Family, Firsts, and Mom Gets Ready To Go Back To Work : Episode 27

0:00 There are certain markers for couples that you know you're a good couple and one of them is if you both don't like scary movies and Me and Trina this we don't I can tell you I care less couldn't care less couldn't care less. Yeah We're the same way like neither of us Yeah, yeah, I like comedy. I like to tear my brain off. Yeah, what I have my brain No, I will I will go I'll go for an action and a lot of times I'll be like headed for something like that and and we'll be like when we're looking for something to watch and Kelly be like Let's watch something light and fluffy. Yeah, or we'll be our last. Oh, yeah, never last suspense, maybe Thriller nice.

0:41 Yeah, but no things with demons and you can't go to bed or slasher stuff I don't know my life. No, I don't need that before I go to bed. Yeah, I always say like the real life is scary I don't need stuff. I want I want Paul Rudd doing step it be I don't know why I thought of that. That's right. I just want silly stuff the teeny-weeny beanie. Exactly This is the gray hair and daycare podcast With a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ right in that same range your hosts Frank Syrio and Carlo Russo Welcome back.

1:29 Here. We are we are back and it's always the the count 26 26 which if we were always doing one every two weeks, we would be at a year, but We're not because we did once a week for a while, right? I think we might stay with it every other week. Yeah Yeah, you tell me it's tough. I'm still a warrior. I was editing this morning to put out Yeah, I just barely by the skin of my teeth was able to provide you The the viewing audience with what you want. I hope I hope you guys can understand I know the want is there after a week.

2:09 Come on. I hear the chatter in the streets. I Hear the chatters, you know, where are the show? I have to say we're gonna talk a little bit more about Yes chatter. Okay, we do have we've picked up some remember we had that anomalous Very popular episode of one of the episodes of the podcast was super popular in France We don't know why I don't know why yeah Yeah, now we now have and I assumed it was some relatives of Kelly We have some some listeners in the UK Now she has some family outside of London, but then when I did the research, nope Not that part of not that part of the UK. So these are random random British people As well as the contingent from from France Wow, we are international but regardless welcome back Yes, as always I am Frank cereal.

3:02 I am 55 years old But now I wanted to be able to say a month. Uh-huh, but it was she's 12 weeks 12 weeks 12 weeks old My little daughter baby Josie by next time. She will be actual full three months old but yeah, I We just transitioned Kelly was working on filling a bag for donations because we're now we've now went from the zero to three months We're now into the three to six months because she's bigger. She's pretty long. Yes, she is Yes, so she's she's getting the She is gonna be so tall. Well, mommy's yeah, she's pretty tall.

3:42 Yeah. Yeah, I came in today and she was On her back inside and Kelly was playing with her and I got to see her. I don't see her that much like that I know I always see somebody holding She was on her little play my little play mat and so cute and then I made her cry I don't think it was you. I don't know. I don't know. That's it. A lot of times. It's funny She really is general genuinely almost always in a good mood. Yeah, she's very happy But and you can see there's like this internal conflict if she's got something going on where she's hungry Or she's got a little gassy. Uh-huh. You can see she's like straw. She just wants to be happy She will kind of go back and forth I think that that might have been it I don't take it personal you shouldn't no no No, you shouldn't she talks of you often.

4:33 She speaks of you. I'll tell you though. It sounds crazy. But I Think even they cry. They're so cute. Yeah It's not like that annoying. Yeah, well, they're like you're a two-year-old three-year-old crying Oh I'm wondering. Yeah, I'm wondering how that'll be There is something about it when it's yours, yes, it's much more time. Absolutely. Yeah when you're yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely I remember with my kids and it would be like kind of like you don't even hear it Yeah, and people are like around you going you're gonna do It's like that with the dogs a lot Watson will be like What's going on?

5:18 Something about this this little thing up there. What are you my bark you yell at me? So yeah, so I did I made Josie cry a little bit I don't think I did but no it was it was nice to see her in a different Usually when I walk in she's sleeping or being fed. Yeah, there's a lot of Especially that time of day can I see her? Yeah, sometimes you don't even get to know we were able to have a little meeting And I bet you I bet you she'll be around later. Yeah, nice. Yeah, so here we are 12 weeks and we're back for episode 26 so we're gonna do something that we have not done in a while and that is to roll right into the Silver Fox mailbox So Fox mailbox let the people speak.

6:09 Yeah, it's nice I you know, we we had we get lots of little comments and likes and stuff. So in different channels with the social media So Instagram, we'll put out our shorts and it's interesting because the same short in different places We'll do different things and yeah, obviously different people see it But this time on Instagram from we had a comment from Judy fire Judy fire Judy fire is is actually a friend through my sister But a friend of the podcast as well We used in one of our shorts you were talking about how we didn't you don't want baby to be mushy mush From tickling their feet the baby tickling and after you said like after that I think I do remember they something from the little old Italian ladies about that So if for somebody who hasn't heard the other one We were talking about tickling the baby's feet and I remember my mother not wanting that because it said it made Make them weak make them weak Light on the feet You know what that so that's what we were referring to so so she commented on it because one of the things I said was actually that the Lactation consultants say to tickle their feet to wake them up between feedings and and Judy fire commented She also needs to be woke up between feedings.

7:29 I thought was I thought that was cute. All right, and I suppose probably true So there was that on Instagram from Judy fire. Thank you YouTube a comment from Christine one of our superfans sure and this was an interesting one That I thought would be worth talking about. Okay, and it was just a rush He has a lot of recommendations, which I think are great and her recommendation in that comment on YouTube was To make sure you set aside Frank time Couple time and family time. I remember that I don't know if this is something that just comes naturally to you and Trina or if you have By design if you've worked at that have you guys always?

8:12 Kind of plan that out. I don't think we've ever went every Tuesday It's our time and we need to get a babysitter and I don't think we did we've never done that We always knew that we enjoyed spending time together when we had the young family Even when we brought them out, it still felt like we were out together We were very we loved going out with the kids. We liked it I don't know if we did a lot of like let's get a babysitter and and do our dating day or night You know, I mean cuz you felt connected. We were connecting with the kids. Yeah, we were connected with the kids now funny you say that because my oldest it's funny that you're you're going into like 12 weeks and my oldest has moved out a while ago, but now he's moved out With his partner, yeah, and then my son my youngest he's gonna be going to college Yep, and this weekend him and he was in New York, right?

9:08 I mean his girl from New York, so me and my wife were empty nesters We didn't cook once we went out to eat every night We went to the casino and we had a dinner with my brother and sister-in-law And we and then we went to the mall and so we've always had that connection anyways with kids or Not so we didn't really have a couple time, but you just waited 22 years. We had 22 years Well, you know, we always talk about and you we always talk about we talked about this weekend when we walked through the mall We loved taking the kids in the stroller going to the mall because at the time, you know You know and getting a cup of coffee Starbucks or whatever you want and we just walk and talk and it was like our time But we're still with the kid.

9:59 Yeah, and we talk about till this day That's what so even even though you had family time couple time kind of combined that we combined it What did you have Carlo time? I was a stay-at-home dad with Nick, right and Kids sleep a lot, right? A lot of time to just kind of be alone and then when the kids went to school I was still a stay-at-home dad. So I had a lot of time. So you had time so Yeah, you do need that. Yeah, you can't forget who you are Yeah, it's interesting because I think now being you know, I'm only partially back to work I'm doing a couple three days a week. Kelly won't go start going back until about a month from now Okay, but this is the most time We've ever been together Like up until now like our I've made a couple weeks for our honeymoon things.

10:51 I but otherwise you're working We're working somebody's gone. So we've been together way more which has been great Like it's it's been fun. But as I was thinking about this like Frank time, especially now you're in this every minute I feel like every minute there is something I've got to get done. Like I can't fall behind I had a little cold last week and it just like it completely You just get behind. I Can't do that. So I'm constantly like I got out of bed this morning It was like 25 after 5 5 30 and I'm like, I got an extra 30 minutes like get up and I'm going But what I have found is I need a little bit less sleep.

11:33 I always have needed less sleep than Kelly So Kelly will have a tendency to go where we used to go to bed together all the time With the way it works with the baby now She will a lot of times do that like last feeding baby goes to sleep She'll go to sleep earlier and I'll be up I'll maybe have an hour and a half two hours at the end of the day by yourself and I'll be by myself And so I guess that's where I'm finding and that's finding Frank time We need to work on and we're always together as a family, but we have not had any Couple time yet, but I think we will likely be more like you and Trina He just reminded me When we we just got married, right obviously had no kids Yeah, I remember just sitting at the couch and Watching something right would be watching something a commercial come on and Trina would jump over Start give me kisses Go away and then every commercial should be like come over again kisses kisses Right and then the babies come and there was no more no kisses kisses kisses No, and it's funny.

12:42 And then I remember one time she goes Remember what we're alone again The commercial kisses But it's funny how you find. Yeah, you know Things change at the same time a good relationship kind of goes Kind of gets it weaves its way. Yeah So if you if you're not able to go on dates all the time your strong relationship will will Oversee that you know time for yourself, even if it's like it, you know ten o'clock until yeah, whatever one It's still your time your mind can kind of right wander off and think about stuff.

13:22 Yeah, you gotta have that I think just I mean to a certain extent It's just you got to have a little bit of downtime because it's like it just goes Like there's something and you're in the you're in the battle right now. I mean you're you're in it. Yeah Yeah, I mean, there's no really everything changes and stays the same and changes and stays the same. Yeah, it's there's no like Constant, you know, it's always changing. It's always changing but there's gonna be a point where oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah She's too now and I can you know, we can have the babysitter and we go out and so I think everything is time I don't think we did a lot of me time when the baby was 12 weeks No, I don't think a lot of people do that. Well, we did just get the I Don't know what they even call it now.

14:07 I'm gonna forget but I call it a playpen Okay, it's a playpen playpen, but now they call them something else something some other word for it. It's not a put Yes a play yard. Yeah, why? Yeah about jail You getting locked up going to the pen. So we do we rely. Yes, exactly. We rely heavily on AI when it comes to all this product stuff. Yeah, it's great I'm like I go I go into Google Gemini and I'm like we are a couple in upstate, New York We have a three-month-old baby We want to find a solution for a playpen Possibly for travel we want it to be able to be brought outside.

14:48 It should have a canopy What are your recommendations and it comes back with all these recommendations? And then what's interesting is Kelly will usually while I were waiting she will do research and she'll pick the same one a I Okay, so she ordered one the other day that's nice. It's like hexagonal. It's it's like one of those party tents Yeah, way it pops open. Boom pop pops open It's got a canopy you can put on when you take her outside for shade. Nice, but it's gray and it's I'm talking to my I'm talking to my sister the other day and I'm like we got to show you the gulag She's like, what do you mean? I'm like, we got a baby prison. Hold on under a picture because it's kind of Great.

15:30 But yeah, well like with that thing She can be in there and and you doing other stuff and then with the baby Bjorn So you start to have more and more flexibility independence, but but yeah, but it's it's interesting We were talking about that one thing when we realized the baby could be put on a on a chair about the Banshee Yeah, just watch it and we go. Oh my god. My hands are free. I can cook Yeah, and just little things it comes so grand yeah Moment when you get it back, right? You're like, oh my god. I always talk about that You know like you you don't think normal life that's ever gonna come again. Yeah. Well, I ever just had downtime You will yeah, yeah, we're getting there anyway, so that was from Christine always with the good insights Thank you Christine in another little bit of listener news You may notice and we really haven't even talked about this and we've been busy So the podcast the name of the podcast has changed.

16:28 Oh, we did we have changed the name of the podcast Now none of the graphics of that goes there goes the merch. So no, it's still gray hair and daycare. So One of the things that you don't know when you're starting a podcast yes now originally I had even secured like Names and stuff the original name of the podcast was gonna be old dad new dad. I remember that cuz I thought old dad Well old I'm old dad and I'm a new dad You're an old dad and I thought that was a fun play on and then but there was some podcasts I'm a couple guys out west will take you that did it And so I'm like, okay, I'm gonna set that aside and then we came up with gray hair daycare But one of the things you don't realize is like the gray hair daycare podcast that name is what's used for Apple and all these other services and the searches are important and Having the word podcast in your name is kind of a wasted because everybody knows it's a podcast So I've been working on ways to have us get a little bit more exposure.

17:31 So you will notice in Depending on where you listen or watch the the name is now gray hair and daycare Gen X dad Gen beta, baby. That's the name of our show. That's our new gray hair and daycare Gen X dad Gen beta baby because we're I'm a gen X dad and she is Little baby Josie being born in 2025 is the first year of what will be considered Gen beta so the kids and the kids that were born over the last several years are gen alpha Wow She's gen beta. So this is going to help it already has really it help Well, you know what what tipped me off was I got a report that Somebody's told us how we were the number one search on Apple podcasts.

18:17 We were the number one podcast when people search for gray hair And I'm like, well, that's not that's nice, but they skip us but it's not the point, right? And I'm like, well that makes sense though because it's in the name so getting dad and baby and those other words Into already we've started to move up in some of the searches So you will notice that a lot of the graphics are gonna be the same. It's still gray hair daycare That is more internals that internal we're trying to inside baseball It's the search engine optimization. I'm trying trying to get other people other than you wonderful listeners and viewers You know to check us out. You are the OG.

18:58 You're we will never forget you back in the day of Gray hair daycare pocket. That's right. What podcast was now with a beta fish in beta fish baby Gen beta baby gen x-10 beta, baby The and the other thing that I was gonna ask for is there are a lot of you out there that are watching on YouTube they are listening on mostly on Apple some on Amazon or some on Spotify and I wanted to point out right now. We have all five-star reviews. Really? Unfortunately, we only have eight We have eight five-star reviews on Apple.

19:39 We have a couple on Spotify and but all five stars, which thank you Thank you But for those of you who do listen it would be very very helpful if you take a minute when you listen and Just give us if it's on YouTube like the podcast if it's on Apple or on Spotify or iHeart or wherever you listen Give us a give us a good review. That's super helpful. And yeah in moving us up the ranking as well Yeah, the more the more that we can get that from you guys the more we can do this and hopefully go weekly Yes, then I can afford to quit my job and Dedicate all my time. That'd be nice. I love my job.

20:20 I like it. I wouldn't want to do that We both love our jobs I have a great job you have a great job But it's fun when we can get to do this Well, just to feel like there's there's more I think look the energy interactions. We just talked about That's the most we have fun when we do this, but it's also fun to see the reaction and see people Showing an interest and it's nice to to think of we could build this community. Yeah, that's always cool Yeah, the idea we were talking about before we started recording. Yeah, or was it or maybe it was during this? I'm not sure that we have these people Listening in the UK.

21:01 You're mentioning it before, you know, yeah in the UK and and and France and all over the place It's fun. I know firsthand to build up a community on social media and it's the coolest thing because it does become like a family and They follow you. I have people follow us for decades now. Yeah, we've known yeah We've met their families that they've had kids and we've been around and pictures and then people come up to us go Oh my god. Do you remember this is from you know, ten years ago nine years ago, and there's still you know Part of this community my full-time job and I would love to have that with this You know because it brings in so many other ideas to so many other things we can do when you have a bigger community Yeah, yeah without a doubt.

21:44 So that is it for the silver Fox mailbox Don't miss any of the fun subscribe on YouTube. Follow us on Facebook Instagram and tick-tock but now Here we are with one we have not done in a while because we've been so good because we have been so Dead on accurate with everything. You know what? I think it is. Hmm. I think it's because Producer Kelly has not been sitting there While you're editing going Yeah, no, she's been right. Yeah. Okay. She's been pretty she's been pretty so we've been we've been better Yeah, I don't think we've I think either that or we're just now we're so gun-shy of saying That might be wrong We do go I don't know if that's right or not.

22:38 We always say that we could be wrong we qualify So and this one even so so here we are with I was wrong But I will say this is really not I was wrong at the time But I'm wrong now It matured into I was when I said this and it was either last episode or the episode before I was talking about how Baby, Josie does not spit up a whole lot. That's what you said They're not very very very infrequently, but that has changed in the last few weeks So now and I was interested because all along when baby Josie started to spit up at all This was a big thing for Kelly.

23:23 He did not like this She was like she was very focused on you don't like my food Preventing this from happening like she was like, oh no and I think one time she saw She spit up a little bit when she was in the cradle wise and a little bit came out her nose and she fell I think Kelly felt horrible and then she was like she was on a mission that our child would never spit up again and I'm like I'm Aware kids do this a lot right this happens and but but really she wasn't very often at all So I was interested to see What it is because right now it's at its peak.

24:04 So between two and four months is when The most of the spitting up happens. Okay, and then it trails off significantly as they get older because basically the the Sphincter that is underdeveloped in their esophagus Which is what allows the spit up to happen gets develops and they don't do it anymore Stops it, but I was interested to see like what's average. So I looked it up. So It's very common for babies to spit up several times a day. Okay, and up to Some of them 10 to 12 times a day Wow now seems excessive that they said that's that's really on the higher Yeah, but right now and it's at its peak.

24:53 We're like twice a day. Oh That she might spit up. Okay. I don't think she's ever done three in a day All right, so it's really she has really not spit up a whole lot. Okay, but she has been spitting up more now So I was wrong thinking that she was immune. She was not doing it. She wasn't gonna fall under my child's perfect Like I was like, I just fall into that. I see it all the time like She's she got me once yeah this whole time. Yeah one time I had to change my shirt Yeah, and and it was my usher shirt, too.

25:34 I felt bad. We just got back from mass But yeah, so I was kind of wrong has developed and she's developed but but I think she's I've Very no, I think she's very soon. She's that's gonna start to trail away. It's not to do with if they eat more now Not from what I read it's really just that they need to yeah that I'm sure that's part of it and it is more common Spitting up is more common with breastfed babies. I don't know why but it is and the exorcist Yes, and also yes was scary. Yes. I don't think I ever I don't know if I ever saw that movie really Yeah Long time that's one of those things that they say there are certain markers for couples that you know, you're a good couple and one of them is if you both don't like scary movies and Me and Trina this we don't we I can tell you I care less.

26:35 Yeah Couldn't care less couldn't care less. Yeah, we're the same way like neither of us Yeah, yeah, I like comedy. I like to tear my brain off. Yeah what I have my brain No, I will I will go I'll go for an action and a lot of times I'll be like headed for something like that and And we'll be like when we're looking for something to watch and Kelly be like, let's watch something light and fluffy Yep, or we'll be our last. Oh, yeah, never last. No suspense, maybe thriller Yeah, but no things with demons and you can't go to bed or a slasher stuff I don't know my life. No, I don't need that before I go to bed. Yeah, I always say like the real life is scary You know, I don't need made stuff.

27:19 I want I want Paul Rudd doing step in peace I don't know why I thought of that. That's right. I just want silly stuff a teeny weenie beanie. Exactly Yeah, so you were kind of wrong I was I was kind of wrong and wrong but that does transition to talking about spinning up something that I think is going to be an interesting next segment and And that is one of the spit-ups happened on the way to church so we're in the car and a little baby Josie is in her up a baby Mesa v2 car seats and I can see her car seat is on the passenger side in the backseat.

27:59 That's like I'm a chauffeur now sure Kelly's behind me baby's over there and then I got one of these mirrors actually Kelly got it So it's a mirror that goes on the headrest of the back seat So I can look in my rearview mirror and through that mirror see the baby Oh my goodness, so I got I've got because the baby's facing Baby's facing rear-facing. Gotcha forgot. So she's looking at the mirror. That's looking at my mirror. That's coming to me. So I Reflections everywhere. It's it's I gotta pay attention, but I can see her and I can just see and There's nothing you can do you're driving But that what that created was we got to church Kelly is super prepared had a little outfit to change her into got her taken care of and got her all changed before mass started but then there's the Sick in in the car seat, right so now it went in and Yeah, and that's all cloth and stuff so I cleaned it up with a couple wipes as best I could but there's all these little nooks and crannies in there and That's something that then you got to figure that out because if you don't get all of that out of there That's a awful.

29:11 It's gonna dry and smell and it's gonna stink. So we're going to do extra special Episode of crash test daddy Where I will show you and this is something I think for all I will never have thought of doing this But I think for any new parents out there when you get a new car seat the first thing you should learn to do is how to field strip that thing and Take all that stuff out because sometime your kids gonna throw out Yeah, and so I'm gonna take you through in our next segment and crash test daddy I'm gonna take you through stripping down and Taking it all apart so you can wash all that stuff and get it all cleaned out. Awesome. So we will be back with crash test daddy So here we are and the whole idea again for this special edition of crash test daddy is to be able to Figure out then this should be the first thing that you do I wish I had is know how to take this thing apart because your kids gonna Spit up.

30:17 Yeah, and it's gonna get in there and you can only clean it up You know with with wipes and stuff so well, so most of these I'm sure almost all of them They are machine washable. Sure, but you gotta get everything out. All right, so and I'm sure they're all different This again is the up a baby Mesa v2 But I'll kind of show you the basics of how this one comes apart. I'm sure the others will be similar So the first I'll do the play play So the first thing is the canopy thing. Uh-huh. So you got to sneak in here and there's a little tabby And you got a pole that guy Pull that guy.

30:59 All right, so once that's out the canopy is gonna be Release first canopy is out and then you're gonna want to kind of get this guy You can kind of start either way, but there's two parts of this thing is adjustable So when I pull on this here, you can kind of slide this guy up and up and down. Gotcha. I'm gonna pull that up And we're just gonna get in here And it scoops this guy off All right So that's just a good cover Right into the laundry, that's easy. Then you got these little clippies The straps obviously are integrated.

31:42 They don't come out. Okay, but the little shoulder pads those come out they got the easy little Buttons there and then this guy here I don't know who's really don't need to but this hoop the back So that can fly now generally, I mean if that's getting dirty, that's a really No, this doesn't really come out. But but can you take everything else out without that? I I pull it makes it easier because to get this part out. You got to get that forward. Gotcha So then it's just scooch it up There's little tabby's you'll see That kind of stretch everything out and hold it in there So that's that This comes out then you just work your way around Now Frank when you bought this, did you have to put it together or it was already set?

32:42 So none of this you never even had any little idea Okay So this basically you just got to find these little tabs that you see here as you're working your way around and they kind of Tension Around the thing and then there's certain spots where it's just tied together So as you get here, you kind of just scooch it and you pull it around Kind of reminds me when Frank shows me how to take the top off the boat That's it so now we're here we got all that other stuff out of the way and Now we just have to scooch it around The headrest which means it'll be easier if I pull this push that down And now the last thing that really holding anything in is The main harness buckle the buckle there.

33:50 You just gotta push that down through Well I'm telling you for anyone who bought this and is watching our podcast This is going to save you so much time and in grief The trick is watching Frank do this move this to get that to unclip the little from back here unclip the the canopy So you can get that forward. Yeah, and then adjust this up and down to get it out but when you think about it because then what happened is You can see kind of down Inside here. Uh-huh in all these little there's all these little nooks and crannies Where that's where it would have been sitting.

34:35 That's where it went So you had to get it once this is all out and this is machine washable you wash it on gentle cycle along with these along with that stuff and Then the rest you got to get in there and like I was hoping up and yeah Yeah, I've been getting it getting all so I've even seen the little details in there. Yeah, there's a lot It was a little bit yeah, but that will save you Learn how to do it ahead of time because you're gonna have to but that's a good that's a good note on it doesn't have To be this model when you do get your model figure out how to take it apart And once because the clock is ticking yeah, yeah, yeah, then you're in it yeah, then you're in it Yeah, you got to get it done.

35:16 So that is how to field strip a up a baby the Mesa v2 Car seat baby carrier. Wow. Good luck when you have to do it. Hopefully this was helpful. Yeah And we are back hopefully that will be helpful that was awesome Great thing to do because when you buy something like that, you're always thinking. Oh, how do you install it? Yeah, you don't think of like wait a minute. This thing's gonna get messy dirty stinky. That's it That was when we got home from church that was the first I'm like, okay, I got it's already been like that for an hour Right, and I'm like, okay.

36:00 I got to get in there. Yeah, and I'm trying I'm like, how does this work? Like I had no idea Nothing in the instructions about that, right? So I was so yeah You got to figure out how to do it because there's gonna be a point where you need to do it You gotta do a fast. That's good that you showed everybody for those who are listening Check it out on YouTube. Yeah, check it out on YouTube. That's right. Otherwise, yeah, we will move on to What just happened? So It's been two weeks, uh-huh, and if you recall The last time we recorded so our last episode that day was Baby Josie's first set of vaccinations.

36:44 I do remember so we had one in each leg in an oral And they sent us home. Yes, and They said obviously You got a watch for there can be adverse reactions. I mean vaccination So you want to watch for that stuff, but basically they're like she's gonna be fussy. She was she was fussy So and it wasn't, you know, it was just one of those things, right? She was just a little kind of grouse II and didn't want to sleep and was hungry Do they hurt as well? I mean they probably you know, when you take a shot I think it was more like it makes her a little bit sick, right? Like that's what that cuz this was like With those three vaccines there was some stuff going on.

37:29 So she was she was she was pretty she was pretty grumpy For just maybe, you know, not even a whole day through the rest of that day And maybe in the first half of the following day just knock not a quite her usual delightful self But generally that was all that's all behind us until we go back in another month and a half Yeah, because it's it's three rounds of those those three vaccines. I used to hate those days. It just bothered me any time they were Sticking and doing needles or anything like that. I hated it and I remember I'm Natali. He had a hit a hernia Oh, really? So he had to go through surgery is a baby.

38:11 Oh And I could not oh my god just and the doctors like we do this all the time Yeah, that's a common thing. It's a common thing. Yeah, and but it's like when the I mean there he was an infant Yeah doing it and to have him to have him, you know put out and under it. Oh, yeah I mean I was I would be crying with needles and the doll I'm taking up to the surgery So that was oh, yeah, so days like that it's tough to be that strong daddy. Yeah yeah, cuz the rest of the time you're just You're enjoying and just you're just enjoying them always being the hatch like this is this time You know anytime a doctor's you're giving them to write.

38:57 Oh, it's just like you have no control. You have no you feel like And of course everything went well and But I can it's tough to the shots and the every three months or something. I used to hate that. Oh, yeah Yeah, I felt the pain. We got a couple more of those. We gotta go We're gonna have well, there's a bunch of Martha We'll have to go through with that stuff But so that was it with the that kind of started off with the vaccinations roll it into that first weekend We had talked about the baptism. Sure my sister and her husband Avi had Ordered a present, but it didn't come in in time for the for the baptism, okay, and So that weekend they stopped over for a little visit and they got the cutest little like a sterling silver baby rattle With her name and birthday engraved on it.

39:53 That's awesome The other thing that she gave to Kelly which is really neat that and I think all of my siblings I don't know if they were had stopped doing it by the time I was born But back in the ancient old days when my siblings were born They all the babies had they would put a little beaded Bracelet with the family name. Oh So it would be like baby cereal. Oh My from the church or this was no from the hospital That's how they would label the babies. Wow, that's tough That nothing good bad did happen with a bracelet What do you think about it?

40:34 Yeah, just put a name on it put a bracelet on that baby So but there's so she has her baby, right? It's a little pink and it says cereal Oh, she was a girl and it's so like I don't know if I could get it around my thumb like a ring It's tiny it is so tiny, but she is in a little box So in addition to the little baby right now at all she gave us that which was very thoughtful But yeah, that was never the old school. Yeah old school. That was it. So that was nice. We had a little visit there I was not feeling well, which translated I think into baby Josie not feeling 100% too. So I had a cold last week.

41:16 Yeah, I called you last week Yeah, I had like a started with and it's interesting because some of my a couple of my employees in other markets one of them in Buffalo kind of had this before me and No, I didn't It's just I think it's going around It's kind of started as a chest cold and then some size still sound I stand a little I had that for the longest time Just cool. It just doesn't go away and then what happened for me and I think this is what she might have gotten I had no appetite. I Had I felt full really for like three days I like not like and I think that was really it was so it was like a stomach thing as well Well, you're getting sick No No, I'm not really nauseous just kind of bloaty Bloated just feeling full.

42:08 Yeah, like no real appetite wanting to eat because I'm desperately but Having these conversations with Kelly like my body is saying nope and my mind is saying you haven't eaten Yeah, you should have lunch because you deserve it Weird kind of like don't tell your tummy. I deserve it. Yes. Tell your tummy. Shut up. That's But yeah, so and then so as I was starting to feel better She was a little fussy and grousey. Not bad a little stuffy here and there We haven't had to use the snot sucker yet Still just a little saline and Kelly's got this little like hook thing It's like a little just I don't know.

42:54 It's not even like a tweezer It's just like a little teeny loop on the end you get in there and get a cookie So there was that but then and then rolling into this week. We had a visit from Kelly's sister So Kelly's sister lives in New York City. She has a actually has a place in Queens So she came to visit she flew up and got to meet baby Josie and spent some time with her this past weekend So that was nice. I all the all these siblings except your Brother and sister right have not seen. Yeah Now my sister. I'm very excited. So she has planned she had planned to come earlier But she's gonna come for a week.

43:36 She gets here later this week. Oh cool. I'm very excited We've seen her since last summer she was here last summer So she's gonna be here for a week. Uh-huh, and she's very excited to To meet baby and we'll get to see her and then my brother I think is gonna come up when we have our summer parties kind of toward the end of July Yeah, so that's nice having people still come over. So that's some new visitors. I haven't seen the baby. Yeah Everything's good the visits all that. Yeah, we had it's in and out right like quick We keep running into people and I think people are very try to be real respectful of a new baby Sure, and good and but then I think we also need to do a better job Of because we always said yeah, come on over like let us know when but I think we need to probably invite people So I think I'm gonna try to do a little bit more of that and I did just put out We do always do a Christmas party and then we do a party in the summer.

44:30 I did do on Facebook We scheduled our family party. You think you're ready for that? Well, obviously we did Christmas before the baby right the summer parties pretty easy Okay, because we think about it the summer party It's like you make a couple big salads and you do hamburgers and hot dogs Everybody can kind of mingle around. It's not that bad. So yeah, not a lot of setup All right, so I'm willing I'm willing to try it plus it'll be an opportunity for well, that's a lot of visits Yeah for any for anybody who hasn't met. Yeah, it's a lot of baby Josie by then they will be able to Extended family. Yeah, so we'll get to this. We'll get to meet everybody. So we had Jenny's visit we've got Lucille's visit coming up, which we're very excited for and then with the baby, it's been interesting because She just there's always new stuff new behaviors.

45:19 So now it's new noises There's little shrieks and little squeaks and she will start to I think there's more Things that are kind of approaching laughter and giggles a little little sounds like that. So that's very fun She's also now as Kelly says she has discovered her hands Oh, she is starting to grab and grasp and she's she's much more Interacting with things and interested. It's fun when they discovered her feet in their mouth That's one of the things that Kelly also pointed out that now her range of motion is changing She can and also just her Proportions are changing where she can reach things that she didn't used to be able to read.

46:05 Are you noticing a personality? She's I mean she clearly what I think the the new thing is There's that initial we talked about it a couple times on previous episodes the excitement of her Recognizing you like you get in front of her. She sees you and she smiles. I saw you when you walked in the room Yeah, she looked right at you and she was very excited. Oh, yeah, she does She said she'll react now what you see that is new and it is one of the developmental milestones That she's kind of like for the social stuff She's hitting a lot of the four-month milestones. Okay for the for the like tummy time Holding her head up and things like that She's more on track or maybe even a little bit behind but the social stuff One of the things that you see is now it's not just oh when she sees you she recognizes you You can see She looks for you and she looks at you and she wants a reaction So she actually it's much more interactive where she looks and when she sees she's got your attention Then there's the reaction.

47:16 That's right So, yeah, it's it's really it is one of those things that you realize the more time you spend with a baby at that age all They want is to know that you're there and to have that that interaction To to just be engaged to know there's somebody there who's paying attention to me. Yep. It's very sweet But yeah, when you start to see that added layer of interaction that it's it's not just oh, that's daddy It's I want to see if I get daddy to pay attention to me. Oh, he did Yeah, and now I'm happy that that goes so the build-up is gonna be so So big. Yeah, like of different changes of you know, I mean like oh my god, it's gonna be so rewarding it is rewarding it's like you see this child and when they start like really knowing you're coming in the room and Wanting to get picked up.

48:09 Oh, it's such a when they when they put their hands out It's the coolest thing when you come home from work or something and they give you that yeah that love that feeling that Unconditional. Oh my god excited when the dogs wag their tail. Yeah It's so funny I'm a parent a father of two and I'm asking you questions like I've never had a child because it's been so long and forget Yeah, forget, you know all these little things that happen in two months three months Come on after 25 years You forget about this so it's it's I'm like reliving doesn't bring it back like that Do you think absolutely it brings it like like when we're talking about stories and in these?

48:52 Stories will come to mind at this moment. I'm like, oh my god. I remember one because it's opening up this whole base that has been closed for a while of being you know, I have I'm a dad of a Teen week old or I'm a dad of a two-year-old It's been such a long time that that's been closed and with this podcast It's just the memories just keep coming back going. Oh my god. I remember this happening in that It is interesting. There's been a few times where Kelly has had stuff to do and it's just me and the baby. Yes, and I Immediately presenting to my sister. Hey, you know, you could come over. It's what you start inviting everybody With your mom like and but 735 every day You think about it and but you do Especially and I think maybe for me at my age and especially with what I do I'm the person that answers the question.

49:55 Yeah, right. I'm the person who's like this is all happened before So I'm used to kind of knowing what I'm doing and then there's that like oh Like you actually have to think about it, but in your job things are happening You guys they're coming to you to go fix this. Yeah, so you don't chaos. Yes, right So you you're you're used to like going. Okay, and what do I need to do to fix it? And they still find ways to surprise you even as much as like just like those stuff will come up I'm like really like These were these are the steps that you have taken before you came to me and still and we're still here Yeah, but no, so there is that moment where you're like, oh I have to like this This is a little scary, but it's mostly turned out I don't think they are allowed to they don't look like they do.

50:46 No, they're like, I can't feel that. Yeah I Think it's in the quiet moments that they question themselves. I'm in fact, I'm sure of it and we do it at every moment We do loud moments quiet moment do it out loud out loud inconvenient times They do it when they need us when they don't do it when they feel like they have space to yeah, we just do it But yeah, we've had some fun stuff But yeah, the developmental stuff is neat seeing her start to be more interactive and having fun with stuff I notice her a lot more paying attentions to what to what the dogs are doing I was gonna ask you does she now look at that?

51:26 Yeah, how she acted with the dog? Yeah She's she pays attention with rumple and they used to be more because Watson's big and black and white She could see him and she was always like there's this tail like Wagon I couldn't imagine what a baby thinks they're looking at. Yeah The teeth in the tongue and then all of a sudden there's this hairy Thing coming at me with a tongue sticking up. It's gotta be so crazy at that moment going Okay, I guess these are things on this planet that I have to live with that's the that's the moment When it'll happen a lot is I will have when I'm doing fake skiing or that's right.

52:12 Yeah. Yeah, I will have I'll just take my pillow I'll set it there and I'll be standing on the side of the bed and I'll kind of lean her on on the pillow and I'm Doing my thing Well, then Watson will just jump onto the bed and you'll see this kind of shake She looks like what's going on? And he he knows where she is and where I and he it's not like he's too close But still Yeah Eight times her size Responses smiles Loves to smell me. Yeah, that's the thing that always wants to lick me.

52:54 I Just thought of the going I could imagine what a baby's looking going. Yeah, what have I landed? What is that? Yeah, yeah It is it's a lot of fun to see that stuff So that is pretty much the update for for the last couple weeks a lot of things happen We're yep a lot of things going on, but all all fun enjoying it We're gonna be ready to have a visitor for a whole week. That's nice. I We're just my goal is and I'm glad this is one of the things that we talked about a lot You asked about a lot and we stopped talking about it because I wasn't doing anything Okay, because the nursery and all these grand ideas today.

53:34 Yeah, the nursery is just an empty room Well now full of stuff, but it's good. I'm glad I didn't do because I was gonna do a lot of work I had some real great ideas, but it was all kind of gonna Probably have to be redone because we weren't thinking about when she does end up in that room What furniture is gonna be in there right all that stuff so we have kind of decided on What furniture and where we need to go get it now? But now that I know where that is now I can do hopefully all my sister Lucille is visiting Take the opportunity to put up the light fixtures Do some of the special work to get it ready and have that largely done before she?

54:21 Texas it's been it's gonna be three months Yeah, you know in a perfect world I would have had it done before she was born but it would have been all wrong because then we'd be like I'd have this mural of you know Winnie the Pooh and there'd be a Bookcase in front of it because the way we need it's it's not a huge sometimes. It's just nice to procrastinate I think it was a good thing. It was a good thing, but now the rubber is meeting the road Now you have to Yes, but but I'm So I'll be doing yeah, that's good, so and I think she's she's excited. She's a she is a baby person Oh, yeah, I can see it, and yeah, she's gonna She's gonna be a perfect host that'll be nice Yes, it's it's there is something nice not having my mom around right seeing my sister And as you're gonna get all that see my sister with Paula with the baby and then getting to see Lucille with me You get to see what your mom would yeah Yeah, so it's nice.

55:22 Yeah, my brother Yeah, well, that's one thing I could always I'm so glad That my mother and my father were around. Oh, yeah, I see my kids Yeah, you know not just all day You know they passed away when the kids was for sure they they saw him graduate while they saw one graduating the other grant grandkids graduate and go to college So that's that's yeah, it's a nice thing because I don't have older brothers and sisters right that would have taken that place Yeah, you know yeah, I have that so it was nice for for my my mom Yeah, that's recently passed, but has been she saw that she got she got that relationship.

56:02 She knew them. Yeah. Yeah, that's cool Okay all right well we are once again at the end. Thank you and We will see you soon and remember like on YouTube Give us some good reviews not not four stars not three so five stars We strive we strive to give you if I say this I just do this when I'm changing When I'm changing baby Josie, I'd be like we strive for five-star service if there's anything we can do As I'm buttoning up after applying well if you've made it to this part yes, I think you So thank you for the five-star, thanks for the five-star review review and yeah keep keep the letters coming Yeah, yeah, send us some more.

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