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In my family, a lot of the Italian stuff is not, is bastardized or it's not, it's not the, the proper terminology.

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What would you call your godmother and godfather?

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So we would, we would call them, there's a name.

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Is it Kumbhara?

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Kumbhara?

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Kumbhara.

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That's what I was just trying to figure out what you say.

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But when you think about it, anybody who watches like the Sopranos thinks that that's a sidekick, right?

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But so we would call it Kumbhara, Kumbhara, Kumbhara, Kumbhara.

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Yeah.

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So, so I was wondering what, so you're going to be Kumbhara, Kumbhara Carlo.

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This is the gray hair and daycare podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ, right?

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In that same range, your hosts, Frank Sirio and Carlo Russo.

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Welcome back.

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So as always, I am Frank Sirio.

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I am 55 years old and my daughter is 13 days old.

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Yes, your daughter, baby Josie, baby Josie arrived.

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What a gorgeous, gorgeous baby.

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This has been, I've been struggling, honestly, thinking about, cause all I've been thinking about is this, of course, you have a beautiful baby, a beautiful wife.

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I'm like, I'm not going to put this kid down so I can write my script.

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Uh, no, I've been struggling to think of, you know, what am I going to say?

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Right.

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What do I say about this experience?

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Because everybody says the same thing when they talk about it.

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It's like, it's life changing.

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It's indescribable.

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Yep.

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It's, there's no way to put it in words.

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And I, and I'm thinking all along, I'm going to, there's going to be something that I can, that I can sink my teeth into that.

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I can say, this is what this experience means to me.

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And what it is, is it's indescribable and life changing.

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And other, and there's really, there is no way, there's no way to explain how this little person sums up everything, everything that's important, everything that's important in just in, in one little six pound package.

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It's, it's amazing.

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Um, like you said, this little human becomes the number one thing in your existence, keeping this child safe, alive, warm, happy, just overnight, overnight, or whenever you have that child, it becomes the number one thing.

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It should become the number one thing on your mind at all, all the time.

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The baby doesn't know your name, doesn't know how to speak, doesn't know, eyes are closed for the, you know, first and, and still you're just looking at it going, I have to, I, this is everything important to me is right here.

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My wife, my child and our health now.

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And, and of course, and it all gets tied in with a beautiful bow of our faith.

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So without a doubt.

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Yeah.

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Through the whole experience.

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Cause it's, we look, there've been, everything is great.

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Our most literally early, just a few hours ago, we were at the pediatrician and you know, all babies lose a little weight after they're born.

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So baby Josie was six pounds, one ounce born on March 5th, right?

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March 5th at 7 0 8 AM, six pounds, one ounce.

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And then her lowest was about five pounds, five ounces, like a week ago.

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And then a few days later, she was up to 5.8, five pounds, eight and a half ounces.

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Today she was six pounds, three and a half ounces.

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So over her, so she's back over her birth weight.

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She's all, all the feeding, the breastfeeding, all that stuff has gone very, very well.

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It's had some challenges, but so that's all good.

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You know, everything's been good, but yeah, it's just, it all happened so quickly.

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But the faith piece, yeah.

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Just realizing how, how fragile, how fragile life, life is in general, let alone this little brand new life and also trusting, you know, we've talked about through, through the podcast, my struggles with being afraid of stuff.

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That's the only, it is only through faith that that stuff fades away.

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And you can, you are then allowed to experience just this incredible, indescribable joy of this little, little person.

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So, but so I want to catch you guys up on kind of everything that happened and how the birth went and all that stuff.

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And it kind of starts with that Monday.

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So two weeks ago, yesterday, we went in about five o'clock.

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We went up to St. Joe's and well, you know what?

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Before I, before I get into like the details of it, there's a few things.

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The first thing is I feel like this is like the best analogy I give is the baby is like being handed an Oscar, right?

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So this is my acceptance speech, right?

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This is my acceptance because there are many people that I need to think, right?

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Because without them, this would not be possible, right?

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Our producer, our producer and my lovely wife, Kelly, I cannot.

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Yeah, there's nothing.

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I will gladly spend the rest of my life repaying what she did, what she went through, how strong she was.

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I can't tell you how unbelievably proud I am of how she faced everything step by step, even when things went wrong for her.

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She was absolutely amazing.

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It was incredible.

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After the baby was born, there's a picture that I took of her, the way she never looked as she had never looked as beautiful holding our baby.

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It was very it was I have tremendous respect for any woman who has gone through this, gone through that experience and given of themselves in that way that they were able to create successfully created another human being.

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But my wife is I've always thought she was brilliant and wonderful and I love her, but she completely blew me away with her her strength and her courage and her willingness to just give everything she could.

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It was amazing.

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It was absolutely amazing.

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They are so much stronger than us.

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Oh, my God.

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I mean, without hearing you, it's and I've known this because of things in my family, my wife, they are so much stronger than us.

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We do not compare of the, of the, the greatness of women.

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I'm so, it's, I'm so glad there's no man on earth that has, yeah.

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And all the mass majority of women do this and I'm sure they all handle it differently and different, but yeah, without a doubt, there is no man on earth that, that endures what they go through, the changes to their body over such a long period of time.

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And then in just an incredibly short, intense period of time going through child birth, it is absolutely amazing.

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I don't, I know, I, I know I couldn't do it.

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I know I could.

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We have a pimple and we think it took over our whole face.

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They have, they're cooking up a human, a baby and the strength.

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And then the medical problem.

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We don't have the medical problem when they get pregnant.

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Our men, if you're healthy, you stay healthy.

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If you're not healthy, you're going to.

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They go through changes like that.

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And some of them are life threatening for women out there that have been through that.

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It's just amazing when you can finally look at your wife in that different, you've always, we always said, we always thought, but no, it changes.

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When you see that, it just puts them in such a different realm that I know that I'm not.

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This isn't, yeah, this is just, this isn't just a regular human.

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There's nothing like, I'm sorry.

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As fathers, I'm very proud to be a dad and I'm, I think I'm very good.

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Nothing like that.

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But I'm sorry.

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No, nothing.

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I mean, we, we have a long, we have a long way to go as fathers to contribute at that level.

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That's why we get the rest of our lives to do all that stuff.

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Like that's, uh, but no, it was incredible.

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So I'll let you continue.

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No, no, no.

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First and foremost, my wife was just amazing.

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I couldn't be more proud of her.

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And there were doctors and nurses that all were, all deserve a specific shout out.

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So the first doctor, Patrice Pellucci, she handled kind of the induction process when we get it on Monday night, then it transitioned to Dr. Kathleen Rogers, who kind of took care of us through labor and the delivery.

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She was there during the delivery, just did an incredible job.

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And I hope I get the pronounced, the last name, right.

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It's Dr. Sarah Scoach.

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She handled some of the difficulties that we'll talk about when I kind of go through everything and happened after childbirth and got Kelly taken care of.

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There was a nurse, Kenzie, who helped us through pushing and through childbirth and then before and afterwards, another nurse, Courtney Burke, these people, those, first of all, they're the most beautiful women other than my wife and I've ever seen.

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I will never forget them.

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Especially part of your, uh, your life, their fit.

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It's like, you know, you talk about those moments in your past that you just, you can picture it like it was yesterday.

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I can picture every single one of their faces at different points.

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There will, I, we were, we were back at the hospital at one point and I heard Courtney's voice and I said, that's court.

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She wasn't even in the room with us.

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I'm like, that's Courtney.

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And she came around the corner and it was her.

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They were incredible.

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The, the level, first of all, when you're in that position where there's nothing you can do, right.

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Other than be emotional support and sometimes stay out of the way.

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And just, yeah, just stay out of the way.

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These people, just an incredible level.

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First of all, of, of skill and talent, the education that they have, that what they're able to do for people is, is miraculous, but also just the level of caring and compassion.

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They're just, they're wonderful people.

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So Dr. Pellucci, Dr. Rogers, Dr. Scoach, and then the nurses, Kenzie and Courtney, Courtney Burke.

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They were absolutely incredible.

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All at St. Joe's and associates for women's medicine.

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They were fantastic.

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And there's a special place for them.

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Oh, people that take care of other people and, and they do it with such grace and it's just special people.

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Not everybody can do that.

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No, no, without a doubt, without a doubt.

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It was a huge, I've joked around in the past that it kind of, my baseline is that I don't think anybody knows what they're doing.

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And those people, I never, I never once had anything, never once saw anything that made me go, Oh, like I need to be on alert.

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I could trust them.

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I could focus on Kelly and they did everything that they could and should have.

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And the outcome speaks for itself.

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I'm telling you, I mean, you can talk a lot about Syracuse, but one of the things we have here in Syracuse is our medical, our hospitals and our people that work there are top notch teaching.

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We're a teaching city.

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So you know, you're in good hands in Syracuse with the medical field.

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No, it was, they were fantastic.

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So diving right into the whole thing.

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So Monday, five o'clock we show up, they get us all checked in.

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They bring us right in.

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We are in the room.

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We were in the room that they took us on the tour.

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So we're like, okay, we've seen, we've seen this room before and we, we got set up and they basically started with cervical softening.

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So they were like these, they weren't pills.

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She would like let them dissolve and they gave doses of that stuff.

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They were every four hours.

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So one dose at six, one dose at 10, one dose at 2 a.m. That was all with Dr. Pellucci.

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And then at that point, yeah, they do an exam and they see how things are going.

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And she wasn't, yeah, she wasn't progressing.

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So now we're into Tuesday morning.

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Cause you guys got in there at five, five o'clock.

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So we got there, you know, we had a little bite to eat and you know, there was a little, there was a little like a fold out for me, but I think Kelly slept a little.

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I didn't sleep much at all.

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The excitement of things getting going and being there and knowing it was going to happen.

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So by the morning, then they said they wanted to do this balloon.

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So the balloon helps, helps them to dilate.

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So they put it, basically they put this balloon in and they inflate it and that stays in for, I think like it was in there for three, three and a half hours.

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That took her to almost five centimeters, right?

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So kind of halfway there, worked.

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And then they allowed her to do the, we went to the jacuzzi tub.

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Yes.

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So there was no, there was no hosing, but she really liked the jacuzzi tub.

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I thought we were going to be in there for a little while.

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We were there in there for three and a half, four hours.

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She just stayed in the tub.

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Really?

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Yup.

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Just kept heating it up, kept heating it up and it really worked.

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And then by the time we went back, it was basically, that's when she was starting to really feel the contractions.

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I think the warm water and being comfortable in the bath, it moved everything along and it kept, she wasn't, she was very comfortable.

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So at this point she's been going at it for a while and had no painkillers, no nothing.

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Then we get back to the room.

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Now she's really starting to feel it.

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So we're doing the, she's, she's on the yoga ball, trying to, uh, you know, breathing through as she's starting to really feel the contractions and they had her on these wireless sensors for the contractions.

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So you could see, could trace the contraction and they can trace the baby's heart rate and they're looking to make sure that, you know, as, as things are happening, the baby's okay.

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But that was basically about, by about eight o'clock, eight 30, I was starting to encourage her because it was started by now she's exhausted, right?

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The, the pain is starting to get to her and they're like, you could do nitrous oxide, IV pain meds, or right to the epidural.

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And basically they made it sound like the nitrous oxide half the time doesn't even work, right?

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So we did the IV pain meds that got her sleepy and it made her certainly be able to tolerate the pain much better.

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So from then through maybe about 1 a.m. She's mostly dozing off.

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Like she's, she's waking up a little bit at the peak of a contraction, but she's mostly kind of in that quasi half asleep, half awake.

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So now you're going into Wednesday.

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That would, this is going Tuesday night into Wednesday morning.

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So you got there Monday at five, got there Monday at five in the evening.

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So for me, I, I think I probably got from 6 a.m. on Monday till 5 a.m. say on Wednesday, I got about three hours of sleep, right?

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So I'm bleary eyed, but I'm okay.

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She had been getting some rest off and on, right?

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So it was a little bit different, but by about midnight, 1 a.m. She's ready for the epidural, right?

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Like it's even with the other, yeah.

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And I'm like, absolutely fine.

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And honestly, that was the first thing for me that looked, it was like, it was scary, right?

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Cause they take it very seriously.

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It's a manual thing.

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It's got to be very still, so that was a little, the other, and the other thing that happened that was my, my lovely wife does not have good veins for when they wanted to put the, they wanted to put a port in so they could do IVs whenever they wanted.

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It took three tries.

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It took first the nurse that we were working with, then the nurse that had the most experience, then the IV team over the time that she was there to get, to put in two IVs.

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It took them six tries.

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They kept, they kept having problems on black and blue marks.

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She was getting, she had a lot of that and after a while that's just cause they don't want to put it, they wanted her to be able to move around so they don't want to do it in her arm.

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So it was, that was, that was challenging throughout.

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But anyway, so now it's, it's Wednesday morning.

219
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She had the epidural and one of the things I was concerned about, and you know, you read about the stuff.

220
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One of the challenges with the epidural is then there are people that say, well, then you're not going to be able to feel the contraction.

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She felt it.

222
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She could still feel it, right?

223
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You, cause she would feel the pressure.

224
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She wasn't having, cause they were worried of, if you don't feel it, you're not pushing, you're not going to push the right time.

225
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That was not an issue for her.

226
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So about maybe 5am, Kenzie, the nurse comes in and says, we're going to try some practice pushes, right?

227
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To figure out, so we get her, we get her set up and, and she's doing it and she's watching, she's, she, she's watching.

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And when she gets it right, she's like, that's the way, whatever that felt like.

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She was kind of coaching her through it.

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We did that for a little bit.

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And then starting at like 6am, it was okay, let's go.

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And it really was, she, they kind of started with, okay, we're going to do some on this side.

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So they got her on her one side and did several pushes on one side.

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And, and that was, so they wanted me basically to help her.

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I was left arm under her knee, right arm on her other shoulder.

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And yeah, and she still has like, she still has bruises from, from that, because so, so we would do that.

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She'd do through, I think four, four or five contractions that way, then exact opposite on the other side.

238
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And then she'd be on one side and you'd be on, you'd be doing that.

239
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So she would kind of have on her.

240
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So she'd be on her left.

241
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I would be on her or yeah, she would be on her left.

242
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I would be on her left and I would be squeezing her.

243
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And she, when she hit the top, I could watch the monitor and kind of, okay, here it comes as it got close to the top.

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Cause what I remember with ours, I, for some reason, I remember my mom and me both doing at the same time.

245
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Oh, one each like, yeah, I remember her being on the sides.

246
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Well, so what they did was it was four on one side, four on the other side, and then we were ready to go.

247
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And then she's centered.

248
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And then it was, that's it.

249
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Then up in the stirrups.

250
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That's the only thing I remember is the ready to go.

251
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Cause Trina was ready to go.

252
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We had no time.

253
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There was no side to side.

254
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No, no.

255
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So that was, it was one four on one side, four on the other side and then go.

256
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And it was funny because a couple of times my wife, even though she's in all this pain and, and she's going through all this stuff and she's kind of a little dopey, she's telling the Rogers, telling the doctor he's going to be up here.

257
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Like, and it's like, yeah.

258
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And I'm like, honestly, it was funny because we've talked, we talked so much about my apprehension about this and I'm not minimizing it.

259
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Like still, even now, even since the birth, somebody will say something and I'll get my weird, weak, need feeling.

260
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But in that moment I was like, I could, I did not, it didn't matter.

261
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Yeah.

262
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Like whatever's going to happen.

263
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I was the same.

264
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No, I wasn't down there like, Hey, but at the same time I was, I wasn't I was concerned about what can I, what can I do to help her?

265
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Right.

266
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But she's, she's throwing that out there and I'm looking at the doctor like I'm fine.

267
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Don't worry about it.

268
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Like we're good.

269
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So we go through and four on one side, four on the other, and then, okay, now it's time push, push, push, push.

270
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And it was just like all of a sudden, bam, there there's the baby.

271
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I know.

272
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And I look and there's, there she is.

273
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And before I even know what's happening, I'm looking at her.

274
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She's happy.

275
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I look at the baby and before I even know what's happening, she's like, here you go.

276
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And she hands me the thing to cut the, and I'm like, Oh, we talked about this too.

277
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Yeah.

278
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I thought you weren't going to, but no, I was like, okay, that was it.

279
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It was fine.

280
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And, and then there, the baby lands on, on her chest and I just, I just want to see, right?

281
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Like, I just want to look at her.

282
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Yeah.

283
00:21:50,620 --> 00:21:53,900
So I squat down next to the bed.

284
00:21:54,000 --> 00:22:10,160
So I'm, I level with this little, with my daughter and my wife and the doctors are, the doctor's still doing stuff until I see out of the corner of my eye, the doctor's head appears around her foot and goes, are you okay?

285
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,780
She's, she's thinking I'm squatting down because I'm going to pass out.

286
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:13,940
Yeah.

287
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:14,820
You need some air.

288
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You're going to go down.

289
00:22:16,260 --> 00:22:18,060
And I'm like, I'm, I am great.

290
00:22:18,060 --> 00:22:21,060
And I stood, stood back up and look, but that's funny.

291
00:22:21,360 --> 00:22:23,180
Immediately they get her going.

292
00:22:23,340 --> 00:22:25,660
She tries trying to get her to latch.

293
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She latches.

294
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Everything went great.

295
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:31,040
They put a little hat on her to clean her up a little bit.

296
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Did you have a moment of the first crying?

297
00:22:35,860 --> 00:22:38,620
Did you, were you waiting for the, the cry, the cry of the baby?

298
00:22:38,780 --> 00:22:41,080
So it happened very quickly.

299
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It happened very quickly.

300
00:22:42,380 --> 00:22:43,620
So you didn't have to even think about it.

301
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Yeah.

302
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:47,240
And, and I think one of mine were like, come on, let's get the cry.

303
00:22:47,360 --> 00:22:47,520
Yeah.

304
00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:48,380
No, I didn't.

305
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:49,400
I didn't have that.

306
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:53,460
Uh, it was like, there's the baby.

307
00:22:53,740 --> 00:22:54,420
There's the sound.

308
00:22:54,620 --> 00:22:55,940
I'm like, okay, that's cool.

309
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:56,400
Yes.

310
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And now she's on, she's on Kelly.

311
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They get her cleaned up a little bit.

312
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:06,280
All they did was a quick, they did a weight and a weight and a measure.

313
00:23:06,360 --> 00:23:10,340
So six pounds, one ounce and 19 and a half inches long.

314
00:23:10,360 --> 00:23:16,520
So she is 10th percentile for weight and 52nd percentile for height.

315
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:24,580
So she's tall and skinny, very long, but it was so, but she looked, she looked great.

316
00:23:24,780 --> 00:23:24,980
Right.

317
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:28,080
For just all pink and perfect and wonderful.

318
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,200
And the, the feeding started great.

319
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,440
Kelly looked absolutely just radiant.

320
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Let's just let you imagine a woman with just absolutely glowing, looked fantastic.

321
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So they're just doing all their stuff and there it is.

322
00:23:41,660 --> 00:23:54,660
And, and it's just this incredible, indescribable gratitude and wonder at this tiny little, and, and, and it's funny because for me, I know she's little, right?

323
00:23:54,760 --> 00:24:00,580
10th, 10th, 10th percentile for, for, but I'm, but for some reason she was bigger.

324
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:02,560
It seemed bigger to me.

325
00:24:02,660 --> 00:24:04,820
I thought so too with Nick, with Natalia.

326
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:07,760
And I was like, why is everybody saying that he's tiny?

327
00:24:07,860 --> 00:24:08,720
Yeah, she's not that small.

328
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:09,780
This big baby.

329
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:10,160
Yeah.

330
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:12,000
I did have that feeling.

331
00:24:12,180 --> 00:24:12,300
Yeah.

332
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:13,860
I'm like, she's not that small.

333
00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:16,360
She's, she's like, she's, it's all there.

334
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:17,080
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

335
00:24:17,120 --> 00:24:21,020
Uh, but yeah, so that was something that was just, I'll never forget it.

336
00:24:21,140 --> 00:24:23,100
It was a wonderful, wonderful moment.

337
00:24:23,740 --> 00:24:26,240
And the doctors and the nurses, everybody, they were fantastic.

338
00:24:26,500 --> 00:24:26,680
Yeah.

339
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:31,840
So, you know, after a couple hours, we're in the labor and delivery room that we've been in since Monday night.

340
00:24:31,940 --> 00:24:32,180
Sure.

341
00:24:32,380 --> 00:24:33,520
Now it's Wednesday morning.

342
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,500
It's like 10 AM or maybe not.

343
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,140
It might be like nine 30 by now.

344
00:24:37,140 --> 00:24:40,100
We'd been in there a couple hours after the baby's born.

345
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:41,900
They're ready to move us.

346
00:24:42,100 --> 00:24:45,120
So now the pain meds, uh, the epidural is out.

347
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:54,520
The pain meds are kind of wearing off and they say, okay, let's see if we can get you the next step, the nurses want to take Kelly in.

348
00:24:54,660 --> 00:25:09,560
So there's, we have our own bathroom in this room, take her in and see if she can, you know, if she can pee through the process, they hadn't put a, they hadn't put her on a catheter, but they had done, they were helping to evacuate her bladder.

349
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,980
Basically she wasn't able to go, right?

350
00:25:12,140 --> 00:25:17,940
So they, they bring her in and I've got the baby and I hear, oh, okay.

351
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:28,200
And then all of a sudden three, four more nurses come in, into the bathroom, into the, into the bathroom and she's coming back out and she's, and she fainted.

352
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:35,100
So just, she was, she, she passed out for just a couple seconds, but they got her back now.

353
00:25:35,180 --> 00:25:47,660
So now they've been cleaning up and I've been watching and they are weighing, they were weighing the pads that were coming off of the, off of the bed in an effort to estimate blood loss.

354
00:25:48,020 --> 00:26:03,580
Well, they, so they started to become concerned and they start checking, they start checking things and throughout the process before they got her up, they were like pressing her tummy to get her to try to get everything out and it seemed like everything was going fine.

355
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,880
And again, in the bed, glowing, beautiful color.

356
00:26:07,120 --> 00:26:09,640
She looked, she felt, she could feel fine.

357
00:26:09,940 --> 00:26:10,820
All that stuff.

358
00:26:11,100 --> 00:26:14,700
Now she looks, she, she looks a lot more gray.

359
00:26:15,120 --> 00:26:25,660
They put her back, they put her back down and she's, she's in bed and now this was by far the hardest part of the whole process because now pain meds are all worn off.

360
00:26:26,340 --> 00:26:29,660
The epidural is out and nothing helping her.

361
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:41,580
She, it's been two hours of things are starting to close back up and now like it was very difficult because of just her anatomy for them to do examinations.

362
00:26:41,580 --> 00:26:44,300
Right now things are tightening back up.

363
00:26:44,420 --> 00:26:51,400
Now they've got to do these examinations and it is her body getting back to her and her body.

364
00:26:51,500 --> 00:26:51,920
Yes.

365
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,480
And she is, there's no help.

366
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:55,700
Yeah, there's, there's no help there.

367
00:26:56,240 --> 00:27:05,340
And she is exhausted and she feels weak and it was just, she was, she had to do what she had to do.

368
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:16,240
She was very, she was very brave through throughout it, but I could see, this is the first time that I could see she was at, she was at, she was at the end of her rope.

369
00:27:16,260 --> 00:27:16,520
Sure.

370
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:17,080
Right.

371
00:27:17,580 --> 00:27:29,040
And it was just, and there was nothing, there was nothing I could do other than have my forehead against her and, and try to, and try to console her and help her through the pain.

372
00:27:29,380 --> 00:27:34,420
And that was, that was just, you're completely helpless.

373
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,400
You do, you, you're completely helpless to help.

374
00:27:36,620 --> 00:27:37,720
You can't do anything.

375
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:40,220
All you can do is be, be there with her through it.

376
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:45,080
And thank goodness through that, through all of this, the baby is fine.

377
00:27:45,420 --> 00:27:45,580
Yeah.

378
00:27:45,860 --> 00:27:51,980
The baby, everything's good with the baby is just hanging out and, and we're going through this.

379
00:27:51,980 --> 00:28:05,920
So essentially what they said was that after the, the, the examination that was really, really difficult, they said basically the upper part of her uterus was not contracting the way it should.

380
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:14,540
So they basically were like, put, they wanted to put her, give her Pitocin to get things to clamp down.

381
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:18,060
And then there is a thing it's called a Jada.

382
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:29,780
The Jada is a balloon, another balloon thing that they put in that applies suction and pressure to help, to help things close up and, and, and stop the bleeding.

383
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,920
And they, again, this is another thing that's got to be put in.

384
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:34,140
Yeah.

385
00:28:34,140 --> 00:28:35,060
This is not a comfort.

386
00:28:35,100 --> 00:28:40,160
So it was, first it was the examination that was excruciating for her, then this process.

387
00:28:40,220 --> 00:28:45,440
And then they're starting to say, well, we have different, they could give you this for pain or that for pain.

388
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:49,480
They ended up giving her, I think they gave her fentanyl for the pain.

389
00:28:49,660 --> 00:28:49,820
Yeah.

390
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:51,900
And then you hear that word and you're like terrified.

391
00:28:51,940 --> 00:28:52,340
Right.

392
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,340
If you're going to get fentanyl, it's probably best when you're in the hospital.

393
00:28:55,540 --> 00:28:55,800
Yes.

394
00:28:56,100 --> 00:28:56,500
Professionals.

395
00:28:56,660 --> 00:28:57,640
Administered by professionals.

396
00:28:58,260 --> 00:28:59,060
Perfect amount.

397
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,080
But so that, that was it.

398
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:06,840
And they immediately start pushing a bunch of fluids to, to help her with that.

399
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:13,340
Also at that point, she's showing a little bit of a fever, so they put her on IV antibiotics.

400
00:29:13,940 --> 00:29:15,820
So they've got an IV for the antibiotics.

401
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,100
There's all these, these things beeping and pumping.

402
00:29:18,700 --> 00:29:27,140
They're, they're pushing her, pushing fluids for her and they give her the pain meds and now the balloon is in and now it's just wait.

403
00:29:27,340 --> 00:29:27,580
Yeah.

404
00:29:27,580 --> 00:29:36,980
They do her blood work and it was challenging because by the end of the day, so now this is, you know, this is all happening in the morning, maybe not.

405
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,120
This is Wednesday morning, Wednesday, nine 30.

406
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:48,240
So all day long, we're there instead of going to the mother and baby room until about 10 o'clock at night.

407
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:59,200
But by that time they've kind of, they've done her blood labs a couple of times and they're kind of saying, well, if you want a transfusion, we can give you one.

408
00:29:59,220 --> 00:30:00,520
Cause she had lost enough blood.

409
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:02,900
Yeah, it was, the numbers weren't, weren't great.

410
00:30:03,780 --> 00:30:08,360
And at that point she had had, but it was like, well, you know, think about it.

411
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:09,040
You don't have to do it now.

412
00:30:09,140 --> 00:30:10,220
They could do it the next day.

413
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:10,520
Sure.

414
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,220
And she just, I think was ready.

415
00:30:13,380 --> 00:30:15,460
We wanted to get into the other room.

416
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:17,560
So it was about 10 30 at night.

417
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:22,580
Finally on Wednesday we got moved into the mom and baby room.

418
00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:33,980
So now it's like, okay, from, for me, three hours of sleep from six in the morning on Monday until 10 30, I, we got settled, got everything good.

419
00:30:34,020 --> 00:30:35,500
The baby's, the baby's good.

420
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:37,200
Kelly's good.

421
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:38,480
We get settled in.

422
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:47,140
We have this great nurse there and the mom and baby unit that took, got her all, got us all set up, brought us some snacks, like all that stuff.

423
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:47,700
It was nice.

424
00:30:48,100 --> 00:30:49,260
And there's a bed there.

425
00:30:49,540 --> 00:30:52,580
I pull out the bed and I'm out.

426
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:56,160
So I, yeah, I was, I just fell asleep.

427
00:30:56,260 --> 00:30:56,680
That was it.

428
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:59,180
I had a pretty good night's sleep.

429
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:03,420
The baby through the night is like cluster feeding already.

430
00:31:03,420 --> 00:31:04,800
Like she's gone.

431
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:10,360
She's wants to be fat hour and a half, two hours, like almost continuously, right?

432
00:31:10,460 --> 00:31:13,680
Like just like one after that, like 30, maybe 30 minutes in between.

433
00:31:14,140 --> 00:31:16,120
So Kelly's not getting a lot of rest.

434
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:32,880
Obviously she's, she's trying to get, and at this point she's fine with the situation with the bleeding and the, so yeah, the balloon, the, the balloon, the Jada did its job again, the numbers are improving, so that's all good.

435
00:31:33,420 --> 00:31:39,240
That she doesn't seem to, she, she isn't visibly, you know, losing any more blood than she should be.

436
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:40,860
So yes.

437
00:31:41,020 --> 00:31:41,200
Yeah.

438
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,640
So that, that stuff has all resolved before they allowed us to come here.

439
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:49,740
The, the transfusion is still on the table, on the table for the morning, if they need it, right.

440
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:51,620
But yeah, the, the, her, she's stable.

441
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:53,200
She, she's headed in the right direction.

442
00:31:53,340 --> 00:31:54,900
Baby again, still doing great.

443
00:31:55,940 --> 00:32:05,580
So morning comes, she's exhausted, obviously, and they start coming in to do the tests and they come in, oh, we're going to do the pediatric exam.

444
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,240
So they check out the baby and they're looking at, and everything's good.

445
00:32:09,340 --> 00:32:10,180
Muscle tone's good.

446
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:13,080
All her reflexes are intact and all that stuff.

447
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:13,740
So that's all good.

448
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,080
Then they come in and they want to do the hearing tests.

449
00:32:16,180 --> 00:32:16,740
So they do that.

450
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:18,300
They do that stuff.

451
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:19,460
Everything's all good.

452
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:25,080
And it's about now, maybe 830 in the morning on Thursday.

453
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:30,820
So, and I'm thinking, okay, like I'm starting to feel now, like, okay, I can breathe a little bit.

454
00:32:30,820 --> 00:32:32,080
Like Kelly's okay.

455
00:32:32,620 --> 00:32:33,420
Baby's great.

456
00:32:33,900 --> 00:32:34,860
You slatted it.

457
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:35,780
We're headed in the right direction.

458
00:32:36,060 --> 00:32:39,320
I'm yeah, I've had a little bit of sleep, so I'm not that far gone.

459
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:39,720
Right.

460
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:53,660
My phone rings and I'm like, okay, look, cause now, now all this time I had told everybody, I had told my family, look, we're going to sign off at five o'clock on Monday and we will do our thing.

461
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:58,800
We're not going to contact you until the mom and baby room, but we didn't think it was going to be four days, right?

462
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:02,900
So I had communicated a little bit with my, my sisters throughout the process.

463
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:03,700
Yes.

464
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:05,040
So it's 830 in the morning.

465
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:05,620
My phone rings.

466
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:07,000
I look, it's my cleaning lady.

467
00:33:07,780 --> 00:33:11,140
Oh, and Thursday she comes once a month on Thursdays.

468
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:11,880
Her name's Bridget.

469
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:12,560
Awesome.

470
00:33:12,980 --> 00:33:13,740
We love her.

471
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:15,040
I answered the phone.

472
00:33:15,100 --> 00:33:17,200
She's like, hi, how are things going?

473
00:33:17,260 --> 00:33:25,620
I tell her, you know, and she's like, well, I hate to tell you this now, but I went downstairs in the basement and the basements flooded.

474
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:36,600
I'm like, well, so like where, everywhere, the basement, how, how deep, how deep?

475
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,440
She's like, well, it's about the depth of my nail.

476
00:33:40,340 --> 00:33:45,020
So I'm thinking, oh, half inch or like, and I'm like, okay.

477
00:33:45,140 --> 00:33:47,120
And she's like, is there anything that you want me to do?

478
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,660
And I'm just like, I'm in a cloud.

479
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:53,000
I'm like, uh, go into the utility room.

480
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,800
Can you hear, is the sump pump running?

481
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:57,600
She's like, I don't think it doesn't sound like it.

482
00:33:57,680 --> 00:33:59,120
And there's more water in here.

483
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:00,360
I'm like, okay.

484
00:34:01,060 --> 00:34:16,760
So now while we were in the hospital, we've talked in previous episodes about all this snow that we got, it warmed up a lot of snow melted, and then we got rain for like two or three days while we were in the hospital through all this stuff that we just talked about, tons of rain.

485
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:17,139
Right.

486
00:34:17,540 --> 00:34:21,340
And where we are, we get, you know, the property gets wet.

487
00:34:21,780 --> 00:34:23,280
So she's telling me this, I'm like, okay.

488
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:26,980
So we'll work the problem, right?

489
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:28,139
So I'm like, got it.

490
00:34:28,139 --> 00:34:29,000
Let me find a plumber.

491
00:34:29,179 --> 00:34:30,540
I start calling people.

492
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:33,380
I get, I find somebody miraculously.

493
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:37,760
So it's now like, you know, it's going on nine o'clock in the morning and I'm giving everybody the sob story.

494
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,199
Like I'm at St. John's.

495
00:34:39,219 --> 00:34:40,260
My wife just gave birth.

496
00:34:40,540 --> 00:34:47,560
She's had complications and my placements, I need some, and I find somebody that I can get somebody there at 10 AM.

497
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:48,940
I'm like, fantastic.

498
00:34:49,260 --> 00:34:49,820
Thank you.

499
00:34:50,139 --> 00:34:50,840
Then I'm like, okay.

500
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:55,219
I got to call like serve pro or one of those places just to get the water out.

501
00:34:56,180 --> 00:34:59,560
So I start calling every single place.

502
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:01,880
I go down the list and Google every single place.

503
00:35:02,020 --> 00:35:03,280
We're two weeks out.

504
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:04,380
We're three weeks out.

505
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,620
Cause this flooding, there's been ice damming because of all this.

506
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:12,240
No, they're, they're, they're booked everywhere because so many people need help.

507
00:35:12,380 --> 00:35:14,060
So there's no chance of that.

508
00:35:14,060 --> 00:35:20,820
So I call one of my, it's my, my cousin's son, uh, who also happens to work for me.

509
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,200
I thought he was going to be in Buffalo that day for work.

510
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:25,020
He happened to be here in town.

511
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:26,600
I'm like, can you do me a favor and go over?

512
00:35:26,740 --> 00:35:32,060
He, he came over and helped the plumber got thing.

513
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:33,840
He, I told him where my shop vac was.

514
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,800
He opt up a bunch of the water while he's doing that.

515
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:38,280
I go online.

516
00:35:38,340 --> 00:35:43,420
Oh, without it, we'd be completely, it would have been, I go online.

517
00:35:43,420 --> 00:35:53,960
I ordered three big dehumidifiers for him to pick up and, you know, and get them set up cause we had one, but I ordered that stuff, had all that.

518
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:54,540
I thought, okay.

519
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:55,900
And then again, I feel better.

520
00:35:56,780 --> 00:36:01,500
And, but now I'm, I feel like I'm missing something cause doctors are coming in and out, I keep having to leave the room.

521
00:36:01,860 --> 00:36:03,700
I'm on the phone talking to people.

522
00:36:04,140 --> 00:36:07,280
I want to be, I want to know what's going on with the baby.

523
00:36:07,700 --> 00:36:09,000
So, but I feel a little better.

524
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:14,260
So now 10 o'clock comes 10 30, things are looking good with the baby.

525
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:16,760
Kelly's still, you know, she's exhausted.

526
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:18,260
She's lost a lot of blood.

527
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,900
We're talking about, I'm encouraging her.

528
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:25,140
I'm like, just, I'm like, look, what's the downside to taking the transfusion?

529
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:37,120
And if it's going to help you to be able to recover in all the other ways you're going to need to, but she, because of her experience with the IVs, she's reluctant to do that.

530
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:48,480
So, you know, we're kind of having that discussion and then I get another phone call and it's the plumber and the plumber says, look, you know, I got this, I got the new sump pump in.

531
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:49,560
I got the old sump pump out.

532
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:54,140
I got the new sump pump in and I hooked it up and it's not pumping.

533
00:36:55,140 --> 00:36:58,720
And he's basically telling me that the outflow pipe, something's wrong.

534
00:36:58,820 --> 00:37:02,060
Something's not, something's not, it's not pushing the water out.

535
00:37:02,500 --> 00:37:06,560
And I can hear in the guy's voice, like he's got, he's got five other guys.

536
00:37:06,620 --> 00:37:14,160
He's, he's telling me, I got five other calls I got to get to and, and I can hear in his voice, he's ready to be like, I'm all tuned.

537
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:25,900
And the last thing you want to hear, I'm like, look, you know, is if there's anything, you know, if there's anything that you can do, uh, he's like, well, I'm going to try this and you know, I'll call you back.

538
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:30,260
He lets me talk to Frank and I'm like, look, just try to convince him to do whatever.

539
00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:33,820
If he even has to run a temporary pipe, get something going.

540
00:37:34,020 --> 00:37:46,420
And I hung up, I hung up and it was a combination of, I think the exhaustion, everything that had happened, feeling so helpless with what Kelly went through.

541
00:37:46,940 --> 00:37:50,540
And my head went to some really dark, I broke down.

542
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:54,180
I went, my head went to some really dark places.

543
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:56,640
I just, I broke down crying.

544
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:05,780
And I mean, when you say dark places, just like, just like Matt, like just feeling like, why is this happening?

545
00:38:06,460 --> 00:38:07,020
What, why?

546
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:08,540
Like, there's nothing I can do.

547
00:38:08,620 --> 00:38:09,360
I can't win.

548
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:11,520
Why does this have to happen now?

549
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,540
Like, I can't take, I'm, I can't take care of him.

550
00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:16,360
I can't do anything to help my wife.

551
00:38:16,540 --> 00:38:18,420
I can't really do anything for my baby.

552
00:38:18,420 --> 00:38:19,940
Cause all she wants is my wife.

553
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:32,360
I can't do any, my, my, I can't, I can't, like, there's not, I was feeling helpless and in that moment, I just, it stopped.

554
00:38:32,500 --> 00:38:33,260
It was like a switch.

555
00:38:34,700 --> 00:38:39,780
And I literally felt like this is nothing but the devil in your head.

556
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:47,960
If you're going to have problems with your wife and your barely day old baby in the hospital.

557
00:38:48,500 --> 00:38:51,740
And the big problem is there's a flood in your basement.

558
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:53,180
That's the problem you want.

559
00:38:54,900 --> 00:39:03,840
And it's all that crap turned off and my phone rang and it was Frank and I answered the phone and he's like, we opened up the basement window.

560
00:39:03,980 --> 00:39:05,860
He's plumbing a temporary pipe.

561
00:39:05,900 --> 00:39:07,960
It's pumping and the water level is already going down.

562
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:08,800
God is good.

563
00:39:09,020 --> 00:39:10,020
God is good.

564
00:39:10,180 --> 00:39:10,480
All right.

565
00:39:10,820 --> 00:39:12,020
And I thought, okay.

566
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:17,560
And from then on this, like all that crap was done.

567
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:19,140
I just like, whatever it was.

568
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:20,180
It was, I'll fix it.

569
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:22,720
It was God saying, listen.

570
00:39:22,720 --> 00:39:25,120
Yeah, we're going to, we're going to set you right, right now.

571
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:25,480
Yeah.

572
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:26,780
We're going to set your, your brain.

573
00:39:27,180 --> 00:39:28,120
What is important?

574
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:28,860
Everything.

575
00:39:29,020 --> 00:39:32,100
And I think it was at that point, I think it was around that time.

576
00:39:32,140 --> 00:39:33,680
I was tech, I was texting you.

577
00:39:33,860 --> 00:39:40,420
And I think I said, I said to you, everything I had, everything I've ever wanted is in the room with me right now.

578
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:42,900
Everything else is, I couldn't care less.

579
00:39:43,740 --> 00:39:44,980
I couldn't care less.

580
00:39:45,540 --> 00:39:47,380
Um, and that's amen to that.

581
00:39:47,420 --> 00:39:48,220
Cause yeah.

582
00:39:48,220 --> 00:39:49,020
At that point.

583
00:39:49,180 --> 00:39:49,400
Yeah.

584
00:39:49,500 --> 00:39:50,000
Let you know.

585
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:52,280
No, like figured out who figured out.

586
00:39:52,580 --> 00:39:53,560
Yeah, that's right.

587
00:39:53,580 --> 00:39:53,940
Broken window.

588
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:55,200
Figured out my car doesn't work.

589
00:39:55,340 --> 00:39:55,580
Figured out.

590
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:56,060
Yep.

591
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:56,600
That was that.

592
00:39:57,240 --> 00:40:03,440
So from then on, it was just Kelly really didn't want to do the, the transfusion.

593
00:40:03,660 --> 00:40:08,660
So then it was just more blood tests to make sure that she was trending in the right direction.

594
00:40:08,740 --> 00:40:09,360
Making blood.

595
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:09,720
Yeah.

596
00:40:09,860 --> 00:40:11,400
She was doing all that stuff.

597
00:40:11,940 --> 00:40:14,100
The lactation consultants come in.

598
00:40:14,260 --> 00:40:19,700
She was doing really well, but that's a whole process of, for a new mother, a new mother, nursing.

599
00:40:19,720 --> 00:40:20,780
That can be frustrating too.

600
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:25,780
I think this has gone really well.

601
00:40:25,900 --> 00:40:30,640
But now the lactation consultants, there were two lactation consultants at St. Joe's.

602
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,300
There's one at the pediatrician that we just saw today.

603
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:36,720
Uh, for the second time, they had been incredibly helpful.

604
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:48,000
So we went basically the rest of the day, Thursday was just kind of recovery and to know your baby, getting to know the baby a little bit and, and experiencing that.

605
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:55,540
And then Friday morning, I think we were really, we were ready to go home and it was Friday morning.

606
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,780
It was now the rain had stopped.

607
00:40:57,900 --> 00:41:01,900
Now it was back to like blustery winter.

608
00:41:02,260 --> 00:41:03,480
We're on the fifth floor.

609
00:41:03,660 --> 00:41:13,820
We're looking out at the Syracuse skyline and it's just a blizzard and the nurses are coming in and, and they're like, Oh, when is this going to stop?

610
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:18,560
And I looked at the nurse, I said, it's going to, the sun's going to come out the minute you let us out of here.

611
00:41:18,780 --> 00:41:19,740
I promise.

612
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:30,960
And she, she chuckled and by about 1230 one o'clock they come back in, they did another, the pediatrician did another evaluation of the baby.

613
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:31,900
Everything's good.

614
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:33,960
Kelly's numbers are good enough.

615
00:41:34,140 --> 00:41:38,880
And they're like, okay, we're, you know, you're ready to go home and went out.

616
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:47,100
It was still cold, but by the time I pulled, went, got the car, pulled it around, got everything loaded in and they brought Kelly down, sun came out.

617
00:41:47,100 --> 00:41:48,640
See, it was perfect.

618
00:41:48,900 --> 00:41:51,260
And, uh, so you didn't have to go home on that.

619
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:55,440
Fresh was a drive with the snow, 10 miles an hour.

620
00:41:55,640 --> 00:42:03,860
It was, there was some traffic on 81 from construction, but it was a nice, easy drive home and we got, got, got here.

621
00:42:04,340 --> 00:42:08,700
And first thing we find is a basket from Natalia.

622
00:42:10,580 --> 00:42:17,100
So, uh, go out, Carlos son and his girlfriend had watched the house and the dogs for us while we were in the hospital.

623
00:42:17,620 --> 00:42:24,060
They left us this cute little basket with like energy drinks and snacks and some knuckers and some other stuff.

624
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:28,180
Uh, it was, it was just very, very touching.

625
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:35,180
Came in and I was worried too, because I wanted to, again, we talked, I read all these books about how to introduce the dogs, all this stuff.

626
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:46,020
So we get here and I didn't get a chance to come here and let them smell something, but we had, we had her little cap that was the first thing she ever wore.

627
00:42:46,340 --> 00:42:58,120
So she stayed with Kelly in the car and I came in, got greeted the dogs, gave him some love, let him smell it, told him to sit, gave her, gave him treats.

628
00:42:58,660 --> 00:43:02,680
Smell it, sit, treats, smell, sit, treat.

629
00:43:03,100 --> 00:43:07,400
And they're like, okay, whatever this thing is, we get treats when we sit.

630
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:08,240
Yep.

631
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:11,880
Then bring the baby in and wearing the cap.

632
00:43:12,020 --> 00:43:12,640
No, no.

633
00:43:12,940 --> 00:43:13,540
Bring the baby in.

634
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:15,380
Cause now the baby smells like the cat.

635
00:43:15,720 --> 00:43:16,180
We got dogs.

636
00:43:16,340 --> 00:43:16,720
Couldn't smell.

637
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:17,260
Oh yeah.

638
00:43:17,720 --> 00:43:22,000
So, and they were absolutely great the whole time.

639
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:28,940
Like Watson, the big one, just Kelly sits down with, she's got the baby.

640
00:43:29,180 --> 00:43:31,980
He sits, looks, looks at me.

641
00:43:32,340 --> 00:43:33,360
Good dog.

642
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,620
Looks at the baby, looks at me.

643
00:43:35,860 --> 00:43:36,120
Good.

644
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:38,240
Give him a treat.

645
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:39,940
And this doesn't look like a puppy.

646
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:41,240
This is not a puppy.

647
00:43:41,240 --> 00:43:42,320
Doesn't look like one of us.

648
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:43,900
It looks like one of you's.

649
00:43:44,140 --> 00:43:44,540
Yeah.

650
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:45,500
So they were great.

651
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:49,280
And in the beginning, actually, Rumpel was a little more standoffish.

652
00:43:49,420 --> 00:43:49,560
Yeah.

653
00:43:49,640 --> 00:44:16,200
Watson was much more interested, but respectful and just became over the next few hours, we'd have the baby in the, in the crib and all of a sudden you hear a sound, we'd be at the kitchen, at the kitchen table, Watson go look in the, go, go in the bedroom, look, come back out, look at us, go back and look like just absolutely like keeping an eye on her.

654
00:44:16,300 --> 00:44:18,760
And I talked to him like, you're my partner.

655
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:20,060
You're going to protect her.

656
00:44:20,240 --> 00:44:22,360
And he gets, yeah, he, he gets it.

657
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:23,540
They kept this up.

658
00:44:23,700 --> 00:44:23,960
Oh yeah.

659
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:24,640
They've been perfect.

660
00:44:24,780 --> 00:44:26,200
They have been, they've been great.

661
00:44:26,260 --> 00:44:26,520
That's awesome.

662
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:30,040
The closest, everyone's, it's funny cause there's a thing.

663
00:44:30,100 --> 00:44:32,280
I don't know if you've ever heard of it called cobbing.

664
00:44:32,380 --> 00:44:32,780
Cobbing.

665
00:44:32,780 --> 00:44:34,820
Dogs will do this thing called cobbing.

666
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:41,140
And it's like, imagine if they, if they love you, they'll come up and they will just nibble.

667
00:44:41,240 --> 00:44:42,120
Oh, cats do that too.

668
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:42,540
Right?

669
00:44:42,820 --> 00:44:42,980
Yeah.

670
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:44,000
People think they're biting them.

671
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:44,240
Yup.

672
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:50,580
And within a day, that's the one thing he had come up and he would, he would cob her foot.

673
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:51,280
Oh my God.

674
00:44:51,700 --> 00:44:53,200
And I'm like, oh, that's right.

675
00:44:53,260 --> 00:44:53,960
Yeah, that's right.

676
00:44:54,100 --> 00:44:57,780
That's so, no, they've been, they've been fantastic with that.

677
00:44:57,780 --> 00:45:07,540
So Friday was just the relief of being home, seeing the sun, getting her saddle and then trying to get Kelly some rest.

678
00:45:07,620 --> 00:45:07,900
Right.

679
00:45:07,940 --> 00:45:18,240
She's exhausted and kind of, you know, and trying to get the baby to, to settle down and it, but generally I think, I think she's been really good.

680
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:27,060
Even in the very beginning, once I figured out the temperature thing that she needed, I think in the beginning we were not bundling her up.

681
00:45:27,060 --> 00:45:31,940
They need to be just, they really, at one point I'm like, what's going on?

682
00:45:32,020 --> 00:45:49,980
I thought I was holding her and as soon as I felt her warmth, she was out like a light and something in my head, like, yeah, she has been in a 98 degree water bed her entire existence and now it's 72, 72 degrees.

683
00:45:50,580 --> 00:46:00,680
So I started, we started doing the double swaddle and a hat and that, then she immediately started to get, get more rest and, and, and adjust nicely.

684
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:02,280
So that was Friday.

685
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:10,840
And then we were ready for Saturday to roll right into her first appointment at the pediatrician to see her the next day.

686
00:46:10,940 --> 00:46:11,240
It's quick.

687
00:46:11,460 --> 00:46:13,560
So Saturday morning, we're getting ready.

688
00:46:13,860 --> 00:46:15,380
We get us, we get showers.

689
00:46:15,380 --> 00:46:17,380
I had one shower the whole time.

690
00:46:17,460 --> 00:46:21,640
We were in four days at the hospital.

691
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:23,240
Yeah.

692
00:46:23,260 --> 00:46:25,240
The dogs knew, the dogs knew I was home.

693
00:46:26,140 --> 00:46:34,700
Uh, so we get ready, we get her in the little car carrier and, and Kelly goes, I got to put on my boots.

694
00:46:34,980 --> 00:46:42,420
And now she has been telling me all along through her pregnancy, how she's bloated and her ankles are gone.

695
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:44,020
And I keep telling her, Oh, come on.

696
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:44,400
I don't know.

697
00:46:44,460 --> 00:46:48,240
Cause she hasn't now at some point, it might've been Friday night.

698
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,040
She, I'm like, let me rub your feet.

699
00:46:51,100 --> 00:46:57,080
Cause I can tell she's got the compression stockings on and she's just, she's feeling all bloated.

700
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:02,420
Her feet, I started to rub her feet and I'm like, her feet were twice as thick.

701
00:47:02,540 --> 00:47:02,840
Wow.

702
00:47:03,020 --> 00:47:05,080
Twice as thick as they have ever been.

703
00:47:05,180 --> 00:47:05,380
Yeah.

704
00:47:05,720 --> 00:47:09,800
Like, and I mean like at the arch, like that, like I was like, wow.

705
00:47:10,220 --> 00:47:14,800
They had pushed so much fluid into her and then everything else, her body's going through.

706
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:16,520
So we're getting ready to leave.

707
00:47:16,620 --> 00:47:27,760
And she's, she goes, and this was very close to a break for her because she tried to put her feet in her boots, which are literally the biggest footwear she owns.

708
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:32,480
And she's like, I can't get my foot in my boots.

709
00:47:32,740 --> 00:47:34,560
How are we going to go to the PV?

710
00:47:34,660 --> 00:47:35,200
I can't.

711
00:47:35,700 --> 00:47:38,000
And thank goodness we talked about it.

712
00:47:38,020 --> 00:47:41,640
One episode that her, her friend, Alison had sent her those kids.

713
00:47:42,060 --> 00:47:45,360
She goes, I don't know what I'm going to do.

714
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:46,420
She disappears.

715
00:47:46,620 --> 00:47:51,460
She comes back and she's like, we need to send something to Alison for the kids.

716
00:47:51,460 --> 00:47:57,520
She got her kids on and we went, we were going to this practice called Somerwood Pediatrics.

717
00:47:57,760 --> 00:47:58,140
Somerwood.

718
00:47:58,700 --> 00:47:59,280
It's not.

719
00:47:59,420 --> 00:47:59,520
Yeah.

720
00:47:59,560 --> 00:47:59,800
That's right.

721
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:00,540
I'm Buckley road.

722
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:02,540
Okay.

723
00:48:02,820 --> 00:48:03,720
It's adorable, right?

724
00:48:03,780 --> 00:48:05,280
It's all Disney and stuff.

725
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:05,560
Yeah.

726
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:06,160
It's very cute.

727
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:13,780
Until they're 18 and 23 and they're like, dad, I think we need to go to the, yeah, we want to go to the other one.

728
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:14,560
Uh, no.

729
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:17,260
So we went, they, they did their exam.

730
00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:18,380
Everything was good.

731
00:48:18,380 --> 00:48:22,900
Like the provider that we talked to, Cheryl, I think they're good there.

732
00:48:23,220 --> 00:48:25,740
Um, yeah, they seem, they seem really, they seem really nice.

733
00:48:25,900 --> 00:48:27,120
They did a good job.

734
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,540
And then we talked about it in the last episode.

735
00:48:29,740 --> 00:48:32,780
My sister and her husband both had COVID.

736
00:48:33,140 --> 00:48:33,340
Yes.

737
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:35,760
So he had, so he got COVID.

738
00:48:36,500 --> 00:48:37,960
Then he's recovering.

739
00:48:38,340 --> 00:48:41,420
He finally tests negative and then my sister gets it.

740
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:42,840
Now she's got away.

741
00:48:42,900 --> 00:48:47,760
And basically what the pediatricians told us was three days after she gets a negative test, she's good.

742
00:48:48,380 --> 00:48:49,740
But we got to wait until then.

743
00:48:49,780 --> 00:48:49,960
Right.

744
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:55,120
So she's still testing positive when we come home and she just wants to see the baby.

745
00:48:56,380 --> 00:49:06,620
So, and I remember that Saturday again, we're back to winter and it's like 40 mile an hour winds, 28 degrees.

746
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:07,540
It's freezing.

747
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:18,600
And I'm like, look, the plan was we told him we had the pediatrician where I'm like, if you want to come over and look through the window in Kelly's office, we have these windows that face the driveway.

748
00:49:19,260 --> 00:49:21,280
And I'm like, you can come and we'll hold her up.

749
00:49:22,260 --> 00:49:28,560
And of course, the COVID birthdays and COVID, remember that?

750
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:28,740
Yeah.

751
00:49:28,940 --> 00:49:29,160
Yeah.

752
00:49:29,380 --> 00:49:30,640
And she's like, OK.

753
00:49:31,220 --> 00:49:32,260
So she comes.

754
00:49:32,540 --> 00:49:37,060
So they come over and it's like, and I told her, I'm like, it's really cold.

755
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:40,020
And the wind, like we're in the middle, the wind's coming.

756
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:41,700
You got wild land and wind.

757
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:45,280
But she came with her, with her husband.

758
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:50,080
And we thought that they got to see the baby on Saturday afternoon.

759
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:58,200
And then I could just see your sister now just at the window, just kind of wanted to jump in and hold the baby.

760
00:49:58,280 --> 00:49:58,560
It is.

761
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:08,700
It's something that, you know, my, my, my, my sister in, in Texas, my brother in Tennessee, my mom and dad are long past.

762
00:50:08,700 --> 00:50:15,980
And, but for my sister here, for both my sisters, they were teenagers when I was born.

763
00:50:16,540 --> 00:50:23,760
So they, this, they're looking at, this is, this is somebody who they diapered, it's their baby.

764
00:50:23,780 --> 00:50:24,840
This is an incredible time.

765
00:50:24,860 --> 00:50:25,620
Yeah, this is a big thing.

766
00:50:25,780 --> 00:50:26,120
It's an incredible time.

767
00:50:26,140 --> 00:50:26,980
So it was very nice.

768
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:28,120
It was nice to see that.

769
00:50:28,300 --> 00:50:31,760
I wish it could have been in person, but since then, then they have.

770
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:38,720
So Saturday, Sunday, it was more, you know, just trying to get as much rest as she could.

771
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,560
And the baby, you know, the baby was doing great.

772
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:47,360
The cradle wise thing is absolutely worth every penny.

773
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:48,680
This thing is amazing.

774
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:49,800
It is cool.

775
00:50:49,940 --> 00:51:02,700
Once you figure it out and get the settings and you play with it a little bit and you find out what, what the baby responds to, you put the baby down and as soon as it starts to stir, it starts to settle her down.

776
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,440
It plays whatever sound you have set up.

777
00:51:05,580 --> 00:51:07,700
It does like a heartbeat sound.

778
00:51:08,260 --> 00:51:09,780
That the baby responds.

779
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:11,360
It's come such a long way, man.

780
00:51:11,460 --> 00:51:14,460
Oh, it's that thing is, I mean, shout out to that company.

781
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:15,720
What's who makes it?

782
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:18,000
That's the company name is cradle wise.

783
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:18,560
Cradle wise.

784
00:51:18,860 --> 00:51:18,980
Yeah.

785
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:19,560
It's awesome.

786
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:37,280
Shout out to not a, not a sponsor yet, but if they want to be worth every, worth every penny and then it allows you, it, it, it logs all the data so I can go back through now and see every day since we've been home, how it changes minute by minute when she's sleeping, when she wakes up.

787
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:40,040
You can see her sleep is starting to consolidate.

788
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:45,200
She's sleeping more in the, kind of the wee hours, the 2am to 8am time.

789
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:47,580
So it helps you get into a rhythm.

790
00:51:48,780 --> 00:51:52,320
But so by Monday feeling better.

791
00:51:52,460 --> 00:52:00,440
And then the very first people who got to see my little girl or Carlo and Trina.

792
00:52:00,660 --> 00:52:00,920
That's right.

793
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:01,720
Yours truly.

794
00:52:02,100 --> 00:52:03,000
They, they, that's right.

795
00:52:03,020 --> 00:52:04,520
They came over Monday evening.

796
00:52:04,640 --> 00:52:05,580
They were our first visitors.

797
00:52:05,580 --> 00:52:12,740
I was surprised cause I thought people would come over, but I didn't realize that the weather, the weather and then your sister being sick.

798
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:16,960
So I didn't think we were going to be the first, but when you told us, we were like, no, we liked that.

799
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:18,640
It was awesome.

800
00:52:18,780 --> 00:52:19,540
We were very happy.

801
00:52:20,060 --> 00:52:20,460
Yeah.

802
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:28,600
I'm telling you just, just the first time we saw the baby, the little, the little head, I mean, it's perfect.

803
00:52:29,260 --> 00:52:32,860
Every, Oh, just beautiful, beautiful little baby girl.

804
00:52:32,860 --> 00:52:46,540
And, uh, yeah, we were, we were so, uh, it was, it was a nice, it was, it was a nice, it was nice for us just to show her off a little bit and also just to see, to see you guys and talk.

805
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,800
And it was funny because immediately we just paired off.

806
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:50,020
Right.

807
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:59,940
So Trina and Trina and Kelly are talking and we were talking and catching up.

808
00:52:59,940 --> 00:53:07,500
I was telling them a little bit because you were telling yours, the story and my wife and Kelly were in the other room looking at the baby and going through the story.

809
00:53:07,620 --> 00:53:10,160
So we didn't want to override each other's stories.

810
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:14,520
So we were in separate rooms, so we weren't ruining the story for the other person.

811
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:15,000
Exactly.

812
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:16,440
So that was fun.

813
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:17,900
Yeah, no, that was, it was great.

814
00:53:18,060 --> 00:53:28,420
And we got to pop the question of would Carlo and Trina like to be the godparents for a little baby Josie and they accept and they accepted.

815
00:53:28,420 --> 00:53:29,460
Of course.

816
00:53:29,820 --> 00:53:30,860
So we're, we're thrilled.

817
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:31,680
Can't wait.

818
00:53:31,700 --> 00:53:33,060
We're thrilled about that.

819
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:42,320
And also the thing that came up, it was funny through while, while it was Ash Wednesday, so the baby was born coincidentally.

820
00:53:42,620 --> 00:53:49,560
So on, on Ash Wednesday, but also, and I didn't know this cause this is one of my grandparents that I never met.

821
00:53:50,260 --> 00:53:58,080
She, she was born on my maternal grandmother's birthday, which is kind of a nice, yeah.

822
00:53:58,080 --> 00:53:58,880
That's very cool.

823
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:11,980
So I, at some point Trina had texted me to tell me that you guys had gone to mass at Archer, Sacred Heart and had met our pastor that I've talked about many times.

824
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:13,700
Father Seab, who's a great, great guy.

825
00:54:13,820 --> 00:54:14,520
We really love him.

826
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:20,840
And find out that he is a fan of your work, which was, which was good.

827
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:24,880
So that kind of was like, that was the, that's what put you over the top.

828
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,380
This is like, okay, I got it.

829
00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:28,260
I got to come here.

830
00:54:30,340 --> 00:54:31,560
He was trying to recruit.

831
00:54:31,660 --> 00:54:32,120
I like that.

832
00:54:32,180 --> 00:54:32,780
He was recruiting.

833
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:34,360
You know, I, you know what I found?

834
00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:36,620
I found, and I found tonight and I showed Kelly.

835
00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:38,800
I'm like, we got to give this to Father Seab.

836
00:54:39,340 --> 00:54:48,900
I have kept an original, uh, with the three of us, an original coffee for coffee mug with all three of us on it.

837
00:54:49,180 --> 00:54:53,860
And so that can be my proof to father that I was part of, I was part of it in the beginning.

838
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:55,600
And I think I have two.

839
00:54:55,840 --> 00:55:02,220
I'm going to keep one, but I might give him one, uh, just since he is a fan, I still have a shirt.

840
00:55:02,400 --> 00:55:03,840
Do you still have the shirt I've made you guys?

841
00:55:03,940 --> 00:55:04,740
I think I still have it.

842
00:55:04,740 --> 00:55:07,920
I think it's so funny, but yeah.

843
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:11,100
So I went to, I went to the church, Sacred Heart, shout out to Sacred Heart.

844
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:17,760
And, uh, there was a, uh, one of their most popular, uh, fish Friday dinners.

845
00:55:18,020 --> 00:55:18,380
Yeah.

846
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:20,600
Have you gone to this past Friday?

847
00:55:21,100 --> 00:55:23,380
They have it set up and you can do a drive through.

848
00:55:23,380 --> 00:55:23,800
Yes.

849
00:55:24,060 --> 00:55:27,420
So you pull up, you pull up, you give them your order and yeah, it was great.

850
00:55:27,580 --> 00:55:29,080
And what a great sandwich.

851
00:55:29,340 --> 00:55:30,220
Oh my God.

852
00:55:30,460 --> 00:55:32,340
Yeah, they, they really, it was good.

853
00:55:32,460 --> 00:55:34,980
We'll, we'll definitely, we'll be hitting it up on Fridays.

854
00:55:35,300 --> 00:55:35,700
Absolutely.

855
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:37,420
That's what we said with the, with our kids.

856
00:55:37,460 --> 00:55:43,040
So we got to actually go there and we actually spent time with father and it was nice.

857
00:55:43,100 --> 00:55:51,260
It was, and then, uh, I thought he already knew about the podcast, so I kind of threw that in there and he's like, Oh, Frank does a podcast.

858
00:55:52,060 --> 00:55:56,700
And, uh, then he came back downstairs when we were eating, he goes, I already signed up for the podcast.

859
00:55:56,960 --> 00:55:58,320
And so it was nice.

860
00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:06,000
So, uh, it'll, it'll be nice knowing that we now met him and talk to him and we have something, he sent a nice email.

861
00:56:06,100 --> 00:56:11,240
He said, I just want to let you know, I met Carlo Russo and he told me the good news and congratulations.

862
00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:15,600
So I sent a picture back with a picture of the baby back to him.

863
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:17,540
But yeah, yeah, that was, that was really nice.

864
00:56:17,560 --> 00:56:19,180
So, so we got to visit with you.

865
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:19,860
And thank, yes.

866
00:56:20,380 --> 00:56:24,180
Trina and I are just so excited and honored that you asked us.

867
00:56:24,380 --> 00:56:34,660
And, uh, so I have to ask this too, in my family, a lot of the Italian stuff is not, is bastardized or it's not, it's not the proper terminology.

868
00:56:35,540 --> 00:56:38,540
What would you call your godmother and godfather?

869
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:41,880
So we would, we would call them, there's a name.

870
00:56:42,060 --> 00:56:42,620
Is it Kumbhara?

871
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:43,160
Kumbhara?

872
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:44,000
Kumbhara, yeah.

873
00:56:44,340 --> 00:56:45,400
That's what I was just trying to figure out.

874
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:51,860
But you see, but when you think about it, anybody who watches like the Sopranos thinks that that's a sidekick, right?

875
00:56:52,100 --> 00:56:55,340
But so we would call it Kumbha and Kumbha.

876
00:56:55,380 --> 00:56:56,420
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

877
00:56:56,500 --> 00:57:01,960
So, so I was wondering what, so you're going to be, you're going to be Kumbha Carlo.

878
00:57:02,740 --> 00:57:05,220
So yeah, so we were excited to ask them.

879
00:57:05,240 --> 00:57:10,440
When you asked me that, cause it's been, it's been used so many, like the Soprano way, I'm like, wait a minute, what is it?

880
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:11,860
I think that is different, right?

881
00:57:11,860 --> 00:57:12,660
That's Kumbhara.

882
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,960
Kumbhara, yeah, that's the American, that's my Kumbhara on the side.

883
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:17,740
I don't know, but we don't want to know about that.

884
00:57:17,740 --> 00:57:19,280
It was Kumbha and Kumbha.

885
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:20,340
Kumbha, yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.

886
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:22,900
So we had that visit Monday night.

887
00:57:22,980 --> 00:57:23,460
It was nice.

888
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:27,960
And what had happened Monday, I found out Tuesday morning.

889
00:57:28,220 --> 00:57:31,840
So Tuesday morning, we're, you know, the baby's sleeping.

890
00:57:32,660 --> 00:57:34,360
Kelly and I are still in bed.

891
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:40,700
She cuddles up and she's resting a little bit longer and I, I can hear her breath.

892
00:57:40,820 --> 00:57:42,680
Her breathing is, is fast.

893
00:57:43,220 --> 00:57:43,760
Yeah.

894
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:46,160
And I thought, that's, that's weird.

895
00:57:46,160 --> 00:57:54,800
And when we, when she wakes up, we start talking and she tells me that while she was talking with Trina, she noticed she was getting short of breath.

896
00:57:54,920 --> 00:58:03,980
And I noticed that talking to her and I thought, well, she's just at the baby and all this other stuff that you told me about, I really didn't question.

897
00:58:04,100 --> 00:58:08,400
So when you told me that it really hit home, oh yeah, cause I didn't notice it.

898
00:58:08,620 --> 00:58:13,000
And I was going to say something, but I said, I better not, you know, so that was new.

899
00:58:13,080 --> 00:58:15,720
So of course we, I'm like, okay.

900
00:58:15,720 --> 00:58:19,760
So she says, well, I'm going to call, you know, we'll call the doctor.

901
00:58:19,920 --> 00:58:20,880
But I'm like, well, okay.

902
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:21,620
Just for the heck of it.

903
00:58:21,700 --> 00:58:23,540
Get your, get your blood pressure cuff.

904
00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:25,120
What's your, what's your blood pressure.

905
00:58:25,300 --> 00:58:26,660
Her blood pressure was good.

906
00:58:26,980 --> 00:58:27,860
Take her temperature.

907
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:28,640
No fever.

908
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:29,920
Okay.

909
00:58:30,100 --> 00:58:31,460
So let's see what they say.

910
00:58:31,940 --> 00:58:38,280
And when she calls and tells them this, they're immediately like, you can go to the emergency room or you can come to labor and delivery.

911
00:58:39,180 --> 00:58:40,340
And I'm okay.

912
00:58:40,340 --> 00:58:49,380
And so I think I was downstairs emptying the, the dehumidifiers and she's like, can we go?

913
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:49,900
I'll be up.

914
00:58:50,220 --> 00:59:00,760
So we get together, boom, boom, and down back down to St. Joe's and they bring us into, so there's a triage area as you enter the labor and delivery area where you come in.

915
00:59:00,900 --> 00:59:06,040
So if you're natural and they want to make sure you're ready to go, they treat, they put you in there.

916
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:12,200
So we go in there and they start taking a look at her and they take her blood pressure first thing and her blood pressure.

917
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:16,120
Now at home, the blood pressure cuff says 117 over 80.

918
00:59:16,780 --> 00:59:23,640
We get there less than 40 minutes later, it's 157 over 90 something.

919
00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:37,180
And so immediately I'm like, oh, now I'm thinking all those times that she was checking her blood pressure when she was, after she had that scare and she was checking it at home and her blood pressure was normal.

920
00:59:37,300 --> 00:59:38,780
It's because that cuffs a piece of shit.

921
00:59:39,060 --> 00:59:40,480
Oh, right.

922
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:42,140
So immediately I'm like default.

923
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:44,160
I'm like, oh, okay.

924
00:59:44,320 --> 00:59:45,120
A defective.

925
00:59:46,020 --> 00:59:46,880
So they do that.

926
00:59:46,960 --> 01:00:02,300
So they, they start, they look, they do her blood work, they're looking at stuff and Dr. Rogers, again, the doctor who handled basically the whole delivery says, look, we know you had some of the hypertension before.

927
01:00:02,300 --> 01:00:09,520
They basically say, yeah, no, you had a odd presentation of preeclampsia.

928
01:00:09,580 --> 01:00:12,780
So she had mild, mild preeclampsia.

929
01:00:13,300 --> 01:00:23,280
And then when she's saying that with, cause every time they brought it up beforehand, I kept saying, she's only had two readings because she's only had two readings that were high.

930
01:00:23,360 --> 01:00:25,320
Well, they were the two readings that weren't with that cuff.

931
01:00:25,420 --> 01:00:25,700
Right.

932
01:00:25,920 --> 01:00:26,220
Right.

933
01:00:26,320 --> 01:00:31,220
So that, that was probably always, it was probably always high, which would have changed things.

934
01:00:31,220 --> 01:00:31,500
Sure.

935
01:00:31,540 --> 01:00:31,760
Right.

936
01:00:31,760 --> 01:00:38,600
So thank goodness there wasn't anything, but they said lay out all your, your numbers are headed in the right direction.

937
01:00:39,060 --> 01:00:44,060
But the only thing we're worried about is the, your blood pressure's a little high.

938
01:00:44,340 --> 01:00:49,580
They also said what you're experiencing with the shortness of breath, cause her blood oxygen levels were great.

939
01:00:49,620 --> 01:00:50,020
Okay.

940
01:00:50,640 --> 01:00:53,960
But what they said was what had happened over the course of the day Monday.

941
01:00:54,200 --> 01:00:55,500
And it was obvious.

942
01:00:55,500 --> 01:01:00,400
Like I, I actually mentioned it to her right before you guys came over.

943
01:01:00,400 --> 01:01:01,980
It was her milk came in.

944
01:01:02,080 --> 01:01:18,200
So that, so, and that, that weight on her chest is some, many women have this, this feeling of heaviness that translates to labor breathing.

945
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:21,920
So like, we think it's a combination of that and the blood pressure.

946
01:01:22,280 --> 01:01:28,460
So they're like, we're going to put you on the lowest dose of this blood pressure medication.

947
01:01:28,460 --> 01:01:31,000
There, there's no lower than this.

948
01:01:31,060 --> 01:01:33,120
We're going to put you on that and see.

949
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:37,960
And if, if in two hours your blood pressure comes down, we'll release you.

950
01:01:38,080 --> 01:01:38,600
You're good.

951
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:41,060
So with it, they tested her in an hour.

952
01:01:41,280 --> 01:01:42,140
Blood pressure was normal.

953
01:01:42,700 --> 01:01:44,240
Second hour, still good.

954
01:01:44,560 --> 01:01:53,760
And, and we got sent out, but so while we were there for about four hours and again, the difference, like night and day, And you had the baby with you at all.

955
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:55,060
Baby was with us and she was fine.

956
01:01:55,670 --> 01:02:14,380
While we were there, it actually, I'm kind of glad I would have rather not have her be frightened and having trouble breathing, but while we were there, we got to see the lactation consultant again, she came in, Kelly nursed in front of the lactation consultant, gave her a bunch of good tips.

957
01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:15,060
That's awesome.

958
01:02:15,220 --> 01:02:16,580
And so that was super helpful.

959
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:17,960
We got to see Courtney.

960
01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:20,200
I got to tell her about the podcast.

961
01:02:20,500 --> 01:02:22,540
I got to tell her, that's how we do it.

962
01:02:22,540 --> 01:02:25,460
You're going to, I'm going to talk about how wonderful you were.

963
01:02:25,960 --> 01:02:30,000
So please listen, keep listening and keep, and keep listening.

964
01:02:30,140 --> 01:02:38,020
If you're interested, but, uh, if nothing else, just to hear how, uh, how much we think of you, so, so that was, that was great.

965
01:02:38,140 --> 01:02:39,140
No, we got to see them.

966
01:02:39,840 --> 01:02:42,040
And, uh, have you felt like you've been on a roller coaster?

967
01:02:43,180 --> 01:02:44,260
Yeah, but you know what?

968
01:02:44,420 --> 01:02:45,600
A lot of things went away.

969
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:49,720
I feel like I've been at it as you're telling me this stuff up and down, up and down.

970
01:02:49,900 --> 01:03:03,440
Yeah, there have been, but at some point when that, when I had that bad moment, that Thursday morning, when we were still there from then on, when we go to the doctors, we've been to the doctors a bunch of times, we went back up there.

971
01:03:04,420 --> 01:03:06,840
The panic is not, that is gone.

972
01:03:06,940 --> 01:03:07,100
Okay.

973
01:03:07,380 --> 01:03:08,720
That's I know.

974
01:03:09,060 --> 01:03:17,380
I feel like there was a switch that, that the last thing God wants is for me to be afraid.

975
01:03:17,480 --> 01:03:17,720
Yeah.

976
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:18,440
Right.

977
01:03:18,440 --> 01:03:21,300
That's the, that's the, that's the last thing.

978
01:03:21,700 --> 01:03:26,800
And if I allow myself to be afraid, it's the wrong thing.

979
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:30,740
And it's just, it's just, so that's exactly, exactly.

980
01:03:31,200 --> 01:03:31,380
Yeah.

981
01:03:31,440 --> 01:03:32,180
Fear is the devil.

982
01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:33,760
That 100%.

983
01:03:34,500 --> 01:03:36,260
So I haven't had to deal with that.

984
01:03:36,340 --> 01:03:37,520
It's been, it's been great.

985
01:03:37,720 --> 01:03:41,840
There've been ups and downs and challenges, but cause yeah, there's been a lot of things we're having.

986
01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:57,140
We've got to like, uh, you know, some of the, out of the hardest moment kind of after this, cause we had, because we had to go to the back to labor and delivery, we were supposed to that morning be going to the pediatrician for a three day followup and we couldn't.

987
01:03:58,040 --> 01:03:59,920
So we were supposed to do that the next day.

988
01:04:00,200 --> 01:04:04,040
But while we were there, I think it was a good thing that we went, they addressed the issue.

989
01:04:04,180 --> 01:04:09,300
They got her on the, the blood pressure meds on the way home, stopped, picked up her meds, got her home.

990
01:04:09,300 --> 01:04:18,020
But the other piece of it too, is my, my wife wants everything to go perfectly, wants to do everything she can.

991
01:04:18,440 --> 01:04:34,480
And if it was keeping the baby happy and relaxed, she was holding, holding her, not putting her down, letting her stay on her breast rather than, and she wasn't getting enough rest.

992
01:04:34,540 --> 01:04:37,840
She was ignoring her own stuff, her own needs, right?

993
01:04:37,840 --> 01:04:45,140
Then Tuesday morning, got home better, but still, still struggling.

994
01:04:45,460 --> 01:04:46,920
The breathing, not easy.

995
01:04:48,780 --> 01:05:01,680
And Wednesday morning, we're supposed to go to the pediatrician cause we rescheduled and I wake up and she's in bed, she's not using the nursing pillow.

996
01:05:02,040 --> 01:05:18,580
She's got the baby and I'm looking at her and she is, you know how when you're just, when you're exhausted and, and you're hurting and she's just shoulder round, shoulders rounded, kind of hunched forward.

997
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:19,840
I can see it in her face.

998
01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:22,060
She's, she, she's struggling.

999
01:05:22,380 --> 01:05:25,480
And I'm like, you know, you, have you eaten?

1000
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:26,020
No.

1001
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:27,620
Have you had enough to drink?

1002
01:05:27,900 --> 01:05:28,540
No.

1003
01:05:28,800 --> 01:05:36,640
And she's also at that point where, because she's at her limit, she doesn't want to hear anything from me.

1004
01:05:37,640 --> 01:05:44,080
And at that, in that moment, I'm like, okay, so this, I'm going to tell you what we're going to do and we're going to do it.

1005
01:05:44,340 --> 01:05:48,020
And I said, the first thing is you can't sit like this, right?

1006
01:05:49,000 --> 01:06:05,860
She's like, I'm like, look, if I hunch over like that, like you're sitting right now, as much as I know it feels good to you right now, you're making it harder for yourself to breathe when you're nursing and you're not using the, my best friend, you're hunched over everything.

1007
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:08,900
I'm like, you gotta, you gotta open it up.

1008
01:06:09,340 --> 01:06:12,260
So I'm like, okay, I'm going to go get this here.

1009
01:06:12,620 --> 01:06:13,300
Eat this.

1010
01:06:13,400 --> 01:06:14,780
I don't want eat it.

1011
01:06:14,980 --> 01:06:24,100
Kind of had to really kind of be a little bit more firm, but with the right daughter had in the right direction, try the pillow, but I can't with it.

1012
01:06:24,520 --> 01:06:26,220
Try it gets her in a position.

1013
01:06:26,320 --> 01:06:27,760
It changes her posture.

1014
01:06:28,300 --> 01:06:31,160
The breath starts to start breathing with her.

1015
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:37,260
Coached her through some belly breathing, trying to just slow it down.

1016
01:06:38,060 --> 01:06:47,400
And I'm, and I'm pointing out to her, like, look, I know you can breathe at a slower rate because when you fall asleep, you do, right?

1017
01:06:47,600 --> 01:06:51,480
I'm like, just try and calm down, try and get it to sell us.

1018
01:06:51,580 --> 01:06:57,300
So we got her to settle down and then much more tried to be much more on point of.

1019
01:06:57,720 --> 01:07:01,680
I can't just be occupied with getting her rest.

1020
01:07:01,780 --> 01:07:06,920
I've got to try to be more supportive of, Hey, did you take your, did you take your meds?

1021
01:07:06,940 --> 01:07:07,700
Did you take your medicine?

1022
01:07:08,180 --> 01:07:09,560
When was the last time you ate something?

1023
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:15,580
Cause she left to her own devices was going from dinner at six o'clock and then.

1024
01:07:16,160 --> 01:07:19,380
Up all night, feeding the baby and not eating nothing, right?

1025
01:07:19,480 --> 01:07:19,640
Yeah.

1026
01:07:19,660 --> 01:07:24,840
You gotta be the eyes and ears and at least until she's starting to get more clear headed.

1027
01:07:24,840 --> 01:07:32,980
The good part was that we made it to our pediatrician appointment and again, they weighed her at that point.

1028
01:07:33,340 --> 01:07:43,100
She's at, so that when we were, when we were at the hospital, we had them weigh her and she was five pounds, five ounces, right?

1029
01:07:43,100 --> 01:07:46,940
So she had gone from six, one, six pounds, one to five pounds, five.

1030
01:07:47,360 --> 01:07:57,960
The next day when we go in, so this is a last Wednesday, she, she went to the pediatrician and she's five pounds, eight and a half ounces.

1031
01:07:58,740 --> 01:08:01,020
So she had picked up some, which was good.

1032
01:08:01,420 --> 01:08:08,860
All the feeding stuff is going the right way and there's all this, you know, for a while there, she, we were getting wet diapers, but we weren't getting poopy diapers.

1033
01:08:09,280 --> 01:08:11,500
Then that started happening very regularly.

1034
01:08:11,940 --> 01:08:12,860
So that's all good.

1035
01:08:12,940 --> 01:08:14,220
That's, that happened all good.

1036
01:08:14,820 --> 01:08:18,300
But we get there and then they're like, Oh, we have a lactation consultant here.

1037
01:08:18,680 --> 01:08:19,920
Would you like to talk to her?

1038
01:08:20,439 --> 01:08:30,859
And that's one thing that I think both of us are like, no matter how much reading, no matter how much, how informed we are, we're like, yup.

1039
01:08:32,640 --> 01:08:35,800
Anybody who wants to talk to us about stuff, let's listen.

1040
01:08:36,680 --> 01:08:37,580
Kelly's the same way.

1041
01:08:37,680 --> 01:08:38,700
She's like, yup, let's do that.

1042
01:08:39,020 --> 01:08:48,939
So we talked to this woman, awesome, doing this for decades and starts asking and she's looking at her and she could tell that she, Kelly did not look great for this appointment.

1043
01:08:48,939 --> 01:08:50,300
She was exhausted.

1044
01:08:50,700 --> 01:08:50,819
Yeah.

1045
01:08:50,920 --> 01:08:52,040
She was, she's been through it.

1046
01:08:52,279 --> 01:08:58,520
So she, she's like, so let's talk about biomechanics, your posture.

1047
01:08:58,660 --> 01:09:10,120
She starts talking to her about all the stuff that we were talking about and Kelly's smiles and looks at me and she's like, are you using the breast, are you using a Boppy or a breastfeeding pillow?

1048
01:09:10,340 --> 01:09:12,460
Well, I wasn't, but I have started.

1049
01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:13,840
She's like, very important.

1050
01:09:14,000 --> 01:09:17,100
Just thank goodness, reinforced all over that stuff.

1051
01:09:17,100 --> 01:09:24,180
And so then from then on, straight line improvement with all that stuff.

1052
01:09:24,319 --> 01:09:26,020
So that was Wednesday.

1053
01:09:26,500 --> 01:09:34,399
Then we had a follow-up Friday with her OBGYN, checked her blood pressure, talked to her, things are headed in the right direction.

1054
01:09:34,500 --> 01:09:36,100
She's got another follow-up in a week.

1055
01:09:36,560 --> 01:09:46,240
They're keeping her on the, the, they said the blood pressure medication probably on up for a few weeks, but we did that and then the other big, nice thing.

1056
01:09:46,340 --> 01:09:53,720
So Sunday finally was the first opportunity for my sister Paula and her husband to come over.

1057
01:09:53,920 --> 01:09:54,120
Nice.

1058
01:09:54,260 --> 01:09:57,420
So they brought us dinner from Saporita and Antonio.

1059
01:09:57,760 --> 01:10:09,720
Of course, all this whole time, uh, both my sisters and, and Kelly's sister and our, uh, and sister-in-law all have access to the cradle wise app.

1060
01:10:09,720 --> 01:10:18,640
So they can log in and whenever the baby, they get a notification, whenever we put the baby down, they get a notification, they can log in and they can watch her if they can see it.

1061
01:10:18,780 --> 01:10:19,440
Oh, there's monitors.

1062
01:10:19,600 --> 01:10:19,700
Okay.

1063
01:10:19,800 --> 01:10:19,960
Yeah.

1064
01:10:20,020 --> 01:10:22,540
So there's a, there's a webcam in the, in the thing.

1065
01:10:22,620 --> 01:10:23,300
Oh my God.

1066
01:10:23,380 --> 01:10:24,240
So that has changed.

1067
01:10:24,300 --> 01:10:25,460
They're constantly watching.

1068
01:10:25,780 --> 01:10:25,880
Yeah.

1069
01:10:25,880 --> 01:10:26,520
They see the baby sleep.

1070
01:10:26,680 --> 01:10:28,120
So she's seeing her all the time.

1071
01:10:28,560 --> 01:10:31,700
Uh, but she got to meet her in person and hold her.

1072
01:10:32,040 --> 01:10:33,980
Uh, so that was really, that was nice.

1073
01:10:34,020 --> 01:10:36,260
We had a visit with them on Sunday.

1074
01:10:36,460 --> 01:10:46,660
And then finally yesterday was just continuing to kind of get into a normal routine, it's going well.

1075
01:10:47,620 --> 01:10:54,980
And then today we went back for a meeting with the lactation consultant at the pediatrician and weighed in.

1076
01:10:55,100 --> 01:10:58,500
She is now six pounds, three and a half ounces.

1077
01:10:58,680 --> 01:11:03,180
So she has gained back all back to birth weight, plus two and a half ounces.

1078
01:11:03,880 --> 01:11:06,260
And then we came home and she pooped four or five ounces.

1079
01:11:06,940 --> 01:11:12,080
So we may be back behind the eight ball again, but it's all been good.

1080
01:11:12,080 --> 01:11:16,640
So we're at the point now, Kelly looks so much better.

1081
01:11:16,680 --> 01:11:17,880
She's feeling better.

1082
01:11:18,440 --> 01:11:19,100
We're getting outside.

1083
01:11:19,240 --> 01:11:19,340
Yeah.

1084
01:11:19,380 --> 01:11:25,320
She's we're, we're going to get outside after we record, take a little walk and get the baby out there.

1085
01:11:25,420 --> 01:11:29,400
It has been a roller coaster, but I feel incredibly blessed.

1086
01:11:29,820 --> 01:11:34,500
I feel younger than I ever did.

1087
01:11:34,620 --> 01:11:35,200
That's awesome.

1088
01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:36,140
I do.

1089
01:11:36,360 --> 01:11:36,580
It does.

1090
01:11:36,680 --> 01:11:41,760
Kids keep you, they have to, you have to be mentally 20 something years old.

1091
01:11:41,760 --> 01:11:50,400
Yeah, yeah, honestly, I have to say, I don't want to, I don't want to jinx myself or Kelly, but this has been easier than I thought it was going to be.

1092
01:11:51,080 --> 01:11:56,480
It's like right now you're in a good phase of the, of timing.

1093
01:11:56,660 --> 01:11:56,960
Yeah.

1094
01:11:57,100 --> 01:12:09,100
It's going to, they're going to be changes coming, but things are going to change, but yeah, that doesn't mean it's going to be bad, but the, the experience generally, it's just been, it's been wonderful.

1095
01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:22,780
And, and, and not, not, and that isn't to say, look, I am intimately aware that we have, we have every conceivable advantage, right?

1096
01:12:22,840 --> 01:12:24,480
We have everything we could possibly need.

1097
01:12:24,700 --> 01:12:26,000
We're both home.

1098
01:12:26,300 --> 01:12:31,060
We have time off from work, but we are incredibly blessed when it comes to that.

1099
01:12:31,160 --> 01:12:32,780
And it's still not easy.

1100
01:12:32,840 --> 01:12:33,460
I know.

1101
01:12:33,620 --> 01:12:33,800
Right.

1102
01:12:33,860 --> 01:12:35,480
It's still, it's still not easy.

1103
01:12:35,480 --> 01:12:39,140
Now I am like, I was, I was, I was teasing Kelly earlier.

1104
01:12:39,340 --> 01:12:41,560
Like, it is a point of pride for me.

1105
01:12:41,700 --> 01:12:46,740
She has not washed a dish, cooked a meal or done a load of laundry since you're on it.

1106
01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:49,680
You're like, I want to make it.

1107
01:12:49,760 --> 01:12:53,560
I wanted that kid to turn five before she, she has to do that.

1108
01:12:53,560 --> 01:12:53,880
Right.

1109
01:12:54,820 --> 01:12:56,400
Like especially what she's been through.

1110
01:12:56,640 --> 01:12:56,920
Yes.

1111
01:12:57,400 --> 01:13:08,120
With that, but with that being said, I do have set number one, my, the paradigm shift outside of there is this little human that is incredible and there's so much joy.

1112
01:13:08,280 --> 01:13:25,380
There's also this realization that any woman I have so much respect for any woman who has faced this, like it's one thing you're in a relationship and there are a lot of people who look, the guy's got to go back to work, right?

1113
01:13:25,420 --> 01:13:26,420
He can't be here.

1114
01:13:26,620 --> 01:13:26,760
Yep.

1115
01:13:26,760 --> 01:13:45,080
Most of the time, there is a special place in hell for any man who allows a woman who has the means to do what I'm doing or anything close to it to help a woman through this experience and doesn't.

1116
01:13:46,440 --> 01:13:46,760
Yeah.

1117
01:13:46,940 --> 01:13:51,220
There's just, I don't, that is, I can't even conceive.

1118
01:13:51,220 --> 01:14:13,540
The idea of not seeing my child, I would do anything for that baby and that woman that gave me that gift and to have these men that walk out, I don't understand it.

1119
01:14:13,960 --> 01:14:18,820
I'm sure people have their demons and because that's what it is.

1120
01:14:18,820 --> 01:14:21,260
It's got to be just the only way.

1121
01:14:21,320 --> 01:14:22,080
It's got to be a demon.

1122
01:14:22,440 --> 01:14:24,300
Ultimately, they're the ones losing.

1123
01:14:24,580 --> 01:14:25,240
They're the ones losing.

1124
01:14:25,620 --> 01:14:26,080
Absolutely.

1125
01:14:26,480 --> 01:14:30,540
But, but even so that, that, that suffering is not enough.

1126
01:14:30,700 --> 01:14:44,920
The single mother, a single mother, what the, I can't even imagine, even if you have a family around you that is supportive for, for Kelly right now, I know what I'm doing.

1127
01:14:45,260 --> 01:14:48,080
It's not enough, but I know what I'm doing.

1128
01:14:48,080 --> 01:14:53,260
And if, and if she didn't have that, I don't know what, oh my God, I don't know what, what it would be like.

1129
01:14:53,600 --> 01:15:02,180
So God, God bless every, any single mother that has been through this and has, has just survived.

1130
01:15:02,740 --> 01:15:05,220
I can't tell you how much respect I have for them.

1131
01:15:05,460 --> 01:15:10,480
No, it's, it's, it's, um, you realize all this when you have your child.

1132
01:15:10,800 --> 01:15:11,080
Yeah.

1133
01:15:11,920 --> 01:15:14,240
That, um, yeah, you're always like, oh yeah, that must be hard.

1134
01:15:14,960 --> 01:15:15,340
Right.

1135
01:15:15,540 --> 01:15:17,480
Yeah, that's not, we're all smart.

1136
01:15:17,480 --> 01:15:37,720
We can figure out, it's gotta be hard, but when you're in it and then you separate your portion of that and go, oh man, there's, there's people that do this without me in the picture and succeed with all kinds of other challenges and succeed and they, that's a strong, strong, strong person.

1137
01:15:38,620 --> 01:15:41,680
That's a special, a special, special thing.

1138
01:15:41,920 --> 01:15:44,160
But yeah, but, but otherwise.

1139
01:15:45,440 --> 01:15:56,580
How do you, how have you, have you heard the word dad, daddy, your sister calling you daddy or your wife calling you daddy and you're like, oh yeah.

1140
01:15:57,420 --> 01:16:04,720
Honestly, so I already kind of have a shtick, which is whenever I pick, whenever I pick the little Josie up, I look right.

1141
01:16:04,800 --> 01:16:08,680
And as soon as I get the eye contact, I go, hello, I'm daddy.

1142
01:16:09,140 --> 01:16:10,120
I'm the favorite.

1143
01:16:11,480 --> 01:16:13,520
So I hear daddy a lot.

1144
01:16:13,520 --> 01:16:16,720
That's funny, I thought you were going to go, hi, I'm Frank Serial.

1145
01:16:16,860 --> 01:16:17,920
I'm 55 years old.

1146
01:16:17,980 --> 01:16:18,540
I'm your father.

1147
01:16:21,160 --> 01:16:27,060
Surprisingly, no, and now I get, now I can pretty consistently get a little smile when I get that.

1148
01:16:27,420 --> 01:16:35,300
No, somebody occasionally that will, when you hear that from your child, when I hear it from her, I know I'm going to lose it.

1149
01:16:35,480 --> 01:16:44,320
It's the best, just seeing her when I know she's looking at me, when she is like, you get that right, you get the distance, right?

1150
01:16:45,540 --> 01:16:47,400
She's like, oh, there you are.

1151
01:16:48,060 --> 01:17:08,000
And the, but this morning I have another, like when, when Kelly, Kelly was getting ready to take a shower, so we were going to go to the pediatrician and I'm like, and I tell, you know, I told Google to turn on Louie Prima and I'm just dancing around the kitchen and singing, singing these goofy songs.

1152
01:17:08,760 --> 01:17:10,680
And she's loving it.

1153
01:17:11,020 --> 01:17:28,040
And Ella Fitzgerald comes on and paper, Ella Fitzgerald singing Paper Moon and she's, she's all into it and I'm singing a lot, oh, just thinking about all those experiences and all those things that she has to look forward to and watching, watching the reactions.

1154
01:17:28,280 --> 01:17:29,840
It's, it's just, it's going to be the best.

1155
01:17:30,500 --> 01:17:33,880
It's like, there's no TV that can beat it.

1156
01:17:33,880 --> 01:17:38,600
There's no episode of anything to watch for out like we were when we came over.

1157
01:17:38,880 --> 01:17:40,280
Do you guys just sit here and watch it for hours?

1158
01:17:40,380 --> 01:17:44,660
And we could, it's easy enough to do because you're just fascinated.

1159
01:17:45,000 --> 01:17:50,260
Every little curve and emotion and hands and, oh my God.

1160
01:17:50,400 --> 01:17:51,800
And it's a blessing.

1161
01:17:52,360 --> 01:17:54,900
I'm so glad that we're at this point.

1162
01:17:55,260 --> 01:17:56,880
We started this podcast.

1163
01:17:58,500 --> 01:18:02,300
A quick question was given to me, Hey, you know, want to do this?

1164
01:18:02,300 --> 01:18:06,600
And I never thought, you know, wow, we're going to really go through it.

1165
01:18:06,740 --> 01:18:09,600
And then the baby and all the experience.

1166
01:18:09,640 --> 01:18:14,100
And it's so cool to have this on audio and video to look through.

1167
01:18:14,200 --> 01:18:15,840
You know, it's a great thing to have.

1168
01:18:16,100 --> 01:18:17,120
It's like a little gift.

1169
01:18:17,200 --> 01:18:24,740
I mean, maybe someday you can go, Hey, listen, this is what we did when we knew we, when we knew we were going to have you and we created this thing.

1170
01:18:24,860 --> 01:18:26,660
And, and that says a lot.

1171
01:18:26,900 --> 01:18:29,280
I mean, that was one of the other things that happened Sunday.

1172
01:18:29,280 --> 01:18:35,260
So the other day, very generously Kelly's brother and his wife gave us a photo shoot.

1173
01:18:35,580 --> 01:18:40,660
So we had the photographer come out and there was, and he's like, well, what do you want to, you know, what do you want to do?

1174
01:18:40,760 --> 01:18:43,240
And do you have anything you want me to shoot with her?

1175
01:18:43,320 --> 01:18:45,460
And I'm like, we got to get Mickey.

1176
01:18:46,680 --> 01:18:59,340
Cause one of the things that we did when we decided really like we're going to really try was we were on a cruise, um, last February.

1177
01:19:01,600 --> 01:19:05,740
And you know, the cruise, when you're at sea, sea days, the gift shops are open.

1178
01:19:05,800 --> 01:19:06,700
It's all this Disney stuff.

1179
01:19:06,920 --> 01:19:20,000
And there's all these little, and I'm like, I think we should get, why don't we get her, why don't we get his or her first Mickey and Kelly was like, well, you do that.

1180
01:19:20,280 --> 01:19:23,960
And how are you going to feel when, like, basically, cause we didn't know.

1181
01:19:24,400 --> 01:19:24,760
Okay.

1182
01:19:24,960 --> 01:19:26,900
I was just going to say, this is obviously a year ago.

1183
01:19:27,000 --> 01:19:27,760
So you had no idea.

1184
01:19:27,900 --> 01:19:28,140
No, no.

1185
01:19:28,160 --> 01:19:28,340
Yeah.

1186
01:19:28,360 --> 01:19:29,160
This was brand new.

1187
01:19:29,420 --> 01:19:30,980
This was, she didn't want to disappoint.

1188
01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:31,760
Yeah.

1189
01:19:31,760 --> 01:19:33,680
It's like, you know, there's a lot invested there.

1190
01:19:33,680 --> 01:19:36,600
And I'm like, Oh, I'm like, yeah, I think we should.

1191
01:19:36,820 --> 01:19:43,260
So we had this little, it's a little baby Mickey in a swaddle and we've had it since.

1192
01:19:43,400 --> 01:19:44,720
And I'm like, get Mickey.

1193
01:19:45,280 --> 01:19:45,640
Yeah.

1194
01:19:45,800 --> 01:19:48,120
And there's, and there, he took some pictures.

1195
01:19:48,120 --> 01:19:48,900
Isn't that crazy?

1196
01:19:49,060 --> 01:19:49,760
You bought it.

1197
01:19:49,940 --> 01:19:55,720
You bought this thing, not, you weren't, you didn't know if you were going to be parents, you didn't know there was no face.

1198
01:19:55,800 --> 01:19:59,420
There's no, and now you're taking a picture with the baby in this thing.

1199
01:19:59,620 --> 01:20:02,740
How a year plus some change.

1200
01:20:03,720 --> 01:20:04,140
Everything.

1201
01:20:04,400 --> 01:20:04,760
Yeah.

1202
01:20:04,860 --> 01:20:07,200
You're a completely different world.

1203
01:20:07,960 --> 01:20:12,860
Completely different world, completely different experience and attitude toward life.

1204
01:20:13,460 --> 01:20:14,240
And yeah.

1205
01:20:14,260 --> 01:20:16,000
And I got to add that to the check, please.

1206
01:20:16,160 --> 01:20:16,720
Cause I forgot.

1207
01:20:16,720 --> 01:20:18,440
Those things are not cheap.

1208
01:20:19,780 --> 01:20:28,240
Whenever we do that update since the baby, like the first day, I'm like, we need knuckers on Amazon ordering like the top.

1209
01:20:28,460 --> 01:20:30,320
We have just been banging out.

1210
01:20:30,480 --> 01:20:31,540
Like it's been crazy.

1211
01:20:31,780 --> 01:20:38,100
It doesn't stop because I just, I just, yesterday I went to our, our second son's college introduction dinner.

1212
01:20:39,500 --> 01:20:42,820
So yeah, that bill keeps going and going and going.

1213
01:20:43,080 --> 01:20:43,880
It's all money.

1214
01:20:43,960 --> 01:20:45,100
Well, this is all good money.

1215
01:20:45,100 --> 01:20:47,340
No, it's been absolutely fantastic.

1216
01:20:47,520 --> 01:20:49,620
I couldn't be, I couldn't be more excited.

1217
01:20:50,000 --> 01:20:52,420
I do think it's going to be fun as we get into this.

1218
01:20:52,500 --> 01:20:55,060
Cause we are learning a lot.

1219
01:20:55,500 --> 01:20:58,940
We're finding these products that are on incredibly helpful.

1220
01:20:59,680 --> 01:21:00,080
Yeah.

1221
01:21:00,100 --> 01:21:01,960
We're going to have a, we're going to have a good time.

1222
01:21:02,380 --> 01:21:12,800
And you were talking about how this changes because, I mean, up to this point, we were talking about the, the come up, the, you know, you know, week 17, week 18.

1223
01:21:13,240 --> 01:21:14,400
Now it's, it's here.

1224
01:21:14,400 --> 01:21:26,920
So we obviously, we want to make it to a point where we don't, we want to make it interesting still, obviously for everybody to listen and there'll be different little avenues we can go down for the podcast.

1225
01:21:27,160 --> 01:21:31,740
So yeah, no, I think there's going to be, there's going to be, yeah, there's going to be tons, tons of stuff.

1226
01:21:31,820 --> 01:21:38,840
There's so much for us to learn and we already are little tips and tricks and fun things that have been helpful already.

1227
01:21:39,640 --> 01:21:41,880
And yeah, it's been, it's been awesome.

1228
01:21:41,880 --> 01:21:45,460
And the changing of phases of what the baby goes through.

1229
01:21:45,680 --> 01:21:45,920
Yeah.

1230
01:21:46,140 --> 01:21:51,000
Cause you know, I hope to God, uh, the sleeping continues because that's very important.

1231
01:21:51,160 --> 01:21:51,460
Oh yeah.

1232
01:21:51,620 --> 01:21:52,180
Oh my God.

1233
01:21:52,280 --> 01:21:54,340
Everything rolls so much better when everybody's rested.

1234
01:21:55,040 --> 01:22:00,380
Well this, all these people, the lactation consultant, we were talking to her today and she's like laying out.

1235
01:22:00,500 --> 01:22:01,720
So, you know, you got to wait.

1236
01:22:02,380 --> 01:22:11,540
She's asking us about our return to work schedule and how that works and coaching us through look in four weeks, four weeks, you're going to want to start pumping, saving milk.

1237
01:22:11,600 --> 01:22:13,800
Cause right now she hasn't had to give any formula.

1238
01:22:14,120 --> 01:22:20,320
It's all been, the longer you can do it, the better she's going to go as long, but what, what she's recommending, which I think is a great idea.

1239
01:22:20,560 --> 01:22:24,840
These women, these women, they go back to work and they've never fed from a bottle.

1240
01:22:24,840 --> 01:22:26,600
So they think they're just going to start giving her a bottle.

1241
01:22:26,960 --> 01:22:27,980
The baby doesn't want the bottle.

1242
01:22:28,320 --> 01:22:35,980
So what she's telling us is at four weeks she starts pumping and then once a day I get, I give a bottle.

1243
01:22:36,100 --> 01:22:37,340
I remember doing that train.

1244
01:22:37,340 --> 01:22:42,100
So they get used to the, so that when she is going back to work, it's not, it's not alien.

1245
01:22:42,300 --> 01:22:42,400
Yeah.

1246
01:22:42,520 --> 01:22:42,700
Right.

1247
01:22:42,720 --> 01:22:50,260
So there's all these, all these little things that they're, they're, they're doing great with and, and, and helping us to set her up.

1248
01:22:50,320 --> 01:23:03,500
Already talking about get her in, get her into a routine of bedtime and a specific time and a specific set of, uh, you know, a set of actions that lead up to bedtime because it just, all that stuff structure.

1249
01:23:03,500 --> 01:23:10,440
This is where my, my tendency to want things to be structured and organized will be good.

1250
01:23:10,580 --> 01:23:10,980
I'm sure.

1251
01:23:11,720 --> 01:23:14,540
But yeah, she'll be out there already.

1252
01:23:14,720 --> 01:23:18,760
Well that Huckleberry app, that thing is dispensable.

1253
01:23:18,980 --> 01:23:21,080
Every, it tracks everything.

1254
01:23:21,160 --> 01:23:28,180
Every time, every time Kelly feeds, it's like start to stopwatch at times how long she's on each breast.

1255
01:23:28,240 --> 01:23:28,760
That's awesome.

1256
01:23:29,360 --> 01:23:33,540
When she's going to bed, the, the cradle wise app tracks all the sleep for us.

1257
01:23:33,660 --> 01:23:36,020
It is a, it is a data rich environment.

1258
01:23:36,080 --> 01:23:36,360
Oh yeah.

1259
01:23:36,600 --> 01:23:37,340
You have reports.

1260
01:23:37,580 --> 01:23:39,200
Come put that on my office.

1261
01:23:39,340 --> 01:23:40,160
I read that on my desk.

1262
01:23:40,260 --> 01:23:40,660
I need that.

1263
01:23:41,020 --> 01:23:41,680
That's it.

1264
01:23:41,920 --> 01:23:48,340
But so my question to you is when will the baby be going to the first mass?

1265
01:23:48,800 --> 01:23:50,160
You know, it's interesting.

1266
01:23:50,700 --> 01:23:53,100
I have been all about let's, let's do it.

1267
01:23:53,600 --> 01:23:55,220
And there's no right or wrong answer.

1268
01:23:55,220 --> 01:24:00,320
Kelly has no, Kelly has, has said we were going to probably wait a little bit longer.

1269
01:24:00,920 --> 01:24:04,680
But our friends, Perry and Yehida are in Texas.

1270
01:24:05,280 --> 01:24:13,520
Their baby came just a few days before ours and they went to mass Sunday and that seemed to open the door.

1271
01:24:13,840 --> 01:24:15,300
Kelly's like, well, maybe we can.

1272
01:24:15,580 --> 01:24:22,440
So we, we gotta, we were saying when we were on our way home from, from the appointment today, I'm like, we gotta go to confession because we missed Ash Wednesday.

1273
01:24:22,660 --> 01:24:24,160
We missed mass twice.

1274
01:24:24,160 --> 01:24:27,380
But yeah, I would like it to be this Sunday when we get back.

1275
01:24:27,540 --> 01:24:28,720
Yeah, it'll be great.

1276
01:24:28,800 --> 01:24:29,760
I'm looking forward to that.

1277
01:24:29,800 --> 01:24:31,960
But no, this has been, it's just been awesome.

1278
01:24:32,580 --> 01:24:34,620
I'm excited to continue with this.

1279
01:24:34,860 --> 01:24:37,480
Yeah, no, it's the fun of doing this with you.

1280
01:24:37,680 --> 01:24:38,780
Yeah, this is awesome.

1281
01:24:38,960 --> 01:24:41,940
I, I, I look forward to this all the time.

1282
01:24:42,060 --> 01:24:44,340
I talk about it all the time.

1283
01:24:44,400 --> 01:24:54,500
I, I actually, I think I've, I've taken more pictures with our merch when I do my other job than I do with my normal jobs.

1284
01:24:56,440 --> 01:25:01,400
Because I'm, it's a, it's not because it's, you know, it's a, it's a, it's a proud thing to do.

1285
01:25:01,460 --> 01:25:04,780
It's a, you know, we're talking about family and we're talking about religion.

1286
01:25:04,780 --> 01:25:14,380
We're talking about, you know, being a good person and being a good father and wanting more than, you know, maybe we got out of our own father and that's not a bad thing.

1287
01:25:14,480 --> 01:25:23,340
It's just that, you know, whatever they gave us, they gave us for as much as they could and we know better now and we can afford a lot more than they could have.

1288
01:25:23,680 --> 01:25:30,120
My parents had no money and I'm, I'm sure we all were the same under middle class families or less than that sometimes.

1289
01:25:30,480 --> 01:25:31,800
So this is very important to me.

1290
01:25:31,840 --> 01:25:37,340
This, this, this project that we're doing, this podcast, and I would love to see how far we can take it, you know?

1291
01:25:37,640 --> 01:25:39,340
No, I think it's going to be great.

1292
01:25:39,460 --> 01:25:44,640
It's, there's, there's something new every day and it's going to be fun.

1293
01:25:44,680 --> 01:25:47,040
And there's just so many, just in the next few, what have we got?

1294
01:25:47,040 --> 01:25:55,060
There's, I said to Kelly, I got an email for work and it was the, the, how the Easter bunny is going to be at the mall.

1295
01:25:55,360 --> 01:25:57,340
I'm like the Easter bunny is there in two days.

1296
01:25:57,640 --> 01:26:00,020
It's just like, I think we can skip it this time.

1297
01:26:00,260 --> 01:26:01,760
Can you imagine next Christmas?

1298
01:26:03,460 --> 01:26:05,300
Oh no, I can't.

1299
01:26:05,760 --> 01:26:16,840
I will say also I've been putting, getting pushed a lot, I think because, I think because of the already having booked the cruise and that stuff.

1300
01:26:16,840 --> 01:26:24,860
And having talked with many people about the baby races, I'm already getting pushed all this stuff about like how to, how to train your kids.

1301
01:26:24,860 --> 01:26:27,820
I forgot the track, the racetrack has to be built in the backyard.

1302
01:26:27,960 --> 01:26:28,420
That's it.

1303
01:26:28,600 --> 01:26:34,580
Well, the first thing is going to be, I already saw, they recommend you get a balance beam.

1304
01:26:34,720 --> 01:26:36,200
You make a balance beam.

1305
01:26:36,780 --> 01:26:39,080
There's, there's also, they do a ramp.

1306
01:26:39,480 --> 01:26:42,340
So it's like the kids kind of sliding forward.

1307
01:26:42,400 --> 01:26:44,180
So they learned to army crawl first.

1308
01:26:44,300 --> 01:26:44,800
Of course.

1309
01:26:44,800 --> 01:26:48,800
That will be one of the, at the top of my list of projects.

1310
01:26:49,460 --> 01:26:51,460
She's, she's going to be a track star.

1311
01:26:51,940 --> 01:26:53,780
Uh, but no, I can't wait.

1312
01:26:53,980 --> 01:26:59,140
He might actually, uh, film the stuff like a Rocky background, like in training.

1313
01:26:59,620 --> 01:27:00,120
Absolutely.

1314
01:27:02,240 --> 01:27:03,220
That'll be it.

1315
01:27:03,600 --> 01:27:04,520
It's going to be fantastic.

1316
01:27:04,860 --> 01:27:06,300
We'd have to cover the face.

1317
01:27:07,100 --> 01:27:08,660
You have to do the face cover.

1318
01:27:08,760 --> 01:27:10,720
We don't want any photos out there.

1319
01:27:10,960 --> 01:27:12,640
No, we have.

1320
01:27:12,720 --> 01:27:12,920
Yeah.

1321
01:27:12,920 --> 01:27:13,940
We have not done that.

1322
01:27:13,940 --> 01:27:17,780
We didn't do any of our usual, uh, our usual segments.

1323
01:27:17,960 --> 01:27:22,440
This was the first episode with the baby in the house.

1324
01:27:22,580 --> 01:27:23,000
That's right.

1325
01:27:23,120 --> 01:27:23,880
She's upstairs.

1326
01:27:24,160 --> 01:27:25,300
I don't know why I'm still talking to you.

1327
01:27:25,340 --> 01:27:27,140
Cause I could be up there with her.

1328
01:27:27,200 --> 01:27:27,520
That's right.

1329
01:27:27,540 --> 01:27:28,520
You can be looking at her.

1330
01:27:29,940 --> 01:27:30,740
Look sleeping.

1331
01:27:30,900 --> 01:27:32,700
Is this gas or does she really like me?

1332
01:27:33,780 --> 01:27:34,180
Yeah.

1333
01:27:34,460 --> 01:27:40,200
Well, well, thank you for taking yourself out of the baby's, uh, no, I was excited.

1334
01:27:40,420 --> 01:27:53,000
I was excited that we got to the point where I'm like, okay, I've been, I've been kind of back on my rhythm with work email, just keeping up on things and, and the, you know, like normal house stuff.

1335
01:27:53,220 --> 01:27:57,540
So I felt like, yeah, we can fit this in, but we are going to, it's a beautiful day.

1336
01:27:57,740 --> 01:28:01,560
We're going to, we're going to put her in the stroller and take her for a little walk.

1337
01:28:01,660 --> 01:28:03,120
It's over 50 degrees today.

1338
01:28:03,140 --> 01:28:03,820
It's beautiful.

1339
01:28:03,920 --> 01:28:05,200
It's sunny, nice.

1340
01:28:05,560 --> 01:28:08,340
So we're going to do that, but thank you for sticking with us.

1341
01:28:08,480 --> 01:28:16,620
Uh, for another episode, there is more baby Josie excitement to come and we'll have a great time.

1342
01:28:17,040 --> 01:28:17,700
Thank you.

1343
01:28:18,820 --> 01:28:23,080
Well, folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

1344
01:28:23,600 --> 01:28:26,020
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1345
01:28:26,480 --> 01:28:27,240
We hope it was fun.

1346
01:28:27,720 --> 01:28:32,220
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1347
01:28:32,360 --> 01:28:42,960
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1348
01:28:43,920 --> 01:28:55,840
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1349
01:28:55,960 --> 01:28:57,160
We'd love to hear from you.

1350
01:28:57,520 --> 01:28:59,380
And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to.