> 00:14:36,590
So you don't want to try to, you know, double up on getting over that and doing this other stuff.

323
00:14:37,110 --> 00:14:41,390
So, you know, basically that's kind of it that week.

324
00:14:41,470 --> 00:14:42,470
We did have a lot of snow.

325
00:14:42,690 --> 00:14:44,530
It was very pretty for Christmas, which was nice.

326
00:14:45,250 --> 00:14:45,550
After Christmas.

327
00:14:45,690 --> 00:14:45,950
Yeah, yeah.

328
00:14:45,970 --> 00:14:46,310
That week.

329
00:14:46,390 --> 00:14:46,990
Right after Christmas.

330
00:14:47,070 --> 00:15:04,450
And we decided we're going to get a sled because we've got lots of like, we don't have a hill, unfortunately on our property, but we go out and find this adorable little sled and we're like, okay, we get her in her little snow pants and bundle all up.

331
00:15:04,530 --> 00:15:05,770
And so let's see if she likes this.

332
00:15:06,230 --> 00:15:06,890
Loved it.

333
00:15:07,450 --> 00:15:08,370
Absolutely loved it.

334
00:15:08,450 --> 00:15:11,490
She's just smiling, happy, we're dragging her around.

335
00:15:11,970 --> 00:15:20,550
And then I ended up, I wanted to get her one of those little, L.L. Bean makes like a wooden sled for kids and they didn't have any.

336
00:15:20,550 --> 00:15:22,390
Like all L.L. Bean were out of stock.

337
00:15:22,490 --> 00:15:22,850
They were sold.

338
00:15:23,570 --> 00:15:27,050
And of course, look on Facebook marketplace and some guy had one.

339
00:15:27,550 --> 00:15:32,330
So I went after we took her on the little plastic one that we had got at wherever Walmart or something.

340
00:15:32,690 --> 00:15:33,150
Target, yeah.

341
00:15:33,670 --> 00:15:34,270
I went and got it.

342
00:15:34,350 --> 00:15:40,070
I'm like, and this guy comes out, he looks like he's, you know, maybe the little, maybe a little younger than us.

343
00:15:40,770 --> 00:15:45,230
And he's like, so who's the lucky, who's the lucky kid who's going to be in this thing?

344
00:15:45,230 --> 00:15:47,490
And I'm like, well, it's actually going to be.

345
00:15:47,530 --> 00:15:48,950
And I tell him my daughter's my first.

346
00:15:48,970 --> 00:15:49,090
It's me.

347
00:15:49,090 --> 00:15:50,490
He's like your first one.

348
00:15:50,790 --> 00:15:54,010
And I'm like, yeah, he's like, I, the guy is clearly is younger than me.

349
00:15:54,510 --> 00:15:58,150
And he goes, this is, this was from my 12, my 12 year old.

350
00:15:58,810 --> 00:15:59,790
She's the youngest.

351
00:16:00,270 --> 00:16:00,590
Wow.

352
00:16:00,650 --> 00:16:03,510
So he had four, like from 18 to 12.

353
00:16:03,810 --> 00:16:07,210
And he's like, I asked her, I'm like, I'm going to, I'm going to get rid of your sled.

354
00:16:07,690 --> 00:16:08,130
Is that okay?

355
00:16:08,130 --> 00:16:09,230
She's like, dad, I'm 12.

356
00:16:10,030 --> 00:16:11,090
And I'm like, that's awesome.

357
00:16:11,290 --> 00:16:11,970
I have a car now.

358
00:16:12,190 --> 00:16:13,990
He's like, have fun, enjoy it.

359
00:16:13,990 --> 00:16:15,110
I'm like, thanks very much.

360
00:16:15,130 --> 00:16:15,550
It was nice.

361
00:16:15,810 --> 00:16:16,970
But yeah, so we had fun.

362
00:16:16,970 --> 00:16:19,170
We took her out and got her, got her sledding.

363
00:16:19,730 --> 00:16:26,130
And then we kind of, you roll into new year's, which, you know, as, as you would expect, we're in a bed by about nine 30.

364
00:16:26,250 --> 00:16:26,950
Do you stay up?

365
00:16:27,510 --> 00:16:28,950
I did stay up though.

366
00:16:28,990 --> 00:16:29,410
Good for you.

367
00:16:29,550 --> 00:16:30,510
We are my brothers.

368
00:16:30,830 --> 00:16:31,670
We do every year.

369
00:16:31,750 --> 00:16:35,670
We went out to dinner and then we went to my brothers and we watched the football games.

370
00:16:35,670 --> 00:16:42,210
And then we changed, change into Dick Clark's new years, which is Ryan Seacrest years.

371
00:16:42,710 --> 00:16:44,170
And then we got home.

372
00:16:44,170 --> 00:16:47,590
Probably one 32 o'clock.

373
00:16:47,630 --> 00:16:48,110
Wow.

374
00:16:49,050 --> 00:16:49,550
Nope.

375
00:16:49,870 --> 00:16:50,590
Look at us.

376
00:16:51,210 --> 00:16:52,150
Right to bed.

377
00:16:52,550 --> 00:16:58,730
We were asleep and again, we're doing the, we're doing the sleep training trying to do that.

378
00:16:58,750 --> 00:16:59,990
So we're not getting a lot.

379
00:17:00,190 --> 00:17:00,350
Right.

380
00:17:00,450 --> 00:17:02,130
It seemed like first night we did it.

381
00:17:02,590 --> 00:17:03,089
Okay.

382
00:17:03,790 --> 00:17:05,109
Second night did better.

383
00:17:05,329 --> 00:17:07,650
Third night, a little worse.

384
00:17:08,150 --> 00:17:12,470
Now it's like new year's and it's bad.

385
00:17:12,470 --> 00:17:14,430
Like we're having a really rough night.

386
00:17:14,550 --> 00:17:15,310
She's waking up.

387
00:17:15,569 --> 00:17:16,770
Can't get her to settle.

388
00:17:16,930 --> 00:17:18,910
And Kelly's pretty frustrated at this point.

389
00:17:19,030 --> 00:17:21,030
This might be the new normal.

390
00:17:21,349 --> 00:17:23,650
Cause maybe we're not sure scary.

391
00:17:23,770 --> 00:17:23,970
Yeah.

392
00:17:24,130 --> 00:17:25,790
So I get up at one point.

393
00:17:25,849 --> 00:17:26,490
She's crying.

394
00:17:26,630 --> 00:17:30,810
I, I take her out of the cradle and I try to settle her down.

395
00:17:30,950 --> 00:17:31,950
She's not settling.

396
00:17:32,150 --> 00:17:34,430
I check her diaper, change her diaper.

397
00:17:35,110 --> 00:17:35,970
How's the rash?

398
00:17:36,170 --> 00:17:38,970
Not selling still better, but still there.

399
00:17:39,050 --> 00:17:41,550
That's like a over a week, a couple of weeks, a couple of weeks.

400
00:17:41,550 --> 00:17:42,130
Right.

401
00:17:42,330 --> 00:17:46,150
And so we have a follow-up coming where we're going to go back and have them check again.

402
00:17:47,250 --> 00:17:48,830
So there's nothing wrong.

403
00:17:48,910 --> 00:17:52,690
I asked Kelly, I'm like, well, when was the last time you fed her?

404
00:17:52,910 --> 00:17:55,650
And, and Kelly says, well, you told me not to feed her at night.

405
00:17:55,770 --> 00:17:57,010
I don't know what you're talking about.

406
00:17:57,090 --> 00:17:57,870
What do you mean?

407
00:17:58,190 --> 00:17:59,290
We're both exhausted.

408
00:17:59,670 --> 00:18:00,030
Right.

409
00:18:00,930 --> 00:18:03,790
And, and I'm like, she's going to bed hungry.

410
00:18:03,930 --> 00:18:05,010
What are you talking about?

411
00:18:05,030 --> 00:18:07,210
And she's like, I'm like feed her.

412
00:18:07,490 --> 00:18:09,630
So I give her and immediately she eats.

413
00:18:10,570 --> 00:18:14,490
And I'm like, where, where did this come from that?

414
00:18:14,550 --> 00:18:16,730
I don't want you to feed her.

415
00:18:16,830 --> 00:18:18,310
And maybe she got confused about the breast.

416
00:18:18,890 --> 00:18:20,510
And I think that's what it was.

417
00:18:20,590 --> 00:18:26,570
What I was saying was she, you cannot let her fall asleep at your breath.

418
00:18:26,690 --> 00:18:28,430
Cause then she, that's, that'll be her norm.

419
00:18:28,570 --> 00:18:28,730
Right.

420
00:18:28,850 --> 00:18:31,310
Because then she gets used to that and then she can't fall asleep.

421
00:18:31,430 --> 00:18:32,130
But you gotta feed her.

422
00:18:32,250 --> 00:18:33,690
Not that you can't feed her at night.

423
00:18:33,770 --> 00:18:37,950
And then at that point, also we're looking at it and saying, okay, she's got the diaper rash.

424
00:18:38,050 --> 00:18:39,130
It hasn't fully gone.

425
00:18:39,130 --> 00:18:41,410
Clearly there are times where you can tell she's hurting.

426
00:18:41,730 --> 00:18:43,530
And I'm like, we need to stop this.

427
00:18:43,670 --> 00:18:45,370
Like, let's just try to get back to normal.

428
00:18:45,570 --> 00:18:48,250
Do whatever is going to work for now.

429
00:18:48,670 --> 00:18:51,490
We need, we need this to work for ourselves too.

430
00:18:51,510 --> 00:18:56,030
We need to sleep and she needs to get better and then get back to it.

431
00:18:56,170 --> 00:18:57,550
So we have the followup.

432
00:18:57,830 --> 00:19:00,090
Again, you have the nine month weigh in.

433
00:19:00,470 --> 00:19:02,490
She had gained over two pounds.

434
00:19:03,250 --> 00:19:07,670
We come back two weeks later after the cruise thinking she's going to gain no weight gain.

435
00:19:08,230 --> 00:19:10,450
We come back two weeks later for the followup.

436
00:19:10,590 --> 00:19:11,390
They weigh her again.

437
00:19:12,270 --> 00:19:13,870
And we've been trying to feed her.

438
00:19:13,930 --> 00:19:14,910
She's been with us.

439
00:19:15,570 --> 00:19:16,530
No weight gain again.

440
00:19:17,470 --> 00:19:20,310
So now Kelly was already concerned.

441
00:19:20,470 --> 00:19:22,890
Now I'm like, okay, what's going on?

442
00:19:23,890 --> 00:19:29,910
So they look at her diaper rash and they're like, okay, we're going to give you a new prescription, something different.

443
00:19:30,110 --> 00:19:30,450
Okay.

444
00:19:31,270 --> 00:19:34,630
But then we're like, what recommendations do you have?

445
00:19:34,750 --> 00:19:35,870
She's getting breastfed.

446
00:19:35,950 --> 00:19:37,090
We're giving her all these foods.

447
00:19:37,090 --> 00:19:39,350
She's eating solid foods too.

448
00:19:39,510 --> 00:19:40,370
What do we do?

449
00:19:40,710 --> 00:19:47,630
And so now we have started to see, this is one of the things that I'm not super excited about at this point with, with Summerwood.

450
00:19:47,730 --> 00:19:49,550
We never see the same person twice.

451
00:19:49,690 --> 00:19:52,590
That's going to be a problem because that's, that's, we ran into that.

452
00:19:52,630 --> 00:19:53,510
There's no consistency.

453
00:19:54,010 --> 00:19:57,610
The first person we saw, we did see twice.

454
00:19:57,790 --> 00:19:59,050
She left the practice.

455
00:19:59,270 --> 00:20:00,310
Then it's somebody new.

456
00:20:00,590 --> 00:20:04,710
It's the idiot who tells me when I ask, Hey, how many pounds should she gain?

457
00:20:04,710 --> 00:20:06,490
Says, Oh, let's look at Google.

458
00:20:06,730 --> 00:20:08,250
And I'm like, okay, moron.

459
00:20:08,410 --> 00:20:09,470
I know how to do that.

460
00:20:09,670 --> 00:20:11,130
So never want to see her again.

461
00:20:11,210 --> 00:20:12,190
Does she have a high voice?

462
00:20:13,770 --> 00:20:17,490
There's one with a very, I just can picture her punchable face.

463
00:20:18,070 --> 00:20:21,570
I don't remember the voice, but so, so not, don't see her anymore.

464
00:20:21,630 --> 00:20:22,650
Then we see one that was okay.

465
00:20:23,030 --> 00:20:33,590
But then the next time we go back for the follow-up, the first, for the, for the, not for the follow-up, but the first time we go back for the first time we went for the diaper rash, we get this new girl.

466
00:20:33,590 --> 00:20:36,290
She's new, fresh out of school.

467
00:20:36,490 --> 00:20:37,090
She's a PA.

468
00:20:37,770 --> 00:20:43,450
So that means because she's not a nurse practitioner, she, first of all, has the most current education.

469
00:20:44,210 --> 00:20:47,290
Secondly, she's got to talk to the doctor about everything.

470
00:20:47,590 --> 00:20:51,830
So you get two people looking at the situation instead of just one.

471
00:20:52,070 --> 00:20:52,770
I like that.

472
00:20:52,970 --> 00:20:54,450
And she's very friendly.

473
00:20:54,670 --> 00:20:55,570
She communicates.

474
00:20:55,710 --> 00:20:56,750
She asks questions.

475
00:20:56,990 --> 00:20:57,910
You'll never see her again.

476
00:20:58,010 --> 00:21:00,410
And she's good with, she's good with the baby.

477
00:21:00,550 --> 00:21:03,050
So at that point, I'm like, what's your name?

478
00:21:03,050 --> 00:21:07,130
We want to see only you and nobody but you going forward.

479
00:21:07,250 --> 00:21:11,470
So we get her again when we go back for the follow-up, but again, no weight gain.

480
00:21:11,750 --> 00:21:14,150
So now we're both like, what do we do?

481
00:21:14,250 --> 00:21:15,290
So she's like, well, okay.

482
00:21:15,330 --> 00:21:17,030
And she's looking at the graph.

483
00:21:17,610 --> 00:21:25,030
But at this point, I'm thinking that two pounds that she gained when the idiot told us she could gain between one and three.

484
00:21:25,750 --> 00:21:41,390
Well, it seems to me in my, just logically, if a kid is always in the 10th or 20th percentile for weight, and an average kid should gain between one pound and three pounds in that three months, and she gains two pounds and four ounces.

485
00:21:41,450 --> 00:21:42,310
Yeah, she outdid her.

486
00:21:42,430 --> 00:21:43,350
She outpunted her.

487
00:21:43,590 --> 00:21:45,150
Or they just weighed her wrong.

488
00:21:45,510 --> 00:21:46,150
Or that.

489
00:21:46,350 --> 00:21:46,590
Right?

490
00:21:46,790 --> 00:21:50,270
And again, she's not super excited about getting weighed.

491
00:21:50,610 --> 00:21:54,750
And she's always grabbing the thing that they measure her with.

492
00:21:54,770 --> 00:21:55,590
It could have been a false.

493
00:21:55,590 --> 00:21:56,830
It's hard to get a good reading.

494
00:21:56,890 --> 00:21:57,030
Sure.

495
00:21:57,030 --> 00:22:02,150
So I'm thinking, probably, maybe she gained a pound and four ounces.

496
00:22:02,550 --> 00:22:03,170
Or maybe she gained.

497
00:22:03,250 --> 00:22:03,790
Maybe less.

498
00:22:04,090 --> 00:22:04,510
Or maybe.

499
00:22:05,410 --> 00:22:09,750
And so then the two weeks later, she had gained weight, but it didn't look like it.

500
00:22:09,770 --> 00:22:12,690
But now, since the last time, she still hasn't.

501
00:22:12,770 --> 00:22:13,030
Gotcha.

502
00:22:13,110 --> 00:22:14,130
So I'm a little.

503
00:22:14,250 --> 00:22:15,350
Yeah, there's still a period.

504
00:22:15,670 --> 00:22:16,270
Something going on.

505
00:22:16,670 --> 00:22:18,370
Now, she doesn't look scrawny.

506
00:22:18,610 --> 00:22:19,250
She's healthy.

507
00:22:19,410 --> 00:22:20,050
No, not at all.

508
00:22:20,270 --> 00:22:21,050
Everything else is good.

509
00:22:21,370 --> 00:22:23,790
But we're asking, like, okay, what should we do?

510
00:22:23,910 --> 00:22:24,950
She goes and talks to the doctor.

511
00:22:24,950 --> 00:22:33,910
She comes back and says, the doctor says, sometimes by this time, with breast milk, the protein starts to come down.

512
00:22:34,530 --> 00:22:37,790
And you should probably start doing some formula.

513
00:22:38,530 --> 00:22:40,590
So they give us samples of all this formula.

514
00:22:41,090 --> 00:22:42,030
Like, okay, great.

515
00:22:42,490 --> 00:22:43,330
Any other suggestions?

516
00:22:43,430 --> 00:22:44,550
No, just keep up with the foods.

517
00:22:44,910 --> 00:22:45,870
So we get in the car.

518
00:22:45,970 --> 00:22:50,550
And I'm like, well, I think what we need to start doing, too, is we're giving her simple stuff.

519
00:22:50,650 --> 00:22:52,590
We're giving her healthy foods.

520
00:22:52,590 --> 00:22:57,230
But she tends to like the low-calorie stuff.

521
00:22:57,470 --> 00:22:58,310
She likes fruit.

522
00:22:58,490 --> 00:22:59,510
And she likes strawberries.

523
00:22:59,650 --> 00:23:00,370
And she likes veggies.

524
00:23:00,950 --> 00:23:03,030
And she's not as excited about the meat or.

525
00:23:03,250 --> 00:23:04,170
My kids did the same thing.

526
00:23:04,330 --> 00:23:05,030
Broccoli was.

527
00:23:05,590 --> 00:23:06,810
Not so much.

528
00:23:07,290 --> 00:23:08,870
So I'm like, here's what we need to do.

529
00:23:09,130 --> 00:23:12,170
All the stuff that she likes needs to get cooked in butter and olive oil.

530
00:23:12,770 --> 00:23:14,730
Get the broccoli and put chocolate over it.

531
00:23:14,870 --> 00:23:15,150
Well, yeah.

532
00:23:15,310 --> 00:23:18,750
Or like, I'm literally, I'm like, olive oil on everything.

533
00:23:18,990 --> 00:23:19,970
Butter on everything.

534
00:23:20,690 --> 00:23:20,790
Start.

535
00:23:21,170 --> 00:23:21,810
Our dream.

536
00:23:21,810 --> 00:23:25,470
I start doing stuff like that, right?

537
00:23:25,790 --> 00:23:28,790
Oh, you're making the oatmeal with water.

538
00:23:29,010 --> 00:23:31,610
Let's make it with heavy cream, right?

539
00:23:32,170 --> 00:23:35,830
And of course, she starts eating that stuff.

540
00:23:35,850 --> 00:23:37,490
Because it's delicious now.

541
00:23:38,110 --> 00:23:41,170
Well, also, like with the butter, we can't use any salt.

542
00:23:41,310 --> 00:23:43,350
But the butter's got a little salt in it.

543
00:23:43,510 --> 00:23:44,730
It makes it taste better.

544
00:23:44,950 --> 00:23:46,870
She's like, you know, Kelly made hummus.

545
00:23:46,970 --> 00:23:47,670
And she makes hummus.

546
00:23:47,950 --> 00:23:49,670
She does garlic, the chickpeas.

547
00:23:49,670 --> 00:23:52,310
Mashes it all up and put some seasoning in it.

548
00:23:52,410 --> 00:23:53,950
And she's like, well, how can we make this better?

549
00:23:54,070 --> 00:23:56,970
I'm like, butter, butter, whip it.

550
00:23:57,090 --> 00:23:57,590
She says better.

551
00:23:57,670 --> 00:23:59,530
You say more fatter.

552
00:23:59,830 --> 00:23:59,970
Yeah.

553
00:24:00,110 --> 00:24:00,330
Yeah.

554
00:24:00,430 --> 00:24:02,450
So we started with that stuff.

555
00:24:02,830 --> 00:24:05,470
But we also start trying to give her a formula.

556
00:24:05,930 --> 00:24:09,730
Well, she is 10 months old and has never had anything but breast milk.

557
00:24:09,990 --> 00:24:10,090
Of course.

558
00:24:10,630 --> 00:24:11,690
She doesn't like.

559
00:24:11,710 --> 00:24:12,590
The taste is going to be.

560
00:24:12,710 --> 00:24:13,730
She doesn't like it.

561
00:24:13,870 --> 00:24:14,950
So we start first.

562
00:24:15,910 --> 00:24:17,850
Kelly tries to give her a bottle with butter.

563
00:24:17,850 --> 00:24:21,030
And she's like, won't have it, doesn't want it.

564
00:24:21,610 --> 00:24:25,390
So then I start trying when Kelly's at work.

565
00:24:25,490 --> 00:24:26,950
I start trying to mix it.

566
00:24:27,410 --> 00:24:32,970
So I take two or three ounces of breast milk, put in just an ounce of.

567
00:24:33,950 --> 00:24:37,390
And it's literally, it's like handing.

568
00:24:38,590 --> 00:24:43,570
It's like handing an alcoholic, a non-alcoholic beer.

569
00:24:44,050 --> 00:24:45,530
She's like, you give her the bottle and she's like.

570
00:24:46,830 --> 00:24:48,790
Here, like, I don't want this.

571
00:24:49,130 --> 00:24:50,830
Like she's no interest whatsoever.

572
00:24:51,170 --> 00:24:54,310
So we're trying, we're trying to put it in stuff.

573
00:24:54,630 --> 00:24:57,470
Like, and she just doesn't want to giving a cat a pill.

574
00:24:57,850 --> 00:25:01,930
And this is exactly like, what if we wrap it in him?

575
00:25:02,930 --> 00:25:04,930
So she not doing it.

576
00:25:04,950 --> 00:25:08,710
So eventually Kelly's like, okay, I'm going to call and see what they say.

577
00:25:09,030 --> 00:25:13,830
So she calls and the nurse that answers phone calls, I guess, calls back.

578
00:25:14,890 --> 00:25:17,130
And I'm there for, happen to be there for the conversation.

579
00:25:17,350 --> 00:25:21,210
And Kelly's like, well, you know, we've been trying this and that, but we, and she tells her everything we did.

580
00:25:21,450 --> 00:25:22,630
And she's like, I'm not surprised.

581
00:25:22,750 --> 00:25:23,250
That was stupid.

582
00:25:23,450 --> 00:25:24,030
Who said this?

583
00:25:25,030 --> 00:25:25,670
The nurse.

584
00:25:25,770 --> 00:25:26,650
The nurse says, I'm not surprised.

585
00:25:26,750 --> 00:25:27,170
That was stupid.

586
00:25:27,270 --> 00:25:28,370
We never should have told you to do that.

587
00:25:28,410 --> 00:25:29,490
She's not going to like the formula.

588
00:25:29,690 --> 00:25:30,950
She's, it tastes different.

589
00:25:31,310 --> 00:25:31,490
Yeah.

590
00:25:31,850 --> 00:25:35,290
She's just like, just keep trying to get her to take as much breast milk as possible.

591
00:25:35,790 --> 00:25:41,830
So now, now I'm, I've, I'm starting to really lose confidence with Somerwood because here we are.

592
00:25:41,830 --> 00:25:43,870
The doctor is the only doctor there.

593
00:25:43,950 --> 00:25:44,950
It's the main guy.

594
00:25:45,250 --> 00:25:46,730
He's the one telling us to do this.

595
00:25:46,830 --> 00:25:48,970
And somebody who works for him is like, oh no, he's a clown.

596
00:25:49,170 --> 00:25:50,370
I'm going to override this clown.

597
00:25:50,530 --> 00:25:50,790
Right.

598
00:25:51,050 --> 00:25:52,650
And so I don't like that.

599
00:25:52,670 --> 00:25:53,170
That's weird.

600
00:25:53,330 --> 00:25:57,530
But since then I'm trying to just be creative, right?

601
00:25:57,530 --> 00:26:02,470
Like she loves strawberries, but she doesn't want to eat the, she doesn't want to eat the yogurt.

602
00:26:02,690 --> 00:26:06,070
Well, just mix up the stuff that she likes with the stuff that she doesn't like.

603
00:26:06,070 --> 00:26:07,510
And she eats it right.

604
00:26:07,510 --> 00:26:11,990
Also, we have been very dedicated with the baby led weaning where we let her eat.

605
00:26:12,750 --> 00:26:14,610
So she's feeding herself herself.

606
00:26:14,970 --> 00:26:18,130
And now I'm like, oh no, I'm like, so, so we'll give her stuff.

607
00:26:18,130 --> 00:26:20,310
And then eventually most of it's not going in.

608
00:26:20,570 --> 00:26:23,430
So I'm starting to like, it needs to go in your mouth.

609
00:26:23,530 --> 00:26:24,170
Put it on my finger.

610
00:26:24,270 --> 00:26:25,950
Hey, she opens up and I give it to her.

611
00:26:26,110 --> 00:26:26,350
It's always cute.

612
00:26:26,410 --> 00:26:28,730
And like, oh, she's feeding herself, but then there's no food going in the mouth.

613
00:26:28,730 --> 00:26:29,090
It is good.

614
00:26:29,150 --> 00:26:33,570
Like you can see she's, her dexterity has come a long way and she's doing it.

615
00:26:33,690 --> 00:26:35,730
But now there's no messing around, right?

616
00:26:35,730 --> 00:26:38,290
Like we got to, we got to start getting her to eat.

617
00:26:38,630 --> 00:26:40,990
So I'm like, I'm doing the same stuff.

618
00:26:41,050 --> 00:26:44,310
I'm like, okay, I found this and you should try this.

619
00:26:44,370 --> 00:26:48,290
This recipe I saw online, some Michelin star chef.

620
00:26:48,530 --> 00:26:49,290
Everyone should try this.

621
00:26:49,350 --> 00:26:49,870
It's fantastic.

622
00:26:50,370 --> 00:26:53,870
Came up with the easiest, best omelet you will ever make.

623
00:26:54,050 --> 00:26:54,650
Oh, please talk.

624
00:26:55,010 --> 00:26:55,990
It is fantastic.

625
00:26:56,210 --> 00:26:56,830
I love it.

626
00:26:56,830 --> 00:27:04,770
Take an egg, a heaping tablespoon of mayonnaise, plop, a little bit of butter.

627
00:27:05,890 --> 00:27:12,090
Whisk it together, put it in a little ramekin, 40 seconds in the microwave on high.

628
00:27:14,130 --> 00:27:16,350
Take it out, put a plate over it, flip it out.

629
00:27:17,010 --> 00:27:21,550
It is the fluffiest, most perfect omelet you have ever had.

630
00:27:21,710 --> 00:27:22,230
Cause the mayo.

631
00:27:22,330 --> 00:27:23,630
I've never, yep, that's what it is.

632
00:27:23,970 --> 00:27:24,570
It's the mayo.

633
00:27:24,710 --> 00:27:25,970
It is fantastic.

634
00:27:26,250 --> 00:27:27,390
So I'm like, we're going to do one.

635
00:27:27,450 --> 00:27:28,250
I tried one of those.

636
00:27:28,730 --> 00:27:31,370
It came out a little bit runny at 40 seconds with my microwave.

637
00:27:31,630 --> 00:27:32,490
I flip it over.

638
00:27:32,790 --> 00:27:33,190
I don't know.

639
00:27:33,250 --> 00:27:36,070
I just did the 40 seconds because I got to let it cool down.

640
00:27:36,070 --> 00:27:36,850
It comes out pretty hot.

641
00:27:36,970 --> 00:27:38,690
Dice up some tomato because she loves tomato.

642
00:27:38,870 --> 00:27:39,310
Throw it on there.

643
00:27:39,510 --> 00:27:41,570
She has never liked eggs, no matter how we did it.

644
00:27:41,790 --> 00:27:45,030
Fried, poached, hard boiled, never liked.

645
00:27:45,390 --> 00:27:48,310
That, ate a third of it.

646
00:27:49,010 --> 00:27:51,070
So we got an egg, mayo, butter.

647
00:27:51,070 --> 00:27:55,430
Now the recipe for, normally they tell you to put a little Parmesan in there too.

648
00:27:55,510 --> 00:27:55,790
Sure.

649
00:27:55,970 --> 00:27:57,050
Stuff, but I did it just plain.

650
00:27:57,130 --> 00:27:58,210
So egg, mayo, butter.

651
00:27:58,230 --> 00:27:59,230
For us, we put the Parmesan.

652
00:27:59,230 --> 00:27:59,390
Yeah.

653
00:27:59,390 --> 00:28:06,150
So one egg, a heaping tablespoon of mayo, maybe a half a tablespoon of butter.

654
00:28:06,310 --> 00:28:06,490
Okay.

655
00:28:07,090 --> 00:28:08,410
Mix it up as best as you can.

656
00:28:08,930 --> 00:28:10,690
Ramekin, microwave for 40 seconds.

657
00:28:10,930 --> 00:28:11,230
Perfect.

658
00:28:11,770 --> 00:28:13,710
It is absolute light, fluffy, delicious.

659
00:28:13,890 --> 00:28:14,370
It's fantastic.

660
00:28:15,690 --> 00:28:17,070
So I'm doing those.

661
00:28:17,230 --> 00:28:19,990
I'm putting the heavy cream in the oatmeal.

662
00:28:20,210 --> 00:28:23,130
Have you tried the cottage cheese, whisk it with cottage cheese?

663
00:28:23,230 --> 00:28:24,730
I have not tried that, but you could do that.

664
00:28:24,750 --> 00:28:25,450
I could do that too.

665
00:28:25,450 --> 00:28:28,030
So now she's starting to eat.

666
00:28:28,070 --> 00:28:32,930
We just discovered, we're like, what else can we try for proteins that we haven't tried?

667
00:28:33,270 --> 00:28:34,210
Well, we could try hams.

668
00:28:34,290 --> 00:28:37,110
We got ham steaks because she can't have cold cut ham.

669
00:28:37,610 --> 00:28:38,430
Got ham steaks.

670
00:28:38,450 --> 00:28:38,950
Crap in there.

671
00:28:39,310 --> 00:28:40,110
Loves ham.

672
00:28:40,690 --> 00:28:42,510
So we're dicing up ham.

673
00:28:43,770 --> 00:28:46,110
She's always loved all the veggies and stuff like that.

674
00:28:46,850 --> 00:28:51,390
But I think we're starting to, you know, make progress there.

675
00:28:51,390 --> 00:28:57,790
The good news from that visit, though, was the new prescription immediately starts helping.

676
00:28:58,090 --> 00:29:01,370
So she is, by this, by now, she's almost entirely better.

677
00:29:01,550 --> 00:29:02,830
But it was so bad.

678
00:29:02,890 --> 00:29:07,230
You know how when, like, if you have a skin condition for long enough, it kind of stays discolored.

679
00:29:07,250 --> 00:29:08,050
It changes your, yeah.

680
00:29:08,430 --> 00:29:10,110
She, that's what it's like now for her.

681
00:29:10,550 --> 00:29:11,870
So it's not, it's better.

682
00:29:12,090 --> 00:29:13,230
I don't think she's hurting anymore.

683
00:29:13,830 --> 00:29:15,450
But it definitely, it was very, very.

684
00:29:15,450 --> 00:29:16,570
Wow, that was a heavy dose.

685
00:29:16,830 --> 00:29:17,230
It was.

686
00:29:17,270 --> 00:29:18,790
That was a heavy rush.

687
00:29:19,030 --> 00:29:19,410
It was.

688
00:29:19,490 --> 00:29:19,970
It was rough.

689
00:29:19,970 --> 00:29:21,630
And you could tell it was hurting her.

690
00:29:21,970 --> 00:29:30,050
But it was like what it had done is you couldn't really tell if you weren't really like checking things out because it was just way deep.

691
00:29:30,730 --> 00:29:35,190
And if you weren't spreading the cheeks out and really looking for it, you wouldn't know.

692
00:29:35,330 --> 00:29:36,250
It was just that area.

693
00:29:36,770 --> 00:29:39,850
So we kind of get past the diaper rash stuff.

694
00:29:40,270 --> 00:29:45,070
And now we're trying to do some sleep training again, trying to get her to do that.

695
00:29:45,750 --> 00:29:48,690
And she's waking up a lot still.

696
00:29:48,690 --> 00:29:52,190
So now we're past the not feeding her idea.

697
00:29:52,410 --> 00:29:52,890
Sure.

698
00:29:53,010 --> 00:29:55,330
And I'm just trying to, I'm trying to figure it out.

699
00:29:55,470 --> 00:29:56,790
Like why is this happening?

700
00:29:56,810 --> 00:29:58,410
She's never woke up this much.

701
00:29:59,010 --> 00:30:00,250
And I start asking.

702
00:30:00,530 --> 00:30:01,770
Oh, I know where this is going.

703
00:30:02,670 --> 00:30:04,150
See if you can guess.

704
00:30:04,510 --> 00:30:05,690
Was teeth coming in?

705
00:30:06,230 --> 00:30:08,210
Oh no, she's also teething.

706
00:30:08,490 --> 00:30:09,510
And that's something that happens.

707
00:30:09,590 --> 00:30:11,710
So she had, she's got her bottom two.

708
00:30:12,490 --> 00:30:15,230
And then while we were on the cruise, some of the top ones.

709
00:30:15,350 --> 00:30:16,330
And now more.

710
00:30:16,330 --> 00:30:20,990
So she now has four on the top, two on the bottom and two more coming in.

711
00:30:21,110 --> 00:30:25,110
Because it took Trina and I a couple of days to figure out like, what's going on?

712
00:30:25,150 --> 00:30:25,570
What's going on?

713
00:30:25,650 --> 00:30:25,970
I'm like, duh.

714
00:30:25,970 --> 00:30:27,290
She's pretty predictable now.

715
00:30:27,510 --> 00:30:29,010
She'll get real drooly one day.

716
00:30:29,150 --> 00:30:32,130
The next day she'll be wanting to chew on stuff.

717
00:30:32,150 --> 00:30:33,310
And then it comes through.

718
00:30:33,670 --> 00:30:35,070
So that stuff is pretty predictable.

719
00:30:35,190 --> 00:30:35,810
No, it's not that.

720
00:30:36,010 --> 00:30:37,530
So I'm trying to, I'm just like, what's different?

721
00:30:37,610 --> 00:30:38,450
How is this happening?

722
00:30:38,990 --> 00:30:47,650
And I find out, I'm like, why is the cradle wise, as we've talked about in the past, her cradle is set that when she stirs, it starts to melt.

723
00:30:47,930 --> 00:30:48,530
It's supposed to rock you back.

724
00:30:48,690 --> 00:30:50,430
And I look at it and it's turned off.

725
00:30:50,870 --> 00:30:52,630
I'm like, why is this off?

726
00:30:52,950 --> 00:30:59,590
Well, and Kelly's like, well, I knew she was going to have to get used to it, not having it when we were going on the cruise.

727
00:30:59,730 --> 00:31:00,590
So I turned it off.

728
00:31:01,810 --> 00:31:06,250
And I'm like, okay, like, this is another one of those things.

729
00:31:06,510 --> 00:31:08,930
We have to communicate differently, right?

730
00:31:08,990 --> 00:31:10,570
We've got to be able to do this better.

731
00:31:10,570 --> 00:31:12,770
Because I'm trying to figure out.

732
00:31:13,770 --> 00:31:15,950
I don't even know what variables have changed.

733
00:31:15,990 --> 00:31:16,110
Right.

734
00:31:16,210 --> 00:31:16,330
Yeah.

735
00:31:16,430 --> 00:31:17,530
And I'm trying to fix something.

736
00:31:17,670 --> 00:31:19,610
You don't even know where she gets, she will.

737
00:31:19,650 --> 00:31:23,070
So sometimes what will happen with Kelly is she will make changes.

738
00:31:23,410 --> 00:31:28,710
And then when things are going wrong, she looks at me like, how can we figure this out?

739
00:31:28,710 --> 00:31:29,870
And then I don't know.

740
00:31:29,930 --> 00:31:30,970
Yeah, I need, yeah, I need.

741
00:31:31,070 --> 00:31:33,810
So, and then I have to go through this discovery process.

742
00:31:33,990 --> 00:31:36,430
Which I mean, in her case, good idea.

743
00:31:36,650 --> 00:31:36,990
Yeah.

744
00:31:37,070 --> 00:31:39,130
Because she's going on the cruise and we have to change it.

745
00:31:39,130 --> 00:31:40,190
Get her used to it.

746
00:31:40,250 --> 00:31:42,070
Because she's not going to have that on the cruise.

747
00:31:42,490 --> 00:31:42,590
Yeah.

748
00:31:42,630 --> 00:31:46,290
But again, what your end is like, like everything else communication.

749
00:31:46,750 --> 00:31:48,750
It's difficult, but it is.

750
00:31:48,910 --> 00:31:50,750
It's funny because there's certain things.

751
00:31:51,310 --> 00:32:06,370
And while all this is happening, luckily for us, an opportunity has come Kelly's way for a work opportunity that will allow her to work from home 100% of the time.

752
00:32:06,510 --> 00:32:06,650
Yeah.

753
00:32:06,750 --> 00:32:08,270
Which is huge.

754
00:32:08,270 --> 00:32:09,010
Changes everything.

755
00:32:09,510 --> 00:32:09,850
Huge thing.

756
00:32:10,650 --> 00:32:11,930
But, and it came to her.

757
00:32:12,170 --> 00:32:19,290
She was not looking, but a peer that she has worked with in a couple of different situations in the past reached back.

758
00:32:19,630 --> 00:32:23,670
And so these people, this company recruited Kelly.

759
00:32:24,030 --> 00:32:31,350
So of course we go through and it's kind of a backwards recruiting process.

760
00:32:31,370 --> 00:32:34,690
Because it's like, she talks to the person who's hiring her.

761
00:32:34,910 --> 00:32:37,070
Then she talks to all of her peers.

762
00:32:37,070 --> 00:32:48,590
So that's like interview with the decision maker, interview with the people who are going to be your peers, then apply, then interview with the HR person.

763
00:32:49,470 --> 00:32:55,670
And then a final interview with the hiring manager's boss.

764
00:32:56,050 --> 00:32:57,750
The parking lot attendant.

765
00:32:58,150 --> 00:32:58,690
It's so weird.

766
00:32:58,990 --> 00:33:01,290
It's a completely disjointed out of order situation.

767
00:33:02,130 --> 00:33:04,290
But she goes through all that.

768
00:33:04,330 --> 00:33:06,870
And we're getting to the point where they're going to make an offer.

769
00:33:07,650 --> 00:33:11,370
So of course, I'm like, I know they're going to offer their job.

770
00:33:11,610 --> 00:33:13,450
So I'm like, look, this is what you do.

771
00:33:13,550 --> 00:33:18,190
We know what the range, they posted a range for the position of how much it would pay.

772
00:33:20,010 --> 00:33:22,630
And there's a bonus involved and stuff like that.

773
00:33:22,670 --> 00:33:24,350
So I'm just like, look, whatever they say.

774
00:33:24,590 --> 00:33:29,010
Because Kelly is earnest in many ways.

775
00:33:29,130 --> 00:33:34,270
So I think she sees negotiation like that as uncomfortable.

776
00:33:34,870 --> 00:33:39,150
And I think generally women are less likely to be aggressive in negotiations like that.

777
00:33:39,190 --> 00:33:40,590
So I'm like, look, you know, might as well.

778
00:33:40,690 --> 00:33:41,650
Look, you're going to make this move.

779
00:33:42,390 --> 00:33:46,990
You take the job, even if it was the same pay or less pay because of the advantages.

780
00:33:46,990 --> 00:33:48,130
But they don't know that.

781
00:33:48,210 --> 00:33:48,570
Right.

782
00:33:48,850 --> 00:33:50,990
And why not just get every penny you can?

783
00:33:51,270 --> 00:33:51,630
Absolutely.

784
00:33:51,810 --> 00:33:52,070
Right.

785
00:33:52,410 --> 00:33:54,190
So I'm like, okay, here's what you do.

786
00:33:54,670 --> 00:33:56,630
When they make the offer, whenever that happens.

787
00:33:56,850 --> 00:33:57,410
Laugh in their face.

788
00:33:58,170 --> 00:33:59,630
You've already told them what you want.

789
00:33:59,650 --> 00:34:01,570
And we asked for like the top of the scale.

790
00:34:01,630 --> 00:34:01,870
Sure.

791
00:34:02,330 --> 00:34:03,090
You told them what you want.

792
00:34:03,090 --> 00:34:09,270
If they say anything but that number, all you say is, that's unfortunate.

793
00:34:10,510 --> 00:34:12,909
How soon do I need to get an answer back to you?

794
00:34:13,449 --> 00:34:14,790
And say nothing else.

795
00:34:15,270 --> 00:34:16,850
He who speaks first loses.

796
00:34:16,870 --> 00:34:17,650
Retail 101.

797
00:34:17,909 --> 00:34:18,150
Don't.

798
00:34:18,590 --> 00:34:19,270
Just that's it.

799
00:34:19,449 --> 00:34:19,929
Okay.

800
00:34:20,929 --> 00:34:28,489
So she calls me the other day and says, well, this other stuff is going on with the baby and your usual typical life stuff.

801
00:34:28,630 --> 00:34:30,429
She says, oh, well, I got my offer.

802
00:34:30,850 --> 00:34:33,070
I'm like, okay, what was it?

803
00:34:33,090 --> 00:34:37,610
And it's like, you know, 25 grand under the ask.

804
00:34:38,770 --> 00:34:40,550
And I'm like, what did you say?

805
00:34:40,610 --> 00:34:41,630
I'm like, wow, what did you say?

806
00:34:41,750 --> 00:34:42,770
I said, what you said to say?

807
00:34:43,330 --> 00:34:44,790
And I'm like, what did you say?

808
00:34:46,389 --> 00:34:49,250
And she says, well, I said, you know, is there any wiggle room there?

809
00:34:49,290 --> 00:34:50,310
Because I've been clear.

810
00:34:50,710 --> 00:34:52,290
And I'm like, nothing, what you said.

811
00:34:52,510 --> 00:34:56,610
And I'm like, so she gets home and I'm like, I'm like, let's role play this out.

812
00:34:57,170 --> 00:34:58,230
Make that offer to me.

813
00:34:58,710 --> 00:34:59,430
And she does.

814
00:34:59,530 --> 00:35:01,850
And I say, well, is there any wiggle room there?

815
00:35:01,850 --> 00:35:04,570
And she's like, I'm like, now say it to me again.

816
00:35:05,010 --> 00:35:07,270
And then I say what I told her to say.

817
00:35:07,430 --> 00:35:09,890
It's like, how do those feel?

818
00:35:10,010 --> 00:35:10,390
Those two?

819
00:35:10,490 --> 00:35:11,950
And she's like, yeah, you're right.

820
00:35:12,130 --> 00:35:12,410
Okay.

821
00:35:14,210 --> 00:35:15,790
So she didn't listen.

822
00:35:15,950 --> 00:35:17,790
She tried, she tried, but didn't, didn't do it.

823
00:35:17,910 --> 00:35:18,190
It's funny.

824
00:35:18,510 --> 00:35:21,470
But now it's like, now she did push back a little.

825
00:35:21,590 --> 00:35:25,590
So they come back via text with a counter.

826
00:35:26,110 --> 00:35:30,310
And I predicted within almost exactly what they were going to counter.

827
00:35:30,310 --> 00:35:35,190
I'm like, they're going to give you a token, this amount of money, and that'll be it.

828
00:35:35,630 --> 00:35:38,730
And I said, so she gets the text, but now it's in text.

829
00:35:38,850 --> 00:35:42,130
So I can be like, okay, this is what you're going to say this as you're typing.

830
00:35:43,110 --> 00:35:49,730
And luckily I was able to get it back up to very close to the initial where we wanted.

831
00:35:50,030 --> 00:36:00,270
So she actually, I think we'll be giving officially giving her notice for that job, for her current job today.

832
00:36:01,890 --> 00:36:05,050
But of course, she's going to give them a lot of notice.

833
00:36:05,470 --> 00:36:07,730
Like it'll be a couple months before we switch.

834
00:36:08,830 --> 00:36:12,650
But yeah, so there was that all going on as well.

835
00:36:12,830 --> 00:36:13,810
So lots has happened.

836
00:36:13,950 --> 00:36:16,790
So the family is working at home for 90%.

837
00:36:16,790 --> 00:36:18,810
I mean, I know you go a little here and there.

838
00:36:19,470 --> 00:36:24,230
But no, but yeah, she will be 100% remote.

839
00:36:24,270 --> 00:36:24,950
You're 90.

840
00:36:25,130 --> 00:36:26,570
And I'm home a lot.

841
00:36:26,570 --> 00:36:30,570
Yeah, I work from home a lot if I don't have to travel.

842
00:36:31,210 --> 00:36:39,350
And it'll be nice because when we do that now, it kind of opens up the possibility of spend February in Florida.

843
00:36:39,530 --> 00:36:39,990
Anywhere.

844
00:36:40,110 --> 00:36:43,350
Instead of the frozen tundra of upstate New York.

845
00:36:43,370 --> 00:36:45,190
It opens up your whole life plan.

846
00:36:45,510 --> 00:36:48,710
It does change things a lot.

847
00:36:49,130 --> 00:36:55,030
So, but mostly just the fact that it's going to get her five hours of commuting.

848
00:36:55,030 --> 00:36:56,510
She'll be with the baby.

849
00:36:56,630 --> 00:36:59,490
She'll be able to take her lunch and be with the baby.

850
00:36:59,490 --> 00:37:00,010
Absolutely.

851
00:37:00,750 --> 00:37:03,250
The time spent in the car is eliminated.

852
00:37:03,470 --> 00:37:05,570
The hardest part for her is going to be.

853
00:37:05,790 --> 00:37:06,250
Getting to work.

854
00:37:06,670 --> 00:37:13,590
Well, it'll be, I think, dealing with being able to feel like she has quiet space.

855
00:37:13,590 --> 00:37:15,150
Because I'm working from here.

856
00:37:15,810 --> 00:37:17,950
And I'm on calls all the time.

857
00:37:18,390 --> 00:37:20,910
So I'm constantly on the phone and on video calls.

858
00:37:20,910 --> 00:37:25,170
So if I have to build myself a soundproof room to keep her.

859
00:37:25,170 --> 00:37:27,970
Are you in the office here or are you upstairs in the dining room?

860
00:37:28,010 --> 00:37:30,330
No, because since the baby now.

861
00:37:30,930 --> 00:37:35,210
So I have the basement version of Kelly's office.

862
00:37:35,670 --> 00:37:36,010
So she has.

863
00:37:36,010 --> 00:37:36,530
Our old studio.

864
00:37:37,250 --> 00:37:39,610
Yes, our old studio is my office.

865
00:37:39,710 --> 00:37:42,610
And the room above it is her office upstairs.

866
00:37:42,650 --> 00:37:42,870
Gotcha.

867
00:37:43,150 --> 00:37:45,770
That has the windows and 22 foot ceilings.

868
00:37:46,130 --> 00:37:46,770
Beautiful office.

869
00:37:46,950 --> 00:37:48,870
And I have the dungeon with the window.

870
00:37:49,390 --> 00:37:50,270
But I'm happy to have it.

871
00:37:50,270 --> 00:37:51,670
The nicest office I've ever had.

872
00:37:51,990 --> 00:37:52,810
So but she'll be.

873
00:37:52,930 --> 00:37:54,270
So she'll be upstairs for me.

874
00:37:54,430 --> 00:38:00,930
So I might have to migrate into my music studio so that she's not hearing me.

875
00:38:01,090 --> 00:38:01,930
Oh, because you're right up.

876
00:38:02,310 --> 00:38:02,910
I don't want to.

877
00:38:03,170 --> 00:38:05,030
Yeah, because she needs quiet.

878
00:38:05,290 --> 00:38:08,270
For me, it's nightmarish because of my tinnitus.

879
00:38:08,550 --> 00:38:11,330
So when the house is quiet, I hear the screaming in my ears.

880
00:38:11,350 --> 00:38:12,070
I got the same thing.

881
00:38:12,190 --> 00:38:12,950
It makes me nuts.

882
00:38:13,430 --> 00:38:16,830
But it's going to be wonderful for her and for the baby.

883
00:38:17,030 --> 00:38:17,630
And it'll be nice.

884
00:38:18,530 --> 00:38:19,710
It'll be nice to have her.

885
00:38:19,710 --> 00:38:23,970
At home and be able to have lunch together and yeah, it'll be great.

886
00:38:24,030 --> 00:38:25,550
I don't know if we talked about it in the podcast.

887
00:38:25,730 --> 00:38:27,170
The stayed home school.

888
00:38:27,650 --> 00:38:28,090
Home school.

889
00:38:28,190 --> 00:38:28,710
Home school.

890
00:38:28,990 --> 00:38:30,370
Was that did we ever talk about that?

891
00:38:30,550 --> 00:38:31,090
Did we talk about that?

892
00:38:31,090 --> 00:38:32,050
I think we mentioned that.

893
00:38:33,210 --> 00:38:38,310
I it's funny because when Kelly and I first got serious and talked about things like kids and things.

894
00:38:38,430 --> 00:38:38,530
Yeah.

895
00:38:38,830 --> 00:38:43,270
She was one that was like, well, you know, private school if we ever have kids.

896
00:38:43,270 --> 00:38:46,150
And I was like, what are you crazy people?

897
00:38:46,430 --> 00:38:48,810
I'm like, I went to public school and I did just fine.

898
00:38:49,610 --> 00:38:51,650
Fast forward a few years of craziness.

899
00:38:51,810 --> 00:38:58,790
And now it's like I would never in a million years send her to a public school.

900
00:38:59,270 --> 00:38:59,370
Yeah.

901
00:38:59,430 --> 00:39:00,490
Because he would be like what?

902
00:39:00,750 --> 00:39:01,090
Baldsville.

903
00:39:01,330 --> 00:39:03,990
I mean, it's still North Syracuse.

904
00:39:04,210 --> 00:39:06,250
So she'd end up at the high school.

905
00:39:06,310 --> 00:39:09,470
The high school that I went to is one of the biggest.

906
00:39:09,690 --> 00:39:10,110
It is.

907
00:39:10,150 --> 00:39:10,950
It's a pretty big.

908
00:39:11,030 --> 00:39:11,330
Yeah.

909
00:39:11,490 --> 00:39:12,830
And I don't like so.

910
00:39:13,010 --> 00:39:16,410
But just with the way things are now, I would never do that.

911
00:39:16,410 --> 00:39:21,250
I think the choice will be either a Catholic school or homeschool.

912
00:39:21,810 --> 00:39:30,770
And honestly, if I am in a position where I could do by then a stay at home dad thing, I would do that in a heartbeat.

913
00:39:30,910 --> 00:39:33,530
I'd rather be a stay at home dad and homeschool her myself.

914
00:39:33,750 --> 00:39:34,030
Oh, yeah.

915
00:39:34,250 --> 00:39:36,150
Then then have her do that.

916
00:39:36,170 --> 00:39:37,770
Well, you might have that opportunity, my friend.

917
00:39:38,010 --> 00:39:40,090
I hope I would love I would love it.

918
00:39:40,250 --> 00:39:40,970
I that is.

919
00:39:41,210 --> 00:39:42,170
Best thing I ever did in my life.

920
00:39:42,170 --> 00:39:42,470
That is.

921
00:39:42,650 --> 00:39:43,850
When I was a stay at home dad.

922
00:39:43,870 --> 00:39:44,870
You got to do.

923
00:39:44,930 --> 00:39:45,610
Ah, I mean.

924
00:39:45,610 --> 00:39:46,770
That's the best thing.

925
00:39:46,910 --> 00:39:51,730
It was it was good timing on a lot of things, but it's something that I can.

926
00:39:51,990 --> 00:39:58,010
I always till this day look back and go, oh, my God, I spent so much time with my kids that.

927
00:39:58,110 --> 00:39:58,310
Yeah.

928
00:39:58,410 --> 00:40:00,190
I would have probably.

929
00:40:00,390 --> 00:40:03,470
And I know I did years with Natalia being in retail that I missed.

930
00:40:03,850 --> 00:40:04,030
Yeah.

931
00:40:04,230 --> 00:40:05,890
No, that's when I had Nicholas.

932
00:40:06,130 --> 00:40:06,950
That's priceless.

933
00:40:07,670 --> 00:40:08,070
Absolutely.

934
00:40:08,270 --> 00:40:08,790
No, I would love.

935
00:40:08,850 --> 00:40:09,470
I would love to be.

936
00:40:09,530 --> 00:40:10,310
So you never know.

937
00:40:10,370 --> 00:40:13,110
I would love for it to be that we both don't have to.

938
00:40:13,230 --> 00:40:15,310
I would I would love to make that happen.

939
00:40:15,870 --> 00:40:16,650
You never know.

940
00:40:16,890 --> 00:40:17,350
You never know.

941
00:40:17,870 --> 00:40:21,390
But but yeah, so that is that is everything.

942
00:40:22,050 --> 00:40:23,710
We've covered a lot of ground.

943
00:40:23,810 --> 00:40:25,810
It was fun to catch up on everything.

944
00:40:25,890 --> 00:40:28,770
I think I hit on all of the fun stuff.

945
00:40:28,890 --> 00:40:30,990
Hopefully she's not in high school the next time we get together.

946
00:40:31,150 --> 00:40:31,950
We're not going to do it.

947
00:40:32,010 --> 00:40:33,550
We're going to we're going to get back on.

948
00:40:33,650 --> 00:40:38,830
We're coming up on her birthday will will be, I think, the beginning of season two.

949
00:40:39,210 --> 00:40:41,590
Oh, that's a good that's a good like for us.

950
00:40:42,030 --> 00:40:43,870
How long we when we started.

951
00:40:43,870 --> 00:40:48,550
We started in October of twenty twenty four.

952
00:40:49,330 --> 00:40:49,430
Wow.

953
00:40:49,550 --> 00:40:52,210
So we are well into our second year.

954
00:40:52,770 --> 00:40:55,890
And yeah, because we because, yeah, we started.

955
00:40:56,490 --> 00:41:00,370
We didn't tell anybody that that Kelly was pregnant until September.

956
00:41:01,010 --> 00:41:08,370
And yeah, we started in October and caught up on everything from day one with the pregnancy.

957
00:41:08,370 --> 00:41:10,590
And then we have just rolled right into.

958
00:41:11,050 --> 00:41:15,050
I can't believe that we were able to do this weekly in the beginning before the baby.

959
00:41:15,350 --> 00:41:16,950
We did this every week.

960
00:41:16,950 --> 00:41:19,350
We knew we knew that that was going to change as we even said.

961
00:41:20,750 --> 00:41:21,910
We'll get back to weekly.

962
00:41:22,110 --> 00:41:22,910
So no, I knew.

963
00:41:23,890 --> 00:41:25,210
Yeah, because life takes.

964
00:41:25,490 --> 00:41:30,830
I mean, again, we're not even thinking of weather because you're going to throw in winter.

965
00:41:30,990 --> 00:41:31,390
Right.

966
00:41:31,450 --> 00:41:32,530
So that changes things.

967
00:41:32,550 --> 00:41:34,210
And then our work.

968
00:41:34,450 --> 00:41:34,850
Yeah.

969
00:41:34,890 --> 00:41:36,690
Like, you know, that that ramps up sometimes.

970
00:41:36,690 --> 00:41:38,490
And sometimes you have that free holidays.

971
00:41:38,790 --> 00:41:40,390
Yeah, that was that was free in the summer.

972
00:41:40,390 --> 00:41:42,690
So yeah, October, November.

973
00:41:42,870 --> 00:41:44,190
I mean, I was really free still.

974
00:41:44,310 --> 00:41:44,410
Right.

975
00:41:44,530 --> 00:41:49,070
When we talk about, like, coming home from the cruise and Christmas, and I'm still thinking we're going to have the party.

976
00:41:49,070 --> 00:41:52,670
And there was this point where, honestly, I was like, it's not there.

977
00:41:52,890 --> 00:41:56,250
I was thinking this is going to be really hard.

978
00:41:56,510 --> 00:41:56,750
Yeah.

979
00:41:56,790 --> 00:41:59,550
And then sadly, my cousin Tommy passed away.

980
00:42:00,370 --> 00:42:01,290
And that was it.

981
00:42:01,350 --> 00:42:04,250
That was just because it's just that whole side of my family.

982
00:42:04,470 --> 00:42:07,410
I was like, first of all, he was a wonderful guy.

983
00:42:07,630 --> 00:42:07,850
Yeah.

984
00:42:07,850 --> 00:42:14,950
And he was he and Tish were the first ones here and the last ones to leave.

985
00:42:15,090 --> 00:42:15,550
I remember, yeah.

986
00:42:15,910 --> 00:42:19,490
At every one, every time, summer party, Christmas party, they were there.

987
00:42:19,590 --> 00:42:22,250
And I couldn't imagine having the party without them.

988
00:42:22,350 --> 00:42:22,910
Yeah, yeah.

989
00:42:22,990 --> 00:42:28,210
And I and I know that it would have been hard and sad for his all of his his family.

990
00:42:28,610 --> 00:42:30,510
So I was like, yeah, we're just not going to do it.

991
00:42:30,630 --> 00:42:30,810
Right.

992
00:42:31,010 --> 00:42:35,750
And, you know, we'll we'll we'll get back to those in the summer.

993
00:42:36,010 --> 00:42:36,970
We'll we'll we'll do it.

994
00:42:36,970 --> 00:42:40,390
But yeah, there was just there was no there was no time, even if that happened.

995
00:42:40,710 --> 00:42:42,210
We were like, it would have been hard.

996
00:42:42,370 --> 00:42:42,690
Oh, yeah.

997
00:42:42,830 --> 00:42:45,310
We were a machine every week.

998
00:42:45,390 --> 00:42:46,870
Bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam.

999
00:42:47,710 --> 00:42:48,270
Well, it's tough.

1000
00:42:48,390 --> 00:42:53,810
I mean, and I even said I even said in some prior stuff, I said, you know, things are going to change.

1001
00:42:53,950 --> 00:42:54,090
Yeah.

1002
00:42:54,210 --> 00:42:58,130
The podcast is going to change because eventually you're not we're not talking about a baby.

1003
00:42:58,430 --> 00:42:58,650
Right.

1004
00:42:58,770 --> 00:42:59,450
You know, right.

1005
00:42:59,530 --> 00:43:00,790
I mean, so everything changes.

1006
00:43:00,810 --> 00:43:03,750
And I think we kind of, you know, we did pretty good.

1007
00:43:03,750 --> 00:43:07,230
Pretty good for a lot of things that have changed in our own lives.

1008
00:43:07,330 --> 00:43:07,830
We did.

1009
00:43:08,070 --> 00:43:09,130
You weren't even a parent.

1010
00:43:09,630 --> 00:43:09,890
Yeah.

1011
00:43:09,950 --> 00:43:10,590
So you had no idea.

1012
00:43:10,730 --> 00:43:14,310
We were talking a lot of smack, but you had no idea what you were getting into.

1013
00:43:14,370 --> 00:43:14,510
Right.

1014
00:43:14,570 --> 00:43:15,650
I didn't know what was going to happen.

1015
00:43:16,030 --> 00:43:18,210
So, yeah, it has been it has been.

1016
00:43:19,390 --> 00:43:28,550
I think it's interesting because it has been easier than I thought in many ways and harder in ways that I didn't imagine.

1017
00:43:28,790 --> 00:43:29,010
Right.

1018
00:43:29,270 --> 00:43:33,610
But it's it's still the podcast help you in a weird way.

1019
00:43:33,750 --> 00:43:38,050
Talking about every week with expect because I think I have to give you something.

1020
00:43:38,410 --> 00:43:40,290
I notice when I don't have time with you.

1021
00:43:40,550 --> 00:43:40,690
Right.

1022
00:43:40,890 --> 00:43:41,170
Right.

1023
00:43:41,370 --> 00:43:42,410
Which we do here.

1024
00:43:42,610 --> 00:43:42,810
Right.

1025
00:43:42,890 --> 00:43:43,170
Yeah.

1026
00:43:43,210 --> 00:43:47,810
Because it's good to talk about and process some of the stuff because I will oftentimes.

1027
00:43:49,610 --> 00:43:55,190
After we have done one of these, it kind of helps me to collect my thoughts and get a better perspective on things.

1028
00:43:55,350 --> 00:43:58,250
And then what really does is what I was thinking of doing.

1029
00:43:58,270 --> 00:44:00,930
And please let us know if you would be interested in this.

1030
00:44:00,930 --> 00:44:07,770
I was thinking for the next season two at the end of season one to do like a clip show of highlights.

1031
00:44:07,890 --> 00:44:08,350
Oh, that'd be fun.

1032
00:44:08,450 --> 00:44:09,970
So I was just going back.

1033
00:44:10,370 --> 00:44:11,550
Oh, that would be really cool.

1034
00:44:11,670 --> 00:44:22,330
Kelly was in the background and we were listening and it was to go back to some of those early episodes with the pregnancy stuff and different things that were happening and talking about what it might be like.

1035
00:44:22,390 --> 00:44:22,830
We might want.

1036
00:44:22,890 --> 00:44:26,550
Yeah, we might want to do a season one cap highlights.

1037
00:44:26,710 --> 00:44:26,910
Yeah.

1038
00:44:27,150 --> 00:44:27,390
Yeah.

1039
00:44:27,430 --> 00:44:27,910
That might be.

1040
00:44:27,970 --> 00:44:28,750
That sounds like fun.

1041
00:44:28,850 --> 00:44:30,090
It might be fun to do that.

1042
00:44:30,090 --> 00:44:30,690
But you know what?

1043
00:44:30,730 --> 00:44:38,030
Also, how many times in life do you have a chance to experience something and then.

1044
00:44:38,490 --> 00:44:39,190
Have a record of it.

1045
00:44:39,210 --> 00:44:39,450
Yeah.

1046
00:44:39,590 --> 00:44:41,790
And then have a record of it and then talk about it.

1047
00:44:42,210 --> 00:44:53,230
It's usually you do a memory and then you stop and you go to the next thing where we're allowing ourselves to talk about it again and keep it lively and keep it going.

1048
00:44:53,470 --> 00:44:54,630
And I don't know, it just.

1049
00:44:55,110 --> 00:44:57,970
It's like having a like a video diary.

1050
00:44:58,130 --> 00:44:58,370
Yes.

1051
00:44:58,370 --> 00:45:04,190
And I can imagine it was impactful just going back a year and listening to how things were.

1052
00:45:04,650 --> 00:45:07,710
So yeah, 10 years from now, looking at these will be.

1053
00:45:08,010 --> 00:45:08,590
I just picture.

1054
00:45:09,650 --> 00:45:10,330
I hope.

1055
00:45:10,490 --> 00:45:12,470
I know I'll say, look how young I was.

1056
00:45:12,870 --> 00:45:15,270
I hope I don't say, look how thin I was.

1057
00:45:16,010 --> 00:45:19,010
But we will say that when we look at look at how thin Carlo.

1058
00:45:19,190 --> 00:45:22,650
Yeah, hopefully that stays until the summer.

1059
00:45:22,930 --> 00:45:25,070
My goal is, I swear to God, my goal.

1060
00:45:25,230 --> 00:45:27,030
I just want to be in a swimsuit once before.

1061
00:45:27,270 --> 00:45:27,370
Right.

1062
00:45:27,370 --> 00:45:28,750
Until I put it back on.

1063
00:45:28,970 --> 00:45:33,330
Like give me one time of feeling okay with my shirt off.

1064
00:45:33,490 --> 00:45:33,690
Yeah.

1065
00:45:33,910 --> 00:45:39,250
Before I most likely start eating again.

1066
00:45:40,110 --> 00:45:40,630
Like no, no, no.

1067
00:45:41,090 --> 00:45:44,550
But again, the older we get, the more we have to think about that.

1068
00:45:44,610 --> 00:45:44,950
Right.

1069
00:45:45,070 --> 00:45:45,690
Our health.

1070
00:45:45,810 --> 00:45:46,170
That's right.

1071
00:45:46,190 --> 00:45:47,350
You know, we're in our fifties.

1072
00:45:47,530 --> 00:45:52,710
You have a long, beautiful journey with your baby.

1073
00:45:52,950 --> 00:45:56,190
And so we want to help out any way we can.

1074
00:45:56,190 --> 00:46:02,670
And I took it upon myself this year to make sure I get into 2026 a lot healthier.

1075
00:46:02,910 --> 00:46:03,430
So there you go.

1076
00:46:03,570 --> 00:46:03,930
Yeah, yeah.

1077
00:46:04,490 --> 00:46:05,630
Well, this was fun.

1078
00:46:05,830 --> 00:46:06,370
It was awesome.

1079
00:46:06,510 --> 00:46:06,970
Thank you for saying.

1080
00:46:07,110 --> 00:46:08,490
I think this is probably what do we got?

1081
00:46:08,550 --> 00:46:09,830
We got an hour.

1082
00:46:10,110 --> 00:46:11,070
And we started at noon.

1083
00:46:11,310 --> 00:46:13,550
Hour and 38 minutes of content.

1084
00:46:13,910 --> 00:46:16,330
We only had one time that the camera went off.

1085
00:46:16,410 --> 00:46:17,270
That'll edit down.

1086
00:46:17,370 --> 00:46:19,890
I bet you will get two, three episodes out of this.

1087
00:46:20,050 --> 00:46:21,030
Three episodes would be nice.

1088
00:46:21,490 --> 00:46:22,230
Hour and 40 minutes.

1089
00:46:22,390 --> 00:46:22,570
Yeah.

1090
00:46:22,670 --> 00:46:23,610
30, 90.

1091
00:46:24,010 --> 00:46:24,630
We could do that.

1092
00:46:24,890 --> 00:46:25,310
We'll see.

1093
00:46:25,310 --> 00:46:28,190
It will definitely be a two-parter, maybe a three.

1094
00:46:28,830 --> 00:46:31,510
But anyways, thank you for sticking all the way to the end.

1095
00:46:31,610 --> 00:46:34,350
And we will see you again soon.

1096
00:46:35,130 --> 00:46:39,330
Well, folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

1097
00:46:39,890 --> 00:46:42,270
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1098
00:46:42,570 --> 00:46:43,490
We hope it was fun.

1099
00:46:44,010 --> 00:46:50,610
If you enjoyed this week's descent into the madness of dadness, be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any of our future adventures.

1100
00:46:51,050 --> 00:46:59,210
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1101
00:47:00,190 --> 00:47:12,050
Have any hilarious parenting stories of your own questions about navigating fatherhood later in life, or even when normal people do it, email us at ghdc.podcast at gmail.com.

1102
00:47:12,210 --> 00:47:13,330
We'd love to hear from you.

1103
00:47:13,790 --> 00:47:15,590
And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to.